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Stop People-Pleasing - Learning to Set Boundaries and Loving Yourself.
Are you tired of saying yes to everyone else's demands and no to your own desires? It's time to break free from people-pleasing and learn to set boundaries that nourish your mind, body, and soul! Join us on this episode of Seated as we explore the art of self-love and boundary-setting. Discover how to prioritize your own needs, say no without guilt, and embrace your true self. Get ready to transform your relationships and live a life that truly reflects your values and dreams! #PeoplePleasing #BoundarySetting #SelfLove #PersonalGrowth #Empowerment
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- 06 Aug 2024
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I know that I'm very weak in many moments. I'm weak in relationships in certain things. I struggle to say no, speak about my discomfort in certain things. So I always have to say boundaries to stop myself from behaving in that manner. When it comes to like relationships with you or my sisters, like, I know I'm easily like, you know, softer. So I have to say boundaries and like, you know, communicate better. So for me, it's just to protect that softness in me, which I know people can take for granted, but they're not doing it on purpose. It's just because I haven't been able to say that like, I don't like something. So my question to you is obviously, how do you then set your boundaries? Oh, brother, so I was speaking about this year being like, "Here, I've learned the most. I'm learning about boundaries this year." Hey, that everyone hides away. They true self online. They true self. Yeah, but maybe it's the thing of you too. We are all too scared for people to see our true selves. I know for me, I wish I could just leave social media, bro. Like if it wasn't, you see? Like if it wasn't, and this is like me being like, I wish I could just post my, I wish I could record the podcast posted and it's just there. And people speak about me online, and it's not true. Why am I still going correct them? Because I know my truth. Hey, shit up here. Who's what's going on guys? Welcome back to a brand new episode of Seetech with Level and Tata Rampede. I'm one of your hosts, Tata Rampede, and I'm of course, I am here with... Hey, what's up guys? It's your boy, Live Rampede, and it's that time of the week where you guys grab your favorite seat with your two brothers. Guys, it's your favorite seat seat, which is basically just... What are we now? What are we now? Are we alf? Are we mental alf? Are we brick-up advice? Are we? What are we? I feel like we love creating conversations with the youth that are targeted on our experience with things we're going to experience. Like having serious conversation in a light-hearted manner, right? So we'll obviously introduce the topic, introduce the conversations. We used to read three, it's no more. No more. Which is actually subject orientated. And then from there it becomes light-hearted, it becomes fun, we make jokes and we can. You guys can learn, we get to learn. I mean, it's a good time, it's a conversation, so grab your seat, and let's start. I get it. Yeah, so obviously it's the middle of the year, right? It's July, and I feel like we've been going through a lot this year. Like I've experienced so many different things, right? Like I've... Same. Have you been broke this year once? Have you been broke twice this year? Twice. But broke is like... That's like very... You can count how many times you've been broke? Broke is like perspective. Broke is like... Yeah, like I have like... Some people say like... I have like 10 men live on broke. Some people say like I have like 1,000 on broke. Some people say 10,000 on broke. But it's like... I was at the point where it's like if I don't get any jobs right now, it's maybe tricky, you know what I'm saying. But yeah, man, like I'm saying we've gone through a lot, and due to that, I've got a bunch of topics for us today, right? The first thing I want to speak about is, what do you think the function of boundaries are? Right, we're going to go through boundaries, because, hey, I've been anyone boundaries are this year. Like... Oh, so you're not going to ask me how I am? Have we get in there? I'm just introducing... Oh, the topic of the agenda. Yeah, the agenda, what's going on, what's up? I want to speak about losing yourself in relationships, business partnerships, and friendships. I feel like it's so important for us to speak about like, you know, ourselves who we are, because that's one thing a lot of us struggle with, really struggle with us, understanding what's going on, and who we are. Yeah. And then perception of self, so basically how... For this perception of self, and now I want to speak about perception, like how do you view yourself? How do we think people view us? And how does that like inhibit us from literally growing and being the best version of our self? Yeah. Because I know like, I've got swimming in, this thing is linked to insecurities, right? I've got swimming insecurities that mess up my perception of self, which mess up my prospects in terms of like... Very true. Yeah, I'm saying same, same. So I want to speak about that. And then yeah, man, of course, there's maybe some fun things as we go, like it's very, very true. In between. In between. But of course, the first question, how are you? What's going on? How am I? Oh. Show you're exhausted. Well, it's not really short until 2am, as much as that. That's a banger video coming out. Mind you, we started at like one time. We started shooting at like seven. The whole time was seven. So 7 to 2am. 8, 9, 10, 11, 12. Right now it's 9am. It's a seven hour shoot. Right now it's 9am. I'm taking early lunch from work. I've only got an hour max and then I have to go back to work. And yeah, I'm exhausted. I'm overextended. Financially, I'm okay. What's the date? What's the date of the month? Don't give me money. So how do you find? Oh, what do you mean, oh, you money winner? I owe you money. Yeah, you owe me money. For the podcast, I need to be a podcast player. Yeah. I haven't been paid for this podcast in mind. No, but shame. Please ask him when the last episode was. What am I paying you from? Yeah, but like overall I'm okay. I think number one theme for me right now is what do you like? Yeah. Like I'm like, dude, cool. You've been in relationships now. You've been in watch watch. You've done magida. It's magida. You're doing the podcast. But like, dude, what do you like to do? Yeah. Like what are my hobbies outside of? Because my YouTube and things used to be my hobby, but now it's my work. I've lost it. I want to start painting. Or like, I want to start like, I need a hobby outside of this. Like outside of this mad, this circus. That isn't circus related. So it mustn't be posted. It mustn't be like, I'm talking about like, I want to have a hobby for me. That's not movies. That's not TikTok. That's not, it mustn't be like, oh guys, I'm going, you guys know I'm going horse riding. Guys, it's Thursdays. Do you feel like, do you feel like you work hard? Do I feel like I work hard? Do you feel like you work harder than the average person? Yes. I think I work times too harder than the average person. Yeah. I think the average person, if they had to step maybe in a week of my life, it might even be the entire area. They'd be killed themselves. They'd be like, sir. Look, I reason why I ask you the question is, because the reason why we don't have hobbies and stuff, because there's no time, right? There's no time for that. And that's just the uncomfortable truth. Do you know that people are listening to you back when they're like, come on, be you guys, be real? Like, what do you mean? No, just like, for example, I had a similar day today, but so yesterday I woke up. Yeah, let's take me through your day. Take me through your time stamps, please. Okay, seven, because I woke up quite early yesterday, and it might be late for some people. Yeah. I woke up at seven, day in the morning. Yeah. All right, then I had to shower, get ready, do some emails, like a lot of admin up until half past nine. Half past nine, I have to rise to mid-round. Drive myself to mid-round, and then I've got a whole shoot with Wimpy. Excuse me, man. Yeah. Shoot with Wimpy for an hour. It ran a bit late. So, for an hour and a half, then we started speaking to the marketing managers, speaking about things we could do. I channeled like both relationships. So now I'm like, you know, basically maintaining client relationships. Then I come back here, and then I meet up with them, Bali, my creative director. And we are doing emails after emails, negotiating, contracts, reading through contracts for as-majita campaigns, for my campaigns, for Mami's campaigns, for Percy's campaigns, because we manage Percy now. Yo, that's crazy. Shout out Percy, right? Yeah, shout out Percy. And then after that, it's okay, cool. Content, what do we do when we're shooting? So now it's okay, cool. Let's read all the briefs out, because I'm working with like maybe like a couple of clients right now. We have to read the briefs, and we have to come up with ideas. For each brief, brother. For each brief, and each brief, some briefs have five reels, five stories, some briefs have two reels. I need to submit like a proposal of like what you're going to do. You gave me. Yeah. So it's like, just really focusing on that. Push it well, man. After that, okay, cool. I'm like, I'm exhausted. It's about 330 right now, right? I'm meant to shoot this podcast with you, but then we like, okay, cool, we can't, because we have to shoot what? As-majita, we got a call at like one saying, guys, we have to shoot tonight, because this purchase got due in July. So now what happens? We go into a brainstorm meeting with As-majita. We plan last night for an hour, by the way. For an hour, a bit. Mind you, we had 30-minute calls in between the whole day, discussing everything. And then we get together, now everyone comes into my very clean space. And misses it. And they just mess it up. And then leaves. And then at like one a.m. And like, so I'm like, I'm hit with production with the Faismajita, right? Yeah, basically. So I'm basically making sure the cameras are charged. I'm dumping SD cards and getting the tripods ready and getting the lighting ready. Like, I'm doing that with PC. Cool. This purchase is my assistant production expert. I hope you don't hear this. I think you guys are more co-pilants, but I hear you. So love when, so love when, couldn't they leave the creative, but we were part of the creative team. Yeah, but we're all part of like the brainstorming and like what the video is like. But they're more of like our directors. Yeah, we're more like, yo, by the way, guys, just do this video. And like, we'll be like, yo, let's add an eagle. Then they'll be like, whoa, so they are all the wool guys. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, we should do lost to neither car. But this time, we should put, you know, 500 corners in each. Whoa, whoa, you know what I'm saying? So they are wool guys. Differently the wool guys. And we estimate a big fight about the custom oil thing. We had a fight. So we wanted to put custom oil in the video. As one of the punishments. But gimme a total of 27, I'm 25. We don't have the half. And of a 22 in Percy and 22, another one is 23. Yeah. So it's not easy, man. It's not easy. Yo, but it's a very busy schedule. 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YouTube said hello back to Vodocum, and they came up with this bundle for you guys at home. But yeah, let's get into the conversation. Boundaries, my man. How would you describe boundaries, bro? Like what do you think the function of boundaries are? I think boundaries is definitely, is how do I protect myself? Not only from everything around me, but also from me. What things I'm vulnerable to being like susceptible to. Was it susceptible? Yeah, so basically one of the moments where you're like, quick to be a yes man. Do you need to know how to create boundaries to type yourself and being a yes man? Like there are times when we are in Pretoria, you know? Yeah. And you know, we're looking around. Today minting music, vibes, vibes of some sort, you know what I'm saying? It's very vibrant space. And you know, the wait is whispering, yeah, hey, you should buy a bottle. Boundary saying no, I'm here for one drink. And one drink going, and then buying the bottle, and learning again. And again and again, but no, but jokes aside. Boundaries is how do I protect myself? That's basically how I would define it. I don't know how would you define it? Yeah, I'd do it the same way as you, right? I feel like for me when I think about boundaries, obviously I'm going to make it about myself. I know that I'm very weak in many moments. I'm weak in relationships in certain things. I struggle to say no, speak about my discomfort in certain things. So obviously I have to say boundaries to stop myself from behaving in that manner. When it comes to like relationships with you or my sisters, like, I know I'm easily like, you know, softer. So I have to say boundaries and like, you know, communicate better. So for me, it's just to protect that softness in me, which I know people can take for granted. But they're not doing it on purpose just because I haven't been able to say that like, I don't like something. But I mean, let's go to Braggi, Bragugo, and let's see what they say. So Bragugo is saying boundary setting in the context of mental health, means creating clear limits and guidelines to protect one's emotional well-being. It involves asserting one's needs, feelings and values. However, note that boundary setting is not the same tone for everyone. Another one says boundaries are the limits and rules we set for ourselves and others in relationships. These spoken and unspoken rules enable people to interact safely with regard to physical, emotional, mental, sexual, financial material and time-based behavior. So I think walls saying the same thing. Yeah. It's just things that we're putting up to make sure that we're protected. Mental capacity from an emotional perspective from, you know, their heart. So my question to you is, obviously, how do you then set your boundaries? Oh, brother, so I was speaking about this year being like the year I've learned the most. I'm learning about boundaries this year. Hey, I'm learning about boundaries this year. No, same. I don't know why I said it. I know it sounds weird now, but like I was just, I was the biggest, yes, man. I was the biggest people pleaser people. I'm a people pleaser. I wouldn't say people pleaser, but I was, okay, actually, I was. I was someone that was willing to help anyone with anything. Yeah, same. Right. So like whether you're a friend, family cousin. Stranger. Stranger, like, you, like loved one who couldn't say to speak about this, bro. This year even I used to have shoots at me, someone says, "Yo, bro, I want to learn." Oh, just come to my apartment and come watch us work and maybe you can learn something, you know? So I've learned this year that like when it comes to like people, I don't know, they need to like set clear boundaries. You can't save the world. You can't save the world. When it comes to like romantic partners, it's like, I shouldn't be scared to not put myself first. A lot of the time, like when I'm seeing someone, I put them first, even in moments where another person affect my business, affect my time, affect my mental health, affect my anything. And I'll always put that person first to try make that thing work. So now I've been trying to set boundaries as, okay, cool. How does this thing affect me? So like, I'm trying to think more about myself. I think for me, the reason boundaries is such a difficult topic and a difficult practice is because boundaries affect the mood of the relationship. And it's like, let's say you in love deeply, you know? And this person constantly saying, "Yo, on Friday, let's go to the club, let's go to the club." But you deeply in love. But that Friday issue is like, I actually don't want to go with you. I'm just giving her a generalized example, right? Yeah, but I get you. I get you. But that's the thing now, Nat. We need to understand like, what do we prioritize in relationships, for example? So we know that, okay, cool, if I set a boundary, it might push this person away from me and it might mess up the mood. But one, the question should be this person for me, right? And that's one of the, like, yeah, that answers the thing, bro. Like, if you set boundaries to try to protect yourself, right? And it pushes someone in your life away from you. Maybe that person shouldn't be for you. Marta, do have you ever dated someone with so many boundaries? It feels like you're dating a tall gate. Everything is a boundary. Everything is a boundary. I don't like, they use everything against you. You know, I don't like when you're on your phone like that. Boundaries are most beautiful in a way when you speak it, yeah? I actually don't like when you eat like that. Once you use a knife and fork, you don't use your head and eat pop. How do I use an heaven for eating pop? It should not use this food, you know? So when you date the other side, or when you're dating this person with a hundred and six tall gates, boundary, boundary, boundary, boundary, you know, that can also be quite fatiguing. Which is why I said it's very, it's a very, but that person maybe is not meant for you, right? Yes. You're the person and she builds someone that eats it from the fork. Yeah, yeah, because in the previous episode, we're speaking about compatibility. Yes. Was it which you was a thought digest? It was, I don't know. You were speaking about compatibility. I was saying I did the whole analogy of like coffee and tea. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Go back to the episode if you haven't watched that episode. It's a banger. Yeah, but yeah, man, like, for me, that's a compatibility thing. Like I've been really trying to understand compatibility this year, because I feel like for the longest time, I thought that I had to do a sacrifice. Yes. Like, you know, and if you want to be with someone, we have to sacrifice this thing. We have to sacrifice that thing. But it's like, no, like last episode, you spoke about the fact that like when you go on a date, you've got things you're looking out for, which you're happy to see and things that you don't want to see. And I feel like if that compatibility test doesn't work in the beginning, then you shouldn't be with that person. So the same way when someone says boundaries, if their boundaries aren't for you, or you don't really understand them, maybe you should take a step back. But like a question that I want to pose to you is that like, what happens if the boundary, like what happens when a boundary makes you uncomfortable? That's what I say. I'll ask you. I was going to say, okay, cool. Let's say the, but you generally have a boundary. Yeah, like a boundary like the person. Yeah. You're generally comparable, but the boundaries what will make you uncomfortable. Uncomfortable. So then shouldn't that make you then? And you kind of have a boundary against the boundary. That's just boundaries. You understand what I'm saying? That should make you take a step back and maybe like self-reflect. I don't know. I think that people have those mindsets. People have this mindset that like, they're like a palace. They're like a temple. They, they, them themselves as a temple and they have a prize in like, oh, this is the boundary. I have a bound. No, going forward on this account. Don't stay forward. You know, and it's like, dude, I won't lie to you. A lot of your boundaries are useless guys. A lot of your boundaries are. Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh. One, not boundary anything. Okay. Let's, let's, let's, let's, let's do this. Let's go through some boundaries that you've heard. Let's do a case study. Yeah, analysis. So with me, I think you're the exact same way. So we, we speak very freely. Yeah. In the sense that like, we can be rude, but we're not trying to be rude. Yeah. We can make jokes that don't intend to harm or affect somebody. I think they do exactly that. For example, it's like, um, let's see what to go. And she's at your place. And it's like, yo, hey, don't leave your, don't leave your, your bonnet here. It's not an Airbnb. No, okay. Yeah. Even that one. Yeah. Don't leave your, don't leave your bonnet here. You're just joking, by the way. Yeah. Don't leave your bonnet here. Like, hey, tell me something and see that shit tomorrow. Like, all my other goals, and see that tomorrow. Making a joke. Yeah. But for some people, it's like a, yo. Yeah, like, I don't like that. I like that joke. That joke makes me feel like this. Yeah. So in that instance, what would you do? Do you not then see, okay, close person setting a boundary on the types of things you can say they bringing you more, they making you more sensitive. Making you more aware of how you should be saying what you're saying. I think that. Do you feel like you should be somebody who is more compatible to your sense of humor? I think that it's, that's, I think everyone asks that question. I think people at home watching this or people that are listening to this on the, the streaming platforms have given us five stars. Are also just there like, you know what, we don't know. Which is why I said a lot of boundaries are stupid. So you, so in the instance, you wouldn't know what to do. In that moment, I would look at her and say, okay, I won't make that type of joke. But then it goes into that thing now, you know, am I, am I, am I, when I go, when I align with your boundary, is it aligning to the progression of this relationship? So if that joke is harmful to you, you feel hurt by me. I obviously need to stop. But if that joke is just a joke, and I feel as if it's just a joke, and no one should take it that personal, then what happened? Yeah. You understand what I'm saying? Then we're in, we're not aligned, you know what I mean? But it's like we said on the previous podcast, pro, you and your partner will not agree on everything. You won't. Which is why boundaries are such like a sensitive topic. I know women who have been like, oh, one of my boundaries is that, one of my boundaries is that I don't like meeting your friends until I know I'm your girlfriend. So I do, but you won't get the promotion unless you do go to the wall. You know what, I was speaking to Kaya, one of her boundaries is that she can't, she doesn't want to meet your friends at all, or your family, until marriage. So you see now, it's a boundary of her. Because she, a boundary was she a secret. Because she was saying, I think that this book about this one thought that I just, she was saying that when I meet your friends and your family, I am put in a position where you, where we can be influenced by their opinions. You give what I'm saying? Yeah. Like when I meet your mom, your mom can't come in and be like, ah, I angry at level. Forgive level. All your friends are like, ah, my God, do you know he loves you? Or during conflict with your partner, it's like your friends are like, ah, do you either harm or distinguish or go no, but just leave her. So she says meeting your friends, meeting your family, it's a big boundary of her. No. So you see, for me, I would look at her and say like, oh, no, but that's like, that's a useless boundary. Because what I watch you do is inbox dating. We live in the real world. It's not just me and you on this world. Not playing sims, but play. There's other kidding that. That will in fact influence this relationship. When you inbox dating, you're closing up box, you're going inside, it's dark inside. It's just me and you, hey, you know, I know perspective because it's the thing of like, whenever there's any conflict, any problems, you guys have to deal with them with your mind. Yeah. So it's like it removes the opinions of external entities into what's quite wrong. Yeah, but that should just be an agreement between you and your partner, right? It should be a thing of like, don't speak to my, don't speak to your friends about our relationship. Yeah. But I think before we speak, like we've been speaking about boundaries, but I think you can't set boundaries with friendships, relationships, business patterns, without understanding who you are. So I feel like maybe we should speak about how do we understand who, how do you understand who you are? Yeah. To then understand what part you need to set to keep yourself safe. And how do you know that the part that you've set is fair or not? Because a lot of us we can like, we have traumas and we've got triggers. We've got like just bad experiences, right? Which make us set boundaries, which are preventing us from healing. So now how do you create a boundary which enables you to be safe versus creating a boundary, which prevents you from, you know, going back and fixing what's wrong with you? Or what you've been doing? So to start it off of like, who are you, you know, like, how does who are you? Because you, because again, all boundaries are coming from a place of protection, like like we said in the beginning, right? And then who are you part is why some boundaries I say are useless. Because a lot of people don't know who they are. Even me now, I struggle to know when a boundary is in. Like I, for example, me and my friends have this, the saying like, no, I'm picking me. It's our, it's our life we have seen guys. I'm picking, I'm placing a boundary. I don't want to do something. So we'll say like, I'm picking me. I'm picking me. All right. All right. I'm picking me. That's how we said boundaries. That's how we said boundaries in our friendship group, right? So for example, if we say we tough it goes, yeah, let's go to green side and have a drink. One of us will say, no, I'm picking me. I don't want to go get a drink. I'm picking me. I'm going home, you know, and no one can say no, don't be you. True. You know what I'm saying? True. So, but with the whole, who are you? I think that's a lifetime journey, bro. And I think that your boundaries are going to shift based on the face of life you are in. Yeah. And I think that if people make you feel guilty for your boundaries, you know, and you feel like, oh, maybe I'm wrong. You need to reassess because a boundary that you put in place, you must be 100. And I mean, I mean 100% sure. Yeah. One of my boundaries that I have with my mom, my mom and I text every day, right? But I told her that, I told her that if she calls me, I don't answer, she's not allowed to get upset anymore because it's like, dude, I'm a busy person. Yeah. It should be enough for me to text you in a sense. So that's a boundary. I'm saying, you know, did you call and don't answer? There's no getting upset instead of what I'm saying. Because obviously that's, but that's realistic. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? That's realistic. That's me saying, okay, I know our relationship. I know that we texting. I know that you want to speak to me. However, that's not my current situation, my capacity. As me knowing myself, as me knowing myself, it's equal to the points of where, like, when we, um, it's equal to the points of when we're shooting as a magita. And then, and then this is you. I'm going to get an alligator for the next video. Then you say, no, dude, I, dude, I want to live. You know your stuff. You don't even like living. You know what I'm saying? I don't know if I'm making sense, but I don't know, bro. Shrieky, would you say, would you say boundaries are walls that we put up? Or would you say, well, how would you work? Because, you know, sometimes your boundaries derive from trauma. Yeah. Sometimes your boundaries derive from happiness. Sometimes your boundaries arrive from pain. And sometimes your boundaries aren't even just boundaries. It's just, it's just a response. Who have you been with who created boundaries that you just, that you feel like? I didn't, like, close the guard, they didn't, um. Because you've been saying some boundaries are just useless. It's useless. They just derive from trauma. I just, I did. So I dated this girl in uni. I dated this girl in uni. Yeah. And she had a lot of boundaries. Like, yo, we like. Would she say these are my boundaries? No. The first time I was like, the first time I was like, what a boundary was was this year. So she didn't say these are my boundaries. She'd say, oh, by the way, this is how the relationship is going to work. Do some don'ts. Do some don'ts. These are the rules, papa. These are the rules, papa. Why can I break you? You break when you play by the rules in this court. It was like parliament, Munna. Yeah, it was like parliament. So, yeah, she'd be like, I don't want to use examples, because you know when you speak about our exes on this podcast, they contact you. They contact me, they call us. Come up with you, teach them, they have our number. I hate you, I hate you, but, um, I hate you, bro. I feel like, I feel like boundaries, man. Bro, like boundaries, sometimes they're just very unfair, and they derive from trauma. That's how I feel like. All right. That's what I say. And I feel like it's literally, it's going towards the definition of a boundary is a boundary is to protect yourself. So someone go through a traumatic experience and set up a boundary, which I believe sometimes actually all walls, right? And it's like, no, no, no, no, no. For me to not get hurt again, I have to put up this wall to prevent you hurting me versus maybe the person communicating like what they have gone through and the thing that's hurt them. So I think in terms of boundaries, I would prefer like, hey, listen, when it comes to this thing, I've got bad experiences with this thing. I am personally working on these things, because that's your responsibility, by the way. Like what you've gone through, traumatic disability, but to express and to express and to deal with and inform me to understand. But I don't like it when people tell you things that they've gone through, but they're not working on them. So it's like, okay, cool. Your mother used to bite your toes growing up. Now, if I want to kiss your toes, I can't kiss your toes, because what are you doing to work on your toes? Yeah, now your lactose is tolerant. It doesn't make sense, boy. It doesn't make sense. Do you get what I'm saying? I do get you. That's why, like, I believe some boundaries are walls. Some boundaries, people put them up to be safe. It's like, and some people are like, "Yo, my boundaries are like, dude, I genuinely don't enjoy this thing. I don't like ice skating. I don't like going out into the cold." That's my boundary, I like things that are cold. Okay, that makes you uncomfortable. But I want to, like, a boundary piece of an experience. It's like, "I wouldn't do that thing that happened to you." So now, why am I dealing with this wall? I think what this person has come, this, yeah, this trauma. I think what the Chinese say is like, "Yo, guys, be very careful. When people place boundaries on you, what color is the wall?" What color is the wall? Are we seeing a brick or is it transparent? You can see where it runs from, because you can see through the wall. Yes. You can't go. Yes, it's fine. I know, but I can see what's happening where the boundary, why the boundary exists. I want to transfer in our bodies. Yes, ions and... I want to transfer in. Yeah, you get to understand. Basically, somebody fixing, you know. They're trying to fix things. Someone's putting what's on to the lava. Someone must be putting an effort on my man. Yeah, oh, it's just a brick wall. They mustn't put a trauma, trauma, experts need it. I don't know, like, basically calling on me to come help you heal. Yeah. Or is it like a brick wall? And you're just there, like, dude, this wall exists, but, like, I'm so curious what's happening on the other side that this thing exists. Yeah. And that's very important. How do we inform our partners on why we have our boundaries? Yeah, so now, this continues conversation, right? With me, I am a firm believer of boundaries. I'm a firm believer of someone communicating with trauma. I like when people bring me into time where that's what they've gone through. It helps me understand them better. It helps me treat them better. It helps me read and help them unlearn things that they've gone through, because then I'm not that person, right? Which is a responsibility, right? This is a responsibility, but I'm always willing to do it, because I care for the people that I want to be in relationships with, right? And I love them. So I want them to become better people. I want to make them feel safe and heard. One thing I don't like is if I'm making a more of an effort than you, how can I be making more of an effort than you do? I have to be helping you heal. I care more about you than you care about yourself. There's a problem. That's a very sad place to be in your dating life, and I think there's a lot of people that are going to relate to that. Yeah. You know, when you love someone more than they love themselves. Yeah. That's a very painful period in your life or phase of dating in your life. Another one, when you love someone more than you love yourself. Yeah. That's also a very difficult moment. That's a very dangerous moment. When you're willing to, because I know for me, for the longest years, for years, I think even to this day, I am willing to love the person I'm in a romantic relationship with more than I am willing to love myself. In the sense of like giving them time, I'm willing to give the person I'm romantically in relation with more time than I give myself. I'm willing to spend more money on that person. Then yourself. Then myself. I'm willing to, you know, help them launch their ideas, their businesses, everything more than myself. And that's a problem that I have, which is why I've been trying to set like boundaries with that. Like obviously, like when I date, I date people in the industry all the time. So like, I was with this like model once, right? And she was like, yo, can you piece, like help me to think, can you piece put me on like this? Day in a model. What are your platforms? Not sure. But I was seeing them, I was seeing them. So you date models and stuff. Modelers crazy. Those are those person who's in the industry, man. All right. And she was like, yo, dude, I'd love to be like on like, you know, one of the shows. Then I was like, okay, cool. My heart was like, oh, I did not love to help this person. Come to come speak about your journey. Come beyond either one of the whatever. And then my brain was like, oh, no, I've set a boundary. Yeah. When it comes to my work, I can't let somebody come on to the platform. Yeah. To give what I'm saying. I was like, okay, cool now. Then I was like, okay, listen to you. I was able to say listen. Which is a huge progression for that, though. Which is huge, bro. I was like, listen, I've set this boundary. And like, I'm very adamant on like not, have you come on to what I just. Yeah. And then this person I said, no, maybe like a week later, they'd be like, oh, no, dude, I want to come on to this thing. Like, I know you feel like I'm trying to use you. I'm like, no, I'm not trying to use me. But I have set this boundary. And like, for me, that was the hardest thing ever. Because you know me, bro. Yeah. For me, I'm not a brand manager. I'm not an, I'm not in an empowerment office. I don't believe in empowering you to greater heights. Then we're using my tools and assets. Because what happens when you leave? Yeah. You're going to look me in the eyes and have these tools and assets. And be like, no, I made myself. I'm fine now. Yeah. I'm fine now. Okay. Hello, I'm talking to you. I'm reading what the producers is putting up there. So they're saying like, do you feel like boundaries can perform as a function of intimacy? I have no idea what that means. You know, our producers use stress English. Please elaborate. You can use it always. So certain things, there's certain things in the bedroom that are as a no-go for certain people. And these are boundaries within intimacy. And intimacy can be described as multiple things. I know, I love, love being a little spoon. Love it. I love being the teaspoon. The teaspoon. I love being the little spoon. When you move all my hat, that warm form behind. Someone's holding you, you know, whispering. But there's certain people that want to do what. What's your cutting, bro? I was checking if your thing was still rolling. I love being a little spoon. And there's, but I know there's certain people that like, bro, for example, when you cut it and they say, oh, no, I don't like when you, I'm sensitive on my neck. I'll show you, for example. I'm sensitive on my neck. It's a boundary. I don't like hikis. I don't like someone kissing my neck, for example. Right. There's certain people that have been with that love, kissing the neck. So when you push the boundary, it might affect the intimacy that you hold with that person. Because you're taking on, it's a sex, same with men. When love, let's be honest, they love oral sex, right? But when a woman says, no, I'm not going to give you oral sex. You must see the energy change. Only if it suddenly went from, you know, heavy to, you know, love in the city to a suit. Now he longed. And we're all right, why? Why don't you want to give me? And then, you know, she will present a case and et cetera. And boundaries can affect our intimacy. But again, what type of boundary are you holding? Is it the brick wall or is it the transparent one? Because if you can explain to your partner your journey with certain intimacies and certain things that you do, then they will have a deeper understanding. They know if they touch your thigh like this, it might bring a response of when you burn your thigh, when you're making bap or whatever. You know what I'm saying? I'm just giving a very child safe example, but you get what I'm saying, you know? 100% and I feel like, you know, this boundaries conversation, I want to pick it up on the next episode, right? So I think what I want the viewers to do at home, like if you have any questions or any subtop which that goes to dive into deeper with boundaries, or if you feel like we're talking out of like our eyeballs, please just comment down like things in the comment section and be like, "Oh, guys, I hear you, but can we speak about this and boundaries?" Or, "I hear you, but boundaries mean this to me." And I think you guys don't understand boundaries because of this, because we're speaking from our experiences. Another day, we are very petty, cold men. So we find a lot of things that are like emotion, like our EQ, when it comes to certain things, this is very low, right? And I think with boundaries, like it might be very low. So can you guys just comment down, let us know. I want to speak about perception now, like perception. I'm a PhD in that perception. So perception of self, all right? I have a PhD in that. How people perceive you, how social media affects how you perceive yourself, and how your friends and family affect how you perceive yourself. Perspective is such an important tool. I think that like it should be taught in school from primary. We should be in that class and someone says to you, "But how do you think that made that person feel?" Like talk to me about, and they both say to each other, how I'd made the other person feeling, until they're constantly correct each other. So let's say we have a fight as brothers, and I basically slap you. I want you to tell me why I think I slapped you. Because tools like that will allow you to understand, it helps so much in conflict, when you understand where the other person is coming from, or where the other person was, where the other person was, emotion was deriving from. You understand what I'm saying? And equally, now social media is a huge thing, right? For me, I have always perceived myself to not be good enough on social media. I've always perceived myself that like, "Dude, maybe my content is not the thing that people like." Because I see people that have been in the game, because I'm in the comedy game. I'm not going to lie, I'm in the comedy game. And I see my peers, and I see them skyrocket to following. And they're doing like, you know... - You're not that funny, bro. - Me, I'm not that funny. - I'm joking. - But real. - I'm joking. - But real. - Real. - Real. - I think it was you who said like, "Bro, I don't understand why you're not at the same level as, "for example, robot boy, your robot boy, your primos, "your, you know, your zilly wheezies, "you know, like why you're not on the same level as them, right?" And I honestly, God knows, I don't know why. - Yeah. - I don't know why. And I'm saying this of 110,000 followers on TikTok. But I still, guys, Kima, and I... - I didn't understand that. - I didn't understand that. - Bro, it's journeys, right? - Yeah. - Okay, so what was you saying, like, it's journeys? So, you need to think about how long people have been doing what they're doing. So, I think you and Zila are very close, if not... - No, Zila's been doing it longer than me. - Nothing, he has a very close and, like, following. So, the only difference with you and Zila's is that Zila's got to make Jesus' platform, which obviously is right. - Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, which is obviously huge. - So, he joined an existing platform, which is huge. - Primo's been making content. - Primo's, yeah, primo's making content. - Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. - He's, you know, he's... - Oh, yeah. - Also, he's plugged into the industry. - Very wild. - Yeah. - And these guys are like my... You know, these guys, they work really hard. So, don't peel this. - Yes. - No, I'm not saying that the... - Yeah, yeah, yeah. - These are the goats. - These are the goats. I'm talking about my peers, yeah. - I'm talking about in relation to you. - Yeah, I'm not saying they're not working hard. The guys are the goats, bro. They're the goats of the comedy game, right? - I feel like with you, like, you're gonna be... - I feel like with you, you're gonna be like a thing of... It's gonna be like a... You're gonna be like it in pop-ups, right? Like, some people, they gain their momentum and their movement once they are, like, a little bit older. - Yeah. - So, you'll be surprised. Now, you're like, "Oh, no, no, but when you're 30, "it might be the biggest community in South Africa." - Yeah. - So, things are the timing thing. But let's go back into perspective and perception, right? When I was speaking about perception of soft and social media, I wanted to understand why we perceive ourselves in specific ways, right? So, obviously, you can perceive yourself in a good way or in a bad way. And I feel like in the bad ways, I'll particularly think about the movie Inside Out. And there's all these different emotions. Like, there's like... - Anger, happiness. - Anger, joy, sorry. Anger, joy, anxiety. So, I feel like when it comes to perception of soft, like, it's highly fueled by insecurity. What is that? What is that emotion? Anxiety, insecurity. - The new one, I don't know. - The shy one, one that's very... Anxiety, sadness, I don't know, bro. - It was sad, it was sad. - Anxiety, yeah. So, I feel like anxiety is what feels a bad perception of soft. Because you're anxious and you're like, "Yo, how's the people gonna, like, think... "How's the people gonna react when I do this thing? "How's the people gonna think I look when I do this thing?" So, you're gonna paint all these different storylines and all these different things of how people are gonna perceive you, making you feel like you're not worthy of self, right? And when I'm speaking about social media, I know, like, for a lot of people, like, we are on our phones almost every single day, right? Going through people's best versions of themselves, right? And that affects how we perceive ourselves. I was speaking to one of my friends and she was, like, deactivated on Instagram because our life right now is not moving where I wanted to move, where I wanted to move. My relationship, she's not too grand. It's a bit shaky. Business, I don't know what's going on in the business, but she's just not in the best position. But when she opens the phone, she's seeing people posting new cars, flower apartments, flowers, people in happy relationships. And I feel like we're not realizing that social media is showing us how people want to be perceived, not what they actually are, not what they're actually going. - Not what they actually are. - Yeah. So, I feel like when it comes to, like, perception, it's so important for you to limit your social media usage or for you to truly understand what you're seeing on social media. - I don't know. For me it's like, dude, I've been, since I had, like, 'cause I think that I'm sitting on 120, right, 120K. Since I've had, like, 30,000 following, 20,000, 10, 10, I've been doing, like, my videos do, like, a million. Like, a million views, type five, right? But it would never, my following would never grow to the extent. So I'd be like, yo, I feel like I've made people who love, go, you know what I'm saying? And then that builds, like, this huge insecurity of me, 'cause I'm just like, I have the views. So my views are exactly the same. And I mean, like, bar for bar, exactly the same as, like, you know, the big, the big dogs, you know, the big guys in the industry, right? But what transpires us is I always feel insecure about who I am as a content creator. Until one person comes up to me and says, yo, dude, by the way, when you drop that thing, I died for a week. I shut up my mom, my dog, my cat, my-- So let's unpack the nurse, make that easier for everyone else to ascend this day. So basically, like, what you're doing is that you're doing something, you're doing it very well. Every day, the exact same way as your peers. Yeah. And you are constantly looking at what everybody else is doing, and it's creating insecurity of who you are. Comparison is the deep of joy, guys. Exactly. So I feel like, in that instance, like, because you're looking out and looking at other people's journeys, it still always affects how you view your journey. Because if you pull someone who has 5K, follows 3K, follows 500, then look at you differently. Yeah, true, true. So I feel like, in life, we need to be very careful at where we are looking. Because you could look at this goat, right? And his journey is to do something completely different toward your journey is. And their, like, their reception of, like, viewers and numbers is not what's meant to happen for you right now. But like, right, you have to go through this phase where you're getting these types of views so that all the type of followers or whatever's going through in your life so it can make you stronger for when this opportunity comes. You're equipped and ready to work at a different type of, you know, work ethic. Yeah, I do it. I think all my friends, all my content creator friends, we have this pride that we like the, we call it, we're like, stars. There's a good side of the bedside of every platform, TikTok, YouTube, et cetera, right? Yeah. And we really do try to be customer-friendly, brand-friendly, guys, you know. I wish I could see what a month of not being a corset and saying trendy things online and making skits about the most scandalous things we do for my portfolio. But I know that's not who I am. That's the thing, so like-- That's not what I am. Do you want me to make that? Like, let me just add one more thing, one more thing, go and talk to that side. And I know that's not who I am. Yeah. And then, again, guys, that's another thing with perception. It's like, dude, you may compare yourself to month-month, but that's not who you are. It's like what you're saying, you have your own journey. Yeah. You have your own identity. You are a line of voting. And sometimes, you're driving the task to success. And other people are thriving off a rally. But you're still going to get to the destination. And that's why I haven't given up. Because every-- I think, guys, you know, talk to us being very positive and very, like, yo, but don't look in the-- But me and Tato talk about giving up this thing all the time. We talk about-- Oh, why don't we talk about giving up-- We literally spoke about it like three days ago. You're like, yo, what? You said I was even Googling career changes, what? Or, or, or, or. No, so when I say that, I'm talking about adding on to what I'm doing. Oh. So I feel like giving it up. So when I speak about, like, giving it up, I'm not talking about stopping everything completely. Yeah. When I was speaking to him, OK, cool. My source of income right now derives from me being an influencer marketing space. It comes from me. And it comes from me, obviously, managing other people's brand. And it comes-- yeah. So I'm trying to do that at a lesser level, because I love all of this. But I want to add on to me building up this agency and everything, eh? You want to add on to your portfolio. Yeah. And maybe focus on this. But I'd never want to quit this. I think about it every day. Every city. Being like a podcaster. Sometimes I, like, sometimes I'll even, like, have dreams where, like, I send you guys an email each. And I'm like, yo, guys, thank you so much for the journey. But I've now decided to be a corporate guy. Why didn't you do it? I just-- it's like, what you said. But, like, I think everyone is born with destiny to become something. Yeah. And every time I've tried to stop this thing of being a content creator and stuff, it pulls me right back in, because this is who I'm destined to be. Does it? Yeah. Because I feel like if you had to, like, quit, I don't think anybody would-- like, obviously, no, no, no. I don't think anyone would care, even. No, no, no, no. Type shit. I don't think anybody would judge you for doing it. Yeah, no, it would be-- it wouldn't be like, oh, it makes sense. He's 25. He's got a job. You know what I'm saying? Because, give me an-- every time I post a video on the internet, it takes away from a future CEO position that I could have. Because no CEO has had a YouTube channel in those-- when they were 15 doing that. Yeah, but then the landscape is changing, bro. The landscape is changing. But not that fast, guys. Not that fast. By the time you are going to be a director, which is in your days, it is not that fast. It is not that fast. It is a rare-- I think people see things on social media again. It's like, what do you say on social media and think, oh, people are filming at work, and what are like people that-- no, guys, who still live in a very much black and white world, very, very unfair. It's a very unfair and hard and cruel world. There's no such thing as we accept people's identities, et cetera. The world is very cruel. The world is very, very cruel. But I like this whole topic. But I want to take it towards you now. And I want to ask you the question of in relationships. You've always-- and I mean, always, always, always, place yourself online with your relationships, et cetera, right? These us. And I think you've always-- because you said people present their best versions of themselves on the internet, right? So obviously, you've also contributed to that. Yeah, man. What's going on? Yes or no? Yes, sir. Yes, you've also contributed to that. So you can understand why people do that. And you can understand why people put their-- no one on the internet wants to see that my life's boring. No one wants to see the thing. So do you think we force ourselves to push our best parts of ourselves on the internet because it's what we want or what we have to do? Oh, it's getting a lot to see that it's tired. Yeah, that's the thing. So I feel like, also, for me, I believe in positivity. I believe in making people feel better about themselves, giving people a better day, whether it's through learning, educating, inspiring, whatever, entertaining. So when I post stuff, when I suppose relationship content, I'll post the best parts because in my mind, people want to see the best parts. Like, why you want to see me and my girl talking about boundaries and how to love each other better? Like, who wants to see that? Also, when you're going through a relationship, it's like, you're going through that thing for the first time. How can I be posting about it? But happiness is the thing that's easy to post. So I feel like it's a thing of like, people just know that they won't be judged for being happy. It's going to be received well for being happy. So it's just the easiest thing to post. I think it's so sad. It's not sad, sorry. It is so, it is so, it is so scary how the vulnerabilities and negativities of our minds are hidden away on the internet in these finsters and close friends and all these things. Like, you have to, it feels like, guys, it feels like every day we show up and you're like an academic. And if you feel one exam, you are, you are tempted for the rest of your life, you know? I love it when I go on to someone's account. And they're posting about mental health and they're like, guys, you know what, today was the worst they ever. But like, yo, we move, like we're going to go. I love it because it's like, dude, you are a real person. The rest of you guys are NPCs. Yeah, but that's all new, right? Like, think about the social media landscape four or four years ago. Yeah, when it fits the ideas, start. Actually, when it fits, I don't know if it starts it, but I know that like, four years ago, it was all about being positive, my relationships, yours, all about like, you know, happiness, happiness, vlogging, sit dance, funny stuff, only now people speaking about how they feel. Only now are podcasts like evolving. Only now is there platforms for people to truly express themselves. Yeah. You get what I'm saying? Because now it's the thing about okay, cool guys, we've been lying to ourselves, what the fuck, let's grow up. Gents, we're all going through some hectic things in life. Hectic things. So can we please unpack those things and like, let's talk about how we can become better people. The term since that actually started off in 2011, when people started observing the difference between original and fake Instagram accounts. And then this gained traction in 2013 and entered mainstream social media vocabulary in 2015, later on, as Gen Z adapted it into the word Finster. So around 2015, people started saying, you know what, let me make an account for me and add my closest friends and post things, which is by the way, the purpose of Instagram. Yeah, so if you don't know what a Finster is, it's basically like, you have a second account and you post what you need to post. You really want, it's like a close friends Instagram account. Yeah, yeah. And I think that a lot of people have now, I guys, I've not met a single person about a Finster. Yeah. Like I don't think anyone now does not have a Finster. And it's so sad how we all hide away our true selves. Do you think that is the most saddest thing ever, Tato? That everyone hides away their true self on life? Their true self. Yeah, but maybe it's the thing of you too, we are all too scared for people to see our true selves. I don't know, I don't know for me, I wish I could just leave social media, bro. Like if it wasn't, you see? Like if it wasn't, and this is like me being like, I wish I could just post my, I wish I could record the podcast posted and it's just there. Like I hate the fact that like I have an account and people. Yeah, to exist. I take this and people's opinions. You have to interact. I don't explain it now, but it's like I'm also, I wish I could just post my stuff on TV. I don't know, post it some way and then people couldn't speak about on social media. Like I'm so up to here with social media because like it's just so tired and we've seen like with me, like I've been spoken about multiple times on like Twitter, TikTok, all these platforms and it's literally platform based. And so we have fences Instagram is my community of people who enjoy my content. So whenever I post something with level being on C-Tip like this, or whenever I post anything that I'm going through, it's very positive because like people feel like, oh no, do we've been seeing this guy as Jamie, we know him, we are following him or in his community. Go to TikTok, go to Twitter, people don't follow me. They don't even know you. Just watch me for my distance 'cause they just love what my life is, right? Like your haters are your biggest fans. So to all my haters that are watching this, like you guys are going to TikTok, Twitter, speaking out of your ears and coming up with the craziest like, you know, storylines, bro. Like the craziest. - The don't exist, bro. - The don't exist, like I know my ex two days ago posted about like a very poetic thing about God, right? And it's like, yeah, she basically say when God comes back, everyone's gonna fall, everyone's gonna like go to their closest person but then if you confuse, but then we will all like rise again and be fine. - Yeah, so like I was saying guys, the different platforms have different types of like, you know, perspectives and people's opinions. I know with like Twitter and TikTok, for the past couple of weeks, nothing that has been spoken about me on Twitter has been correct, maybe like one thing. And the problem is that with Twitter is that someone will say something, other person will co-sign it, other person will co-sign it, then it becomes a truth. And I know I was sent a video by Bonham, a video of Bonham by somebody else. - You know, Bonham, I've said the video, and then Bonham basically like, when people speak about things, when people speak about me online and it's not true, why must I go and correct them? Because I know my truth, you get me. So with me, like people that you're talking about, you're trending, they're speaking about you on Twitter on Twitter, they're saying this, they're saying justice for more, they're saying all these things, they're saying you did these things. I'm like, "Yo, bro, I know my truth." I can say, "Yo, guys, I didn't get any of those things." And then what's gonna happen? People will still have their perspectives. People will still perceive in a specific way, which is why it's so important to understand how do you perceive yourself? And whose opinions about you do you truly value? Like for me, these past few months have been like, okay, but at the same time they've been tough, bro, because you see a perception of your online that does not really exist, right? And you know that if you have an opinion about it and you try to defend yourself, it's gonna paint, it's gonna add on to that. 'Cause now you're gonna be like, "No, he's a liar." No, no, no, no, no. If you, like there's no, there's nothing right you can do. - And once after saying, it doesn't only apply for social media, like you can apply for your friendship groups, you can apply for, it can apply into your romantic relationships, your partner may perceive you to be something that you're actually not. And again, keep in mind, that puts resentment. It puts so much, they can perceive you as an angel, your demon is right and sharp, away, but then it will pull up so much resentment. - That's the worst thing, bro. When you're in a romantic relationship with somebody and then how do you perceive you as not who you are? - They don't even know what you are. - Yeah, yeah. - And how you are, that's so painful because it's like, you're not, now your task with having to prove to them who you are. - I wanna tell you guys this. - And even your actions is what I'm talking about, even your actions when you're trying to literally say, "Oh no, I know you think I'm like this, I'm actually like this." Your actions aren't loud enough, or they don't even receive your actions because of what, perception and perspective. - Yeah. - Like those two things that actually can be very, very scary. - That's why I said, you must start in primarily. You must start this task, like this thing of perspective in prime, I wish, I wish you guys, do you know how many people you have an argument with and they don't understand your side? You can explain 99 times they wouldn't understand your side, not even a single time. - That's why I like, guys, if someone's ever, if there's ever any rumors about you, someone speaking about you, it's not up to you to try and clear the mind, bro. Especially when you know who you are and you know who your community is, bro. Trust me on that one. - Hi guys, so this has been an amazing, amazing episode, guys. I wish you guys could have seen all of our technical difficulties. We've literally been shooting for hours. - For hours. - I'm sure it was less than even 15 minutes. - For hours. - Like, this was very difficult, but I like we told you guys, we're trying our best to produce content for you guys. We are just really, really tired, but we don't have to give you guys something because we really care for you guys. We love the community that we're creating and I was trying to speak about our favorite movies right now and our favorite content creators. For me, ugly, ugly, ugly, dog boy, ugly, young boy. Wow, he's the kind of... - How's your mother? - How's your mother? - Where are you? - He's the kind of girl who's the... - Yeah, the kind of girl I can't even say on the internet, but his content is amazing. - It's amazing. - It's amazing, yeah. - Like, I was on his Instagram just scrolling. I'm just still like, "Yo, banga." When it comes to stuff I've been watching, I watched season two of That Thing on Showmax. There's only been two episodes out. The Game of Thrones won before. How's the Dragon? - How's the Dragon? - How's the Dragon? This is absolutely amazing. Thank you so much for it. - You've watched season one. - Oh, I need a tap bin, sorry. - Yeah, How's the Dragon? This is really good. That is on Showmax and then on Netflix, I've been watching, what's it called? Vikings Valhalla. - Oh, yeah, so the new season's coming out. - Yeah, so I've been watching the previous season, you know, just to recap myself. It's absolutely amazing. - It's a good scene, that's a good show. - It's a good show, yeah. So Vikings Valhalla, beautiful. Also, why don't you guys let us know like, when we give you guys these movie suggestions, are you guys actually going to go watch? Please comment down below. Yes, we watch so we can not officially even be doing the segments. But at the same time, I like the segment because level always gives me amazing things to watch. - Yeah, well, not this week. (laughing) In terms of series, I've been watching a couple of things. But my favorite right now is Sex in the City. It's an old show, a lot of you don't like it. But it dives into a friendship of four girls, four ladies, excuse me, in the late 30s. And it goes into, basically like watching a podcast acted out because it dives into different topics of man, woman, sex, and all these things. And it's very educational, very educational, very realistic, very, very in touch of guys. It's on show max right now. - So for the fourth time you bring this up, I need to watch it. It's amazing, I'm also watching The Perfect Match, only because I'm tired of meeting girls and they mention The Perfect Match and I have no idea what the hell it is. (laughing) I'm 25, my dating range goes lower, so the young girls, they know like these things and stuff, so I wanna know what's happening. - So dead. - And then in terms of movies, I'm going to recommend something that's a bit controversial. It's called Bones and All. And it's basically stars Timothy Chalamet. And it's about two, it tells names. - Yeah, I do. - To make the shell of me. - Yeah, so it's about two cannibals who fall in love with each other. So they eat humans. - Cannibals. - No, they eat humans. Cannibals. - Cannibals, cannibals. - Cannibalism. - Cannibalism. - Cannibalism. - Yeah, it's cannibalism. So when you eat humans, they do people that eat humans, but they fall in love with each other. They don't eat each other, obviously, but together. - I would say, do they? - And we go through their journey of them going to struggling and thinking should they give up eating humans, should they not? - That sounds disgusting. - It's a love story. And it's the most beautiful love story of ever. - What's it called? - Top five love stories I've ever watched. Very hard watch if you're not into movies and not into cinematography. - What's it called? - It's called Bones and All. - Bones and All. - Bones and All. Bones and All. That's the movie I recommend, yeah. - Content creators is non-doing it for you or what so? - Content creators, I'm gonna shout out Skafe. Only Skafe. Skafe has been, I think, so we me and my boys talk about, because we in the comedy game, obviously. We talk about the league. We have like a league table. And Skafe is number one right now. And you're a boy, you're cooking, you're hard right now. If you guys haven't seen any of these content, it's impossible. - You know, you know someone's cooking when you get color from certain people. - Yeah. - It's like, you know when someone's cooking, so okay, now I'm seeing you color by this person. - Why are you cooking? - 'Cause I've always seen these content, right? I've always been a fan, you know, dropping the bottle on photos hilarious. But now he's doing what I really like when content creators do this, is that when they go from moving in a certain pace of like doing a certain niche every single time, and then moving into another niche. So he's creating storylines and people follow them. And I really, really enjoy it. So, yeah. - Not real, real, real. - But guys, let's move on to our members only. If you guys don't know, we have a members only on this platform, YouTube. And guys, for a small amount of certain amounts, I'm not gonna say your check when you go check, you're great to get exposed to us. You get exposed to thought digest, more content, and we bring you so much more in-depth analysis on what we're actually speaking about, and ourselves. And we're actually very honest. - Yeah. - We're very honest. If you want to go see something clean, you'll call it and put it on Twitter, and who knows? - Yeah, for example, this one today, we're talking about defining success for yourself, outside of societal definitions. - Yeah. - So if you wanna tap in more to the podcast, you go check that out. But it's been so great to grab out there. - I'm a dropping level salary in that membership. - Yeah, we're dropping in a month. How much I make a month? - A month and a day. - So, guys, thank you so much for having your favorite seats. And it's time to see you again maybe next time. Yeah. (imitates music) Yeah, see you guys next time. (upbeat music) ♪ I ain't be makin' your life ♪ ♪ Brave man's in catamawans ♪