The Intuitive Divorce: Saving Time, Money & Heartache for Moms and their Kids
Happy Thoughts in Motion
Hey mamas. I get that there are no rainbows and unicorns floating around your house when you're in the thick of divorce feelings. Up one minute, flattened another, and back again. Cut yourself some slack mama. Healing is messy. Divorce is hard, exhausting, and deflating. But that doesn't mean that the opportunities and growth that can emerge as a byproduct aren't worth their weight in gold. Hey, everyone loves a happy ever after ending. But those just don't magically appear. They're created. But thinking happy thoughts alone won't get you there. Even if you don't know the exact steps to take and feel like you're all over the place, you can discover how to harness the power of your intuition. You can honor your needs and desires and initiate the momentum you want in your life. And what if everything works out and goes right? Isn't that the story you want to live and tell? That's what I want to talk to you about today. I'm calling this conversation happy thoughts in motion. Hi there, mamas. Welcome to the intuitive divorce podcast. I'm Kristin Noel, certified divorce coach and creator of the best self-intuitive divorce. A game-changing program that transforms the experience and outcomes of divorce, one mother at a time. I call it divorcing differently. I'm here each week bringing you a quick message to support, inspire, and empower you to achieve the outcomes you want for yourself and your kids. So let's dive into today's episode. There are a lot of buzzwords that get thrown around in the quest for self-help and healing, but few that can help us go from inspiration to implementation. I just want the pain to stop. I want this to be over. I want to feel joy in my life again. I want to feel alive. But how do we get there? We need more than happy thoughts, affirmations, and feel-good memes. We need an action plan because happy thoughts are impotent without backup. Life has a way of waking us up by rattling our cages. It can come in a million shapes and sizes, a health scare, a financial hit, a heartbreak, a loss, a divorce. And when it does, we just want to stop hurting. We don't usually know how to do that, so we scramble for answers, information, opinions. But quick fixes don't create sustainable change, and let's face it. When you're in pain, first you want the suffering to stop, and second, you want to make sure you don't find yourself here again. Boom! We have the best of intentions, but there seems to be a cavern between the desire and the execution. How do we get there? It starts with telling a new story to yourself. Sounds simple enough, right? Well, this is often where we fall off. It's not enough to say, "I want more money. I want more happiness. I want more connection with my kids." Dig a little deeper. Tell me about this new story, this new you, and all the details. Close your eyes and imagine writing a better ending in your head. Only when you can visualize this can you formulate steps that move you in that direction. This may feel uncomfortable at first. Don't worry, don't judge yourself. You've likely been shoving your needs and desires to the bottom of the laundry basket for a long time. Let's just consider flexing a new muscle. Consider these prompts to journal or meditate on, or both. What is the setting of your better story? The more detail the better. Is anyone there with you? And what is the general tone or feeling? Now write down five qualities that you would like to use to describe yourself as the leading lady in that story. Describe her in as much detail as possible. Consider how differently you might feel by simply telling your story from a new perspective. This exercise is a gift to self that doesn't cost anything and it needn't take a long time. But it can be a beautiful work in progress that you can come back to, edit, change your mind, and rework. Allow yourself to breathe in a new version of yourself, mama. No matter how life feels in this moment, you can nurture yourself while shifting the narrative. We can choose to look at challenges in front of us as nothing but obstacles, or we can choose to look at the challenges as opportunities guiding us somewhere new. We can see roadblocks or we can see launching pads. The choice is ours to make. Bottom line. What if everything goes right? How do we tell that story? You know how we tell that story? We start writing it. And if you're ready to have someone walk beside you as you craft your new story, yes, even in divorce. I'm just a phone call away. Paper, pen, fierce mama bear, divorce coach, accountability partner. Anyone? Thanks for listening to today's episode, but more importantly, for making this time for yourself. If you're a professional independent mother facing off with divorce, struggling with your emotions, worried about your kids and your future, and want a better way to navigate it all, I've got two ways to completely change the trajectory of your divorce and your life starting today. The first is our free divorce workshop. In this training, you'll learn the three steps to get off the emotional roller coaster and take control of your divorce so you can save time, money, and heartache for you and your family. Simply go to intuitive divorce.com/workshop. And the second way is to book a free strategy call with our team, where we'll dive into your situation, your struggles, what you really want, and outline a path to get you there. For a short video and the booking link, go to intuitive divorce.com/call. Check it out and I'll see you inside. [BLANK_AUDIO]