LIVIN OUR CRAZY LIFE
ANSWERING THE INTERNET’S DEEPEST QUESTIONS
Hey guys, welcome back to live in our crazy life podcast. I'm Olivia. I'm Megan and today we have a jar We're gonna be answering some questions What is one thing you want to change about the world? What's a good one to start if I could change something about the world? I would probably change the way people act in the world. So I would I would choose peace for the world if I could change something I would make it all peace and and Everybody is a community everyone comes together and there's no need for like Greetiness selfishness, you know, everyone is helping each other. I would also take away Yeah, I would make it a peaceful life. So nobody is not like better than other people. It's just You're all you're all the same not all the same, but like wrong level. Yeah That way everybody's helping each other and it's no, you know, it's all love. It's all peace One thing I would change about the world is like she was saying greed People have their priorities messed up everybody wants Something and to be the best and I think that a lot of that comes from money So I would just delete money altogether if that was if like I could do anything I just don't think it's necessary. I think it leads to a lot of war. It leads to hunger. It leads to homelessness. It leads to Basically all the world's issues, and I don't think money is the root of all evil but I think it's a means to that evil so I would delete money out and try and surface level fix a lot of the issues through that just because then there's more peace there's less inequality, and I think that inequality is Probably one of the biggest issues Do you think it's more important to follow your heart or your head? ooh Okay, I'm gonna have to say More important, that's hard. I think that you need to have a balance of both you can't just follow your heart or You do make stupid decisions. You do things purely based off of emotion And I don't think that's necessarily always the smartest, but then I also think you need to follow you know You do need to follow your heart because how you feel and And that it matters. It really really matters, and you're not just gonna follow your head and say oh, but that's not the way that This situation actually is sometimes it's good to live in a little bit of delusion Sometimes it's good to to follow both I think you need a balance so but if I had to choose one I would probably say it's more important to follow Your I'm not choosing both I think in a perfect world you should have a balance, but Since it's asking which one I think you should choose I think you I Maybe your heart because that's what you really want in life And I think it's you live one life and it's short and you should just go and do do it even if it's gonna hurt you That's okay, but then like if you're being realistic your head. It's necessary for making Responsible decisions, but if I had to choose I would say heart. What was the first harsh truth you learned about life? Okay Go ahead. I think the first harsh truth that I learned about life is okay. This is hard because there's a lot There's a lot of them, but I'm gonna say one that I've learned as I got like now I would say that a lot of people are really out to get you and like even if they're like you think that they're your close friends like it's very this world is filled with a lot of jealousy and selfishness and greed and Everyone's out for themselves, which is it's it's important to choose do in your life How you should do and sometimes it looks like it's selfish, which is how it just is but if you're if you're a kind-hearted person it it's very easy to get hurt because That's just the type of person you are and I feel like you learn that the hard way by getting hurt by the people around you people don't really be in there for you and That you have to learn it that way people really don't care that makes sense So to sum that up it's more so that you really only have yourself at the end of the day And that's what's going to get you through life is yourself and only you you can't really count on other people You really just have to count on yourself a harsh truth I learned about life is that you cannot change people you cannot change Them who they are you can't change their opinions. You can't change their beliefs or their perception of you I think that's a really big thing because a lot of people want They want people to not necessarily just agree with them, but to be on their side or to have you know someone in their corner, and I think that It's it's hard when you think that you can show someone the right way or you can say for example someone has a certain lifestyle and you don't agree with their lifestyle and you try and show maybe a different way or you try and Help them get somewhere better and less they are willing to 100% do it themselves It's useless. You're you're not Providing them anything you're not able to help them and I think what I'm trying to say is that the hard hard truth is that you cannot change other people people will only change when they are ready to change and It's completely up to them. So what you think the perception you have of other people and what you expect of them is Nothing to do with you and you can't control that you can't change people to agree with you You can't change people to love you. You can't change people to You can't tell people to care for you or to love you because it is up to them and you cannot change that It will only hurt you to expect people to change for you or to Get on your side that will only hurt you because you'll be let down when they don't and they won't because it is up to them Not you their choice not yours. No, we'll hurt you just love a choice or a feeling we can't control I'm a feeling you can't control I would say basically a hundred percent just because You know, maybe I would have given a different answer before but I do think now that I think that Love in general all encompassing not just with a partner, but love for life love for family love for Your best friend whatever is something that you can't you don't choose to love people you see the bad and people and you love them Anyways, and that's not a choice You you don't just you don't you can't turn it off either It's just the way you feel I don't know how to explain it, but love is just love You can't turn it off, and it's annoying as it's so annoying sometimes because like why are you romantically love is annoying because Why are you doing that? And why do I still like you for that? I? Think that love is you can't control it especially romantic love. I think that it just happens and once You can't choose to not love somebody like you can like let go But like it's gonna hurt and like you can't really you don't get to control when you stop loving somebody so no you can't you can't choose it just happens and You just have to let it happen. Okay, because again, you can't control it I also think that you know, there's a lot of people in your life that you should love and for example people with maybe some family issues you might feel obligated to Love your family in a certain way or love You know friends that your friends with but you're not anymore, and that's that's something I think that you maybe can can control Actually, no, I don't think you can't control it. I don't think you can control it because you know what I just It's it's hands-off if I don't feel that way, and that's something that I can't control I Don't think you can control a feeling no when you're feeling something I really don't think you control it like you can think that you're choosing to push it away or something But again, it's just so there you're just pushing it. You're still feeling it and What moment made you realize life is short? What made me realize life is short is? Death actually seeing people like pass away like little kids people just walking down the street and dying randomly People young age dying people any age dying made me realize life is short you anything can happen at any moment and you you can't control that and That made me realize life is short for me, I actually Think about this a lot and there's one specific moment in my life where I really sat and thought about it for a couple of hours and I was a Way traveling and I saw this little girl and her mom get off of their scooter and go to a convenience store to get ice cream after she had gotten off school and I was watching from the rooftop of a building a little bit away and I was just watching these two people live their life completely separate and it was just a very beautiful moment that You know, I just remember when I was a kid. I wanted to go and get treats after school I used to love on my grandma would pick me up for my birthday and we would go get you know breakfast During lunchtime and just little things like that. I think is what makes me realize life is short is that? You're growing up and the time is moving so fast and these moments if you don't live in them now they don't Exist they're just a memory and you don't take for granted things that happen and that's that little girl and her mom made isn't what made me realize life is short because She's just a kid and then she's gonna be a teenager and then she's gonna be adult and she's gonna be dead But I don't know why that affected me, but it did it really did, but I think that's the exact moment What's something you are holding on to that's still hurting you oh A lot probably There's a couple things I think that affect me Regularly that I would like to let go of and one of those is my past relationship There was just a lot of hurt in that relationship and it's something that I'm not necessarily choosing to hold on to but Moving forward in my life. I noticed a lot of things from that relationship keep coming back up and Make me have all these I Don't know unnecessary Feelings and beliefs and that's something I'd like to move on from and another thing that's hurting me is probably a lot of family things that I don't know I get upset sometimes when I See other families That have a certain relationship just because I don't and I think that that's something I need to let go of because it's There's nothing I can change about that. It's the way it is and the faster I come to complete terms with that the faster I can move on and and be done living in whatever is going on there, so I don't have a great relationship with my Mom and I think that not necessarily I'll hold it on something because I've already accepted that this is our relationship does better with distance and I think that I need to start to find a way to I have a lot of hatred towards my mom and I need to find a way to Move past that and accept our relationship for what it is and try to find a new way of Having a relationship with her and so I think that comes with Letting go of all of the hurt in my childhood, which I Somewhat have I think that my next step is to move out and once I move out I can start a new relationship with my mother What have been the best and worst parts about getting older? The best part about getting older to be honest this year has been fun like getting older I Don't know a lot of people are scared of getting older and like they miss their childhood, but because it didn't have a childhood I don't really you miss anything about childhood, but Let's not be so negative because Adult has been okay so far other than the responsibility okay like hello the bills Please car insurance phone bill blah bill bill bill bill bill groceries like gas Everything just the first of the month like excuse me But I would say the best part is the freedom okay the moment that I was able to drive was like oh my gosh, it's just like the freedom of just being able to do what you want and I Can't wait until I moved out because then that's like ultimate freedom Like we're moving out in six months and it's just been like a countdown on my calendar And I'm so excited because if we want we can go to Get food at three in the morning without the door alarm going off and we can go and do whatever So I would say the best part is freedom the worst part is obviously the responsibility But also like there's like a plus with the responsibility. I completely agree the the best part is the freedom it's crazy that certain things we would have to tip toe around and Ask permission for are just things that are regular things now. We can do whatever we want. I think that's a huge breath of fresh air and I think the hard part yeah is responsibility honestly because these bills just rack up and time just doesn't stop for you, you know, it just keeps moving and You don't get you know a rest day anymore. Like you're not at school Fiddle farting around with people and you know doing gym class and dance class You're not if you're sick like you don't get to sit on the couch and eat a freezey and drink a Gatorade you are at your job anyways or You know, you're taking that day off from work and I'm not getting paid. Yeah, there's just a lot of responsibility that comes with getting older and just that time keeps moving and That can sometimes be a little scary time But then but then it just that's the way it is you get up and it's worth it. It's worth it. So It's cool getting older. I think a lot of people try and Stay young they want to you know do Botox get all these surgeries. I want to Stay young eat the healthiest that you can eat and I think that you know certain aspects of that is okay But I also think that when you take it too far to a point where it's an unhealthy obsession for you to want to live in the past and stay young and be little and and That I don't think it. It's a good thing You need to just accept the time moves and you're go through different stages of life And that's the beautiful thing about life that it's always new you're always growing and experiencing new things I think that's something that people don't really consider when they think about getting old What do you think is the purpose of life? I think the purpose of life is I don't think there is a purpose of life Actually, I don't think you're meant to do anything. I don't think there's certain standards I don't think that you know, there's a reason or that you know God put people here or the planets collided and people were here or we came from chimpanzees or little fish in the water like I don't think that there's a purpose or a certain place you need to be or Lifestyle you need to live. I think I think the purpose of life is To just live it, you know, to grow and be the best version of yourself and just to care for people I think the purpose of life is connection and to have a good time And I think that helping other people and self-realization is also a big part that comes into play with that I don't think there's there's a certain thing. I think life is just life. I don't think it's not serious and I think that People take it too serious and one assess meaning everywhere where there is none and And That I say chill out Good answer. I Think of the purpose of life is whatever you believe your purposes because You like she said life is not that serious You're literally here from a baby to a kid to an adult to a grandma grandpa And then you're dead or you don't even get to make it to that age. So realistically I think people put too way too much pressure on having a purpose in life and that's where you get lost and that's where you beat yourself up and you are then spending your life and your time being so hard on yourself and You actually make it nowhere because you are way too hard on yourself, and it's never that serious so just relax a little bit take a breath and your purpose is to live and Find your purpose and once you do that I don't think you just have one set purpose I think that your purpose can change if you believe that you have a different purpose and that's all about life it's all about learning and growing make mistakes and choose to do better for yourself and Choose peace and that is what I have to say for that question. What's a recent realization we have had? I think my most recent realization. I have had is that Like recently in the past like three months I'm talking if they wanted to they would you know that same it's you probably do I think that's a very something that I've just really have come to terms with and to be honest like If they wanted to put the effort they would put the effort and if they're not putting the effort It's time to really just take that as a sign and just go and leave because like You're gonna sit here all day waiting for a response or waiting for someone like a friend to reach out to you if they They wanted to reach out to you. They would reach out to you and if that friend is no longer um I am not always going to be the first to reach out to someone and a friendship or relationship goes both ways So if you're not putting in the effort to me, that's it like I'm done I'm not I can't be giving my energy and time to some to people that don't even want to be in my life And that has been a big realization for me in the past like a couple months And I'm ready to let go of a lot of people a lot of things And if somebody wants to stay in my life, they can show that they want to stay in my life Amen Amen to that A recent realization I've had is that I don't fit In certain places and there's a reason for that I In certain environments I look around and I used to take it as Why can't I be like them? Why can't I fit in? I just I feel like I don't have friends I feel like I don't fit in anywhere And I've realized it's not really a recent realization, but I've realized that There's a reason for that. I I don't want to be here. I don't want to be in these environments that I don't Belong it's okay to admit that you don't belong somewhere because You know, everyone wants to say that oh, you know, it's not like that. It's not like that You can you can belong you belong everywhere. No, you don't You don't belong everywhere and that's okay because You shouldn't want to belong everywhere. I don't have to try and make things work. I realized hands off that When I feel like I don't belong somewhere. I'm taking myself out of that situation in a group of friends If I'm left out, I feel, you know, a weird vibe being around them I want to take myself out just because I'm not pushing things and pressuring things to work that aren't going to work Same for relationships. I am not pressuring things to work when they just don't work Efforts are you showing effort? Am I showing effort? Are you are you actually caring for me? Are you just speaking because Because I'm not interested. I'm not interested Maturity, I've learned a lot and I'm just not interested in What you have to say it's what you do Make men to that If you have to choose between losing all your memories or never being able to make new ones, which would you choose? I think there's a right answer to this. Yes I think so too um, I would choose to lose all my memories and make new ones because that that's this isn't dumb actually because Why would I ever want to just live in a cycle of the past and I'm 20 years old, right? I'm 20 20 years of memories, but I could I have so much life ahead of me So many new memories to make with people and all these experiences. I want to have like why Why would I ever without just not making new memories exactly everything is a new memory That means that you just want to be 20 for the rest of your life. Yeah than one to 20 Yeah, might as well just sit and get into the old age home now because I would choose to make new memories because again Uh, that is what life is for you every day is a new day. I'm not going to be living from what I'm 20 down to one Every single day of my life. I would prefer to just yeah, make me I feel like that's a really simple question Yeah self-explanatory you believe men and women can be strictly platonic friends and here is my response to this question I Used to think yes. Okay. I did used to think yes and I I want to say yes, but I also have a reason why not so I can't speak for a man because I'm not a man, but I I don't know because a lot of people that I've talked to have said that Men and women can't be friends because the man will always like think that you're That like be into you, but I have had guy friends and I was never like attracted to them in that type of way honestly, the one male friend I had turned out to be in love with my friend and That's the only reason our friendship worked because he uh has feelings for the other friend in the group So honestly, I actually don't have an answer for you guys I don't know if you guys let me know what you guys think and Yeah, go ahead This is a bit of a tricky question can Men and women be platonic friends and I want to just say that It's complicated because I used to think yes. I used to think the same thing. I used to think yes You know, but I've realized over time Maybe not from a girl's perspective. I think potentially because like we've said we have had you know, I've had guy friends where I didn't see them that way, but There was always a weird dynamic and I I'm not sure necessarily why that is and if you ever ask a man their answer will be no it cannot be platonic and Based off that I want to say almost no. I think I don't know. It's like a complicated thing maybe Lightly friends or it's like if you knew each other from like childhood maybe like friends. Yeah, but even but I don't I feel but even in the workplace like people have their workplace love too. It's not even like Anywhere anywhere you could be walking through Costco and someone's like giving you eyes away, but we're talking about friends No, but like Maybe if you're an actual man, you can have Maybe mature people can have woman friends. That makes sense. I think you can have Opposite gender friends. I think it's a matter of maturity. Like you said, I think that I think it's doable. I think if you have your own stuff going on there doesn't always need to be an underlying attraction or Secret reason why or motive For being friends. I think it's possible. I think it's complicated most of the time, but I think it's doable Do you think that it's more Would you say if you both were in a relationship that it's More doable than if you want to like if let's say like Do you think that if the guy had a girlfriend That you guys would be friends if you didn't have a boyfriend? I would say yes, but I think that the girlfriend of the guy would be complicated out of jealousy and insecurity even though it's not her fault really Out of that jealousy and insecurity. I think that it wouldn't work. It wouldn't work Okay, so let me ask you a question because I saw this I saw this online Do you think that if you had a boy best friend for a lot of years and he got into a relationship and he just stopped talking to you overnight because he got into a relationship? What do you think about that? Okay, they were never your friend. That's exactly what I was thinking because I was saying in the comments It's because he loved you all along. He loved you all along. What? I don't see it that way at all I see it as the way that the girlfriend said you cannot have a girl best friend and he literally just cut you off Which I would personally feel friends. I'm sorry that actually happened to us though So it did happen to us I would feel hurt because you have been best friends with this person and then someone knew enters their life and automatically They can't be friends with you. I understand why she would have concerns potentially But I don't think that that's fair the least you can do is explain and communicate. Yeah to the person. Why? I also don't think that a male and a woman friendship is Can ever be the same as a woman to woman friendship? Yeah, there's things that you won't do in front of them the man or whatever. Yeah, and it's just a certain understanding So to answer your guys's question. I We want to know what you guys think because yeah, yeah, it's I think it's I think it's personally Possibly doable, but I don't know so yeah, what do you think? I don't know What's one thing you appreciate about life? I appreciate that it's always changing and you always have opportunities to learn and grow and Change you always have you know You always have the opportunity to change and do what you want to do. Nothing is forever. Nothing stuck and You don't like your situation change it And I appreciate the beauty of life also I think that there's a lot of love in the world. There's a lot of hate, but there's a lot of love. I think that people They can sometimes be bad, but I also think that they can be good and I think that life's a full balance and I appreciate that It's yin and yang. I appreciate you know Everything that life has the hard the good the everything I appreciate that Um, yeah, I would have to say the same thing and Yeah Life is beautiful. There's lots of beauty in life The sunrise the sunset the ocean the stars the trees the different countries I like that life that there's um everything around the world is different and everyone lives a different lifestyle and you can learn and appreciate and really be grateful for life and I Think that life if I'm looking at it in that type of way that it's beautiful you have the ability to do whatever you want in life and Learn grow make mistakes Um, what lesson about love do you wish you knew earlier? I'm just gonna quickly go over this and say that It's not necessarily what I wish I knew earlier, but a lesson about love that I've learned is that love is not forever love also changes and people fall out of love and that's okay and it That's just the way it is. Don't pressure things. Let things be I wouldn't change anything. I wouldn't have wanted to know anything earlier. I think that each relationship that you have or each friendship anything that ends is a new lesson to learn and I think that's the beauty about life as well actually is that with as time goes by and as new experience happened and Loss happens you learn in that situation and that You grow as a person and that's another that's actually a blessing to have is that you get to learn a lesson from Each loss you have and I think that's the best thing about having a loss is that with a loss comes a lot of Growth and a lot of You learn a lot and I wouldn't change that what is the most important quality to have in a relationship? I think the most important quality to have in a relationship is Trust in respect. I think that with Respect comes trust. I don't think that I think that when you get into a relationship that Unless they have done something that shows that you can't trust them I think that there should be no reason that you don't trust your partner And I think respect is a huge thing in a relationship. I think we need to Respect Your what your partner is doing and then their own life and in Your own life that your partner needs to respect what you're doing a very important quality for me is respect I think Having respect For somebody that you are with romantically or not romantically is the basis of all other qualities You can't be loyal to someone that you don't respect. You can't have trust for someone that you don't respect and I think that respect is Is something that's earned and it's easily Lost it's hard to gain and it's easily lost and It makes a really big difference in relationships Because when respect is lost there is nothing else at all For painful clinging to a toxic love or leaving someone you still care for but no longer love That's something that I can actually speak on quite a bit, but I think It is always more painful clinging to a toxic love because Because it always is going to hurt you however long you stay in that relationship It will hurt you no matter what Is there action the behavior just the circumstance in general will hurt you no matter what and And yes, leaving can be hard or you know still loving someone but understanding that you have to leave is extremely extremely painful, but But I think it's better to um Leave someone if you no longer love them. I don't think you should try to force a connection Yeah, um, I think I think When you still love them and you have to leave them is Something that is extremely extremely painful, but it's you still care for someone you still Love someone, but you have to leave for certain situations that it's extremely extremely painful But I think it's something that has to happen because more hurt comes from staying in that relationship and it always will Do you like that? I would say uh clinging to a toxic love is probably more painful. Um Even though like leaving someone you still care for Is not is painful. I don't think it's as painful as staying in toxic in the long run in staying in a toxic relationship Because if you no longer love somebody You can still care for somebody, but that doesn't mean that you should stay in a relationship because if there's no more love in that relationship There is no need for that really, you know, like it's time to let go and move on that is caring for the person because that chapter is closed and You don't love that person anymore. So it's no longer a like a relationship, you know like that Can humans really change? Yes I do believe that if you really put in the effort and you really want to change for yourself, then yes, you are capable of changing But you really have to want it and you really have to work for it You can't just sit there and say that you're going to change or you that you want to change And I also think it's important to know that you can't change somebody else like she was saying earlier you cannot make someone want to change they have to want to change for themselves and I think change can be a very good thing and that You should be changing in life. You should it's okay to outgrow people and Change can be a very good thing I think humans can change as well. I think That mistakes are something that you can improve on. I think you know, even somebody who does something really bad can turn a new leaf and learn from their mistakes and people need to be given that space to grow And it's okay if you want someone out of your life because they've done something wrong or they've hurt you That's okay. That's a personal choice, but I don't think that that should taint That person's ability to form new relationships with other people I think people change. I think it's very important that people do change and not getting upset at people when they do change because you can't expect people to stay the same forever things happen and And you need to give people the space To change or the better for the worse it it's not up to you, but yes, I think people can change What do I see in you that you don't see in yourself? For you, I see a lot of Love and sensitivity and I think that you know, we're very sensitive and we've been told by a lot of people Growing up that it's a bad thing, but I think that your sensitivity Makes you exactly who you are and I think it's my favorite thing about you And we've come a long way in accepting that And I think that you're incredibly strong. I think that you're someone who Can go through anything and still come out on the other side Okay, and attacked and still able to show love for other people and I think that's a quality that not a lot of people have Thank you. I'm going to change the question a little bit because I don't really understand the question, but I'm going to say something that I think Megan has a hard time doing now is when she has Something good going like maybe As an example a guy in her life She doesn't allow herself to feel the love or accept the love and she's a beautiful person Inside and out and she's deserving of that love and I I feel like you don't think that you're deserving of love because of a past somebody And I feel like You should know that you are deserving of love and that you should not push everyone away The guys that come into your life and do you believe in love? You know what I do. I do believe in love. I still think that You know, I come from a family that's been divorced and had a lot of issues. I also have been in A relationship in the past that had a lot of issues But yes, I still believe in love. I still think it's a very beautiful thing You know, I still want to be loved. I want to love I want You know a little fairytale ending and I don't think that's such a bad thing to say and I think a lot of people are I Would say no to that question because they want to See him strong and seem cold and all these things, but yes, I do believe in love. I think it's a beautiful thing Do I believe in love? Yes, I absolutely believe in love all types of love friendship love romantic love I think love if we're talking just love in general is a beautiful thing I think to love and to be loved is like the most beautiful thing ever like You're telling me that you can love someone and they love you back with Yeah, just because of a bad experience doesn't mean that it's not real I know that like the more bad experiences you have the more you want to push love away and the more scarier it gets but I have hope because I just hopefully one day whoever you love loves you back Do you think everything happens for a reason? I want to say yes I don't know what the reason is obviously nobody does When I think about it in a ways like why does This person over here have to be going through Absolute shit in their life and this person over here is all the way up here living the best life I don't know what the reason is for that. I I don't know. I don't know why people have to go through shitty things while other people are living a great life like I don't know why there's Little kids dying in a war and there's kids over here that have the best life in their life I don't know what the reasoning is for that and it sucks and that's the thing about life I don't I don't know but I want to believe that There is a reason for everything I I don't know what that is, but I think that when For example when Something bad happens to you, I believe that it's to make you a better person and for you to grow and learn through that that shitty Experience for hopes sake. I want to say everything happens for a reason. I think that Things do happen for a reason. I don't know if that's just something that people say to make themselves feel better about The world and that's okay. That's cool with me I think things do happen for a reason. I think you learn from things. I think you grow from things I think that you know Like she was saying, I don't know why Horrible things happen to some people and I don't know I don't know what the reasoning for that is and it It's not fair, but that's the thing about life is that it's not fair But I think that you are never dealt A hand that you cannot deal with Everything that happens that's hard Is for you to come out on the other side an even better person a stronger person and It's not fair All the time or any of the time. I feel like you Should try to find That reason because I think that gives people faith and a little bit of hope and to hold on to something Is better to just Keep saying like oh all these shitty things are happening to me try to find A little bit of a positive. I know that that can be feel impossible at times when All these things keep happening to you, but You have to have faith or you'll never be able to Keep going in life. If you give up and you can't find You know like you can't find that hope You'll die in life like you won't make it and I think like she was saying You don't get Handed something that you can't handle Do you think there's a part of you that you've lost? I Think everybody loses a very Everybody loses parts of themselves through life You give a lot of yourself to a lot of different circumstances in your life And just growing older in general, you know you lose a lot of your Your child like self you lose a lot of you know that excitement for life you get jaded You know you get you lose your innocence for certain things, but I also think that with losing that you gain You gain a lot too. You gain the self-awareness you gain A lot so it's a balance, but yeah there's definitely parts of myself that I've lost in A lot of different parts of my life And I think that it's a good thing though because when you lose a part of yourself That's now a space for you to be able to grow another part of yourself and self discovery and learning about yourself is What makes the world turn around so I remember I think you definitely um or I have definitely lost part of myself But I think that that's also turned into when you lose something You gain something in a way And I think that's also the beauty of life. Look at this. I'm answering that question over and over again I actually do think that is the beauty of life too I think that you can't if you'd over lose something about yourself Then you're never you're the same version of yourself And I think that it's important to keep growing yourself and to become a new version and Keep it growing and So yeah, I think uh, yes, I definitely have lost parts of myself, but in a good way Do you think you can trust you can trust someone fully again after they've broken your trust? I think that no you can't fully trust someone again after they've broken your trust trust is extremely delicate and it's It's something that again is easily easily lost it can go just like that And it takes a long time to rebuild trust and sometimes you never can and it depends on what they've done and it also depends on your How you choose to forgive someone and your acceptability of what they've done But I think that there's certain things that you can forgive but just choose not to let back in your life and I think that's important to have boundaries where you do not let people Who have broken your trust? Back in I think forgiving someone is a big thing But allowing someone to do it over and over and over again to you is something that I personally choose not to allow in my life anymore and so I think that you know, you can still have relationships with people but to fully trust them. I think is a really difficult thing Yeah, I would agree. I would I would I think that You can definitely forgive someone and that's important to forgive someone but when it comes to trusting them again, it's just like again, it depends on circumstance what they've done but for me once you break that trust For me it has to be something that like if you broke the trust and for me not to like Cut you out it means that you've actually like broken something that it's like I can forgive you, but it's like You'll never really forget that, you know, like the more like Yeah, you can be friends again, but it will ever be the same not on that level then then you'll stop you'll stop sharing things with them because you don't trust that person anymore and That's the thing like once you break trust, it's like you can't expect that person to just You know forgive you and say all right. Let's move on like you can forgive them But to trust them again, it will never be the exact same. I don't think so You've been hurt and you can't forget that just because someone apologizes or trust in men's situation doesn't mean that it didn't Happen it's still happening and you still for her over and it's okay to be hurt you move on But you're gonna think about it. You're gonna think about it and every time I look at you in the face and you tell me something I You can't wish you wash you then wish you wash you you're back and forth. I don't I don't hear you and it's not the same I also don't think that you have enough time and energy to be giving it to somebody that Is okay with just breaking that trust just like that? That means that person isn't really for you It's not that's not a friendship. I think that In my life, I don't give people a lot of chances. I think that It wants you because that also means that person has no respect for you and once that happens for me It's it's done like the bridge is burned and It's I'll never it's never gonna be the same connection can true happiness exists without sadness you Know what? No, I don't think so because I I think that life needs a balance of Happiness and pain. You can't just always be happy about everything. I think that Sadness can lead to happiness and happiness can also lead to sadness. So I think that they need to coexist I think no You need a balance of all emotions. You can't feel the highs without feeling the lows vice versa We just watched inside out too at the theaters. It was actually um A very poorly made movie and I didn't want to look like Dora. Yeah, why was there cartoon knapsacks around the screen? but I Quite know what was happening there, but I think the basis of the movie is good Think that you know, if there's anything I learned from the movie is that all emotions play the role You can't have one without the other. I think you need an a balance of all emotions You can't feel certain things about feeling the rest of them and You wouldn't want to be up. Think of it like a chart. You wouldn't want to be at the top all the time I would much rather be on a rollercoaster and have a harder life than Be all the time. So next week. We're going to dive into our childhood trauma a little bit about childhood What we went through our experiences and how we came about I hope you guys enjoyed this week and that being said, I hope you guys are here for next week's chat Thank you so much for watching. We'll see you guys next week. Bye.
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