Tony discusses the use of stories in the job search interview.
The Job Search Solution
Using Stories in the Job Interview Part I
Welcome. This podcast is sponsored by the jobsearchsolution.com. America is only 60 hour program of everything you could possibly imagine about how to find a job. The jobsearchsolution.com has successfully helped more than 100,000 people find a job as fast as possible. The jobsearchsolution.com. Welcome back. This is Tony Beshar with the jobsearchsolution. We had one of our listeners write in and say a couple of years ago, I heard you talking about stories and I looked up on the internet where you had an article about them, but I remember you telling about stories and my brother-in-law read about them and I would like you to drive home every evening and listen to your radio program and I'd like you to go over stories. So I thought I'd spend the next couple of evenings when we don't have a guest going over stories. Remember stories. There are whom I stories, why am I here stories, vision stories, teaching stories, value stories. I know what you're thinking stories. Stories in the interviewing situation should be no longer than 45 seconds. From the philosophers we learn that stories are more important than entertainment. Ititos the art of being human. There are two things that never get boring. A person and a story and the story has to be about people. G. K. Chesterton wrote that. When you tell stories about yourself or your career, you're communicating your human side as well as explaining what you've done in the past and how you will be successful for the company that you're interviewing with. From psychologists we learn that stories are successful because they move the prejudice of the listener toward the storyteller and encourage a listener to identify with the person in the story. People remember stories because they identify with the people in the stories. By doing that the listener becomes more engaged with the storyteller and asks themselves questions like what would I do or what would I have done if I were in that situation. We are so caught up in the drama of the story. We have a little emotional energy to disagree with the storyteller. That's why Jesus Christ taught in parables. Esopp and other great teachers taught with stories. One of the most important revelations about stories comes from the Princeton neurologist Yuri Hassan. He recently discovered that the listener of the story develops the exact same brain wave pattern as the storyteller. The storyteller literally makes the listener's brain pattern match his or her own. So if you want people to see the world the way you do, tell them a compelling story and get their brain pattern to match yours. Storytelling breeds a connection between tellers and listeners, a shared flourish of the joy at the climax of a mutual or mutual gloom at the relation of something tragic. Does this interpersonal link also take a visual measurable form? A team recorded a video of eight students as they recounted emotional experience from falling in love to the death of a friend as they spoke an eye making device measured the which measured the dilation of their pupils which research indicates expand and contracted the ups and downs of the mental engagement. Later more than a hundred other students watched the videos as they too were monitored with an eye tracker. During parts of the story, rated as especially engaging, the researchers found the dilation of the listener's pupils more closely related diadilation of the speaker's pupils. Synchrony was greatest between participants who rated high on the measure of empathy and speakers high on expressiveness and results that held even when their listeners did not view the speaker. These findings are indicative of mental coupling or shared attention to what the speaker is saying. Mental coupling, according to Dartmouth neuroscientists Thea Wheatley, a co-author of this study without people listening speaking is just disturbing air molecules. Communication requires coupled minds reported in scratch that they are reported in psychological today. But thinking about so much great art from movies, novels, biographies of all times, the Odyssey, Moby Dick, Star Wars, Huckleberry Finn, where the wild things grow, the Wizard of Oz, life favor Ham Lincoln, they all have one thing in comma, a character wants something, and the world tries to prevent them from getting it. This is tension. What a character wants and everything that gets in his way, that drives the story. That keeps whole of an audience attention, and that ultimately teaches the timeless lesson embedded in great stories. Alright, we're going to take a short break, stay tuned. This is Tony Bishara with the Job Search Solution. This podcast was sponsored by the jobsearch solution.com. It's the world's most successful online job search program. My expert in the trenches advice has been used by more than 100,000 people to successfully find a new job. So go to the jobsearch solution.com and start today toward a better job.