Tiny Pep Talks for Stepparents

Parallel parenting doesn’t make you a bad co-parent.

💬 Send us a text! (Yes really!)There's a tendency to act like parallel parenting is the shameful option we only resort to because we've failed at co-parenting somehow. But when you're dealing with a high-conflict ex, co-parenting is not possible, because they will never compromise. In fact their inability to compromise is literally the thing that makes them high conflict.So if you've been beating yourself up over your inability to co-parent with a difficult ex... please don’t. Parallel parent...

Duration:: 1m
Broadcast on:: 06 Aug 2024
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💬 Send us a text! (Yes really!)

There's a tendency to act like parallel parenting is the shameful option we only resort to because we've failed at co-parenting somehow. But when you're dealing with a high-conflict ex, co-parenting is not possible, because they will never compromise. In fact their inability to compromise is literally the thing that makes them high conflict.

So if you've been beating yourself up over your inability to co-parent with a difficult ex... please don’t. Parallel parenting is a perfectly valid approach to raising kids in two different homes. And there’s a lot of freedom to be found in embracing that concept rather than trying to co-parent with someone who isn’t interested in co-parenting back.

For help getting out from under the influence of a toxic ex, start by reading our 10 Commandments of high-conflict co-parenting. Or if you want more info on parallel parenting specifically, I have a blog post on that too: ➡️ THE LIFE-CHANGING MAGIC OF PARALLEL PARENTING 👀

Dan & I also put together a workshop called the quick-start guide to parallel parenting that’s coming out soon for our paid subscribers over on Substack, so if you’re not a member yet, you should definitely join up: ➡️ JOIN THE COMMUNITY! 🤩 The chat room alone is amazing for helping you feel less alone as you’re trying to figure out all this stuff. xo

Need a bigger pep talk? Start here or join us over on Substack! xo

🧡 Need a bigger pep talk? Start here or join us over on Substack! xo

There's a tendency to act like parallel parenting is the shameful option we only resort to because we've failed at co-parenting, somehow. But when you're dealing with a high-conflict X, co-parenting is not possible, because they will never compromise. In fact, their inability to compromise is literally the thing that makes them high-conflict. So if you've been beating yourself up over your inability to co-parent with a difficult X, please don't. Parallel parenting is a perfectly valid approach to raising kids in two different homes. And there's a lot of freedom to be found in embracing that concept rather than trying to co-parent with someone who isn't interested in co-parenting back. For help getting out from under the influence of a toxic X, start by reading our 10 commandments of high-conflict co-parenting. Or, if you want more info on parallel parenting specifically, I have a blog post on that too called "The Life-Changing Magic of Parallel Parenting." I will link both of these in the show notes. Dan and I also put together a workshop called the "Quick Start Guide to Parallel Parenting" that's coming out soon for our paid subscribers over on Substack. So if you're not a member yet, you should definitely join up. The chat room alone is amazing for helping you feel less alone as you're trying to figure out all this stuff. We hope to see you in there.