So Says MR.THUNDER
It’s OK to “LOVE YOURSELF”
Featuring Guest ToyiaShaneese
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- Duration:
- 25m
- Broadcast on:
- 10 Jul 2024
- Audio Format:
- mp3
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If this your first time come to the podcast, I appreciate you coming because that means somebody tells you about it, which means you listening and I hope you enjoy the ride that we're about to take you on. For those of you who have been with us from the beginning, you understand that this has been a journey, a process and a format and a message to where the audience cycle prettier wisdom just keeps growing and growing and growing and the knowledge that's being shared is meant to help somebody else because it's not about me, it's about you. So without further ado, I want to introduce my guest, just a brief brief brief history, a friend of a friend, an introduction in Houston, somebody who was very necessary in my planning groups in Houston and then kind of showing me the good parts of what was meant to be. So if you would do with me the honors of introducing yourself? - I am the amazing (indistinct) recording artist, mother, philanthropist, I don't want to get into the corporate part, but just a staple in the city. - That's cool. So we reconnected after some separation for a while, just life directions, you know, that's just how friends and, you know, things like that go. But you reached out to me to tell me about your album, like you were finally, you were finally doing it. And I remember you talking about it a little bit, just a little bit about the album. - Okay. So I released my first E.P. mixed emotions from my heart. Available in all platforms, it's a compilation of my journey with understanding love in terms of relationships. - Okay. Yeah. I've heard a couple of them songs and I just have a hard time, you know, just playing albums with just women on it. I had this debate with my wife about listening to Beyonce and I just can't do it. I don't know what it is. I just can't listen to it, but I say that to say, this is definitely an album that I feel is going in that direction. So congratulations to you. - Thank you. - Now back to the podcast. So I introduced it to you, I asked you, I genuinely asked you for your opinion. So have you been listening or have you listened to them? - Yeah. To the podcast? - Yes. - Yeah. No, and I've told you several times before on off-camera that it's amazing. I love that you have created a space for people to be their authentic selves and tell their truth. - Yeah. - So super proud of you for that. - So is there any, any episode that, that's, you know what I'm saying? You can pull or just kind of like you point to it as like, this is your point of reference when you talk about it, because you say you, you talked about it to some people. But I'm going to tell you my favorite episode, believe it or not, and you, let me just preface by saying the few that I've heard and the only reason it's been a few is because I have an incredibly, incredibly busy schedule. But the one with your wife was my favorite. It really, really was, and I was extremely proud of her, but I've never met her. I was extremely proud of her for being able to separate the personal role that she plays in your life and actually be an inspiration for women and her delivery. - Yeah. That was the, the highest for the year, last year, the, the most downloaded and listened to one. So that, you know, I tell her all the time, like you really have something to say. And now she's a professor, so she's doing it every day, so that's, that's interesting that that goes. - Yeah. - Yeah. So anyways, we was talking, we was talking about an aha moment for you and I guess your journey with the album and, and things of that nature. So tell me a little bit about that part. - The aha moment? - Yeah. - So, and I, I can't honestly say enough on all platforms, go stream, go stream, go stream. - Yeah. - But we definitely going to get to our information out there. - And get it out there, but no, seriously though, the aha moment was all of my life, I have had this, what I thought, battle with, with love and I've led, I've allowed it in terms of relationships and I've allowed it to bully me to basically justify bad behavior bad decisions that I have made. But this album allowed me the platform to be honest about it and actually be able to reclaim my position in it, so to speak, to where love is not control me. I control love and this album has, has a lot of this EP has allowed me to do this thing. - Control. - Yeah. - What is your definition of control? - The control in this aspect is something that is in a leadership position and makes you feel like if it doesn't work out successfully, it has to be your fault. It can't be love's fault because love is love. Like everybody wants love, love is a positive thing. And so if there is a situation where love isn't working out for you, it has to be a result of something you did wrong. - So when you say love, what is, what is love, like, I know I know I'm asking it because everybody has different definitions of what love is, right? So for you, love is. - I have spent a lot of, a lot of my time thinking that love is man and woman. Like that's it. That is the number one priority is to get a, or to have a relationship between a man and a woman that is positive, that is influential, that is successful. But love in its truest form is more than just that. I mean, that's nice to have, but you have, you receive, you can receive love in multiple ways other than just a man-woman relationship. To be honest, I'm not going to say that I didn't know that but what I am going to say is I didn't value that. Like having love from other entities, other situations, I have those, but it's like whatever. The main priority is I need to have love work between me and a man in order for me to be able to claim a title that love has worked out for me or that love loves me. - So is there a point of reference that you use, like personally, where you can identify true love, like, in that situation? - Well, yeah, I mean, well. - I mean, we've all experienced it at some point to identify it, right? Is there a moment that you can remember, you know, that there was just like true love, like the connection was there, everything was there and you knew at that moment, it was love. I can be honest, and in this journey that I've gone on and right now, this easy, my true connection with love is the man that I now value as the first love in my life and that is my father. - Okay. - Yeah. - Okay. So being a father, a daughter and being responsible for another, for you, what does that look like? - Okay. So, again, I can't plug enough about my family. - Yeah. That's fine. You do know that. - I have a song on this EP, "Mixed Emotions Were My Heart Speaks," there's a song called Love High. - Love High. - Love High. - Okay. - Love High is honestly, if I can be honest and I'm grateful to you for having a platform where you can be honest, Love High is 100% about my first love, which is my father. - Okay. - I just didn't want to put this business out there. My father, unfortunately, I lost my mama and it's a kid and I took it hard, my daddy took it hard, and daddy ended up being, you know, drugs, I have to be honest, he was, he was, he really, really took to drugs, but I didn't, when I wrote this album or EP, I didn't want to put his business out there, but I remember being in situations to where I had to go get him out of that coffee, I hate to say that. And if you listen to the words of the song, I talk about being me of Scotty, I became familiar with those drug words because of the turn that my mother's death took off my father, but I still adored him, I still went to get him out of these drug houses or whatever. And in the song, what I did is I wrote to the world to make it look like it was a Love High relationship for a guy, but really it was, it was about my unconditional love for my father. And I didn't care what he went through in life, I wasn't leaving him. And I was, I was going to love him through it all. So. Yeah, that's good. I mean, I try, you know, when my girls let them know that I love them and show them what that looks like from a man who, one, means it, right, and two, has nothing to gain from saying those words or acting in it because it's, it's my job. Yeah. And learning how to love is part of the trial and error of, to your point, him going through things, you know, I haven't always been the best father, but I've been the best father that I knew at the time, right, because I didn't have a very good example of what love looked like in that aspect, right? So I appreciate you sharing that. So with the, with the love, now that, now that you've gone through this journey, which you were experiencing as a problem, you have found a solution. Yeah. Okay. So talk about the solution. The solution is in, I've spent so much, and there's a track on the, what I did with this album is I did a couple of things. I went through a very tragic, not tragic, because he's still alive, but traffic, tragic as far as my heart, a breakup. And, but in the devastation of that, I still believe in, in love, but what I've learned is that love for me for just pushing me personally, I thought everything that I've wanted from love I have. And so my AP has these little skits in where I have these like reflection moments. And there's one on the project called freedom. And in freedom, I actually realized everything that I wanted from love already have, you know, I have a great family base. I have a great friendship base, but even above all, my daddy is amazing, but even above all of that, and it's corny, but I was also a huge Whitney Houston fan. And I remember she wrote the song, great love of all, seriously. And it sounds corny, but in reality, yeah, like it's great to have a man, it's great to have a family, it's great to have my mother, so it's great to have my kids, but at the end of the day, the greatest love is loving yourself. And I didn't learn that till later in life, I'm gonna be honest, I thought that you measure love by other outward things, be it if you're married, if you have children, if you're loving your community. And I have really at this point in my life, I've identified the greatest love is I love Toya, I love Toya the good, the bad, the ugly, like, you know, it's, and that was a reality. You would think being my age, being, or being all of the success I have had from a corporate scale, from a social, social scale, from being, I consider myself an excellent mother, but I love me, I felt like in order to be successful in the other titles, I had to totally expense me out to everybody else. It doesn't matter if I meet the most amazing guy in the world, if I don't love me, we ain't gonna work no way, like, so I finally experienced the greatest love of all, which is, I love myself. Yeah, and that's, like I said, we was talking earlier, your personal life, you know what I'm saying? If you're not at peace there, and you don't have that love, then nothing else is gonna run the way you expected. So being selfish, right, you remember, what is this saying, you teach a man to fish, no, you give a man to fish, or for a day you teach a man to fish, or eat for a lifetime, right? So in those moments of being self, I talk about episode of being selfish, the direction of self is you're fishing for yourself, right? You're gaining sustenance that allows you to survive, but yet every now and again, you gotta come back to shore, you know what I'm saying, and get back on land, and do what you need to do, and you're bettering yourself with the knowledge that you have. So now that you have applied this, just knowledge that you've gained, if you've applied it, you have a room in your house where you said this is your girl room, because you've never had your own room growing up, neither did I, so that's, I enjoy, I've never had my own room, well, yes I did, when I had my own spot, but as a kid, never had my own room. The beauty in it is, is now that you have that, and you've learned what you've learned. If you were to go in there and say something to the young toy, what was you going to tell her about love? You know what, five-year-old me, and as I show you, we're reporting life on the down house, but what I would say to five-year-old me is, at the end of the day, life is going to do what it's supposed to do, but it is very important for you to love yourself, because that is the only guarantee that you have. I have three amazing boys that I've been calling the kings since they were born prior to it becoming trendy, everybody is king, and when you know, my boys have been the kings since they got here, but even in that, the kings, they don't find their own way, they don't do their own thing, they don't go on, they do their own thing, which is really what you expect them to do, and fortunately, all they know is living well, but I remember, let me share something, my sister, I have a sister that's two years under me, and I remember when I wasn't ready to receive this, she said something that broke my heart, but now that I am very mature, I totally appreciate her for that. I used to be married before, we're divorcing my exos and the still friends, shout out to my baby daddy, my exos, and that's my homie, if you need to read about that, but I remember my sister saying, you know a lot about being a wife, you know a lot about being a mother, you don't know shit about being a woman, and in the context, like they broke my heart, she broke me too, but she was right, because at the end of the day, I never developed me as the woman, it wasn't about me, I put me on the backboard, it's like I'm somebody's wife, and I'm somebody's mother, I'm somebody else's mother, now I'm somebody else's mother, it wasn't about that, and so, because we could definitely go down that rabbit hole, but we want to stay on top of it, right one, but two, that you said that, it's very powerful, because I have an episode with this young lady, Ben Jetta, who talks about the same thing and finding herself, and it's called, what's my name? So listen to that, it'll tie into this, which is crazy how that works, you know, I talk about it, so, love, if you were to share this with the masses, what audience was you focused on? I will focus on all audience, all audiences, because at the end of the day, so my birthday is June 7th, I'm a Gemini, I'm a true Gemini, I'm very proud of being a Gemini, but I remember a person that shares their exact birthday with me, their older than me, it was Prince, Prince... So, no, that's cool, this is the beauty in it, it has to go that way, right, you get lost, you're good, no, you can't, we almost done, we almost done, alright, so anyways, you said the masses is everybody, so you had an opportunity to share this with people in a platform where all they could do is focus on one thing and that's your message, what would you call it? My message is in reality, when it comes to love, you have got to love yourself, because that is the baseline that allows you to be strong. So, conference, you're talking about doing a conference, alright, let's use conference as an example, what would be the title of your conference? It's okay to love yourself, it's okay to love yourself, that is the podcast that we're going to share with the world, so I appreciate you man, I appreciate you for reaching out to me and forcing me to do what I ask for and that's to find people who want to share the wisdom that they have, hopefully this will help somebody and before I let you go, go ahead and one more time give them a shout out or give them any information they need so that they can know who you are on the professional level, on the musical level or on what any level you want to share with the masses. Okay, well, I'm an attorney in the professional level, we're going to talk about that, but from a musical level, you can find my music on all platforms every last one, even I heart, not I heart, but XM radio, it's Toya Chinese, mixed emotions when my heart speaks, I allowed myself to be 100% vulnerable and tell you how the journey of love and seeking that from another person allowed me to journey back to the love that I needed to have for myself. Nice. Yeah. All right, well, y'all make sure y'all go listen to it, I know you got to go, so I'm going to let you go, I appreciate you going and we'll go ahead and close it out. Okay. And another episode of Soul Says, Mr. Thunder, I'm Mr. Thunder, I'm a Native American of this country and there ain't a damn thing you feel about it. Make sure you go ahead and follow the Instagram page, Soul Says, Mr. Thunder, subscribe to the YouTube channel, Soul Says, Mr. Thunder. 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