Brought to you by the EveryDollar app, start budgeting for free today. So, my question essentially is, how do I not feel guilty or selfish for wanting to sell my house? Why would you feel guilty yourself? I need more. Yeah, tell us more. Sorry, it's kind of nervous. We got you. So the house is mine. The house is mine. It's in my name. Sorry. That's a problem. Hey, Brenda, take a big, big, deep breath as deep as you can, all the way to your guts. I'm going to do it too. Hold it. Three, two, all right, now let it out. All right, pull your shoulders all the way down. I can hear them up by your ears, pull them all the way down. Yeah. So the house is mine and there is seven up at warehouse, hold up seven, essentially. We have my two boys and then my boyfriend with his three boys. If I decided to sell my house, it would be because I want to pay off my debt and it would bought me into baby set, poor five and six, it would cause everybody to move and essentially my boyfriend would have to, you know, do his thing, but he'd have to pay more out of pocket as well for his living situation, so telling my house would really only benefit me in this picture. Why hasn't he married Jenny yet? You won't. Okay. How long have you been together? Three and a half years? Okay, he has forced you to take care of you and so all you're doing is what a responsible adult would do when another adult says, I don't want to have, I want to make a commitment with you, I want to play house and I want to have all the benefits of being with you without commitment and he's forcing you to have to take care of you as a single mom. Right? Yes. Yes. Yeah. You're instincts are right. Okay. Yeah, I mean, John stopped me at any point, but in my mind, I'm like, there's no, there's no together. There is no us. Yeah. So why do you want me to operate out of an us? You've made it very clear. And so that's kind of where I'm at, the two kids, so you said he's got three boys that are his and you've got two boys that are yours. Yeah. You guys have any children together? No. Listen. No. You know, this is a major red flag and I am, you know, for me, it's, it's a no. Brenda, there's something else going on. What is it? Um, no, it's just, I, I think I just need that, that needed, that validated and talks that I've had, I've asked him to move out already and he was just kind of ignored that request. So I'm just like, well, maybe I should sell my help, but that's what I'm telling you. There's something else going on here. What is it? Is he safe? Um, he's a bully. Yeah. No, no, we're safe. Um, we just don't, I mean, like you said, he hasn't committed. He won't commit is made comments that he will never put a ring on it. So I know that that's there. Um, I just don't like the idea of moving out and uprooting my children. But you don't have to uproot your family. You can call the police and have them remove somebody from your home. Yeah. Um, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, anybody who's, he's broken up with you, he won't leave. That's a bully move. Like, I'm not saying that he's like screaming at you and, and beating you or something, but I'm saying that if I've asked a male to leave my home and he won't leave, it's because he knows and you can't make me. That's, that's at the, after the dot, dot, dot. I gotcha. You see what I'm saying? I have bigger muscles and you can't push me out of here. And that's what 911 is for. Yeah. Yeah. And I know that sounds ridiculous, but Jade and I do this for living. Deal with hot headed men that think they can push women around. Yeah. He has broken up with you. He has looked you in the eye and said, there is no future for us, but I'm going to live here. I'm going to get what I want when I want. And you're going to pay for my sons to grow up in your house. Yeah. I think, I think in his eyes, he hasn't broken up with me because he thinks everything's fine, even though I'm the one telling him. But do you see that? I want him to move out. Do you see the disrespect there or the just the lack of even hearing or seeing you? I definitely feel it. Yeah. Your gut's right. Okay. You have two, two strangers, uh, validating you, but I, if you want to sell this house and get out of debt, um, we'll talk you through that, but I don't want you selling your house to run away from him. Cause it's your house. Well, I mean, financially I should sell it as well. Um, at the mortgage and housing expenses take up 50% of my income. Okay. Yes, ma'am. Sell the house. Sell it. So I just felt like if I sold it, I could, I could pay off all my debt. And what will you do rent, rent an apartment or rent a house? It probably rent a house for two years or so. If you price that out because rent is super high, especially in Phoenix. Mm hmm. It's right. But it's less than what I'm paying now. How much less? I'd have, um, my mortgage is 3400 so I can probably get a three bedroom house. I think for 25. Okay. And what's your take home pay? Every month. I grew, um, take home, well, I grew with a hundred thousand. So take home is probably 6,000, 6,500. Okay. Yeah. I want you looking at those numbers really closely. We're going to set you up with every dollar so that you can see those numbers because I want you knowing exactly how much money you bring home every month. Um, yeah. That's going to get you closer. You do. Very cool. Mm hmm. I have the premium version. I just don't have, I didn't have that number in front of me. Okay. No worries. No worries. Yeah. I think that renting is a good idea. I think to get you out of this because long term, unless you told me, yeah, I see a path jade to where in a year this will be different for me financially. But if you don't see that, then yeah, how long have you lived in the house? Two and a half years. Okay. Okay. Yeah. Are you going to make any money on it? Yeah. Um, yeah. It should come out with about a hundred and fifty. Okay. Okay. Great. So let me confirm what your boyfriend says about you. Yes. You're being selfish. You're taking care of you. And that is one hundred percent the position he's put you in. And as a mom, that is your job to take care of you and your boys. Period. Thank you so much. When you sell this house, I want you to get the best possible help and get top dollars. So I want you to go to RS dot com slash agent and find one of our real estate pros to help you with this. Okay. They're going to get you hooked up. Create your free every dollar budget today, the simplest way to budget for your life.
