LIVIN OUR CRAZY LIFE
A TALK ON OUR GOALS, FUTURE & SUPPORT SYSTEMS
- Hey guys, it's Livin' Our Crazy Life podcast. I'm Olivia. - I'm Megan, and today we're gonna talk about any and everything basically. We're gonna talk about the future, people not supporting what you're starting. - Really? - In just life. - Just life. - Just a little shit chat. - And so, neither of us are in school. - That was a big thing, I think, for both of us, is that she tried to go to school, and she-- (laughing) - I wasn't gonna make it. - She just dropped out, and I never actually went to school, just because there was a lot of external pressure to go, but ultimately it's my choice, and I chose not to, and ultimately she chose not to as well. And I think that that is because we knew that we were for bigger things, if that makes sense. - Not saying that school is not good, or that's not what we're saying. - It's all personal pressure. - School is a great thing. If you wanna be a doctor, or a lawyer, or all the other jobs that they have out there for school, that's great, school is good for you, and that's what you want in life. But, for me, and I've also talked to a lot of people that chose to go to school, and they all said, I know this one person that I went to school with, and they wanted to be a chef, and I was talking to them, and they're like, yeah, but my mom wants me to go to engineering, and I'm gonna finish engineering before I do anything with chef, and I'm thinking, you know, that's really sad to hear, because you shouldn't, if you wanna do something, you should follow that, and you should put, if you put in the work, and you put in the effort, you can get there, and you shouldn't be doing something that you're gonna be miserable down the line, you'll never be happy, and you'll never work out, because you're not, that's not where you want to be. - That's not where your heart is. If your heart is not in something, you can't succeed. Like, for example, my brother, okay? He is in med school, and he wants to be a plastic surgeon in Miami for money, okay? And he thinks that that is what's gonna fulfill his life, he thinks that, and that's the most ridiculous thing to me, because he doesn't care about it, he just cares about the money, and that's not the way that we wanna live our life, that's why we have different dreams, and that's why we didn't go to school, because we, I don't wanna work a nine to five job. - Nobody, some people, okay, some people. - We don't wanna work a nine to five job, just because it doesn't relate with, I actually don't wanna be, I wanna have my own schedule. Even now, I work at a bar, she works at a bar, and I don't like seeing my name on a schedule, I don't know, like what, like I have to work from this time to this time, and obviously, where I am now, I have to work there, and I like my job, it's fine, it's fun, but not for my long term. - That's not what we wanna, I don't wanna be at a bar for us, I don't wanna be a bartender, I don't wanna be a bottle girl, I don't wanna be doing these things, and that's cool if you do, but that's not where I see myself, because honestly, I see myself at a point in my life, where I, again, don't have to clock in, it's where I wake up, I get to take a second for myself, and I can maybe go to the gym, I can take however much time I need, and then I get to work, but for myself, I don't wanna build somebody else's company, I don't wanna give my time for something that I truly don't care about, I wanna build my own dreams. - We wanna wake up every day. - We wanna wake up every day. - And be excited, we wanna be like, oh my goodness, today's a great day. - Let's do this, I wanna go somewhere. - I don't want the same routine every day. I want, I want to wake up and be like, hey, we gotta get to work, let's do our work, exactly, but let's go cook a trip, and let's go on our trip too. - Oh, let's go here, we can get something from this trip, we can talk to people, we can meet people and create new opportunities. - We want, you wanna be, like if you're alive, and like you have the ability to just do what you want, like I just wanna be doing what I wanna do. - And why would you not? - And that also comes with putting it off, like we had dreams of things for a long time, and we always would put it off, or say, oh, I'm nervous to put myself out there, because people from high school will see me, or I'm nervous to start this from perception, or just fear, just start, because the time is moving, and you're not doing it, somebody else is doing it, and you're only hurting yourself by not following what you wanna do, because you get miserable, you get miserable in a cycle, in a cycle, and it just doesn't work, it doesn't work at all. - Time keeps going, you don't have all the time in the world, anything can happen at any time. Life is not promised, and life is so precious, just go and do what you wanna do, exactly. Why would I sit there and do, like when I dropped out of nursing school, my mom was so rude, and so not supportive, and actually a lot of people were, they were all like, what are you doing, like you're gonna be failure in life, and I'm thinking, that's crazy that you think that way, like shouldn't you want me to be happy with what I'm doing, why would I chase somebody else's dream, like they set a standard for me, and they want me to go to school, because that's what they think is successful, and why would I live for somebody else's dream, when I should be following my path, what I wanna do? Doesn't make sense. - It doesn't make sense. - That's just why I dropped out, because I was scared to drop out, and I was really scared, and you know what, I really thought about it, and I was like, I'm dropping out. - At the end of the day, it doesn't matter, it's what you want. Just because someone birthed you, or have expectations for you, gives them no authority to make decisions about your life. And same, like my brother, again, I said, is in medical school, and I obviously, again, did not go to school, and so there's an unbalanced there, and my whole life, he was in the gifted programs, he went to special schools for smarter kids, and I was honestly bottom of the grades in public school, and that's okay, and I put so much pressure on myself, until I realized that your expectations for me, have nothing to do with me, and everything to do with you. Nothing to do with me. The way that I perform, and the way that I learn, is different, because I am a different person. And that's why I have these dreams that I, I want a job where I get to be creative. I want to create things with my hands, I want to make content, I want to be doing all these things, and yeah, I don't want one set thing, I want to do a hundred things, I want to do any and everything, and learn, and make mistakes, because making mistakes is how you improve, and that's why I knew that always, I wasn't just going to be doing something, I wasn't just going to be sitting down, and doing something, because it doesn't work for me. - And if people don't support you, and they want to leave your life, let them. - Let them, they're not meant to be in your life then, like people are telling us like, oh this isn't going to go anywhere, and no one cares what you're saying, but today's what your podcast literally said, no one cares, maybe you don't care, and that's okay, because if you don't care, somebody else does, somebody else does, and that's okay. - And that's okay. - We didn't do the whole school thing, and we actually had the school, we started a podcast in like grade 12, and then we just said now, like we didn't take it seriously. - Yeah, we just didn't go about it the right way, we weren't focused on the same page, we had a lot of outside circumstances that didn't allow us to give all of our time and energy to it, but now we can. Now we get to take the time to build our dream, what we want. - Me personally, I had a big realization within the last like six months, like just like, whoa, like I'm not focused in life, like I need to be focused. I, like every day, I was waking up doing the same thing, wasting so much time, like just sitting in my bed and like, for what, like, what am I doing? Like I'm wasting my life away, and it's time to start now. Like ever since I was a little kid, when I was seven, I was making YouTube videos of me doing my makeup, getting ready for little birthday parties, showing my room. I've always wanted to do like, what, basically this, and I thought, why not? Like what the heck do I have to lose? Like just do it. And I decided it's time. Like what am I doing? I'm wasting my freaking life away. You know, time is going and I'm just getting older and years keep going by and like years go by like that. And I was still in the same place. Now next year I will not be in the same place. - Yes, next year we have actually set ourselves some pretty firm goals for this year, which I think we've been doing a really good job. We have a one year gym membership prepaid so that we are accountable. And we have been going to the gym. I'd say pretty consistently, like realistically we do gym, basically every day, unless we can't, because we have the gym, we have work or whatever. And we also would like to keep working on this and stuff. And then by next year, hopefully we will be moved out and living back for me back in Montreal and for her in Montreal. That's the goal, that's the goal. 'Cause I'm really tired of this. I've really outgrown where I live right now. Like I'm, this is for another topic, but like my family, it's not the best place to live at home. And it's time to just be by myself and move somewhere where it's new. Meet new people, get out there. And a new story, a new chapter, it's time. Like I've outgrown this place. I don't see the same people. I'm done with like here. - Yeah, and also, we're the type of people where we wanna not die. I don't wanna die in the same place that I was born. Like I wanna see the world. I have, travel is a big part of both of our lives. And that's honestly why I do everything that I do is so that I can travel and learn. And we have dreams. Like we wanna start there. - We wanna move. It's not when we're 65. It's not when we're healthy, young. - Yeah. This is the time when you're supposed to be doing these things. You're supposed to be out falling in love with a hundred different people. You're supposed to be making friends. You're supposed to be, you know, getting lost on the street, you know, making all these stories and things so that you can look back on these later and you can live this exciting this. I don't wanna be 65, 75. Being like, oh, now I get to go to Italy on my cruise. Like, I don't know if we talked about this, but we wanna start a, like, later, we wanna start a, like, a volunteer group to go out and help the kids in different places of the world. But, like, us, start it. Like, not do it for somebody else. Like, her and I start-- - Yeah, we don't wanna volunteer for an organization or-- - Always don't eat 'cause we don't eat too a lot of things. We do a lot of, a lot of humanitarian work. The only thing is it's work for other companies. It's work for things that already exist. - We wanna make sure that it's doing it right way. - Doing it ourselves. We wanna physically be there helping the people because that's where it makes me feel good when I get to be doing it hands-on, you know? - Traveling will change your perspective on life. - 100%. - Because there's so many different ways of living life and here is not the way of living life. Like, this is, we live here is like a corporation. Like, you're living in, it's so messed up, like, the way that children are raised nowadays. Like, I cannot raise, if I'm having kids, which I do want kids, I am not raising them here. They're not getting, oh, let me just go on my iPad. No, you're playing outside in the mud all day, honey. You're the trees, like, who do you think you are? Like, you're not living, you're not playing on your iPad and I'll watch a TV for hours on end. It's like crazy how this world is and I will not be able to. - I just think that the Western society and culture is very fast paced. It's all about getting to the top. It's not about connecting with people or being community. Like, there's no sense of community here at all. - No. - And it's always about money and greed and stepping on other people to get where you want to be. And again, fast, fast, fast. - And that's an issue. - We want to live a slow life. I want to live slow paced where you can live slow and you just take in every moment and every day's different. - Not just staying your own food. - You cook your own food. You grow your own food, you cook your own food. You probably have bees, like a hive of bees in your yard. - You probably have the orange tree in your backyard. - Pick your orange and eat it. - Pick your orange and eat it. - Like, that's the kind of lifestyle that we-- - I'm going for it. - And we will have. - I have. - Because we work for us when we have a goal set, it will always happen. When we have something set. - You don't even want to know. - There's no-- - There's no-- - There is no going around it for me. When I have something set, it will happen. Every single time, doesn't matter how hard it is to get there, it will happen. - And that's another reason why we're not worried. Like, people say a lot of things. My family and her family has a lot to say about the way we live our life. And the thing is, is that it goes right in one ear and out the other for me because I don't hear you. I don't care because how you live your life is not the way that I want to live my life. So I live it differently. But we're excited. This is like a very new chapter for us. It's like, it's good. We're working towards our goals. We have certain things and we're sticking to it. Accountability is huge. We have been known to be quitters for some things. - I'm realistic things though. - Unrealistic things, okay? Like, things that we didn't actually want to do though. - Exactly. - But I will say the type of people we are is, I got a red light ticket, $400. Excuse me, fuck you, government. - That was crazy. - That was crazy. - That was crazy 'cause it was even a house. - $400. Yeah, I'm the type to go bust my ass off around the neighborhood doing car washing to get the money. - And we did it. - And we paid for it. - And that took me to bed. - We wanted to go on a trip so we sold our clothes. - We sold our clothes. - We washed cars and we, I don't even, we will always hustle to get the money we need to do. - We have a saying outside of the dollar store with a hat on the ground for money. Mind you, we made no money doing that but we were willing to do it and that speaks a lot to our character. - You know, we could use our own money, right? But, might as well go make some money so that it's like, so that it's free, you know? So it's free, you know what I mean? You wanna go on a trip? Great, we have to work extra hard. We will pick up an extra shift. Great, great. Not a problem, that's how we've always been like that and it's amazing. Anytime we get a street parking ticket, we're out here doing car washes. - Well that's our best quality actually is that we, when we say we are gonna do something, we do it. We stick by our word and under any circumstances, when we see something, we will make it happen. - Because for me, actions are a big thing. You can say blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. - You can talk your actions or if you're not proving it to me in an action form, you're not. - It means nothing. - It doesn't mean anything. So don't try, just. - That's a big thing and open up your ears, everybody, because that's a massive thing. - You say you're going to do something, you better do it. - Do it. - Don't beat around the bush, just speak bro, honesty is a big thing also. I don't know, that doesn't mean anything to the future. - It has nothing to do with the future, but honesty is a big thing because there's really no need to lie, if you're gonna disappoint somebody or you're gonna hurt somebody, there's no need to protect them. - Say it. - Tell them the truth and move on. Either they agree or they don't agree. And that sucks, like if you've done something wrong and you tell the truth about it and they don't wanna be in your life anymore, that is for them to choose, that's fair, that is just for someone to not wanna be in your life and you lie. Okay guys, so we had this crazy talk and I was visiting her in whatever and we were sitting on the balcony and we're speaking, and we're just going on this little, we talk a lot. I mean, and we're like, okay, so right now we're 20. So like in a few years, you should be meeting somebody, right? And like getting engaged and like marriage and then kids because like realistically for myself, I don't wanna be like a older mom, I wanna be kind of like a younger mom, not necessarily like, it doesn't have to happen like that if it doesn't, but I don't wanna be like 40 and my kids like whatever, young, because I have life to live after my kids. - Exactly, there's life to be lived. But we were talking about that when we were like going great, really. - Well our timeline, let's think about this, okay? So we are just living life, working on our goals, working on our businesses. Think about this 20 years old, right? So hypothetically, if you were to get married, like you would have to meet someone basically in like a year, 'cause you would wanna know them a little bit before you got married, you'd wanna be married for a bit before you had your kid. So realistically, we are fucked. So we said 25, we gave ourselves to 25, right? To be married or to meet someone, I don't know. I think you're ready when you meet the right person. - Definitely. - I don't think it's like a ready like, oh, I'm ready right now to have a kid. It's when you meet the right person, you will feel ready. - And that's my issue is that I don't know if I want a kid. I'm in a place where, like I'm still very young, so things could change for sure, but I don't know if I could do a kid because that's, that's a lot I could do a kid. That's a lot because I come from a troubled home and I don't know if I wanna like, reciprocate that 'cause it's not necessarily, I don't know, I don't know if I could have a kid. And then this, this culture, no. Maybe if I was away living on a farm and I was in love with somebody, then maybe like, I would want a kid, but I don't know right now. 'Cause they just who and they cry and they take so much of your life, I don't know. - My rule is if they don't have a father figure, there's no kid happening. There needs to be a father figure and there needs to be, I need to be financially stable and ready to have kids. If that's a very big thing for me, if they don't mean the father might not, you might not work out and that's okay, but if the father is not there for the kids, like that's a big thing for me. Like, you can, whatever, me and you not work out, that's fine, you better be there for your kids. And that's a huge thing. And I also wanna live on a farm and make my sourdough bread every day. So if you're willing to do that, you know? - So, exactly, exactly, but yes. My kids will be, it's just, my kids are not being raised here. So that's also part of the timeline. I gave myself 28 to be out into Italy. So I don't really know that, yeah, I'm not gonna follow a timeline. I'm just gonna not put any pressure on it and see where it takes me. - Yeah, I don't believe in this timeline because... - No need for a timeline. - There's no need for a timeline. We were thinking, and we're thinking, if you were to follow the societal norms, that would be your timeline. And that's kind of crazy to think that we're 20 years old right now. But it's really not so serious. But it's really not so serious. But when you think about age, then it gets a little serious, but then you don't think about it again. And it's fine. Now that we've started this podcast thing, I obviously want this to be around for a while. Like, maybe we could be 90 years old telling me, I don't know, crazy stuff on here, but I think that support is a big thing that comes with it. And that's something that people always wanna claim that they support you and they wanna actually foul. It's foul that they actually don't, because why are we there supporting? We always are first to support people. You put out a clothing company. We will buy a piece, or at least support your posts. We, you put out a jewelry company. We'll buy a piece of jewelry. You put out a song. We will run up the plays on your song. We are always there. - Well, they want to. - Like actually, like out of our heart, we like literally, like I want someone to feel special. I want someone to feel inspired to go and do that. - And continue, exactly. - And continue to do it all the time, because if someone has a talent, or if somebody is like, put it, to put yourself out there is very brave, it takes courage. And I, like, we're the same people. Like, I literally smile when somebody starts out. Like, I want them to feel so special. I want them to feel so excited to do something, and to know that they're good at it. - And it's not reciprocated. - Yeah. - Oh, these people that I, we posted something on our story. And what, like. - We were a little disappointed. - Five people liked it, and that's it. How about. - And I was actually very disappointed. - It was a little disappointing, because these are people that say they were your friends in high school, or they reach out to you once a year, saying, oh, I miss you so much, or they see you in public. We have to catch up. Then support what I'm doing. - Or they'll like, like, your selfies. Why are you putting hearts on my selfies? Or my pictures, but you're not supporting what I'm doing with my brain. Like you think. - You would think. It's actually very disappointing. It's very, it's very sad to see that humans are like this. Like, I just don't know. - Is it so hard to say, I'm proud of you. Like, we're not, we're not desperate for that. It's just, it's nice to know that what you are doing, that you have started, is supported. And you never ever hear, oh, I'm proud of you, or I am glad that you have actually started this, or whatever. You never hear that. - I feel people did, but I'm saying majority, just, they just looked at it, and some people probably hated, because that's what people do. Oh, that's another thing. Sending things behind people's back, or making fun of people for starting to do something, or putting themselves out there is so shitty of you, that reflects so badly on your character. And I just want to say that that's very petty, and we know. And it's very, it's very sad, and disappointing to see, because I thought we were growing. I thought we were growing up, right? And like, we're 20 years old, and I just thought that maybe we would be past that. - At the end of the day, people are very childish, and you don't like what you're seeing, that's fine. - Don't watch it, no one's asking you, follow me, don't watch it. But in general, support, not even for, I'm not speaking for us, support for anybody, you should always be supporting people. It takes people time, it takes people the courage, the bravery, and to put themselves out there, you should always support somebody. - But, yeah. - Some people are childish, some people are immature, and especially the people we went to high school with, we know what you're, like we are, we know. So, it's okay that you wanna hate, do that, you can hate. It's fine. - It's just a little disappointing. - Just going back to all the other episodes, have some love, like show love, like let's have some peace in this world, like come on. - Right, there's already so much hate and sadness and anger in the world. Is it so hard to just be-- - It's okay to smile for somebody else. - It's okay if you went to high school, and you might not like them, and-- - It's okay to just grow up and be like, wow. - If somebody starting their thing makes you insecure because you have not started your own thing, that is your sign that instead of hating on that person, start your own thing, start your thing then, because your insecurity has nothing to do with the person you're insecure of. That is your own mind and body telling you what you need to do to be more content with yourself. - Yes, never, never take your insecurities out on other people. That is probably one of the most embarrassing things you can do for yourself. If you guys stay till the end, we hope you enjoyed this episode. Thank you for watching, and we'll see you next Wednesday.
This week we dive into where we see ourselves in 10+ years and how we plan to get there. The role that support systems play when trying to build a brand/business and just a little chat on dealing with haters.