Tiny Pep Talks for Stepparents

Blending in high conflict

💬 Send us a text! (Yes really!)The experts say that blending a family takes 5 to 7 years on average, but add some high conflict to the mix and that number jumps up to 10+ years.I know that's a bleak statistic, but I'm actually sharing this info to give you hope in case you’ve been wondering why all of this feels soooo friggin hard — like every day is a brand new 2 steps forward, 3 steps back. You’re probably not imagining it.So I wanted to let you know: it’s not just you. It’s the situation. ...

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Broadcast on:: 04 Jul 2024
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💬 Send us a text! (Yes really!)

The experts say that blending a family takes 5 to 7 years on average, but add some high conflict to the mix and that number jumps up to 10+ years.

I know that's a bleak statistic, but I'm actually sharing this info to give you hope in case you’ve been wondering why all of this feels soooo friggin hard — like every day is a brand new 2 steps forward, 3 steps back. You’re probably not imagining it.

So I wanted to let you know: it’s not just you. It’s the situation. When the ex is high conflict, the natural process of blending your family can feel like it gets set back over and over again with each new battle between households.

All of this can change when your partner has solid boundaries with the ex, which can help minimize the fallout. But even if your partner is not great at that (mine definitely wasn’t), you are not powerless in all this. Here’s a blog to help: ➡️ 4 WAYS STEPPARENTS CAN PROTECT THEIR OWN MENTAL HEALTH IN HIGH CONFLICT 👀

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🧡 Need a bigger pep talk? Start here or join us over on Substack! xo

The experts say that blending a family takes five to seven years on average, but add some high conflict to the mix and that number jumps up to 10 years or more. Now I know that's a bleak statistic, but I'm actually sharing this to give you hope in case you've been wondering why all of this feels so freaking hard. Like every day is a brand new, two steps forward, three steps back. You're probably not imagining it. So I wanted to let you know, it's not just you, it's the situation. When the X is high conflict, the natural process of blending your family can feel like it gets set back over and over again with each new battle between households. All of this can change when your partner has solid boundaries with the X, which can help minimize the fallout. But even if your partner isn't great at that, mine definitely wasn't. You're not powerless in all this. I have a blog I'll link in the show notes with some tips on how you can protect your own mental health from the onslaught of a high conflict excess drama.