Yeah. Hey, hey, everyone. It is Janay with the Let's Give Out podcast. Hello. Good morning. You guys are just wrapping up the holidays right now. It is December 30th. We've got tomorrow night. You guys have plans. I'm not talking to Alicia. I know what her plans are and they are with me, but you listener. Do you have anything planned? What is your outfit? You know what your outfit is? So here's the thing. I have a few really nice things. Okay. Yeah. So it all depends. It all depends on how where I'm going. No, I don't going, but as in what vibe? So I have obviously that nice velour, um, blazer with the, with the gold. That's like, you know, choose happy. Like, I feel like that needs to like come out and do it. Yes. Yes. So I like that look. But then I had ordered a one piece suit from machine for our after party for, uh, let's get loud. Uh, but then we went straight up leopard. Um, so that's in my closet and it's doing nothing. And it's a very much like it needs to be New Year's Eve. Like you can't wear that. Like I can't wear that on date night. Yeah. What color is it? It is light pink and silver wind. Um, uh, do you, do you know what's that? A sequence circles. Sequence. Wow. And it's like bell bottom. Like, okay. And it's like here. So you're, you want attention in which I do. So am I going that way? Okay. Uh, but that's more like 80s vibe. That could be my vibe for New Year's Eve. Or I also have like my sequence blazer that I wore at the Fredicton show. You remember like the silver and black blazer that I have? That's also very. Yes. That's gorgeous. Very nice blazer. So that's all New Year's Eve. Yeah. And then I bought this really nice shirt at Garage in Toronto. But I feel like there are more chances of other women wearing that shirt. All the garage and like not every woman goes to garage. Know what I mean? So unless they're going with their teenage daughters. That the which is what happened, you guys. And then my mom was like, that would look so good on you. And I just like bought it without trying it on. But I tried it on the other day and looked so good. Um, so it's like very much holiday. It has like flowers, like, um, like roses on it. So it's black sheer. Kind of like a corset with roses on it. So that's a New Year's Eve vibe as well. So I have too many options is basically what I'm telling you. Okay. Yeah. What about you? I'm going to bring my gold boots out. I'm excited about that. Like, okay, they need another moment. That's it. That's it. I have that dress that we have similar addresses to that you wore to date night that I've definitely worn to New Year's Eve three different times, but it's like, velour. It's like comfy. Well, it's really short, but it's like loose. So it's comfy at the same time. Okay. Yeah. No, it's nice. That would have been another option for sure. That's a holiday thing for sure. Yeah. Um, or I do have, you know, that I wore it once on a show. It's like a white see through shirt with little, um, curls on it. No, don't wear that. No. Oh, yes. Okay. That I, that I support. Yeah. I want you to wear the one where it's see through, but it's lace. I'm like, no, you can wear that like anywhere. You know what? No, no, no. That's like not a New Year's Eve. It's not a New Year's Eve thing. It's more like a conference. Yeah. I also have that bodysuit thing that's like my boobs are just like so nice. Yes. I know exactly what you're saying. Yes. That's what I feel like I've worn that enough. And you can't forget that one. People do forget. They do forget. Like sometimes I'm like, right? Like not everyone's looking at every single detail that I post. Although hilarious this morning, I posted a picture of me by 26 and then Nadidji's like, but what do you weigh today? Because I didn't write my weight. That's funny. That I was like dead. And then I wrote one was fine. I was like, one 51 was actually a good one, almost 150. She goes, Oh, thank you. Just like, like, Melcy. Oh my gosh. She's so funny. She's so funny. She's like, there was one time I went and we went to Tim Hortons together from the studio. It was like our event and whatever. So we were just like spending time together. And she's like, saw that you weigh 149 this morning, even texted Brian about it. Josie weighs 149 today. I was like, Oh my God, that's hilarious. And then you have this other girl that, you know, I do that every day. She's like, what's that number? Like, one girl ends or what's that number? I'm like, Oh, it's my weight. And it's just basically to show transparency that like it's no big deal. And it's just a part of the day. And that's how I set up my intentions and whatever. So that was funny. I like that she said that, but what do you weigh? She's funny. She is funny. I really like her. Okay. On the last podcast, we were just touching on your IBS. Right. We were just touching just that it. Now, here's the thing about shitting your pants is if you have to like, because people are going to give you prepare be prepared advice. And we all know Josie hates advice. But here's the thing about like stomach trauma is like, you have to really care to figure it out. Yeah. Like it's and it even then, it's like this makes with this that that your body didn't like that. You know, I mean, like really weird situations where like, you know what I mean? Like it's like, I'm like, I didn't know that I was going to get to this point. And now we're at gusto. And I'm having an episode in the bathroom. Oh my God, guys. So my best friend was like on her like we're first time double dating. And I'm at gusto and I had the barata salad. Yeah, barata salad. And girl barata did not like I have of it was so bad that I've never eaten that salad again. I've never ordered it again. And it's not the barata salad. I had the bar like not the barata's fault. Like it is. It's so delicious. And if you order it, I will get get a bite. But I ate the whole thing by myself. Basically Jeff doesn't eat barata salad. And like they didn't want anything. So I ate the whole thing myself. And that is where it got bad. So I'm like, I'm like sitting and it's like. And I'm like. So then I go, you know what I do? I play music when it's like so bad. I just like go to bathroom and I play music right loud in the public washroom. Yes. I think it's best for everyone. I think, you know, it's weird, but you know what else is weird fucking shooting to you shit. Yes. Yeah. And you know, when it's like that bad, like it hurts. Like, you know what I mean? You have to like wait till everyone's gone. And you just you can't wait. You can't wait. Can't wait. So I just like, I feel like it's like a good way to kind of ease what's happening. Because either way, you're going to find out what's happening. Okay. So I'd rather you just listen to, you know, J Lo, let's get out. So you said it's getting a little bit you're noticing it's yeah, I feel like it's like I noticed that it's when I'm not eating at home anymore. I barely have it at home anymore because I don't eat a lot of rosary pepper dip right now. So it's like it's way way down. I don't even remember the last time. It's more when I go out to eat when it's like different anything different than my house food. And I'm like, am I at that point where like I need to like be careful? And then you're at the restaurant and that's not fun to feel that way. No, it's not fun. Makes it for a long drive home. Both my girls are struggling a little bit with their stomachs right now. Oh, that's not fun. What what's their like symptoms for sure? Phoebe has IBS for sure. She like she's it's been years that she's struggled with her stomach. Yeah. And if fun fact or not so fun fact, IBS is actually quite connected with anxiety. Oh, interesting. Yeah, like if the like the emotion and the physiological thing feel sick. Yeah, it's quite triggering to then like have shitting stuff. Yeah. So like on Saturday, she had a really intense basketball game. And then she was in a situation where I was on a walk and she really wanted to do her curly girl hair routine. Okay. And Neil was rushing her. Oh, and one of her triggers during her anxiety is being rushed. Right. And it was really important to her to do her routine. And she still struggles to be like, like Neil says, hurry up. And she still struggles to be like, actually, dad, like, this is really important to me. Can we make a compromise? Do you know what I mean? Yeah. He just like straight shuts down. Right. I need to send you the video. She sent me you like crying, like her like into a video while you're walking. So there was a lot of anxiety on that day. And then her stomach was like so bad. Anyway, so and our friend Jillie. It also struggles with her stomach. So I like reach out. I'm like, can you help me? And she's basically like Boschons. Yeah, no, but Emma. And now that we're talking about it, it is so like worse and more so connected for me. I know what you're saying. Like, if I, if I'm nervous about something for sure, then save us to go. So I see if you live with that on a daily thing, obviously it has an impact. I'm thinking about when I'm ovulating, when I'm ovulating, my belly is so sensitive to come. I like can't even finish a spin class. The minute I like if I have lunch and then go to a spin class, like I can't even finish it. And I'm like, I'm so sorry. Like you have to stop your spin class and go have a shit. Yeah. And then I talk to them from the from the thing. No, you don't want I do. I do and what if they hear your shit? But I turn it off when it's in the moment. Okay, turn it back on so I can talk to them. Luckily your shit when you're in this moment, you guys literally 37 seconds and everything is out. Yeah. But yeah, no, so I noticed like because my belly is just sore. Like sometimes I'm like, I'd love to be able to like have a second coffee and I'm like, oh, like it's just not like I can't have that. What was it? I was somewhere and she's like, Oh, she's like, I'm like, the way I'm already feeling kind of like whatever. And I'm like, I'm ovulating. It's just like so it's hurting already. I'm like, Oh, the minute I put something in my mouth, like it's going to be gone. No, anyways, it's a good calorie deficit. Like as in like, I'm just like, I don't think I can handle it right now. Like it's like not worth it because you know what I could know I'm going to be sick and I'm at the arena. Like, no, you know what I mean? Like it's just I won't eat. Like I was just like, I'll just like skip it. So yeah, so that's what's happening there. But like my period definitely has a massive impact on the way my belly feels for sure. I mean, I think that you're going to make any changes or try and learn more. You just like, I'm going to live with it for now, take thing. Oh, yeah, I think I think I like that. I've like pinpointed it's when I'm eating out when like it's nothing in my home that it's literally the restaurant, like it's more on a Saturday Sunday, like if I eat out. And I've like pinpointed coffee mixed with a lot of food. So like if I go to like a brunch, yeah, like a brunch. Oh, coffee, let it sit. Hey, then we eat. Oh, I'm so sorry. It's just like a mix. Like, yeah, I feel like it's just going to get worse as I get older. I feel like you just get more sensitive to things and just everything gets worse. Yeah, there we go. And then more Piper has and she's been I and I have not dealt with it, but I there's like, it's almost like, you know, how they say like gut microbiome, like it's it's like something is not doing what it needs to be doing in her gut. Why do you know that? Well, I can like smell. Okay. Like poop is supposed to smell but like not like that. Okay. And her belly is sore and she's having loose stool. And ironically, it's actually showing up on her face. It's almost like a rash, which again is common if you have got issues for it to show up in your face. Okay. So I was kind of like hoping it would just go away like magic. But I'm going to try her on a probiotic and see if I can get her gut microbiome back to normal. Oh, like I have to feed you, close you. Now I have to fix your gut microbiome. Look, make sure you like so much like you're happy. You have clean laundry. You get to skating. And now I'm facing your gut. I get only do so much. I know it's a lot. It's a lot. It's a lot. It's a lot. Do you want me to order you some probiotics as well? I could totally do that, right? You could. That wouldn't be the worst idea. Yeah. Just throwing that out there. And like sometimes I'm like, Oh, the way my gut feels like the way just it feels. It's not good. Like it's like irritated. You know what I mean? Oh, so that's not fun. I'm so sorry. Besides shitting your pants less in 2025, New Year, New Year. I don't even know if that's a part of my goal. If what's on your agenda? Oh, you know what? Honestly, it's fun to have a fun New Year smell thinking about it. And I've been we've been we I feel like you and I like love that side of life, like just like thinking about like, Oh, what really? Again, I always like I'm going to lead with what excites me. I want to do more of that. I did a great job of that in 2024 doing more of what excites me. And I just think I'm going to continue on to that path. But now with a year under my belt of shit that excites me. So it's like, okay, what really gets you going? So more speaking, more like fitness classes for sure, where like again, I connected to like, if you didn't if you weren't working or didn't have, you know, Jeff or a relationship, if you didn't have kids, what would you do with your time? Money is not really an issue. How would you spend your time? I would be doing a million fitness classes because I would just have the time to do whatever I would want. So I'm like, hey, well, clearly there's a message there. I would do speaking gigs. I would offer I would just like talk to be like talk, talk, talk, talk. So I just want to do more of that. So I feel like I'm like tuning into that for sure. Mindset keep on that journey's been like really good for me in 2024. But like shit happens, right? And plot ways like there's always like kind of things that happen when you don't expect it. So can't plan for that. Just basically be ready for it, I guess. But yeah, we have like some really fun ideas. Kids are growing up and it's like, I really enjoy their age right now or they're like funny and not annoying that much like unless they have microbiome issues. And but it's pretty status quo, very similar to last year, just more of that. Like you just try to do more of what excites you while you're living your life. Yeah. And I think you and I don't wait until January first. We started. Yeah. Yeah. We're constantly in like some at some point in my life, it's more of a focus, but like I'm constantly in, I don't know what to say, self improvement, but just connected connecting, yeah, personal development, like just connected to being my best. And that's not a, that's not a destination. Like that's, that's, that continues, you know? Yeah. And I think guys, if you can have something, if you're not sure, it's like, okay, what really gets me excited? And then some of you don't know, like, you haven't really connected to any type of excitement or things that you love because you're just serving other people all the time. And I just feel like you can serve other people like that can be a part of your happiness, but it's like, you can serve yourself as well. Like you can be on that list of serving. So it's like, Oh, I'm, you know, connecting with this relationship is important to me. This relationship is important to me, but you're your own relationship as well. And that can just be on the list. Like that would be the first start. And how do you connect to things that excites you? It's when you're experiencing it, you're like, Oh, that was fun. Then do more of that. And no, you can't, you know, maybe every weekend or, you know, but like you can just more, more of that. So whatever is on that list of how you would spend your time. Is there any way that you could do more of those things? I love that. Yeah. So I want to do more stepper robics for sure. So not unfortunately, but like at my studio, I have separate instructors, they know that I want to replace them whenever they, they, they can't make it. But I was like, Oh, I would love to like off because it's so I see it as happiness. Honestly, I'm like, it can bring so much joy for, for like a group of people to get together and do that. Like look, when we did it with our friends, like it was fun. Like it was a fun afternoon where you guys came down and we did a step class. Like it's 19. Oh my God. That was literally I would do that three times a week. Yeah. That's right. Fun. So fun. Yeah. So I really love that I sweat there too. Because like the room gets a little bit warm too. And like, because I don't have to body the body heat like from people. Yeah. So do you think there's now I'm not saying that I'm doing this? You guys so don't come like, yeah, I'll come here. But do you think there's a market for, because that's something I can travel with. Like the steps in my trunk. You know what I mean? I know, I know. But like, I wouldn't like that would not be like a big part of my life. But like I'm doing more of that like imagine bringing the steps at like a workplace for like a work activity. Like how fun would that be? You know what I mean? Or like friends. Anyways, what I can say out loud is that I'm working on doing a class in Riverview, basically doing it for Alicia. Yes. Finally. So I'm going to bring the steps to there's a gym there in Riverview and I like offer. They're going to do like a fundraiser with that class or whatever. So I'm trying to get a date out of her. Should be like January. Like it's gonna be a Friday. I was like Friday, five thirty. That feels right to me. Six p.m. Whatever. So I think my maybe the 13th, that's what I'm looking at. But anyways, like keep that keep your eyes ears open for that. Alicia or wait for you. And going like PD days for the teachers. Right. Fun. You know what I mean? I would love that. I just like bring joy. It's like buddy, the brain joy to be joy in my steps. Yes. And they realized that like exercise doesn't have to be like intense or it's intense, but you can have fun at the same time. And it's the energy and the music. And not take yourself too seriously. I think the sometimes when people, especially in the coworker environment, they might be worried about like looking silly, you know. Okay. Can we talk about that? Because you're really good at not caring about that. Yes. I'm not as good. I would love to spread more of that. I think that like my one of the conversations that we're going to have at La Famquise is the one of the biggest issues is worrying what people think like as women about everything about how we act or what we say, what we look like or what we wear or like a bat. Like I just feel like if you can create that relationship with yourself, like you understand why you do the things and like also whom decided what's weird and what's like silly. Like what does that even mean? Like, and yeah, some people can be silly because it's who they are, but some people are silly and they stop themselves in front of certain people because of what that no, no one we stop ourselves in front of no one because we, this is who we want to be. Not everyone's silly. Not everyone's allowed. Not everyone wants to be funny. But some people are and they love themselves in front of coworkers or certain people because I don't know what they'll think. I think there's, we just lose that like fun side of us as we get older. Yeah. Don't worry about what people will think. And it starts right young. Like something like mom, like because I get silly girls at dance or whatever. Let's do sexy. Let's go girls. And then just like, Oh, really? But then they secretly love it. They say, yeah, they laugh. They love my energy. So like it brings fun, you know? Yeah. I mean, you're definitely are good at bringing fun. But I realized that like a lot of what was holding me back from actually like going back to the gym was my like need to feel like I am competent at everything. Like, well, I won't know what machine I won't know where machine I might not know how what to work. Like I might not know how to work the lockers. Like how dumb is that? Yeah. And that holds me back a lot. That holds back a lot of people, Alicia, about all the things like what if I don't know how to do step or and also like we're not. There's another issue where I find that people don't follow through. Like, oh, that would be right fun. And then nothing. Like if it's not right fun, don't say it's right fun. And also the following through. There's a lot. I see that a lot in in in both my bit, both our businesses, like soul and and your right weight loss. It's like, you keep saying you want something, but there's no follow through on it. And I'm like, but it's I for impressing someone, you know, I find that very frustrating, actually, is the the words that aren't meaning the actions. Yeah. And just the comp like because I I'm very careful. Like, I'm not going to say that I'm going to do something and less I'm going to do something. You know, and that's important. That's the relationship I have with me. Like, because I'm building trust and confidence in me. And you love with my kids. I don't tell my kids I'm going to do something unless I'm going to do it. Right? Because what's important to me is that they trust me that I'm going to show up for them and that relationship. And we should have that same relationship with ourselves. Yeah. Yeah. Like a relationship with yourself top top priority, top priority. At the end of the day, you are with you until the end. And I just feel like everything else is just life and life's going to happen and shitty things are going to happen. And if you have like that, like really good love and respect for your life, and you know, you have your back, I mean, that's everything that you'll ever need, you know, I just feel so important. But we like kind of put it on pause thinking that we have forever that we'll get it back that right now, it's not about you, but you don't know if you have tomorrow, like it's just, I'm like, oh, you're wasting time, like you're wasting time. So just like Greek, it's just connecting. Okay, so that's what's up for me in 2025. Just I basically status quo very similar to 2024. But 2024 had like a massive plot twist at the beginning. But then it's like, now I feel right stable in regards to like, okay, I really am key. And I'm still so young. Like when I think about, I'm like, I haven't hit 40 yet. And I know that there's a lot that happens when you hit 40 and the kids keep growing, like there's so much is always a to come. Like I'm still like becoming who I am. So this is just who I am right now in 38, what interests me. And then it keeps going so fine. Thank you so much. It's good. Good. I feel like 2024 was kind of like a hard year for me. Like it's like I started the year like with significant joint pain. Like I went to Hawaii the end of January in a boot. Yeah. You know, like, and I wasn't sleep. My joint pain was so significant that I wasn't sleeping. And then that was hard. Like I like, and sometimes when you're in moments like that, you don't realize how hard it was until like you're kind of you're out of it. Yeah. And I just think about like my lack of sleep and just how much pain I was in and just like figuring that whole thing out. That was it was like a big year for me. Yeah. Yeah. And I'm proud of sticking with it. I like and from like the beginning of January to now I'm down 10 pounds, which isn't people might be like, Oh, big deal 10 pounds in a year. I'm sorry. It is the big deal. Yeah. It's a big deal. And also where I'm at with my wellness and my health, like that's a significant on my body, you know? Yeah, for sure. And I'm so I'm just going in. I feel like I'm going into 2025, having kind of figured it out. Yeah, I was going to say like maybe more knowledgeable, like in regards to like that season of your life, like where you want. Yeah. And like so and I've created new habits of like taking my supplements, just starting going to the gym. We're not calling that a habit yet. Drinking less alcohol. Yeah. You know, like I like I've really made some significant massive change in your life, like less alcohol, like I would see that. No, no, no, it's a big part of like how you live like lived your life identity part of like identity happiness. It just shows how like I said, I would never drive to Saint John. You know what I mean? You use that. You never said you never ever said that you would never drink. But it was definitely a big part of just lifestyle, just like how you like do things and like whatever. And I just it was a pretty big change. And I love as well like you didn't make a big scene of it. It wasn't like I need a medal because I did this like it was really much like you started to realize how it made you feel to not you know what I mean to and you shut down the noise and you got curious about like what it would feel like to not be using alcohol as a part of like the daily or the weekend, the weekly, you know what I mean? Yeah, no, it was it was just something that I was flirting with and I didn't make it a big deal. And I wasn't like, okay, then I'm never gonna drink again or I just flirted with it. I gave myself you things. Guys, if there's something you're curious about, give yourself the opportunity to just experience what it would feel like. Like just go to one holiday party and don't drink or go to one holiday party and drink less. And then you gave yourself that experience. And then you get to like figure out if that was for you or not. Yeah. Anyway, so I'm following through it's following through. It's following through. So I'm excited because I feel like I'm finishing the year really connected. Yeah, like healthier and having more energy. And I really feel like finally like in in 2024, my focus really did shift from weight loss to wellness. Yeah, like it was, you know, it I'd basically been losing weight my whole adult life. And it just it really has switched to wellness. Yeah, it really has like going to the gym and lifting weights. I don't care if I'm up on the scale because I'm sore, because that's not what I'm doing. Like I'm not doing it to look a certain way. I'm doing it because I know it's an important part of me aging powerfully, which is my goal. Yeah. Yeah. And feeling yes, yes. And it's so nice when we like, almost like a extra bonus is when you're doing something to make yourself feel better today, but it's actually going to like it's actually good in the long run. You know what I mean? It's when you're doing something that feels good today, but you know, in the long run, it's something that's not going to pay off, you know? Yeah. So all of what we're doing, it's like such a man, like moving your body if we could just like, honestly, I was thinking this morning, how moving my body like spin is a way for me to cope when I feel overwhelmed, when I feel busy. It's like a like my coping way and like how lucky am I that my coping way is actually really good for my health as well, mentally, physically, whatever, where coping could be alcohol smoking, like coping can be so many different things. And that you want positive things for yourself when you're coping, that you're not, you're not putting a bandaid that you're actually like doing something, because if you feel stressed and overwhelmed, doing exercise is actually helping the stress and the overwhelming, sort of, you know, being with people or whatever it likes you up, right, could be going out for a walk alone or breathing, you know, that is actually a coping mechanism that helps with stress, whereas like drinking yourself to sleep or a bottle of wine is not actually helping with the stress. Then the next day, you feel like shit, and then the situation that you felt stressful is even more stressful, because now you relax sleep, you know, so there are coping ways. And again, am I lucky, am I not, I don't know, I don't know why exercise has always been a part, it doesn't matter if I was heavy or not, like exercise always been a part of like something that I enjoyed, like moving my body, like that adrenaline or whatever, since I was young, honestly. But there are things that I did that I did not enjoy. And I was very honest with that, like, oh, that was not like when I ran a half marathon and never ran again, like never ran again, not one kilometer after. Really? No, never ran again. So like that was clear, like I hated the training for it, and it wasn't even worth it the day of the friggin race. Like, you know what I mean? Like I was like, oh, done. Yes, like that's when you know it's not, it doesn't let me have to be alone enter. You know what I mean? You run hours at a time, like just that it was just like, no, like, gross. Yeah, exactly that did not do it for me. And so you got to go find it, but you don't live that experience because you're afraid of using the app or walking into a room where you know no one. Yeah, you know what I mean? Yeah, a lot of that. What are good people think is that, you know, I had this girl that came and she she was very sore after her first class. And she's like, so if I go again, like, I'm gonna have to stay seated the whole time, is that insulting? I'm like, no, the fact that you would think what? Zero insulting, the zero. We don't care. Like, you know. And I thought of this the other day because we always care what people think. Like we spend so much time, not judging, but could be judging, evaluating, thinking about what people might think or what people are. So I'm like, listen, if everyone's doing that, no one's thinking about you. Right? I'm spending my time thinking about what people might be thinking. So I'm not thinking of other people. So that's no other people. Yeah, everyone's doing their own shit. Everyone's living their own shit. Everyone's thinking big time, big time. You're thinking about you big time might as well be a positive space when you're thinking about yourself, because that's actually how you spend your time, your thinking space 99% of the time you're thinking about yourself and not other people. Yeah. And but you're thinking about yourself in a negative way, wondering what people are thinking. They're actually thinking about themselves. Yeah, in a way, thinking about what like, so we're all just doing the same thing. Yeah. So when you're thinking space can be positive about yourself, and you can have that like, you have your back, you have self love, you want the best for yourself, like you're your bestie, then it's a good space to be in. Yeah, you're not spending all that energy worried or guilty or whatever what people think. And it does not come with a certain, it's almost like we say happiness doesn't have a look. Well, guilt is the same. Like, my mom opened up the other day because my mom's a people pleaser, right? So she spends her whole like day making sure that everyone is everyone's good. And it was her birthday. And I'm like, okay, so these are your options, we can do shid yak and do, you know, adora chakra, or we can go to mountain and do pure and simple. Either way, I need to go to mountain and she loves coming for a drive. Like, that's her thing, like that's her love language, like being a passenger and just following me or my dad or whatever. And she couldn't even choose what where she wanted to go. Oh, not like you choose. I'm like, not like, this is your birthday. How could you not like, I'm sorry, on my birthday, I don't even give you options like this, go and this, you know what I mean? Like, I'm like, yeah, just like choose a freaking restaurant. She's like, but Emma, I'm just so happy you're bringing me. And I'm like, she's not gonna choose. Like, I knew I know her so much. I'm like, she's not gonna choose. I had to choose for her. I'm like, well, we're going to on 10. I'd love pure and simple. Let's go there. She's like, okay. And then we talked about, I'm like, mom, see, like, you couldn't even choose which restaurant you wanted to go to on your birthday. Like, if you on your birthday can even like, choose you, like, imagine, right? Like imagine. And so we talked about guilt. And I was like, I feel like you have a lot of guilt, even if you've been a people blazer your whole life. So it doesn't have a look, right? Guilt, you think, Oh, if you people please everyone, you never feel guilty. Not how it looks. Because it's a thing that you build in your own brain that you didn't make the right decision or you're not people pleasing enough or, and she's like, I feel guilty 24/7. And I know it. I know it. I see it in her. Like, she says something. And then I'm like, don't feel guilty for what you just said. That's what you wanted to say. Like, that you want it to be firm and you can be firm. Like, yes, say no to me. Set the goal. Yes. So do your own shit. Hey, thank God. She has me. I'm like, stop feeling guilty. Like, you literally, all you do is like, go for what? But she's like, Oh, but sometimes like, I really don't want to go there. And then I'd say, I don't want to. And she feels like shit for saying no or say whatever. I'm like, Oh, Beth, like, we need to fix you. She's like, Oh, it's been twice 67 years. She's Oh, but like, and she's better. She's better. But still, she's still like, always has that like tiny guilt. Always like, you know what I mean? Like, was that the right thing? And I'm like, I hate that emotion, actually, like, I hate that emotion. I also, um, realize one of my most like emotions that I don't like to sit with is regret. Okay, which sometimes almost like holds me back from making a choice or doing something, because I'm worried I'm going to regret it. Okay, you're worried about the road not chosen. And I find when I do regret something, it like haunts me for a while. I see. Like, I replay it in my head over and over and over. When I do something that I regret, I like can't just let it go. Like it takes so, yeah. That's so interesting. Yeah. Yeah. It's just the way our brains work. For me, social anxiety. Yeah. And people would never think that about you. Yeah. Oh, guys, I can rethink something I said, um, over and over and over and over and over. And then I, then I want to have my back and I'm like, Jose, you know why you said that this is the, and then I calmed down the feeling, calmed down the feeling with just understanding why I said the thing and, and that if she took it that way, that's not, I know that's not how I wanted to say it. And that's like, it's exhausting, but like it's, it's a part of, it's a part of it. And, uh, okay, we got to go. But like, I saw this thing where it's like, I feel like I'm such a deep thinker. And so I can't have like just surface level conversations. And so I get deeper and then I see the person's completely lost at what the fuck I'm talking about. I'm like, well, maybe. And then I have social anxiety about being that person. You know what I mean? No, I should just do social stuff. Just no, but we love you for that. Before they go, we need to tell them that there's a free trial. Oh, there's a free trial. There is a set at the beginning, but we didn't free trial, everyone right now, go and sign up free trial. Amazing things coming at your early last 2025 year to lose weight your way. Yes, and switch up that mindset. Yes. Okay. Bye guys. Bye.
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