(upbeat music) - Hello and welcome to the Elemental Entrepreneurship Podcast. The elements are a metaphor, a simple organizational system to help us understand business and ourselves as business owners. And they are the components of nature, the roots of magic and the building blocks of life. We all have some aspects of life and business where we thrive and others that are more challenging. By looking at these things elementally, we remove shame and judgment and can discern which elements would help us bring ourselves into balance. Earth, root chakra, Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo. Earth rules the parts of business that keep us safe and secure as we do our soul work. Sustainability, finances, contracts, systems, our core values and clarity about exactly what our medicine is and how we fit into the ecosystem are governed by Earth element. Air, heart and third eye chakra, Gemini, Libra, Aquarius. Air rules are big vision or ultimate picture of success. It's where we connect our medicine to a mission and decide what kind of impact we want to create during our time on this planet. Water, sacral chakra, cancer, Scorpio, Pisces. This is the realm of our emotions and business is emotional. How we feel about people, ourselves, visibility, uncertainty, how we handle stress and disappointment, all of this and more affects how you navigate your business. Water element is where we learn to resource ourselves and expand our capacity to hold the big feelings that come with doing our work in the world. Fire, solar plexus chakra, Aries, Leo, Sagittarius. Fire is where we take our gifts, our uniqueness and our creations and we blaze them out into the world. All things selling, marketing and the day-to-day actions of running our business are ruled by fire, too much fire and we burn out. Not enough and our business never makes it off the ground. And spirit, crown chakra. Every good gardener knows the day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit. Spirit rules the faith required to keep tending your business long before you've seen a single sprout of evidence that it's growing. No matter what you believe in, spirit element is what you travel through after you leap and before you land. Life thrives when all of the elements are in balance, so do you and so will your business. To find out your dominant element, take our quiz at intuitiveedgecoaching.com/quiz. Now let's get into today's episode. - Hello and welcome to the Elemental Entrepreneurship Podcast. I'm your host Sarah and as I'm recording this, it's New Year's Eve, the sun is going down, December 31st, 2024. And wherever you are, I hope you're having a lovely day. And I hope tomorrow you have a lovely day and I hope tonight you have a safe and wonderful night. And I wanted to put out one last message to you in 2024. And it's that the biggest message I have as a coach, as an artist, as a human being, is to stop living like you have forever. Stop living like you have forever to do the things you care about, to pursue your dreams, to follow your passions, to create the life that you want. You do not have forever. The average life expectancy in the United States is 77 and a half years old. That means that middle-aged is not 50, it's not 60, it's 38. I'm already past that. And if you're listening and you're anywhere around there, welcome to middle-aged, my friends, here we are. It doesn't look like what we thought it was gonna look like. I am the same age that Blanche Dubois was in the Golden Girls and that is confusing for me every day. Doesn't look like what we thought it was gonna look like, but that doesn't mean it's not here. You don't have forever, we don't have forever. The system, wage slavery, that's the system I'm referring to, capitalism, wage slavery, is designed to anesthesize us. Anesthetize, is that how you say that word? Anesthetize us to our life, to how much time is passing and to our options, it is designed to trap us into toiling around the clock for financial security, the bare minimum of financial security to keep us under-resourced but so busy that we don't have time to realize that we're in a trap and to convince us that this is the only way, to convince us that jobs, companies, institutions, the robber barons of the world are the only people capable of providing us stability to keep us dependent children on daddy corporation for a living wage because otherwise we will be unhoused, we will not have medical care and that there's no way we could possibly create a kind of stability for ourselves. And years go by and we hustle and we toil and we grind and we keep telling ourselves next year, I'm just gonna get a little farther ahead. If I just get a few months saved up, I can just do this one project, right? Like we limp through our lives, not getting to devote our time, our life force energy, our focus to the things and things that we're really passionate about, to the thing that we feel like we were put on this earth to do and my friends, that is unacceptable. There are other options. There are other paths. And if you're already out of having a day job, if you already have a business, but there's more you wanna do, you wanna be an internationally known speaker, you wanna be speaking on stages, you wanna write books, you wanna be dancing, you wanna return to your music and you wanna put music out, you wanna start painting, you wanna learn tennis, I don't know, whatever it is that you've been saying you wanna do, that you're gonna do someday, but days and weeks and months and years slipped by and you haven't done it yet and you keep saying, I'm gonna do it later, I'm gonna get to that. Stop living like you have forever. This is extra prescient for me at New Year's, at my birthday and when we lose someone, but we don't have to wait until these mile marker moments to take life seriously, to take our own life seriously, to take our own dreams seriously. And if what's stopping you really, and this frequently is what it is deep down, it's not the hustle, it's not the grind, it's not that we're tired, it's fear. And we use, I'm too busy, I'm too tired, I have too much going on as an excuse to not address the real fear, which might be something like, I'm not good enough, I'm gonna suck, it's gonna be time consuming, it's gonna be expensive, who do I think I am? It feels too sincere, people are gonna think that I really take this seriously and that I'm really good and I have what kinds of issues about that, I might get bullied, right, like all this stuff. Take yourself and your dreams and your life seriously enough to recognize that it's okay to be scared and it's okay for it to be shadow work and to just do the fucking shadow work. Get the help, get the coach, get into therapy, do the EMDR, do the ayahuasca, do the mushrooms, do the weird thing, stop living like you have forever. This is it, this is it, this is the life we get. And for a lot of us, it's more than halfway over. But we wake up every day and we don't know if this could be it, it. One of my biggest personal philosophies, and I started this, when I was in my 20s, it's a big part of the reason that I haven't really had a day job, is if I died today, what I feel like I enjoyed how I spent my day. And that is pretty much my benchmark for everything. And has been for many, many years. That's it, and that's all. It's not about having a ton of money, though I want money because money helps with the enjoyment of the day. But the money for money's sake is not the goal. The goal for me is, if I got hit by a bus, God forbid, at the end of the day, on my way home, I got hit by a bus. Would I fade into the darkness with a smile on my face? Feeling like, yeah, you know what? If I had to go out on a day, today was a good one to go out on, it was a good day. And if I pursue that every day, I'm going to create a life that feels good, that I'm proud of, that I'm happy with. Happy is my only goal, and always has been. And I'm very sincere about that. People have asked me about how long I'm gonna run this business, what my plans are for this business. My goal was never to run this business. My goal is to be happy, and right now, doing this makes me happy. And I tell you from the bottom of my heart, and I've said it before, the day I wake up and running this business stops making me happy, I will close it, and I won't give a fuck. I've had other businesses before this one, they do not exist anymore, because one day I woke up and I was not happy anymore, and I said goodbye. I have left relationships for the same reason, because I guess because I've been around a lot of death my whole life, and I have always felt very, very close to mortality, and I have always felt like living very close to mortality is a good idea, is a beneficial idea, because the more we live, like tomorrow's not promised, the more we live. So here on the eve of a new year, I invite you to take your passions so fucking seriously, to take your joy and your pleasure so fucking seriously, to dedicate yourself in the coming year, to making the hard decisions, to doing the work that you need to do, to getting yourself the help you need to have, to get yourself into alignment with the life you really want to be living, so that when you lay your head on the pillow every night, you think, hey, you know, if I didn't wake up in the morning, it's okay. Today was a good day to go out on. I would be happy with that, and try to stack those days up. Do more of the stuff that you love, and less of the stuff that you don't, and see if that doesn't make your life richer. It's not that complicated. It's simple, but not easy, but it's not that complicated. And all of the things that we're worried about, all the people that we're worried are gonna judge us, all of the things that we're worried, all the consequences we're worried about, I swear to you, they don't matter, 'cause those people are gonna die too. Everyone you're worried might judge you, gonna be dead. It's not that big a deal. In a generation or so, nobody will remember you, and that is freedom. All of the people on Instagram that you're worried might judge you, your old peers from college, your coworkers, even your spouse, like, we all leave this earth the same way. And that's it, and that's all. To me, that's not more, but it's so freeing. If God loved you, you lived to be 80 years old, picture yourself at 80, a happy 80, a fulfilled 80, a slide into the grave sideways, covered in dirt, saying I used this body up, I did everything I could, I loved this life, that version of you at 80. Is that person still thinking about the people you were worried about bothering on social media, the people you were worried about being salesy about when you told them about your work, is that person still thinking about the people who judged you in second grade? Are those people even still alive? Who cares? Who cares? The person you owe everything to is yourself at 80. If you make it there, three years longer than the average, that's the person to live for, that's the person to dedicate everything to, to the version of yourself that looks back on their life and goes, God damn, I really fucking did it. I did everything I said I wanted to do, and then some, I had adventures, I used my talents, I pursued my dreams, I went after things with gusto, with verve, with my whole heart, and I'm proud of the life that I've lived. I really did stuff. When you look at the things that people talk about on their deathbed, it's never, I'm glad I worked so much, it's always, I regret that I gave so much time to work. I regret that I didn't spend as much time as I wanted to with my loved ones, I regret that I didn't pursue my art. If there's one ghost chasing us in this life, it is our own regret of the things we didn't try, of the passions that we left unfulfilled, and I don't know about you, but I don't wanna leave an ounce of talent on the table. I don't, do I care about being cringy? Nope, not really not anymore. Do I care about being embarrassed in public? Nope, not really not anymore. But what I do care about is reaching the end of my life. And being able to say I didn't leave not a drop of talent on the table. I used it all, I went after everything. And I hope that you want that for yourself as well. So whatever it is that you've been craving more of in your life or knowing that you need less of in your life, don't wait, don't wait another month, don't wait another week, don't wait another year, just decide, starting tonight, starting tomorrow morning when I wake up, I'm just a new person. I'm the version of myself who leaves it all in the field. I'm the version of myself who goes for it. I'm the version of myself who pursues every day with one goal, which is to know when I lay my head on the pillow at night that if today's the day I won't, don't wake up in the morning, it's okay, because today was a good day. A day that I did the things I loved and told the people I love that I love them, a day that I used my talents and pursued my passions. I helped people that I gave back to humanity that I was involved that I participated in this life. Fully, full out, participated. That's what I want for you. That is my New Year's wish for you. And if you agree and you accept, touch and agree, raise a glass, a she, a hoe, amen. Hit me in the DMs on Instagram and let me know if this was resonant for you, intuitive edge coaching on Instagram. You can shoot me an email, intuitiveedgecoaching@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your thoughts. If you want to just write touch and agree, then let me know that you're all in for going full out in 2025, I want to hear it. And before I sign off, one last little plug. If you would like my help to make 2025 the year that you wanted to be, I'd love to help you. I have some private client spots available. I'm making some custom packages for people in the DMs. If best year yet is not price accessible for you and you want something else, I have some other little offers that I can put together for you. Elemental entrepreneurship coven, doors are open for the final time. That's something that's going to be changing in my business in 2025. And right now, not only are the doors open for the final time, but it is 50% off. So you can work with me all year long as your business coach for less than $4 a day. It's 1340 annual and $134 a month. You get two months free when you sign up annual. The program's not going away for the people who are incited. I just will not be selling it again in this form to the public. So if you wanted on that, now's the time. The doors without are going to close on Friday, January 3rd. So if you know that having education, support, accountability, coaching, nervous system regulation, support and guidance to help you get through any sticky spots on going after your dreams would be the thing that would help you get there. I'm so, so, so, so happy to help you. Just reach out and we'll make it happen. I'll also put the links for these things in the show notes. But you can go to intuitivevegcoaching.com/coven for that. And you can also hit me on Instagram when we can talk. Oh, and my final little announcement is this week. I think yesterday, yesterday, the day before, we hit 10,000 downloads on this podcast. So thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, to those of you who listen. And it really means a lot that you're here with me, especially if you're here with me on New Year's Eve, or New Year's Day. It means a lot. It is a good thing that we're all doing here together. And I appreciate you, even if we've never spoken before. Yeah, that's all I gotta say. Let's make this year fucking count, y'all. Love you. That's our episode for today. Thank you, as always, for being here and for listening to the podcast. I know there are so many things that you could be doing with your time, so many things you could be listening to. It is an honor that you choose to be here. Connect with me on Instagram at intuitivevegcoaching. Have a great day. 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