Tiny Pep Talks for Stepparents

Love at first sight…?

💬 Send us a text! (Yes really!)All unrealistic expectations to the contrary, the truth is… you probably aren't gonna love your stepkid out of the gate. Which is totally okay — they're probably not gonna be your biggest fans on Day 1 either, which is also totally okay. All that matters is your willingness to keep showing up and doing your best. And by that, I don't mean kill yourself trying, either. Give 'em space when they need space, and give yourself space too.Blending a family takes 5 to 7...

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Broadcast on:: 05 Jul 2024
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💬 Send us a text! (Yes really!)

All unrealistic expectations to the contrary, the truth is… you probably aren't gonna love your stepkid out of the gate. Which is totally okay — they're probably not gonna be your biggest fans on Day 1 either, which is also totally okay. All that matters is your willingness to keep showing up and doing your best. And by that, I don't mean kill yourself trying, either. Give 'em space when they need space, and give yourself space too.

Blending a family takes 5 to 7 years on average, which means you & your stepkid getting used to each other can (and probably will) take LITERALLY YEARS. Now, that might feel like a daunting number, but an optimist might say what it really means is that you’ve got plenty of time to figure out your relationship.

Expecting love at first sight with your stepkid is just as unlikely as expecting it from a romantic partner. So along the way, take lots of deep breaths, take plenty of breaks, and keep pacing yourself. You’ve got this. xo

For a deeper understanding of what the process of feeling comfortable in your role and how your relationship with your stepkid might continue evolving, this is a good place to start: ➡️ THE 7 STAGES OF BECOMING A STEPPARENT 👀

Need a bigger pep talk? Start here or join us over on Substack! xo

🧡 Need a bigger pep talk? Start here or join us over on Substack! xo

All unrealistic expectations to the contrary, the truth is you probably aren't going to love your step-kid out of the gate, which is totally okay, they're probably not going to be your biggest fans on day one either, which is also totally okay. All that matters is your willingness to keep showing up and doing your best. And by that, I don't mean kill yourself trying either. Give them space if they need space, and give yourself space too. Blending a family is a process that takes years. In other words, you and your step-kid getting used to each other can and probably will take literally years. Now, that might feel like a daunting number, but an optimist might say what it really means is, you've got plenty of time to figure out your relationship with your step-kid. Expecting love at first sight with your step-kid is just as unlikely as expecting it from a romantic partner, so along the way, take lots of deep breaths, take plenty of breaks, and keep pacing yourself. You've got this. For a deeper understanding of what the process of feeling comfortable in your role and how your relationship with your step-kid might continue evolving, a good place to start is with my seven stages of becoming a step-parent, I'll link the article right in the show notes.