Seated With Lebo and Thato Rampedi
Toxic Addictions Preventing Growth | Living Alone in Your Twenties
(upbeat music) - Ex-s Yafir, who's a welcome back to a brand new episode of Seated With Level and Tato Rambadi guys. I am so excited for this episode because we have been having such amazing and fruitful conversations. But today I was like, you know what, guys, I want us to have a light, harder conversation. - Yeah. - And it's crazy because I was shitting in my palm of my brother today, decaturing my entire, like, office room. - Entire room, yeah. - And I found my certificate, like, literally, what's it called? - A degree. - I found my degree. (laughing) - I didn't say it. - I just want to say it. - I just appreciate it. - For dissipation. I found my degree and I, if you guys don't know, I'm an engineer. And I was like, wow man, that threw me back to like living alone. It threw me back. - You're a graduate. - You're a graduate. - Yeah. - Okay. - You like to say you're an engineer, you're not an engineer graduate. - All right. - So it threw me back to like living alone. It threw me back to living in university, living in residence, like, making my big decision, like, should I stay in rest? Should I stay off campus? Like, choosing my apartment, you know, living at home for a while with him, living with my brother. And there were so many conversations that I wanted to speak to you guys about. So if you guys don't know, this is seated with Lebou and Tatara and Bedi. We have uncomfortable conversations in a light, hearted man. And today, it's going to be a great episode. But before we get started, you guys know that we are not only here on YouTube. - Yes, sir. - Today has blessed us, guys. They now have enabled for you guys to watch these videos on Spotify. And on top of that, if you guys love watching podcasts, if you guys like creating podcasts, listening to podcasts, and you're just like, no, man. I love watching, I love creating. I want my own podcast. You guys can now literally download the Spotify for Podcasts app, and you can use that as a medium to literally post all of your podcast audio and video formatting, which is really, really exciting. On top of that, guys, we have made sure that all of our episodes dating back to about 13 episodes now are now all available on Spotify for videos. So go have a look there. Once you've had a look and you want to create your own, get the app Spotify for Podcasts. But before we get started, there's one crucial question that I have to ask you. - How are you? I feel like people say that at the same time as that. - Yeah, actually, guys, please start saying that at the same time as us. Even if you haven't, the most important question of the week is, how are you? - Oh, you're gonna get us started. - I'm gonna cry. I'm unemployed. I'm unemployed right now. Don't have a job. I can finally say that 'cause now all the contracts and stuff are done. I've resigned for my job. New journey ahead, thinking about myself. What's next for myself? Do I want to go back to work? Do I want to, like, chill for a bit? And you guys are like, "Chill for a bit? How much money is that going on for now?" - What's wrong? - What's wrong? - You guys kill me. - Run baby, Oscar. - Rolling. Oh, she's trying to say she's going some way. Just some way. Rolling. Rolling. Okay, it's going to be the best, huh? No way it's not going to do that at all, yo. I've got to be so defeated by that. - What's your phone on? - What was that? It came out. - What is that? - It came out. - Okay. - Thank you. - So there's something in there. - Where's the rest of it? - Okay, yo, yo, yo. - Okay. - What is this thing for all of us for this thing? - Okay. - Okay. - What is this thing for all of us for this thing? - Okay. (coughs) - Please go look up and find the abra, sorry. (somber music) - How do I take it down with it? - Yeah. - How do I stop it from being down with me? - You have to hook it onto the track, yeah. - Like that? - No, yeah. - Push it in. - Not gonna be in, bro. - Okay, it's here, bro. - Yeah. - Oh, don't go! - It bends. - Yeah. - Yeah. - You can go up here? I don't even really think you should work. - Yeah. - You should pop a bit this way. - Yeah. - It's not good. - I can't, it's hard to see. - I think it's hard. - 'Cause I'm gonna sit like this easily. - Oh, yeah. - That's good. - Okay, okay, okay. - Just... - In more. - All right. (whistles) (footsteps) - Ask him. - Yeah, this much I drew. - Yeah. (laughs) - Don't forget, I hope it is one of the most. - Okay, let's go! Are we recording? - I'm recording, hold on. - Three. - I will hold on. - So, what did they say, I don't know if you saw my message, I said, why don't we do it all? - I'll say, no, no, no, it's just that you're giving us another one. - Oh, another one, video. - I'm gonna pass again. - Okay, I need to keep track of these payments. I'm gonna get paid once, we're doing three deals, it's three, four deals, four deals. - I told you, I'm not shit. - Oh, shit, shit, shit. - Oh, yeah, shit, shit, shit, shit, all right. - I always think about it, I forget that. - Ooh, it is this? - Swag. - Swag! - Okay. Okay, let's go. Okay, three. (clears throat) - I'm looking for the thing you said, I'm sorry. - To no shit. - Three, two, one. Excessed, I feel, who's a welcome back to a brand new episode of Seated With Level and Tatto Unvee, guys. I am so excited for this episode because we have been having such amazing and fruitful conversations. But today, I was like, you know what, guys, I want us to have a light, hotter conversation. And it's great because I was chilling in my poem on my brother today, decaturing my entire, like-- - Like an entire room. - Entire room. And I found my certificate, like, literally, not, what's it called? - A degree. - I found my degree. (laughs) - I said degree. - I told him to be safe. - A disadvantage. - A disadvantage. - I found my degree, and I feel as I know, I'm an engineer. And I was like, wow, man, like, that threw me back to like, living alone. - Engineering graduate. - Engineering graduate. - Okay. - You like to say you're an engineer, you're not an engineer graduate. (laughs) - So threw me back to like, living alone, threw me back to living in university, living in residence, like making my big decision, like, should I stay in res, should I stay off campus, like, choosing my apartment, you know, living at home for a while with him, living with my brother. And there's so many conversations that I wanted to speak to you guys about. So if you guys don't know, this is seated with Leopan Tatar on Beatty, that we have uncomfortable conversations in a light, hot tip man. And today, it's gonna be a great episode. But before we get started, you guys know that we are not only here on YouTube. - Yes sir. - Spotify has blessed us, guys. They now have enabled for you guys to watch these videos on Spotify. And on top of that, if you guys love watching podcasts, if you guys like creating podcasts, listening to podcasts and just get like no man, and I'm watching, I'm creating, I want my own podcast. You guys can now literally download the Spotify for Podcasts app, and you can use that as a medium to literally post all of your podcast audio and video formats, and which is really, really exciting. - Yeah. - On top of that, guys, we have made sure that all of our episodes dating back to about 13 episodes now are now all available on Spotify for videos. So go have a look there. Once you've had a look and you want to create your own, get the app Spotify for Podcasts. But before we get started, there's one crucial question that I have to ask you. How are you? I feel like we'll say that at the same time it hasn't. - Yeah, actually, guys, please start saying that at the same time it hasn't. - Let's go. - Even if you haven't, the most important question of the week is, how are you? - Oh, here we go, it's done. - I'm going to cry. I'm gonna do it, I'm gonna do it right now. Don't have a job. I can finally say that 'cause now all the contracts and stuff are done. I'm resigned for my job. New journey ahead, thinking about myself. What's next for myself? Do I want to go back to work? Do I want to like show? - And again, our addictions feed into our comfort zones, and they stop us from-- - Our addictions enable our comfort zones. - Yeah, they enable our comfort zones, and they make it harder to progress past our comfort zones, because again, comfort is delicious. - Delicious, it's very nice. - And by the way, the most important thing, it's very predictable. You know the outcome of something before it happens, and that eases the anxiety of the heart. But I think my advice for everyone is like, it's just taking a step out in each way. Let's say, for example, for me, you know, now I'm unemployed, et cetera, I'm extremely outside my comfort zone right now. - Yeah. - Like extremely outside. - Who guaranteed? - No income. I don't know what is the next time I'm getting paid. I don't know what I don't know about. - Oh, brother. - I don't know how long my money's gonna last. I don't know how to, but it's just about saying to yourself, like, okay, cool, you're outside your comfort zone, but what are your skills that you had in your comfort zone to get you to your next comfort zone? - And that's just, yeah. But we're not speaking about addiction today. - Yeah, yeah. - That's not the topic. You see, you would've liked it. - No, but as I'm saying, just show us about it, guys. I told her that let's talk about addiction today. He was like, "No, no, no, he wants to laugh." And I, I hear him, though. - Yeah, I wanted to have like a light total conversation, but then I think I forgot how powerful, like, - Speaking about those things. - Speaking about things. I think, yeah, I think when you mention addiction, I'm just like, "Don't wanna unpack those problems, "but now as you ask me how are you." I'm like, "Hmm." - That's a great topic. That's a great topic, maybe I should unpack my feelings. Maybe I need to speak about, like, how I am. It's a great topic, but maybe you guys will let us know. We can do that for the next episode. 'Cause I think everyone suffers with a addiction. - Yeah. - And I mean, we all suffer, most of us suffer with this one. - Yeah. - That's the biggest one. - The phone in alcohol is the biggest one. - I was in a conversation with a friend of mine, and I was like, "Yo." 'Cause, okay, let's just go into it for 10 minutes addiction, right? - Yeah. - I was like, "Yo, my biggest addiction is my friends "and my phone." And it's not that-- - Your friends and your phone. - Yeah, so it's how I hang out with my friends. And this is a friend of mine who I hang out with the same I hang out with you guys. I was like, "You know what? "I want us to do things that are more progressive. "Cause when I be in this healing journey together, "we will hold each other accountable." So I was like, "Yo, listen, we want to hang out this week. "But how about I come to your place tomorrow? "I'm talking to you today. "I'm gonna come to your place tomorrow. "6.30, we go for a walk, right? "We walk for like an hour, and then an hour back, "or 45, 45, 45, 30, 30. "And then we unpack what we want for ourselves this week." - That's beautiful, yeah. - And then let's try and make that like, you know? - A reality in the week. - Let's make that a reality during the week. But at the same time, let's make that how you and I interact because you want to be these healing buddies. You get what I'm saying? Just a close friend of mine basically grew up with it. So it's like, I really want to start having those type of interactions with my friends. I want to be able to quote you and be like, "Yo, boy, there's this bicycle tour on Johannesburg, "you cycle for four hours, just do it on Sunday." Instead of the things that we're used to doing, 'cause usually it's like, "Yo, let's go to a karaoke, "let's go to this bar." - Something to do a couple of drinks. - Like with our addictions that are in place, which is alcohol, music. - And again, stepping outside of your comfort zone is very hard, but it just takes conversation and commitment. I think for me, one of the things that have helped me with my addictions, I've been addicted to certain things for a very long time. I've started this new thing of writing every single day. I'll write the date, then I'll write the theme of today. So I'll just say that it's all right, 30, what was it, people's month, zero, eight, seven. - It was zero, seven. - Zero, seven, 20, 24. On the side, I'll say, to be empowered. - Oh, wow. - And then I'll say one, two, three, four, five. I'll just supervise it. - Six, seven, eight. - And I'll just make like a two, three, four, six, seven, eight. For me, that day, I feel like it's very important. - Right. (laughs) - I don't distract it. - It's powerful. So that basically, you basically write what you have to do, then you hold yourself accountable, and you put purpose behind it. - Yeah, keep mine. That's very powerful, dude. - Keep mine. I haven't, I've never done all five, but it's about doing the three out of five. - Yeah. - Because keep mine, if you don't write those things, I'm not doing anything, but having the to-do list, every, and I'm talking about every single day, I'll be like, okay, I'll be like, okay, level. Today, I'll say the date, and I'll be like, okay, to love. And I'll be like, okay, cool, today, you're going to clean your place. - Yeah. - You're going to wash the dishes you're going to do. The next thing can be for money, like I can say. Make three TikToks, make five, whatever, et cetera. - I know for me, growing up with you, Shibu, Mama and Papa was something completely different to what I experienced right now, living alone in my 20s, living alone in my early 20s in university, and living with you in my even earlier 20s. I feel so old having different parts of my 20s. - Yeah, you've like completed like-- - I'm almost done with my 20s. - 70% of your 20s. - Yeah, I'm 27, that's a good percentage. - Yeah, I'm on 70, 70, 80%. - Yeah, 'cause the month is, during the month, that's very, I can see you. - That's wrong with a 20. - That engine in degree is actually very good. - It's 12 months a year. - So you're saying-- - Seven is 6.5. - So you'd have to eight divided by 12. You wouldn't do, yeah. - Which is? - Eight divided by 12. - Yeah. - Four. - Eight is divided by 12. - Ah. - Eight is divided by 12. That's two point something. - Okay. - Three point something. - Four. - So 72 points. - Okay, but in your hands. - Yeah, so we've done a lot of our 20s. - 24, 6, 8. - I've done half my 20s. And I can honestly say that we all spoke of a place of living at home. - Yeah. - It's high school now, guys. - And living at home was nice. Let's not get it twisted. Like, living at home was amazing because there's meals, brother. - Yeah. - Your mother is cooking for you almost every single day. We grew up with our mother working extremely hard, mama. Thank you. But every day I knew there's a beef stew. It's chicken being made. But I think it's all based on perspective. You know, when you hit your legs, when you're like, damn, I miss being living at home. But when you live at home, live at home, you're like, damn, these people are causing my depression, my anxiety, my stress, my need to be something special every single day. And when you finally move out and you finally get to that residence, guys. - We're brotherhood is brotherhood. - Oh, this is not hopping from home to university. - Yeah, university. You finally get a sense of peace. - Oh, I can watch the dishes when I want. I can cook what I want to eat today. - I think it really depends on personality type because I'm a very shy. Oh, I was a very shy, laid back, reverse kid, who didn't like socializing with more than two people. One person at a time, even to this day, like put me in a room with my friends. I struggle to like balance communication because I speak a lot. So like a lot of the time, I don't know if you've seen, I'm one speaking the most. There are my issues being speaking a lot about your personal life. Listen here, here, you're older than these guys. Here, you know. So in university, I always struggle to like socialize and everyone was so strict. - So you missed your family in the comfort of home or what? - I enjoyed the freedom university came with. I just didn't like the fact that Rez was so strict. - Rez was very strict, guys. - Rez was so anti-fact. - Funny enough, guys. So we went to, you know, we went to a university in, you know, Victoria. I wouldn't say which one it was, we went to university in Victoria. We went to university, like three universities in Victoria. We went to university in Victoria. - I went to university in Victoria. - And you know what, like I have to say, I went to UP, I also, I've been to fit as well. - Yeah. - Guys, UP is racist. (laughing) I say this of love, I say this of care. The university is great, education is great. Everything has been perfect. I mean, I'm an alumni there and my children will go there. - Yeah. - 'Cause that's the best university lifestyle. - So where's the racism stemming from? - It's in residence. - It's definitely in residence. It's stemming from culture and heritage. - Tradition, yes. - And this, mind you guys, we're speaking about our experience in 2015. - Yeah, and 2020. - 2021. - I was in racism, '22. (laughing) - Where you went? - I went. - We both graduated in 2021. - Yeah, I was just like, yeah, I didn't see it. - No, from 2018 all the way to 2018. - And 2020, 2018. - No, I went 2018, 2019, and 2020. - Yes, okay, cool, yes, yes, yes. - I've done three years. - So for half a decade. - Yeah, I literally wasn't raised, I was raised three times longer than you. - Okay, yeah. - I was there for you. - Yeah, I was there, three years. - All right, yeah. - All that. Showing you guys how middle children suffer. Suffer, but anyways, being in the change from home to race. - I mean, no, but we're speaking about the where the racism stems from, right? - Oh, yes. - So you were saying, so I know that you can continue, but I know for me, it stems from the fact that the hard guys, the leaders, they grew up in an environment which is different to obviously their environment that they had to set. 'Cause I was there during a lot of change and change management. And there's a big movement towards equality and you can't do that anymore to the boys. So I feel like the traditions made them behave like they're forefathers and they're forefathers differently existed in any time where black people weren't made to be white. - How about this? - Yeah, that's that. So for me, it was different, but I think for me, they were so scared to interact with the black people. Like, I would see a white leader speak to like a younger guy, my age mate, and be like, yo, you can't do this. This what it takes to be a man. Don't do, you should consider what I'm saying if you want to receive what I'm saying. Like, you should do this scared to be too shime and we need you to become what you're comfortable with. But we call it a man. - I think I was in resin more of like a progressive time. - We're changing the name of the rez from, you know, something hoped to, you know, daww. (laughing) You know, so we were in a living in a time where like, you know, the Afrikaans are still, the tradition is Afrikaans, but now it's being, you know, washed into this progressive rainbow nation thing. But again, it's like we said, residents can be very tough, but the friendships made in rez and the piece that you have like compared to whole. - Yeah. - It's way different from my experience. 'Cause give my, I knew guys who'd go home every weekend. - Yeah. - They'd go, like they loved home. Which is why this podcast is very much a purviewer opinion because I know a lot of you guys have peaceful homes. You have warm homes, you know. You go home, they talk to you guys about your emotions, what you're struggling with, they help you, you know. Then they give you advice and stuff, you know. My home is very much like, what are you gonna do? What is your plan? What is your-- - How do we progress you? How do we-- - I love it, don't get me wrong. I love that parenting style. We always complain about the strictness of our families, et cetera, part. I like to believe when I inherit whatever like businesses or ever assets my parents have accumulated over the years, I will not squander their efforts because of the strictness that they've given me throughout my life to be so independent to solve problems on my own. - Yeah. - That I'll never, ever, ever, ever, ever, if I, you know, even if someone had to look at me now and say level, come to K-town and run my company, everything's been turned smoothly. - Yeah, or you'll learn how to make it run. - Oh, I'll learn to make it run. But I'll never look at my parents, say hi guys, hi guys, hi guys. - So now, so now, so now, so I'll speak into a friend. Sorry for cutting you. - No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. - I speak into a friend of mine. I can't remember where we were. - Also, just shift a bit this side. - Awesome. - Speaking to a friend, I don't know what was going on. Oh, I remember now. I was at the Connects Upper Club, all right. It's hosted and founded by Nirvana Nokia. It's basically a space where she brings in people who can connect. It's like a semi-private event, right? So we had the likes of JR there. We had Lebo, who's like a profound speaker for like two generations. We had like photographers. We had Austin Malema. We had heads of the NBA. We had heads of marketing and show max. Big personalities, people that are there to connect. And a whole lot more, we had like MCs, presenters, you know. People that can basically connect together and you know, help each other, elevate each other's careers. And I was at this table and I was sitting next to the marketing manager of Matossa. And then next to him was this lady, Lebo. I just forget her saying, I think Lebo, she's an amazing poet. In front of me, there's an amazing content creator, Alfie, right? And then two, he's left as a journalist. And then two, Alfie's right. All my right to his left today is a presenter. He's like a TV presenter, MC. And we're speaking about like Africa and like, you know, should we be living in, should we be living in solo? So should we be living in community? This is based off our career. Spoke about that for a while. And then we started speaking about parenting and how this guy, the marketing manager, Matossa, can't remember his name, but he said, I think it's name, Sté, I think it's name is Sté. He said that him and Lebo said that the crazy thing is that the reason why South Africa is so messed up is because we all have so much trauma. He's like, we have trauma from apartheid, trauma from like growing up in apartheid. And now we're all just so depressed inside, which is why we have all these addiction. So we all are traumatized and started speaking about therapy. And then the conversation then redirected to my point about parenting and therapy. And this guy was like, he was in a baby shower. And he said that his friend was like, you know what, I've got these kids. They told them how to be honest, how to be truthful. I told them how to be, you know, hard-working citizens, how to love. But I've never taught them how to exist in a world where those things don't exist. Which brings us to what Joe said. I grew up very hard. Growing up very hard. So I think what happened to us is that our parents didn't prioritize love. And you know, you know, connecting. They prioritize how the real world is. They were like, we weren't our kids to know that this thing is not sweetened. It's not sweetened. It's not a savior. It's not a slide of just joy. It's not a slide trying to provide. Which again, you don't, you're unable to identify these things until you move out. Yeah. Until you get your first flat. Then you realize why your parents would be so strict. Because my parents don't start. I appreciate it. Yeah. It's really, really easy. It's made me a very self independent person. That's obviously, it has its own problems. It has its own problems of its own because I struggled to ask for help. I struggled to work, you know, with people on my level. But that was all work done. But when it's time for me to both something. When it's time for me to work. When it's time for me to be in a problem where I'm failing and there's no money or my degree is going bad. I know what I have to do. I know that I know who's responsible. Because my dad always said like you are the person responsible for all of your shit. And people learn that late in the game. People always have excuses. You know, if only I had, if only I had no brother. As soon as you realize that it's not about what you could have, don't have to. It's about you taking what you have around you and making something, you know. And I know people are going to be like, ah, you're speaking from privilege. It's either certain than done. But from someone that's walked in my shoes, that is possible. I can't speak for somebody who's in a different path to me. Yeah, I do know that like if you, I've seen people who come from horrible situations and they are now multi-millionaires because they took what they had around them and they were able to absorb information and learn and grow. Yeah, I think, for example, guys, you know, in terms of mindset, you know, I was looking at myself and saying to myself, okay, cool, you're unemployed. You know, you've done the whole living at home thing, wah-wah-wah-wah. And keep in mind, my parents didn't call me and say, I want you guys to understand how to trick my parents off. My parents didn't call me when I said, you guys, I don't have a job anymore. They called me and said, okay, cool, what are you going to do? They didn't say, you'll come home, come build again. Like, come, come, let's help you. Let's, you know, let's find a way for us together. My dad just said, you're an adult, isn't it? That was my dad's words to me. He said, you're an adult, and I said, yes, papa. He said, okay, fix the problem. And I said, yeah, it's already being fixed. And he said, okay, shop, then we'll see. And I said, yeah, it's even getting teed. He's like, yeah, I know. And like, him just saying, like, I know. And like, my parents are not stressing about me. You know, like, after, guys, for example, I told my parents I'm unemployed, I'm unemployed. Two days later, my dad was dancing. He said the dancing video on-- These people are fine. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And that is the type of parent I want to be. I have that much compete faith in my child. You have so much faith in how you raise them. That you know that you know. You know. I give him the best, you know, I give him the best experience. I give him the best experience. He knows how to taught him business. He's confident. He'll be fine. He'll be fine. And if he's not fine, we'll see from there. But he will be-- Is a 95% chance he's going to be fine. But yeah, guys, I think that all of these things are learned over time about how you raise-- it is quite evident in how you cheat yourself and how you cheat your problem-solving. And I think that it comes out with the first time you move out, you know, you're living in reds. And the first journey none of us speak about is buying groceries for the first time. Yeah. You know, you have a budget of money now. You know, you never had that much money in your account. Because now you're leaving it lower now. Take also your question, yeah. Yeah, yeah. So when you got-- so you got-- let's say, let's just use figurative amounts, right? You get an allowance of $2,000 in your first year. Yeah, that's a lot of money. I didn't get that much money, but yeah. You get an ounce of $2,000 in your first year. Like, what was your first thing you did when your father said, OK, I'm going to give you $2,000 a month? Because they didn't say-- the author didn't say, here's 2K. You used this amount for this. He said, here's 2K. Yeah. So for me, it was always like-- OK, I'll tell you, I won't lie. The first month, I drank it. I drank. I puddied. What a-- Make these. You used to buy so much Big Macs. Realize you get hungry during the week. Because you're only putting on with it. And then the next month after that, I started buying groceries and things to actually eat when you're studying, et cetera. Takeouts, planning for that. And again, I love this thing of how changing your environment produces growth in mindset. I think it's like we said in the beginning of the podcast, and we spoke about addictions, how in our comfort phases, we lack thinking of how to improve and et cetera. And when you get forced-- that's why I'm so big. All I want to do is move to Cape Town, alone, by the way. Because I know that's when my biggest success will come. I'll have no friends, I'll have no family. It'll just literally be me. And I think that that sort of uncomfort produces a certain level of success. And the same thing happens when you apply to university. You have kids coming from K to N, going to Cape Town. And those guys become great academics. Why? No friends. No family. Whereas the other ones who-- have you ever seen the people that are born in Pizzare, and started in Pizzare? No, no. Compared to the-- [INAUDIBLE] eating tap away and the spoon is eating beans and bread, and the address. You know what I'm saying? He has a lot more to prove to the space compared to the people that are from the space. You know what I'm saying? 100%. I know what new one I've got my first allowance completely different. I just first said, OK, I'm getting 2K. I have to buy groceries. And I said, OK, cool. I went on to my crotch. Oh, Mr. Pick and Pay Hall. Pick and Pay. I said, OK, cool. How much is this meat? And literally did a breakdown. Really? Yeah, that's OK. How much? I can't eat breakfast. I can't eat this thing. OK, I've got a card which can give me lunch on campus. Oh, yes, yes, yes, yes. And then from there, OK, cool. I now have 1,000 a month for me to do whatever I want to do. At the time, whatever. And I said, 1,000 divided by 4 is 250. So I knew each week I have to spend a maximum of 250. So I'd look, go Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, try not to buy any fast foods, anything. Then Thursday, five, Saturday. That's when I got caught up by myself, Big Mac. I chilled my friends. I get a six pack. Put money together. Yeah. Buy a bottle. So I thought you were going to say the same thing. No, bro. That's how I pop up. You cooked me too. No, man. I was in first year. I was a wild chart. I want to have fun. I'm with my friends. It's a new environment. My parents are not here. Yeah. Of course, I want that I was a bit to the beginning. But again, it's like I said, after some time, you realize that this is you. The choices you make every single day impact your life. Yeah. It's so crazy, bro. Like I remember at university, like, you had money. OK, cool. I've got money. But you had no idea that, like, where you're paying for? Your parents paid for it. Yeah. If you had a car, your parents paid for the car. Yeah. When you now transition into the real world where we are now, it's OK. Cool. I have to pay for a car every single month. That car needs insurance of its own. I need to get car insurance. You also need insurance. It's called medical insurance. And that's OK. Cool. I need a cell phone. I've got a cell phone thing. Yeah. OK, I need to build a credit score. Let me buy this TV on credit. And then I'm saying, OK, cool. So I need to go to the gym. How much is the gym subscription? You know, I need to buy airtime. I need Wi-Fi for my place. And those expenses keep building and building and building. I need to get out of time and find because-- Keep in mind that there's higher one day. And then keep in mind. He's speaking, like, all of this in one sentence. But these are things that happen throughout years of your 20s. Yeah, for me it was different. You don't graduate, guys. Get a job and pay insurance. Get a medical aid. You do one by one. For me it was different. So I think we have different-- Yes, definitely. Because I started making money in university. So within my first year I had a little bit of money. Then I dropped-- I removed myself from my family's medical aid. I got my own discovery. And then from there I got a car. And then I started paying for the car. Or in the first two months. And then also I moved back home. But home was not home anymore. It was a house where you and I stayed together. So now I was paying rent. Yeah, we paid rent. So within the first two months of me actually started, I actually was paying for everything. Yeah. And then eventually okay, cool. I think I need to get myself like, you know-- But you moved into the-- So Tucker moved into-- He was a-- Oh. I moved back home first. Oh, yes. I'm skipping a whole year. He skipped a whole year. I was straight. Oh, you moved back home too. Oh. I had a job straight after university. Yeah, but then you moved back home. You only moved back home. Yes, then I moved back home. But I paid rent in the same year. Not only after you got the job. Which was in Jan. I paid rent from-- Dude, I graduated. Got a job and started paying rent. From the get-go. Not yet. Oh, I'm not here. Well, you graduated like-- But then you finished in like October, November. Remember, I dropped out of things. So I only had three months off. I dropped out of honors. Yeah, but you said, oh, so now you went? So the former-- I know what you're talking about. Yeah. Four months. Those are points where level started working and then he stopped working. You went back to honors, then honors you went to-- Yes. That's what you're thinking of. Yes. It was a year for like, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yes. So him was inverted because he went back to school. Yeah. And you pulled the jump. You were started paying rent. Yeah, from the get-go. But I-- I was doing case. I didn't pay the medical aid. I was still on my family's medical aid plan. Yeah. I'm not going to lie to you guys. I didn't pay for my phone. My family paid for my phone. Yeah. But keep in mind, these are the things. They see the amount of money coming into like, okay, level kind of for it. A, B, and C, but he can afford. Yeah. Feeding himself petrol, water, water, water, water. Like, my car's paid off. So, you know, there was never-- Yeah. You know, conversation of payments and et cetera. Yeah. I'm picking up insurance and stuff for the car, which has been in the conversation for like, three months now. But again, consideration, they won't ever force me to, like, take on a burden that I don't think I'm ready for, which is nice about family, but at the same time, it's like-- I feel like you downplayed that amount of support. It is. It is. Because it's a big amount of support. Because it's like, that's cash flow, like, if you think about it. Yeah. Like, it's really-- And it's sort of like, what, three down? I don't spend every month. Well, a car depends. Like, if you bought a car, you thought you could range. It's paid. It was already paid. Like, if you had to be paying for a car, it's a range from, like, three to six. It depends on the car you buy. Yeah. Medical aid for the car. I don't like a driver who dies. So it's probably going to be like, I know it's like the latest one right now. It's 3.8. But that is also, like, of balloon payment and temperature. But my point is, huge blessings from families that we also don't see. Yeah. Yeah. I want to play a game, guys. So we've got a game here just to, you know, lighten up the mood a bit. It's a game of, would you rather-- and we're talking about weird roommate traits. Yeah. So would you rather leave-- would you rather have a roommate who snores in a different language? It's like-- What does that even mean? Like, it's going to be a gender. Sorry. You don't expect AI to say this. I don't know. You don't have a roommate who snores in a different language every night. How do you snore in a different language? Please show me how you snore in a different language. It's not a Zulu. I was thinking, "Who you love?" "Who you love?" Swin swin. Swin. Swin. I'd probably be like... [SIGHS] [SIGHS] [SIGHS] [SIGHS] [SIGHS] [SIGHS] [SIGHS] [SIGHS] [SIGHS] [SIGHS] [SIGHS] [SIGHS] Anyway, anyway. So would you rather have a roommate who snores in a different language? Every night, a one who only eats food that starts with a little queue. What's a food that starts with a little queue, Toto? Okay, so-- [LAUGHS] So he's eating random food that I can't identify or he snores. I'd rather the food. Yeah, let him do his own thing, right? But you guys don't know. I had a roommate long ago. You know? We were... You know, when you move into red, it's the first year you have a roommate the entire-- Yeah. Yeah, for your first year. I had a roommate and I was, you know, a night owl. And he was like a morning bird, et cetera. And the difference, guys, I want to say this. When you live with someone who doesn't live the same life-- Yeah, because you're sharing a light, by the way. You're sharing a light, by the way. We can switch off the lights or switch on. I'm up all night studying, et cetera. I don't like working during the day. I like being active at night when I was in university. So I'd study the whole night, what about it? Until like 3, 4 a.m. Then sleep throughout the day, children in the day. He was a-- I mean, using the entire day at night, I sleep 8 p.m. So now we had a-- we now we had a wall. Because he'd wake up and, you know, he played music loud. That's his routine. And at night, I'm chilling. I'm talking. My friends are coming. You know, they're studying with me, you know? So that conflict of living stuff made me realize that I will never-- And I mean, no matter the price. Ever share a house or a room, again, with anyone else. Ever again. Yeah. Now, my friend, on the other hand, my friend shows that he has roommates now to this day. He's 25, I'm 25, he has a roommate. And I always look at him and say, "Brother, how do you do it? How do you--" Can you imagine yourself right now for me? No, no, that's insane. All right? Imagine, like, I'm shooting my pockets, someone's downstairs. Thank you. See, it's that dog. Dog, dog, dog, dog, dog, boy. You should be done shooting at three, boy. Oh, oh, oh. It's my two best, plus three. Oh, worst. He has a go for food. Lives with you guys. Oh, my gosh. I'm caffeine. Yeah, I know. And by the way, me and my brother were roommates, but that was also like a-- You were housemates. We were housemates. So that's a nice way. It's a different experience. It's basically having a flat and having a neighbor. Yeah, we should. Can you share a kitchen? Yeah, you should. We didn't cook together. We didn't cook. We barely cooked. Yeah, very interesting. Would you rather have a roommate who has secret obsession with collecting antique donobs, or one who insists on wearing a full suit of armor to dinner? A full suit of armor. That would be an experience. I'd love to see a buddy. It's a party trick. Yeah. It's like, guys, my roommate wears this thing every night. I borrowed every Halloween. I'd say it. Can I just like you? Yeah. Would you rather have a roommate who has a bizarre fear of buttons, or one who only wears clothes with cartoon characters on them? That's going to piss me off. The buttons thing. The cartoon. No, but imagine. Level. Level. Yeah. Can you come and drop the lights? Imagine La Parada in his ring like SpongeBob. Why do you want your roommate? Oh, your roommate? Look, he becomes your friend, boy. You do everything together, bro. I had a roommate to the university who cleaned three times the entire year. Ha! You remember? Oh, yes. Yeah. My roommate was a clean freak. Like a completely clean freak. I was the opposite. Didn't he get angry when you used to sleep at night? Oh, yes. Yes. Yeah. But that's believed since stuff. Yeah. That was called superstition. Superstition. Thank you. So he had the superstition legend. I was not supposed to use a broom at night. It's not about sweeping. It was just about using the broom. It's from the Bobo. No. He was from Rusty Dasty. Okay. Would you rather have a roommate who has a strange habit of counting backwards from 100 before doing anything? Or one who only uses a flashlight to navigate the apartment even during the day? I don't sleep fine. Yo, bro. Can you go buy more? Just wait. 100. 99. 98. Oh, every time you're seeing, like, as you see me sitting, this is the like, "Hey, what's up, doggo? You're nice." My flight's on, by the way, to the people watching. When I move out. That'll be weird, hey? And some people have really weird roommates. Weird roommates. Weird and bizarre things that they do, like, all of the time. Yeah. But we know majority of you guys will probably be having a roommate right now and you're watching this with them. Even down below, what's the wildest story that you've had with your roommates so we can actually get a sense of how bad roommates are in South Africa, you know? Very, very interested in that. You guys let us know in the comment section. Yeah. I know for like us, like, and this is a crazy thing. I don't know if he would just said he would never, ever, like, live with the people ever again. We are considering getting a house together. Yeah. Like, as Magito. Like, we're literally considering, like, okay, cool guys. The channel is making some money. We are all parents. Yeah. How about we get a house, which is big enough, which will enable the studio. And it's like, the house is a studio for us, but it's like, that is, that's, what, what are you, that, that, for me, it's so scared. Like, it sounds so amazing, but I can't imagine, like, we kept every day. And you're in concert shouting in the kitchen. (Laughing) Type shit! (Laughing) The kitchen. Low key! Yeah. In the kitchen. Every single day. Like, I'm talking about you having, like, a romantic night of a girl. Yeah. Like, you know, the sunset lamp is on. Yeah. In the kitchen. Nah, boy! Land, boy! I'm making a person and think I'm making a happily in the kitchen. Time is like 2 a.m. It's 2 a.m. They're inviting people over. Yeah. Do you think that's landing the house? Because the house comes with power. Like, why would your friends always visit you? If I go to my friends, as much as they have a house. So we, we all like to say this idea, but we, I like the idea of, you guys, let's just have a dedicated office. Yes. I've been really looking at studio, because I really want to open up my own personal studio for my network and then I want ASM to actually contribute and potentially, you know. Yeah. All the time in the studio space. I think I'd love it if every Tuesday we'd meet, like, in a random studio flat in, in, in mid-round and, you know, we have, like, a huge whiteboard and it's like, yo, gosh, this is what we want to achieve this month, you know, and having those stand-up meetings there. Because what that does is it makes your content intentional. Yes. You know, it's easy for, I think people don't know this, but there's a lot of planning that goes into Asmatita. In fact, there's a lot of planning that goes into all of our brands. There's a lot of time that is taken from all of our brands. So just having a dedicated office space, where you can leave that side of you there and not bring it back home, that would be beautiful, you know. That would be amazing. Yeah. Yeah. But conversation has been really amazing, guys. I really enjoyed the fact that we're having it, like, at the time of the year, because everyone is, like, getting your apartments, considering to apply for a residence, she'll stay at home. And to my younger audience, like, if you guys are going to be going to university, crazy if I still have viewers at that age, I'd love to know if we still do, I would like you guys know that, like, in life, bro, experiences are meant to be experienced. And you can't plan life to the T. 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