Tiny Pep Talks for Stepparents

You are worthy.

💬 Send us a text! (Yes really!)It’s really common for us to judge our stepparenting performance based on one single metric: whether our stepkids like us. But believe me when I say it’s a huge mistake to base your self-worth on your stepkid’s approval.Honestly, most stepkids are standoffish with their stepparents, especially at first. There’s a lot of reasons for this — read this blog post for a whole list: ➡️ WHY DOES MY STEPKID HATE ME? 6 REASONS WHY STEPKIDS REJECT STEPPARENTS 👀 —...

Duration:: 1m
Broadcast on:: 31 Jul 2024
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💬 Send us a text! (Yes really!)

It’s really common for us to judge our stepparenting performance based on one single metric: whether our stepkids like us. But believe me when I say it’s a huge mistake to base your self-worth on your stepkid’s approval.

Honestly, most stepkids are standoffish with their stepparents, especially at first. There’s a lot of reasons for this — read this blog post for a whole list: ➡️ WHY DOES MY STEPKID HATE ME? 6 REASONS WHY STEPKIDS REJECT STEPPARENTS 👀 — and all of them are totally normal. Good news though: your stepkid doesn't have to be nuts about you for you to still be a great stepparent and become a positive influence in their life... eventually.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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Until that day arrives, keep taking deep breaths as needed, and keep reminding yourself that you're an awesome person who had no idea what they were signing on for and you're doing your best. Then give yourself permission to relax, be yourself, and quit going overboard trying to win everyone else over. The sooner your stepkids gets to know the real you, the sooner you’ll all feel more comfortable in your blended family.

For more help busting misconceptions around stepparenting, please go read our Stepparenting Survival Guide. It’s the down and dirty super quick summary of all the things I wish I’d known back when I was a new stepparent.

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🧡 Need a bigger pep talk? Start here or join us over on Substack! xo

It's really common for us to judge our step parenting performance based on one single metric, whether our step kids like us. But believe me when I say it's a huge mistake to let your self worth ride on your step kids approval. Honestly, most step kids are standoffish with their step parents, especially at first. And there's a lot of reasons for this. I have a blog post with a whole list that I will link in the show notes. And every one of those reasons, totally normal. But the good news is your step kid doesn't have to be nuts about you for you to still be a great step parent and become a positive influence in their life, eventually. Until that day arrives, keep taking deep breaths as needed and keep reminding yourself that you're an awesome person who had no idea what they were signing up for. And you're doing your best. Then give yourself permission to relax, be yourself, and quit going overboard trying to win everyone else over. The sooner your step kids get to know the real you, the sooner you'll all feel more comfortable in your blended family. For more help busting misconceptions around step parenting, please go read our step parenting survival guide. It's the down and dirty, super quick summary of all the things I wish I'd known back when I was a new step parent. I will link that in the show notes too.