3 of the Most Dangerous Words You'll Ever Say
First Access Success Part II
Today’s discussion is an extension of our last podcast episode: the in-depth questions from the First Access Program.
We begin with the 3 most dangerous words you can ever say: I know that.
Dov shares a story from a former mentor, explaining the meaning behind the deadly phrase and how it acts as a barricade between you and your goals.
In addition, we delve into the world of prevention and how you can keep these words from haunting you. The trick: asking yourself the right questions!
When you find your mind saying “I know that”, first question: do you really?
And If your mind is completely positive; If you believe beyond a doubt you possess this knowledge, ask yourself: are you using it?
In this episode of the Mind Mastery Podcast, Dov Baron is joined by guests: Scott Paton and Shane Jeremy James as they discuss more in-depth questions from the Baron Mastery First Access Event.
James is the founder of Shane Jeremy Media, Branding Talent and Actions of Compassion. In addition to being a critically acclaimed author, he is a board member of the of Volken Foundation and has developed numerous programs and coached thousands of marketers world-wide on leadership and marketing.
Paton, an executive producer and co-host for over 35 podcasts, is an internationally renowned speaker and currently teaches courses in strategy, management, relationships and more for students in over 190 countries via Udemy. In addition, he is currently a podcaster with Life Enthusiast.
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[music] Welcome to the Mind Mastery podcast. Unlock the secrets to your mind and get everything you ever wanted. Let's join our hosts of Baron Scott Patton and Chasing now. [music] All right, welcome. You're listening to the Mind Mastery podcast. And if you were listening to our previous podcast, you know that my co-host said, "Do something different." So I caught myself and I'm opening up this podcast differently. And I have to say that my skin is tingling, the sweat is dripping down my brow, because I always open my podcast with, "Welcome Back." But you're listening to the Mind Mastery podcast. I'm your co-host Scott Patton, along with Dodd-Baroni. How are you doing today? Great Scott, thank you. It's good to be here. Hope you've been going through some great changes. I've been constantly dropping my toothbrush, and you know what that's a reference to if you listen to our last podcast. But I have more than one, too, so I'm happy about that. Definitely a bonus. In our last episode, we talked a bit about some of the things that happened when you did the first access course a couple of weeks back. And what I wanted to do is see if we can go into some of the questions that came up in a little more depth, just for those people that were there to kind of remind them. Because one of the things that you talk about a lot is when you learn something, go tell somebody it, or write it down or journal it. Do you know the good as well as the bad? Yeah. Often times I think we just journal our bad stuff instead of our good stuff, and that's all we end up remembering, I guess. And so I thought this would be a great way to reinforce some of the lessons that people learned. Absolutely. Okay. So last time we talked about, you know, preparing the mind for change, this is one of my favorite ones. And you talk about this in a lot of places, not just in first access, but the three most dangerous words. I forget what they are, but the three most dangerous words, you know, this is something that was taught to me by one of my Vedantic teachers almost 30 years ago. What's Vedantic? Vedantic is a form of Sanskrit Hinduism, it's old Hinduism, it's the Vedanta are the holy books of Hinduism, and it's the philosophy behind the religion. Okay. Right. So it's amazing studies, amazing studies, and he was an amazing teacher for me. And a lot of the stuff that he taught me was really psychology, you know, because everything you taught me came from the basics of the Vedanta, and yet at the same time it was definitely psychology. It really helped you think better and understand the way the mind worked so much better. And I can remember being at one of his presentations, actually in Western Australia, he was speaking at the University of Western Australia. And he was, he did a presentation and he opened it up for questions, and a lady asked a question, and I actually don't remember what the question was, but she asked a question and it's because it's almost 30 years ago. She asked the question, and he began to answer her. And probably within six to ten words, she was telling him how she'd already done that and she tried that, and so he tried to continue, and she would butt it again and bow how she, yeah, I mean, I already know that, I've already done that, and she just wouldn't let him actually answer her. She had already decided that she had tried everything and knew everything. And he very calmly waited, he just stopped, and she got to the end of what she was saying, and he didn't speak anymore, and she said, "Do you have anything else to say?" And he said, "Do you have anything else to hear?" Fantastic, okay? That's great. He said, "Do you have anything else to hear?" And she said, "What do you mean?" I asked you a question, and he said, "Well, you've asked me a question, and you keep answering it, so I don't know if you actually want to hear anything I have to say." She said, "No, no, no, don't be like that." Don't you realize, okay, don't be like that, I really do want to answer. And he said, "Well, I'm not going to answer your question. I'm going to offer you some other understanding." And she said, "What's that?" And he said, "The three most dangerous words you'll ever use that will keep you stuck in every area of your life, and that clearly keeping you stuck right now." "I know that." Wonderful. And you know what was fascinating, I'll tell you what was fascinating about it, I clearly remember this. So looking back at him, red-faced and saying, "Yeah, I know." She rolled her eyes and red-facedly said, "I know." Clearly didn't get a lesson, but I know. And he said, "When the mind cuffs up those three words, I know that." What that says is, "I don't have to listen anymore." That's your ego mind's way of stuffing the flow of information. And even if the information's still coming in, it's stuck taking it in. So whether you're listening to this podcast or one of my live events or when you're reading one of my books, or another teacher's event or reading another teacher's books, check your mind for when it's saying, "I know that," because I know that it's keeping you stuck. It's saying, "There's nothing else for me to hear. I don't need to do this." Well, you know what? If you're stuck and if your life's not working, be quiet. Listen. Listen. I'm sorry. I know it sounds rude and sounds hushed. Be in close. Shut up. Listen. It's something different. Well, you know what we say is this, because people ask me all the time, "Yeah, that's right. It was going up in my head." And what can I do? How can I stop that? And the way to deal with "I know that" is this. When your mind says, "I know that," ask your mind a question. And the question is, "Do I really know that?" And sometimes, you know, if you've got a bit of a fierce ego mind, you'll say, "Yeah, do. Absolutely, I do. I read it in a book in 1986, and I took the workshop in 1997, and my grain sold it to me, and I really know that. Okay. Next question, "Am I using it?" So it's one thing to say, you know it, it's another one to say, "Do you really know it? It's another one again to say, "Am I using it?" And it's a whole other one again to say, "Could I use more of it?" Which is the next level. That's a great question. "Could I use more of it?" Could I use more of it? Because if I could use more of it, maybe there's some nuance I'm hearing in this information that I've just about to block that I can hear. Because we all know that we've heard things, we've learned things five years ago, two years ago, ten years ago, and then one day somebody says it to you, and it's like they hit you on the head with a hammer. That's right. Now why did you get it that time? Because you've actually been quiet enough to hear it. So we're pretty surprised that it was just information. That's right. But as you heard me say so many times, information is what the whole and the donut. Transformation is the application of the information. That's right. They're regular. Yeah, absolutely. You're reminding me, one of the books that you talked about at First Access was The Prophet. And I never been able to say that guy's name. So as you know, I butcher your name, so I just avoid them as much as possible. Hallelujah. Gibran. Right. Awesome book. And I've read it four or five times probably. And each time I get different messages out of it and different things out of it. And it's a beautiful book. Well as I said, First Access, Kahlil Gibran is, if he was alive today, I would label him as a psychologist, as a philosopher, you know, he was labeled as a poet and an artist. I don't know if you know, he was actually a very famous artist. In fact, in most of the illustrated books of The Prophet, there's artwork in there. Yeah. And it's all about him. Oh. He actually did that. A brilliant, brilliant man in all kinds of ways. And his teachings were absolutely phenomenal. And as I said at First Access, The Prophet is one of my Bibles. And what I mean by that is the messages in it are messages I aspire to live by. And it's full of wonderful understanding. Really wonderful. I mean, of course, the reference that came up at First Access was about children. And understanding that your children come through you, but not from you. That's brilliant. Just fantastic. You know, fantastic. And what she's talked about, the bow and the arrow and allergies. Exactly. That you are the bow and your children are the arrow. And your job is to set them free. Yeah. Right? Beautiful. Isn't it amazing? Yeah. But that's Gibran's teachings. They are magnificent. Yeah. Magnificent. Yeah. To get back to the, I know that when you were talking about that at First Access, you pushed, you put me in a time warp back about 10 years ago when I was with a group of my friends and someone got up and said, "My life's not working and blah blah blah blah." And I'm open to anything, you know. And of course, in our naivety, we said, you know, "Do this." Oh, I did that. Do this. I did that. Do this with it. And the whole evening afterwards was incredibly frustrating. I'm open to anything as long as there's anything I want to hear. Yeah. That's what it really means for most people. Yeah. You know, I'm really in a stuff place. I'm open to anything. I'm open to guidance as long as it's what I want to hear. Yeah. And what she wanted to hear was that she had, in fact, done everything and unfortunately it wasn't her fault that she was in that situation. Congratulations. You got it. That's exactly what that was about. Yeah. Well, that person was looking for was a validation that they had done everything, that they had been proactive and now they could be a victim of the circumstance. That it was not their fault. Yeah. And so really now I don't have to try anymore. I can just hang on to this story and how shitty life is, well, it's not true. Exactly. Right? Get off your butt and do something. That's right. And, you know, when I know that some of the people listening to me today might be going, "Whoa, this is a bit stronger than it's been in the past." You know, as you listen to these podcasts, you get to see the different facets of me. You know, it's one of the things I started off first access by saying, "I am an enlightened person except when I'm not." Right. Right. And I am tough like a sergeant major around certain things that we need to do in our lives. And I am also the most compassionate, nurturing person I know. I am a genius except when I'm an idiot. I mean, you know, there's all these facets to all of us. That's right. And we all want to shove everybody in everything in a box, including ourselves. And I won't go that. And I want, you know, and if you want to put me there, you can, I can't stop you doing that. But I'm going to interfere with that a lot. That's right. By sometimes getting a little tough with you around saying, "Come on, poke holes in the box. Let's poke holes in the box. Let's unscrew all the hinges. Let's throw the bloody thing away because the life will expand dramatically out of that." You know, we all, we look at our partners. We're married. We're looking at partners and we go, "Oh, yeah, I know my partner. No, you don't." Yeah. You know, I've been married to my wife for 10 years. And I don't know anybody who knows me better than she does. But every now and then, she'll look at me and she'll go, "Whoa. I did not expect that." Yeah. It's left field. And it's not that I'm able to shock her, it's just that I'm not willing to limit the expression of who I am. Right. And sometimes we all need a swift kick and a pants to say, you know, stop making excuses. That's right. Get off and do something. Remind me of another friend of mine who went through severe depression. Mm-hmm. This is probably about 20 years ago, whatever. He says, "Yeah, every morning, I would go to the coffee shop and there would be my three friends." And we'd sit there and I would tell them all about what she did to me and how miserable my life was and all the rest and they'd nod their heads and say, "Yeah," and they'd pat them on the back and say, "Poor guy." And he said, "It took me a couple of years to realize those were not my friends. Those were my pallbearers." It took great insight. And what I say in some of my programs, and we say it's first access, is don't expect those who've given up their dreams to support you in yours. Yeah, I can't. Right? That's, yeah, I like that. Because the bottom line is what you've got to check is this, and this is very important. This is a great lesson for everybody. But you've got to check is this. Are the people you surround yourself, people who support your reality? Because they are, you need to change your friends. You want people to surround you and support your dream, not your reality. Because your reality is fashioned out of your habits and your old belief systems, but your dreams, what it is you aspire to be. You want people to surround you and support that. Those who support your reality will tell you why you have to stay where you are. Or why you can't do... Why is it not possible to do anything else? Yeah. It's very important to have people surrounding you to support your dreams rather than your reality. Wow. Well, I appreciate having you around, Dave, because I know you support my dreams. Well, that's great. Thank you. And you too, well, me. That's great. And I think this is a great place to end this podcast because I was like profound. Excellent. Well, thank you, Scott. It's been great being here again. And again, you know, this has been one of those ones like the last one where I've challenged people. And I'm going to challenge people again. I'm going to challenge you to really pay attention and notice and check with your mind. And even right now, see yourself. Or when you're running the "I know" that, you know? And the question is, do you really want an answer, or do you just want validation for what you've been doing? I really stop and ask yourself that. Ask yourself if you really do know it, if you're really using it, if you're really applying it into your life. And even if you are, do you need more of it? Because if you do, be quiet. Listen. There's a great opportunity for you all the time. The universe is a bounding with knowledge and wisdom. And if you would just tune into it, it's right there. It's right here. Thank you. 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