Are You Trapped in a Mental Prison?
How to Identify and Overcome Mental Walls for Success.
In the past few episodes, we discussed the Mind Mastery Programs and their in-depth questions but today we delve into the walls of your mind and your Ego!
Leaders, are your walls keeping you from gaining the success you’ve been striving for? Or has a wall came between you and your relationship?
We like to believe our mental walls are protecting us - but they are actually trapping us in!
Your Ego wants everything in your life to remain constant - no changes, no unbalances. If you do not stop your Ego from taking over, it will keep you imprisoned.
Join us as we discuss the ramifications of mental walls: Are they protecting you? Are they locking you in? Are they stopping you from reaching your potential?
In this episode of the Mind Mastery Podcast, Dov Baron is joined by guests: Scott Paton and Shane Jeremy James as they discuss identifying and overcoming mental barriers.
James is the founder of Shane Jeremy Media, Branding Talent and Actions of Compassion. In addition to being a critically acclaimed author, he is a board member of the of Volken Foundation and has developed numerous programs and coached thousands of marketers world-wide on leadership and marketing.
Paton, an executive producer and co-host for over 35 podcasts, is an internationally renowned speaker and currently teaches courses in strategy, management, relationships and more for students in over 190 countries via Udemy. In addition, he is currently a podcaster with Life Enthusiast.
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To hear more about his courses: https://www.udemy.com/user/scottpaton/
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[music] Welcome to the Mind Mastery podcast. Unlock the secrets to your mind and get everything you ever want to. Let's join our host, Dump Baron, Scott Patton and change the game. [music] Hello everybody, you're listening to the Mind Mastery podcast. I'm Nicole who's Scott Patton, I'm the dog Baron. How you doing today, Dump? Excellent, thank you Scott. Great to be you. Happy to be here and happy to get into this again. Awesome. But we've been going through a lot of the topics that came out of first access. And what we've decided to do for the next month or two is keep them a little bit shorter, get right into one topic so that we can cover them in a little bit more depth and give everybody kind of one thing to think about and one thing to kind of work on for the coming week. Because our plan is to put these out every week, right? Yeah, that's a great idea because as we talked about, even in the last couple, which we're a little more hot hitting and a little more directing, which I actually said to people, I want to give you homework. That's right. When you go away and think about this and play it and see how it works in your life and maybe write some notes in your journal. And I think that that's a good sort of send-off point for what it is we're going to do over the next little while, which is let's get into a specific question subject and then give our listeners, you guys who are listening, a place of which to dig in so that you can really see, okay, I might apply this into my life because we talked about, in a previous one, in one of the most recent ones, about the three most dangerous words that are, I know that. And if not, I challenge you to say, well, do I really know it? And if you do, are you really applying it? And so doing these sections this way, we're going to give you a chance to do that. So even if your mind kicks in with, I know that, it's to stop and say, well, do I. Let me listen to that because only one subject, do I really, am I really applying it? Am I applying it as much as I need to apply it to take my life to where I need to go? So I think it's a great get-go point. Yeah. And we want this to be more of a dialogue too or an interactive exercise. So as you're coming up with your insights and aha, as I oftentimes dove at your advance, you will ask people to share what did they learn, what were their aha moments. And of course, it's really hard for you to talk to your iPod or your car radio or your computer and say aha, this is what I got. And for us to actually hear it, right? Well, you can do that. We're not going to hear it. And we really like to get that feedback. So if you go to www.freemindmasterypodcast.com, that's www.freemindmasterypodcast.com, you can leave comments. And if you really want to take action, then leave a comment there about what you got out of the particular podcast episode that you listened to and what you're going to do and you can even share some of your homework if you want. But one of the things about this, and you know, you've heard me say this a lot of events, is the moment you share it, you know, by getting on there and writing in your comments and sharing it with us, the moment you do that, you begin to integrate it into your own being. Otherwise, it's just information swimming around in your brain. But when you actually make a comment on it, one of the things that we all know is that as soon as you start talking about it, you take it to a deeper level. You're going to be all, you know, never thought about that. And that means this. So give us your feedback. Let's write in your comments. We're very excited to hear them. We always like hearing them. And it allows you to get a deeper understanding of what it is you've learned. Right. So, Dave, one of the things that you talked about at first access that really fascinated me was the concept of the wall. And you talked a little bit about it keeping us in and being a little bit of a prison. And one of the questions that came up that you asked was, "What am I protecting myself from?" Right. Because we put up walls to protect ourselves, right? So I'm hoping that you can expound on all of that and move more depth, because I found it very fascinating when you talked about it. Yeah. It is a fascinating area. And in fact, I will mention again before we finish, but, you know, next time we're actually going to get into boundaries. Okay. Because it's important for us to know the difference between a boundary and a wall. And if you think about a wall, what do walls do? I mean, they create separation. They create isolation that, you know, they separate one wall at one room from another room. Yeah. And if you think about walls in a more dramatic sense, we can think of walls as being the walls around a castle. Yeah. And the moat and all these different ways. Now, what were those walls built for? They were built to keep out intruders. They were built to keep the people inside safe. Yeah. So let's imagine, if you will, using that metaphor that the people in the castle have enough food, supplies, and water, and such for two weeks. And the marauding hoards, the avenging forces come to that castle and they hold its siege. Now, of course, that's great. They've got their moat and they've got their wall, and they're going to keep out the, they're going to keep out the attackers. But the attackers are pretty vigilant, and so a week goes by and they're still there, and they're still throwing rocks, and they're still trying to find a way over that wall. And now it's two weeks. Well, now the food supply is running out desperately, there's nothing left. What are they going to do? Well, the bottom line there is they are going to either have to stop to death, or they're going to have to drop the bridge and open the wall. Yeah. Then go out and open that wall. My question would be this, what if the enemy are an illusion? You see, what if nobody checked to look over the wall? And what was really happening was some guy with a massive ghetto blaster and a sound system made it sound like there was marauding hoards, and every now and then they ran by and threw a couple of rocks. Right. You know, and there was actually no enemy. Right. Then wouldn't all the people in the castle stop to death? For no reason. For no reason at all, that's what our walls are. We build psychological walls, and the psychological walls are to keep out a perceived enemy. Not a real enemy, but a perceived enemy. And the problem with keeping out a perceived enemy is that it also imprisons the person who owns the wall. So when you build walls to keep everybody else out, those walls keep you in. Kind of like solitary confinement. It is very much like solitary confinement. It keeps you in, keeps you locked away, keeps you disconnected. Now your ego mind, as we've talked about in previous podcasts, fears change. It wants to keep things the same. It wants to keep things the same by meaning. It wants to keep things the way that it can cope with them. So by taking a chance and going out beyond the wall, it's not sure that it can cope and so it keeps the wall. Even if there is no real enemy outside the wall. So the walls we build do not just keep others out, they keep us in. There's a wonderful metaphorical story. And again, I'm not certain if it was San Diego Zoo, but I believe it was San Diego Zoo. And the reason I say that is because this is almost 30 years ago when I read this. But the zoo was making changes from a traditional old cage zoo to an old open area. I've been to the San Diego Zoo. It's beautiful. Right. Well, I hate zoos because I don't like the idea of wild animals confined. But apparently with this zoo, and it may have been San Diego, it may have been another one. With this zoo, the person who bought the zoo or their community or whatever it was, decided they didn't like the idea of caging up wild animals and they wanted to give them a lot more freedom. And they had taken, in this particular story, they had taken one of the big cats. The big cat that was born in the wild but taken very, very young and put into the zoo into a cage. Now, I don't know if you've been to the zoo, you've seen these big cats. People have no idea how massive they are. I've seen a tiger and its head is like seven times the size of a man's head. Giant. They're huge. No concept on TV. They're massive. I mean, they growl and, you know, you've got to change your underwear. I mean, they are scary. Fantastic. Beautiful, majestic animal. And they got this in this cage and so they were changing the zoo and so they had to do all this work in this area around the cage where the big cat was. And they changed all the area to make it so that there'd be areas for the animal to have shade and for it to drag things off. And, you know, it's all the things that it would need. And what they did was they dusted the big cat and they opened the gates so the animal could get out. When the dog wore off, the gate was open. And the animal never left the cage. He put his head out. But nothing more. Pulled his head back in and continued pacing the cage. And this went on for like a week and they just didn't know what to do. So they dotted the animal again and they pulled off an entire wall of the cage. They're still on three walls now. Pulled off an entire wall so it could definitely get it. The animal did exactly the same. It paced the cage, put its head out of the way the open space was. It still wouldn't come out. What they did was they then took meat, you know, large pieces of meat and instead of bringing it into the cage, which was previously done, or even putting it just outside the cage, they put it a long way outside of the cage. It took the animal twice as long to go for its food as it normally would. It took the food and dragged it back into the cage. Which they thought, okay, maybe it's protecting itself from other animals and mine. Because it's a wild animal. So it perceives other people and other creatures are going to try and take its food. No, dragged it back in and stayed inside the cage. Eventually what they did was they put the meat outside on a line and pulled it so that it dragged away, dragged the big cat away from the area. While they dragged the big cat away from the area, they dismantled the rest of the cage until the cage away. Any idea what happened next? Went back where the cage was. It went back to where the cage was and pasted that area. It had walls in its mind. It had walls in its mind. So it became the limitation, even when the limitation wasn't there. It was restricted even when the restriction wasn't there. Now that's a fascinating story because that's what the walls of our mind do. When we build these walls, they don't keep out predators or enemies that keep us imprisoned. Even when the initial analogy I said was the enemy isn't real. It's just a big boom box, a sound system. Well it's the same thing inside your head. And a cat, I mean it's built to roam, to run around in big spaces and everything else. This is perfect nature to be out in the wild. And yet it paced inside the cage. And what I would say is what is your nature? What is your true nature? Is your true nature to stay inside the walls of your own prison that your mind has built? Or are you made for greater things? What is it within you? Ask yourself the questions. How have I built walls to keep others out that are actually keeping me in? And the simplest form was actually to think about relationship. I built all these walls to protect myself from getting hurt by another one of those. You fill in the gap names. And in truth what it does is it keeps you imprisoned. It keeps you locked away from having one of the, we talked about the big cat having its nature. What your nature is to be relational. Human beings are relational. And if your walls are built to keep out the enemy and the enemy is relationship. Or you're against your very nature. So let me ask you again to think about, and again we're going to want to hear your comments, but think about how you built walls to keep out the enemy that have become the prisons that keep you stuck. Keep you locked in. Because there is a very significant difference between walls and boundaries. And we'll talk about boundaries on the next podcast. But your walls are your limitations. Your walls are the key to the prison. They keep you stuck. So test that. Ask yourself that question. So if somebody wants to know more about the programs that you offer, where should they go? You can go to Baron V-A-R-O-N, that's a single op. So Baron Mastery M-A-S-T-E-R-Y dot com. Baron Mastery dot com. And you can find out all about the different programs that we offer in a wide variety of subjects really covering all the aspects of life. Whether that's your mind, your emotions, your finances, your relationships and your health. Awesome. And so as you've gone through this homework and this process, head over to www.freemindmasterypodcast.com and let us know what happened with you. Let us know what your aha moments are, what say what your goals are, a goal that you've got and what you plan on, why you wanted to do that goal. Yeah, because we really are listening. We're excited to hear your feedback. That's right. So you've been listening to the My Mastery Podcast with Scott Patton and Doug Baron. And look forward to getting the feedback from you. Hear how things are going and see you next time. Bye. Thanks. [Music] This podcast is a part of the C Suite Radio Network. For more top business podcasts, visit c-suiteradio.com. [MUSIC]
