Discover How to Make Change More Effective and Lasting
Also, Dov’s Secret for Success!
Leaders, are you getting what you need from your self-motivation books? Today, we dive into the depth of the First Access Program and why it is what you need to succeed. Plus, we answer additional questions about the event.
One topic mentioned: Addiction. Everyone has an addiction, some are simply more accepted than others. One of the focuses of the program is challenging your addictions and eventually disrupting them entirely.
In addition, Dov shares his secret to success: “If you want something - give something”. You want changes in your life, you have to make the changes. Start with the small stuff before you decide to completely uproot yourself: if you do this, it will be dramatically easier to accept and fuel the changes in your life.
In this episode of the Mind Mastery Podcast, Dov Baron is joined by guests: Scott Paton and Shane Jeremy James as they discuss the in-depth questions from the Baron Mastery First Access Event.
James is the founder of Shane Jeremy Media, Branding Talent and Actions of Compassion. In addition to being a critically acclaimed author, he is a board member of the of Volken Foundation and has developed numerous programs and coached thousands of marketers world-wide on leadership and marketing.
Paton, an executive producer and co-host for over 35 podcasts, is an internationally renowned speaker and currently teaches courses in strategy, management, relationships and more for students in over 190 countries via Udemy. In addition, he is currently a podcaster with Life Enthusiast.
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To hear more about his courses: https://www.udemy.com/user/scottpaton/
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[music] Welcome to the Mind Mastery Podcast. Unlock the secrets to your mind and get everything you ever want to. Join our host, Doug Barron, Scott Patman, and Chainz. [music] Welcome back, everybody. You're listening to the Mind Mastery Podcast. I'm your co-host, Scott Patman, along with Doug Barron. Hey, Doug, how are you doing today? Excellent, Scott. Thank you. Good for you. Awesome. Well, the last two days, we were in a very intense room about 150 very, very excited people. You called it first access. I did. And it was an amazing weekend. So thank you very much for all that. I know that there was profound changes and impacts on everybody that was there. And for those of you that have never heard of it before, Doug, maybe most people that have heard of it, it's brand new. Maybe just give everybody kind of a synopsis of what your purpose in doing it was and if you wanted people to get out of it. It came out of, it came out of, really, as I said, I had first access. It came out of this place of, in all honesty, me wanting something. And there was something that I wanted in my life. And one of the principles that I teach and one of the principles that I live by is if you want something, give something. And it doesn't necessarily mean the same thing. But you've got to give something. And one of the things I've done, and one of my teachers had me do years ago, and I've done it with some of my personal one-on-one students over the years, is one of the things I ask people to do. And this is, I'll challenge anybody who's listening to do this. And that is, and I'll challenge you to do what it's got. Go home and find your most comfy sweater. Your most comfy sweatshirt, your most comfy thing. You know, that thing you like to throw on? I know exactly what it is. You know what it is, right? Everybody's going, you know, and it's going to hold under their arms, and it's bald out, but gee, it's really comfy. Yeah. And give it away. What? Give it away! Give it away. Oh my goodness. Because the level of attachment you have to it, give it away. Give it away knowing that you're giving away your attachment. Okay. Because if you notice, you'll always find a replacement for those things. But give it away. Give it away the attachment. And so my most precious thing, as you well know, because you've been around me enough, is time. Right. Right. My time is enormously valuable. It's, you know, literally for me to do a program, I have to take time out of my relationship or whatever it is, because my schedule is so tight. Right. And my time is extraordinarily valuable. And the other thing is that I have a certain structure in the way that I like to teach people and see people get the most out of it. So I said, okay, well, if I give that away too. So the design was that we would put together a program. I decided this and announced this to my team, who absolutely, well, many of them thought I was completely nuts. So you're going to do this program, this first access. You're going to invite people to come with no structure, no action guides, no powerpoint, and you're just going to sit there and do a program for two full days without any format whatsoever, and somebody said to me, you know, somebody who doesn't know me well enough, said, are you afraid you won't, you'll run out of material? And I said, yeah, if I held it for a year, if I held it for a year every single day for one year, I might get close to the end, but probably not over two days. I think everybody here would have run out of questions long before you ran out of material. Exactly. So that was the idea, really, so we put this program on unstructured, and what happened, as you said, you know, all those people showed up in a university lecture hall. I sat down at the front, and people came down out of the audience, in a separate area, asked a question, and went back up into the audience, and I answered that question. And I answered that question to them, but I also answered it to the audience. Yeah. I think everybody in the audience always had that same question. Well, it was one of the things, you know, when it finished, and I'm sure you had the same experience, many people came up to me and they said, I can't wanting to ask a question, but everybody kept asking my questions. That's right. Right. They kept saying the question that I would have asked, and one of the volunteers on the thing, she said, she held a P for three hours. She said, because she looked at who was going to go up next, and she figured, yeah, this person won't have a very interesting question. I can tell. I think I can go up here. I'll just wait for her to start, and I'll wait for him to start his question, and it's not a question to go. Oh, I can't go yet. I don't want to miss the answer. So it was pretty amazing, because as you said, we went very in depth into a lot of areas that are not part of the standard workshops. We went into a lot of the areas that are covered in the workshops. They gave people a lot of understanding of the kind of depth, and this is, I think, was really interesting. Yes. It gave people an insight into the depth of what these programs are about, because, of course, we live in a time where there are a lot of personal development programs, and there's a plethora of choices to go to, and to be honest with you, a lot of people come out of them thinking, you know, there wasn't really much there. It was a bit of fluffy stuff, and I understand people being cautious about that. I really do. Right. Right. So, coming to first access gave people an insight to the level, and the breadth, and the depth of what actually goes on to these programs. Yeah. One of the things that I think of is, and I mean, it's obvious we live in what I call the McDonald's culture, which is you go up to the counter, you get some food, like instantaneous, it's hot, and it's very shallow and superficial, in my opinion. And you look at CNN, and you get, like, 15-second news clips of what's going on, you know, and we try to, the society makes everything very, very simple, very, very shallow. And I think that we're all, for lack of a better word, starving to get into something in some depth, to, you know, to have some intense conversations, to get into ourselves and communicate in ways that aren't just, you know, three-second clips. But that's the contradiction, don't you think? The contradiction is that we live in this, what you call the, you know, McDonald's culture, a fast food culture, what I would call an instant gratification culture. Absolutely. Right? Yeah. And so, yeah, we know the attention span of people is less. You know, we used to think, you know, it was the time we had shows, and we had commercials, and we had all those things. And you know, now what we know is that the attention span is three seconds. Three seconds, because somebody's mind's wandering off. It's not the thirty-second commercial, it's three seconds. So you've got to get a piece of information over in three seconds, or else somebody's flipping the channel, whether that's literally or within their own mind. Right. Right. So, the problem is that culture has trained us to only want short amounts of information. That's the problem. And at the same time, we're starving for depth. Right. But we don't have the attention span to find the depth. Right? So it's a catch-22 that we've built ourselves. Right. And so, actually, this one of the things I say about live events, why I think live events is so important, because you sit there and you've given yourself permission to be in that event for that period of time, and taking that information, taking that knowledge, taking those tools at that deep level. Right. And you wouldn't be able to do that at home. You couldn't. Simply impossible. You couldn't. I mean, listen to this podcast. How many of you have listened to this podcast and turned it off three times already? And come back to it already, and it's only been playing for seven minutes. You know, come on. Right. I mean, that's what we're like. You know, when it's in a workshop, in a live event, you turn everything, we tell you. Turn the phones off. We don't want your phones on. If you've got to have your phone on, you don't want to be here. Go somewhere else. If you're going to be here, be here. Give yourself that. Honor yourself with that. Right. And that's the difference. That's when we get that depth. The sad thing is, and I think that's what I was saying about what puts people off, is they often go to those things. They give themselves the commitment. They give themselves the time, and then they're dissatisfied because their person delivering is not delivering that depth that they need. Right. And I'm not meaning to catch dispersions on anybody. I'm talking about the psychology of people and what it is that we need. So we're going for things at a surface level. At the same time, we want depth, but we don't give ourselves time to find the depth. Right. Right. Yeah, it's like if you had a shovel, right, and you're digging away and you sort of scratched the surface. Oh, now I got to go. Yeah, exactly. Whereas what you really need to do is dig down three or four feet, and that's where the juice is. Exactly. So the purpose of First Access was to give people that juice, was to give them that depth. And the deal was very simple. You could come. You were able to attend. The only guideline rules were that you don't turn up as a negative Nelly. Right. That's just, you know, try and shoot holes in people and bring everybody down. Don't bother coming. If you're there because you have a genuine interest in learning, a genuine interest in growing, and you want to expand your knowledge and expand your consciousness, come to that. Right. That was the first thing. Be present the entire time, and, you know, ask anything you want. And if you ask anything you want, I will answer. And I did not, as you know, I did not refuse to answer anything. I answered everything anybody want to know. Yeah, and you did it masterfully too. Thank you. The insights I got was just incredible. So one of the things that we thought we would do, particularly for those of you that were there, and to give those of you that weren't there, was do a couple of questions. And what I did was, these will relate to the questions of the first access because I just made some notes, I mean lots of notes, but I made some in particular just some issues that had come up or some questions that had come up. And I thought what we would do is talk about a couple of them. Absolutely. Sounds great. I'm going to start, I'll just start at the top. I've been looking at it all these times. It's like a father trying to decide which kid to throw off the plane or something, right? Like, well these are all really good. One of the things that you talked about was preparing the mind for change. No. And I don't want it. So I'd like you to get into how can you prepare the mind for change? And we're all, I was going to say victims, but we all have habits. We all have patterns in our lives. Some of those are great habits, right? The habit of stopping at a red light is a good habit to have, right? If you want to stay alive. If you want to stay alive. But we also have habits that don't serve us. Right. And what I talked about was that first of all, at some level, the biochemical level, human beings are all addicted. You know, we all like to point the finger at the guy down the back alley in the grubby part of town with an eagle in his arm. And we like to say that, "Oh, he's an addict and I'm better than." But the bottom line is that human beings at a biochemical level are all addicts. Now, some of us have more socially acceptable addictions. Right. And some of us have some socially unacceptable addictions. And some of us have very destructive addictions. And some of us have ones that are minimally destructive. And some of us have ones that are actually quite productive for at least for a period of time. Right. And even a productive addiction over a period of time will become destructive. But that's a whole other level of it. Right. I was just thinking that same thing. I thought, you know, this could be really good to have when I'm in my 20s, but it would really be bad to have in my 70s. Exactly. Yeah. So one of the things we talked about that is we get into these addictions because what they are is repetitive patents. And they're repetitive patents that we develop in order to sue ourselves, in order to make ourselves feel better about any given thing. And one of the ways, one of the things about the ego mind, one of the dominant things about the ego mind is the ego mind is that it keeps you safe. Right. And by safe, that means alive. And the problem is that the ego mind is a bit paranoid in the sense that it thinks every possible change is a threat to your life and that you could die. And so it doesn't like change much at all. And so the ego mind is trying to keep things the same as much as it possibly can. And one of the ways to prepare the ego mind for change is by allowing it to know that the change is not a threat. So one of the things we do with that as an exercise is if you're right-handed, take out your toothbrush and brush your tooth with your teeth, your tooth. Yeah. Hopefully have more than one. Unless you're living in some mountains jack somewhere. Like, brush that tooth now. You don't want to lose that last one. But if you're right-handed, brush your teeth with your left hand. Right. You know, if you get up in the morning and you usually put your jocks on first, put your socks on first. If you usually put your socks on first, do you put the left one on before the right one and then put the right one on before the left one. Right. And it's about, and all that does is interrupts your pens. Right. And as you interrupt the pens of the mind, then as you do that, you struggle and you fumble around, of course. It's kind of awkward to brush your teeth with your non-dominant hand. But as you do, you discover, "Well, I did brush my teeth. I didn't die." And you start communicating that to your own ego mind. Right. See, it was awkward. It was uncomfortable. I still was able to accomplish it. And I didn't die. I survived. And maybe, if I keep practicing this, maybe I'll get ambidextrous or maybe I'll have more abilities and not less. And what that does is that tells the mind that change is safe. Right. Because it's already started to calculate, "Okay, well, you know, we've got some changes. Okay." But what we do is we say, "Yeah, I want these changes. I want these changes. I want these changes." But we're not willing to change. Right. So this is a great way to prepare yourself for changes. It's not making tiny changes now in areas that don't matter so much, that are not that significant. You always have to think about changing your career. Brush your teeth with your other hand. Right. One of the things I always did when I had a job was as opposed to working for myself. I always drove to work a different way. Excellent. You know, and it's like take this little, you know, this little, even if it was just going around the block, the wrong, you know, you didn't have to. Yeah, exactly. It was always, because we always want to go the fastest, shortest route, which is like, I don't know. Part of that. If I noticed, I noticed that most people seem to want to go the fastest route. But it's also part of the instant verification culture. Right. So I would take slightly longer routes. Yeah. And people would say like, "Why are you going this way?" Right. And I would say so that my mind knows that there's more than one, you know, it's changing. I'm just changing my mind because I don't want to have that mirror path. But, you know, that analogy is a good one. And you heard me talk about that at first. Access. It's a good analogy because if you think about the way your life is as a village and your ego mind drives you around that village by a specific route and it lets you think that the entire village is your life. Right. Right. And so getting yourself out of the village occasionally and going down a different side street begins to tell you there are more than one ways to get to where I want to go to. Yeah. Because we get very numb. We get very stuck. And we say, "This is the only way." Right. Right. And we start enforcing that shit on other people. We start saying to other people, "This is the only way." You're going to be successful. You've got to do it this way. And it's not true. If you're going to come to work, you have to take highway number one. But it's not even that it's about how to live. Yeah. You know, you've got to do it this way. You know, if you're going to go to heaven, you've got to do this. You've got to follow this religion and these rules. If you're going to climb the corporate ladder, you've got to do this. No. That's not true. There are people who do things all kinds of ways. And the problem is when you start believing it's only one way, what you do is as I said, is you narrow the universe. The universe is infinitely more intelligent than we are. It's opening up all the doorways of opportunity. Right. Why narrow it to a tiny little keyhole? Exactly. So there's no point in getting stuck in that. So it's really important. And that's, you know, I want to finish this podcast quick because of the mentality. Because I want people to go away and work on this one. Okay. Just on this one. Go away and do some things different. Notice your behavioral patterns, whatever they are, the subtlest ones. And with the way that you wake up in the morning, which side of the bed you get out of, whether you kiss your partner good night or whether you don't kiss your partner good night, change it all around. If you always have fish on Friday, have a burger, do something. Yeah. Just do something on Saturday. Just start doing some different things. As Scott said, drive a different way to work. Start doing that. And just, here's what I challenge you to do. Do that. And notice what happens. This is what's important. It's not important just to do it. It's important to notice what happens. And what I mean by that is you will have an emotional response and you will be shocked, most of you, that the result and the emotional response will be panic. Some level of fear and panic. You're only turning left instead of right. It's not the end of the world. You're only brushing your teeth with the other end, but what happens is some panic goes on. And when you feel that panic, recognize that and say, "That's good. That's great. Now I actually know my ego." Yeah. So you want to start a relationship with your ego and recognize it when it's coming up. So let's stop right there by making some changes and then noticing what happens inside. To find out how much of your life is being run by addictive patterns and the fear of changing them. Awesome. No. Thank you very much. So everybody, you've got some homework. If you want to listen to previous podcasts that we've done, go to www.freemymasterypodcast.com. And if someone wants to know more about the programs, you want to know more about my programs. You can go to my main site, which is www.baronmastery.com. And talking to changes, I got some bad news for you. Here's the bad news. I am retiring the secret beyond the law of attraction. No. The time that event will be on is March the 11th, 2008, if you may. Sorry. March. Okay. May 10th. May 10th, I am retiring the secret beyond the law of attraction. The very last time that program will be presented live is May 10th, Saturday May 10th, 2008. If you have to walk, run, get a camp, run any bicycle, do whatever you need to do to be there. We've had people fly in. Actually, we put out one day event. The last one from Florida and Oklahoma and all over the place. This is the last time you'll get a chance to be of that event live. Yes, change is coming. I hope you're cool. All right. Thank you, everybody, for joining us. We'll see you next time. [Music] [Music] [MUSIC PLAYING]
