On today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to keep a level mindset to win when you see people getting ahead using shady business practices, how to vet new friends when you start becoming successful in life and business, and what to do when you want to develop more consistency with your good habits.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
771. Q&AF: Staying Focused Among Unethical Competitors, Vetting New Friends & Building Consistency
(upbeat music) ♪ Yeah ♪ ♪ We're from sleeping on the floor ♪ ♪ Now my jury box froze ♪ ♪ Fuck a boat ♪ ♪ Fuck a stove ♪ ♪ Counted millions in a coat ♪ ♪ Bad bitch, booty swole ♪ ♪ Gotta own bank road ♪ ♪ Can't vote ♪ ♪ Dusted note ♪ ♪ Headshot ♪ ♪ Case closed, bro ♪ - What is up, guys? It's Andy Priscilla, and this is the show for the real estate goodbye to the lies, fitness, and delusions of modern society. And welcome to Motherfucking Reality. Guys, today we have Q and AF. That's where you submit the questions and we, DJ and I, give you the answers. Now you can submit your questions a couple different ways. You can, guys, you can email these questions in to askAndy@AndyFiscilla.com, or you go on YouTube and the comment sections on the Q and AF episodes and drop your question in there, and we will pick some from there as well. Now, throughout the week, we're gonna have shows within the show. Tomorrow we're gonna have CTI. That stands for Cruise, the internet. We're gonna put topics on the screen. We're gonna speculate on what's true and what's not true. And then we're gonna talk about how we, the people, have to solve these problems going on in the world. Sometimes we're gonna have real talk. That's just five to 20 minutes, and we're giving you some real talk. And other times we're gonna have 75 hard verses. That's where someone who has completed the 75 hard program comes in, talks about how their life was before, how their life is now, and how they use the 75 hard program to get their life realigned. If you're unfamiliar with 75 hard, it is the initial phase of the Live Hard program. The Live Hard program is available for free at episode 208. It is the world's most famous in history mental transformation program, and it's free. You can get it at episode 208 on the audio feed. There is a book available on my website, AndyForsella.com, called The Book on Mental Toughness that covers the entire Live Hard program, including 75 hard in all three phases, and then 10 extra chapters on mental toughness, some case studies on some very famous people that have used mental toughness to become the very famous people that you recognize. We also do things a little bit differently on this show. This is your first time listening. You're gonna notice that we do not run ads on the show. Now, the reason we don't run ads on the show is because I don't wanna listen to some dork tell me what I can and can't say, all right? That's it. I finance the show myself, and I ask very simply that you help us participate in growing the show. So if it makes you think, if it makes you laugh, it gives you a new perspective of its information you think is valuable and needs to be heard, which it is. Remember that we are always battling censorship, shadow bands, traffic throttling, and we need your help to get the show out. So don't be a hoe. Show the show. Oh. You're on it today, I can see. Well, I mean, dude, I've had no coffee today. No energy drinks, no caffeine. Are you doing that on purpose? Yeah, I'm straight edge now. Oh, yeah, is that what that's called? Straight edge, no caffeine. I know that's like no alcohol, no drugs. Oh, I don't know. Yeah, anyway, yeah. It's never gonna be me. I'm gonna be the crooked edge. So, what's happening, dude? What's happening, dude? What's curving your edge? No, not the much, man. That's not curving. Yeah, not curving the edge. You know what I'm saying? Oh, man, everything's good, man. Everything's good. It's Monday. Yeah, hope you guys are having a great start to your weeks. Yeah, what'd you do this weekend? Why people shit? Me too. All right, man. Yeah, well, let's get it to a better start the week off right with some, with three good ones. You gotta say it the right way. I got three good ones for you. All right, bro. Yeah. I'm ready now. That's like the trigger phrase. It is. I can't even get in the zone until you say it. You gotta have that trigger. That's right. Yeah, that's right. All right, man. That's any question number one. Hey, Andy, how do you keep a level mindset when you see people getting ahead by using shady business practices and cheating the system? I'm a full-time stay-at-home mom and business owner. My husband also works full-time and runs his business on the side. We are a typical middle-class family struggling to make an honest living. We keep the mindset that honest hard work will pay off, but it's difficult when I am with my extended family. I have a cousin who's my age who is constantly bragging about family vacations, new cars, only their home, et cetera. They have lied to get government benefits, use bankruptcy to get out of debt, and have been known to steal from employers without getting caught. I know that in the long run, I am instilling values, work ethic, and skills into my kids, worth more than the toys and clothes they give their kids. I want to use this as fuel for my fire rather than being discouraged by it. I'm pretty sure you see plenty of competitors using shady practices to get ahead. How do you mentally use that as fuel to keep running an honest business? Well, look, I understand this question. I mean, I think all business owners go through this. We look at other people and how they're doing things, and not always are they doing things the right way. And a lot of times they're doing things, as mentioned, in an unethical way, and it's frustrating because we see them getting ahead. And when I was new in business, that was a problem for me, because I didn't have the experience to understand what eventually happens to these people. And what eventually happens to these people is their little scams, their little corner cutting, their little fucking unethical practices will catch up with them and they will end up losing all that they have. I've never seen that work out, not a single time, where someone who was doing things in a quick, easy, fast, cheating, unethical way, win long-term. I've just never seen it. And it's very frustrating, dude. I totally get the frustration because we live in this day and age where everybody's online and everybody's bragging and everybody's making their lives look like they're way cooler than they are and they're winning way bigger than they are. And dude, it's demoralizing if you really concentrate on it. But dude, let me give you some advice, man. Those people are gonna come and go, and after they go, there's gonna be a new round of those people that come and go, and after they go, there's gonna be a new round. And there's always gonna be these people because the reality is, is that most people believe that success is built by unethical behavior. If we go back to the stories that are told by a lot of people, we've all heard people say, well, look at that guy, he's wealthy, but like he, he fucked these people over. - He's greedy. - Yeah, look at this guy, he's doing this this way. And so we have this in culture, this mentality of if you're winning, you must be cheating. And that's just not reality, and I'm gonna explain why. Now, 20, 30, 40 years ago, that was possible, but it's not possible anymore. For someone to win long-term, you have to do business the right way, you have to treat people right, you have to have good practices. That doesn't mean you're gonna be perfect. It means you have to genuinely be good and have the intent of being good. And then when you fuck up, you have to fix it. Here's why, 30 years ago, there was no internet, all right? And this is where this mentality comes from, 30, 40, 50, 60 years ago. All there was radio, television, and print media, that was it. So, companies could cheat people, and there was no way for the consumer to voice their dissatisfaction or let it be known that these companies were behaving this way. And then when the internet came around, it actually changed the game in a very good way. And I know I complain a lot about the internet, but this is a really good thing that has happened in the internet. What happened is, is we gave the consumer a voice to criticize or tell the truth about the way that they were being treated as consumers. And so, overnight, and it's continued to become more transparent over time, customers were able to communicate with every single person they know instantly, all right? And that changed the dynamic of business. And what that did was that created an environment where you have to serve customers, you have to do the right thing. You have to be who you say you are. You have to deliver what you say you're going to deliver in order to operate a business. So, doing the right thing and caring about your customers became the way that business had to be done. And so, if we look at businesses who have become successful longer than a one-hit wonder over the course of the last 20 years, those people have to be who they say they are. Otherwise, everybody knows instantly, right? It doesn't take a long time for a few customers to be saying the same thing. And then all of a sudden, it's everywhere. And everybody's like, well, fuck them, right? That's a real easy thing to happen. And it happens every day. And so, not even to mention the laws and shit that are put in place to keep businesses and check it in line and shit. - For sure, but the main thing is just word of mouth. It's the availability and the transparency that's created by the internet that creates either positive or negative word of mouth. And if you're out there fucking people, guess what? There's gonna be negative word of mouth and it's gonna spread instantly and you're not gonna have a business anymore. So, that old idea that this rich guy that you see is fucking people, it's actually impossible, all right? For long-term, long-term, in short-term, one, two, three, four years, for sure people can get away with it. But eventually, those people will crumble, they will go away and they'll be replaced by new people who still don't understand it because they're in a hurry to make the money. All they carry about is the money and they think they can fool enough customers, but bro, I'm gonna tell you this, a pond only has so many fish in it. And the internet is very quick to let the information be known about who's doing things right and who's doing things wrong. And you can't escape it, it's just the way things are. So, you know, long way around to answer this question is you shouldn't pay attention to those people, you should focus on what it is that you're doing, you should focus on being the absolute best at what you do and playing the long game instead of the get rich quick game and you're gonna come out on top. And not only are you gonna come out on top, you're not gonna be rich, you're gonna become wealthy because the money that you're making will compound over the course of time because you're doing things the right way, which attracts more word of mouth, which brings more customers into your funnel. Does that make sense? - That makes perfect sense. - Okay, so, dude, you guys have to ignore this shit, you know? Like, especially in the entrepreneur space, we have all these people that are pretending to be all these things that they actually aren't and, you know, we see 'em, we see 'em come, we see 'em go, we see new ones come up, we see new ones go. And these guys think that they are the new deal that's gonna change the rules and it's not gonna apply to them and it always does, bro. We always see these people come and then we see them go. And if you think that those people are your competition or someone that you need to be comparing yourself to, you're wrong. You should be comparing yourself to the people who have been running real companies, the right way over the course of the long term, paying attention to what they do, and then focusing on doing it right. And you're gonna have sustainability, you're gonna have endurance, you're gonna have the ability to compound money over the course of time, which is gonna make you wealthy. And these people are gonna be broke eventually. So, your cousin or whoever the fuck that is, bro, I promise you, sooner than later, they are gonna get caught up in their bullshit and it's gonna crumble 'em. And that's reality, that's the way it works. So, I wouldn't worry about it. I would start looking at people who have done it the right way and try to emulate them and even be better than them. - Yeah, one thing that should maybe think about it, it doesn't matter how advanced we are as a society, how more they get, there's always gonna be pieces of shit. - Always. - And so, it made me just think because it's like-- - Well, greed is one of the biggest drivers. - Right. - And that's what I was gonna say, like outside of just being a piece of shit or stupid, you mentioned that it's greed there. 'Cause I would think like, man fuck, they wouldn't realize that we're in that day and age where people can fucking talk like that, you know what I'm saying, but they still do it. - Yeah, well, that's because, bro, most of these people are low IQ. They're scammers, they're fucking not thinking long-term. They think today, you know, they're trying to win the attention game on the internet. It is what the fuck it is. I mean, it's just always existed. There's always been hucksters, there's always been thieves, there's always been unethical people in business. And if you compare yourself, your long-term gains to their short-term flash in the pan wins, you're gonna be frustrated. So, it's best not to pay attention and consider them something else. They are something else. Those are scammers, those are unethical people. They're not gonna last. And, you know, we see this happen all the time, bro. If you pay attention, you'll see people go up and then go right back down. And it happens quick now. Whereas before the internet, it would take a long time, right? For a company to destroy their reputation, pre-internet, pre-social media, that could take years because I had a bad experience and then I don't see you, DJ, until two weeks later, 'cause there's no internet, so we're not talking on the internet. And by the time I see you, I've already forgotten about getting fucked over. So, something would have to happen to bring the conversation up. Whereas people, now, they just tell what, like, hey, I dealt with this company and they fucked me. Here's what happened. And then at that point in time, you know, you can either, as a company, address that issue and try to fix it, or, you know, hope for the best. But I just give you a little free game here that's not on the question. Usually when you fix those problems for people that are vocal, they become bigger advocates for you because they are vocal. So, you know, don't shy away from solving problems when people genuinely have problems. Now, some people, yes, they're just there to stir shit. But, in most cases, they're not. Most people just are good people and they wanna be taken care of, they wanna be treated right, they wanna be respected for the money that they spend with your company. And your goal should be to over-deliver so much value that they have no problem spending money with you. They're actually proud of it. They actually go around and they say, "Dude, this is the brand I use because they've been tree-right." And they don't use of it. Exactly, yeah. Now, let me actually, then this might be more of like a philosophical question on business. But it's an interesting topic. So, like, you know, in entrepreneurship, in your experience, would you agree that there is like a natural order, like social Darwinism aspect to entrepreneurial access? Because, you know, we talk about like, you know, there's always gonna be these pieces of shit, right? And what's even worse, or I guess more unfortunate, is like there's always gonna be people that fuckin' follow them and buy that shit. Do you think that like that relationship, like that aspect of entrepreneurship, it's almost necessary to weed out? Yeah, I do. I think that people-- Like, nobody talks about it. Listen, no, it's real shit. And like, 'cause everybody's quick to point in a scammer, but they're not quick to admit that they wanted the quick rich, too, and that's why they bought it. So really, a lot of these people want what these people have and they're not willing to put in the work long term, but then when they don't get what they want, they point and they say, "Oh, this guy did that when in reality, "they wanted to be that guy." So, yes, 100%. Dude, this is why I say over and over and over again, you know, entrepreneurship is hard. Entrepreneurship is not for everybody. It's not what the internet makes it out to be, bro. It's very brutal. It's very competitive. It's very harsh. And it's just not what people make it to be, bro. You have to be built for it, or you have to build yourself into the person that can handle that. And that takes a lot of work. That takes time. It takes, you know, getting acclimated. It's kind of like getting in a cold plunge the first time. It's like, "Oh, fuck." But after you do it every day for a year, it ain't no big deal. You get right in. So it's entrepreneurship's the same way, bro. You're gonna show up. You're gonna get your ass beat. And as long as you show up the next day, when you get beat the next day, it's gonna hurt a little less. And the beatings never go away. You just get used to them. And, you know, this whole idea that entrepreneurship is, you know, I'm gonna be free, and I'm gonna have all this time bullshit, bro. That's a lie. You know, that's not how the fuck it works. It works like this. You answer to all your fucking customers. And if you wanna keep your business long-term, that's gonna take attention from you. And then it's gonna take other skills, like building a team that's effective. You know, there's so many skills that are required to build a company that people don't even think about, bro. Like, do you know how to build a team? Do you know how to create systems? Do you know how to fucking market? Do you know how to hire people, fire people? Do you know how to build a culture? Do you know how to develop product? Do you know all this shit? Most people don't. They think they can just buy somebody's fucking bullshit course. And all of a sudden, they're gonna be a gazillionaire. And dude, I've just never seen it happen. It just doesn't happen. The only people that become a gazillionaire are the people selling the fucking course. And then, you know, eventually, it gets found out that their shit doesn't really work and they lose anyway. - Zero now. - Yeah, I mean, look, dude, there's no easy way to this. If there was an easy way, everybody would fucking know it. It's just like anything else in life. You know, we search for the easy way. We want the quick way. Bro, I was no different. So listen, this is just real shit. My first 10 years or so in business, I did not understand what I'm saying now. So like, if you listen to what I'm saying and just this one question, it'll save you fucking years of your life. I thought, if you ask most people and you say, what's the purpose of a business? What's their answer? - Make money. - Okay, that's not the purpose of a business. The purpose of a business is to solve fucking problems. And then people trade you money for the solution of the problem, all right? So like everybody else who says to make money, I thought that shit forever too. And I thought like, hey, it's my job to sell this guy, to sell this guy, to sell this guy, to sell this guy. And when I did that, guess what? I never made any money because you know what people did when they left the store, they said, don't go in there, bro, they're gonna fucking do this and this, okay? So I never grew, company never grew. I got 10 years into the company and I started, you know, I started to realize, holy shit, this isn't the way. And I had some events happen in my life. You guys have heard me talk about it where I considered other careers. And I decided to go back into what we were doing, which was nutritional supplement retail, because we enjoyed helping people. Because every once in a while, over that first 10 years, we would actually help someone instead of sell them. They would come in, they'd hang out for a couple hours 'cause we didn't have any customers because we were selling everybody instead of helping them. And those people would come back after like five, six, seven months and they'd be a different fucking human, bro. And they're crying, they're giving you a hug, they're saying, thank you, kind of like all the people that come through the building now, right? Everybody. So we kind of discovered that and we decided, this is Chris and I, hey, all right, we might not ever become wealthy and rich or a baller or whatever, but I really like that, that was cool. So we decided that we were going to commit ourselves to producing that result. And after we committed ourselves to producing that result, all of a sudden we started making a lot of money because people were leaving, they were saying, dude, they're solving my problem, go in, talk to these guys, they're good guys, and all the business fucking exploded. We grew a hundred percent, five years in a row, okay? So that's how I learned this lesson. And if you listen to this one lesson, this one fucking lesson, not only will it save you 10 years of your life, but it will cover every product you ever buy from me from first form, it will cover every fucking seminar, it will cover every fucking thing that I've ever do. And if you come to it, this will be work, that one question will save you, you'll come out ahead 'cause it'll save you fucking years of your life and make you millions of dollars. So, I love it, man. Yeah. Well guys, any question? Number two, let's talk about them early years of business, Andy, Andy, when you started to get traction in your business and become more successful, did you create, did you have any sort of checklist, per se, that you use to field friends? I feel like when I started my company, I've had five really solid friends. When I started to get a little bit of what they saw as success, I lost a couple of people. But now I feel like so many people are trying to create friendships with me, either for discounts or they are self-serving. I run a clothing company that sells online and in stores. I've been in business for about five years, and this has been a problem that has been increasing each year. I'm not sure how to field these people. Thanks, man, I love the show. How do you field people, field friends? Well, I don't have any new friends at this point in my life. I don't make new friends. Because at this point in my life where I'm at, it's impossible to know someone's motive as to why they want to be friends with me. I can't know, like, it's impossible. Yeah, I assume everybody has a motive. That's right, safe. And they do. So I don't have, unless they got their own shit and they got their own success, no new friends, because everybody wants something from you. And that's just reality and it sounds harsh, it sounds mean, but it's real. And it gets worse the better you get and the more successful you get. So I can certainly understand the question. The reality is this, the group of friends as an entrepreneur, the group of friends that you have in the beginning are not gonna be your group of friends as you move on. Yes, one or two might stay and you might be great friends and you might be casual friends. I'm not saying you're gonna be like enemies, but you're going to want to surround yourself with people who are on the same path as you. Because you're old friends, they're going to, are you sure about this? You need to be careful. I think you're getting out over your skis a little bit. Don't forget where you come from. They're gonna always be planting these little seeds of fucking bullshit in your brain. And so the reality of friendship is that when you leave your first friend group, you're going to move towards a new friend group, but that new friend group is a ways away once you get success. So start getting success. So what happens is is you end up spending a lot of time alone and I call that area of life, No Man's Land, because you feel like you're alone. And this is where the saying it's lonely at the top comes from. It's not lonely at the top, bro. It's lonely in the middle. So we have to understand that when you start to get success, yes, you're going to lose friends, but if you keep going, you're going to gain new friends who are on the same path. And those people aren't gonna put doubt in your brain. They're not going to question you. They're actually going to say, how can I help? How can we work together? How can we push further? Because they're aligned with what you're trying to do with your life. And these people that you knew from back in the day, they're not necessarily on the same path as you. That doesn't mean you can't be casual friends with them, but you're probably not going to be as close. And so most people when they go through this process, which is exactly where this person is, they will start to feel lonely. And what'll happen is, is they'll go back to their old friend group. They won't keep going because they're like, fuck, dude, I don't have any friends. I'm not around anybody. But the reality is they're just not going far enough because when you go far enough, you meet new people. You network with new friends. They have the same path as you. And those people will help you win. And then if you continue to go down the path, you'll move beyond that friend group even and move to a different one. And this is just the way that I've seen it work. And so, you know, how do I vet friends? I mean, bro, I just look back then, I would just look for people who were aligned with what I was trying to do. But at this point now, I don't really consider new friends, like quote unquote new friends. First of all, I don't have time. Second of all, unless they have their own shit going on, I can't really trust what their motives are. So I don't do it. This is why, you know, you guys don't see me out doing a whole bunch of shit with a whole bunch of people because, you know, people want shit from you. You know what I mean? So that's just a reality of doing business. But I would tell you this, you're not going to be alone. The friends I have now, even though there's fewer friends, are much better friends because they understand what I'm trying to do, they understand my motivation, they don't judge me for what I'm trying to do. And when they can, they help me get where I'm trying to go. And your friends from high school and college and back in the day, they're not going to do that because they're not on the same path. It's not that they're mean, they don't know any better. And they're not interested in that shit because they're interested in other shit. So my answer is basically, let it organically happen. And then, you know, if you really want to vet who you become friends with, make sure they're on the same path as you, not necessarily in the same industry, but they have ambitions, they have drive, they're growing something. Because another thing about being friends with people that are not entrepreneurs is, they don't understand the time commitment that it takes. And they don't understand that you're working all the time. You know, the average per-- - We're happy out, we're bro. - That's right. And they don't understand, they take it personal. When you say, "No, I can't make it." They're like, "Oh, Andy thinks he's too good for us now." "No, bro, I'm working on my shit." And the life of an entrepreneur, you know, we see all these memes and all these people giving advice on the internet. But the reality is, is if you look at their life, the way they're making money is off of leads that they're getting on their fucking social media. They're not really building anything real. So these people don't know either, you know what I mean? And we have to be aligned with people, we have to be in the same boat with people in terms of where we're going for us to even get along and they have to understand it. So being friends with people who have their own shit going on, who don't take it personally whenever, you know, you can't call them back right away or you can't text them back right away. Like, all my friends, bro, like they might text me or I might text them. I might not hear back from them for a fucking week. You know what I mean? And I don't care, I don't, like nobody takes it personal. But if you do that to like one of your old friends back in the day, how do they react? Oh, dude, what the fuck? I text you, listen, man, no offense, but I ain't worried about you. I'm worried about what the fuck I got going on. And that's how I would, you know, that's how I run the play. And yeah, I mean, you're gonna lose people. You're gonna gain new people though, if you keep going. And those people are gonna help push you, they're gonna help you succeed. And they're not gonna put seeds of doubt in your mind, which is super important because this is hard enough as it is. I love it. I love it, guys. Andy, question number three. Andy, I'm 25 years old. I'm an entrepreneur. And I've been working for this company for about five going on six years. I've done well for myself so far. But I was having an honest conversation with my boss the other day about my goals in and outside of the company and where I saw myself in three to five years. There wasn't a super formal, like it wasn't a formal conversation, but a deep conversation in the list. Anyway, one thing he told me was that I lacked consistency. He said, I get these massive waves of forward progress followed by low tides of inconsistency and loss of focus. And that should be something I work on in order to move up in the company. Well, I kind of see what he means. I feel like I kill it when I'm up, but I don't see the downs or low tides like that. But I will take the feedback. My question is, what exactly can I do to build more consistency? Like I've never thought it was a skill or really looked at it like a skill. Now, anything on this will help. - For sure, dude. Look, let me give you my perspective as someone who has employed thousands of people and currently employs thousands of people. Look, I have this saying that I use with people and it goes like this, get hot, stay hot, okay? And the reason that you have to get hot and stay hot is because you never know when your opportunity is coming. You never know when we're sitting over there in the room and we're like, bro, we need the next person to do this and this and this. And I'm gonna tell you right now, we don't pick the motherfucker who's losing. We pick the person who's winning right now. And if we have someone who is inconsistent and they go up and they go down and they go up and they go down, we know that we can't pick that person because we know it's only a matter of a time before they fucking go down. So the things that organizations look for are people who can get hot and stay hot for a long time. And so when you say, oh, I'm crushing it when I'm up, you have to be up all the time if you wanna move up in your career. And how do you do that? Well, you have to systematically make sure that you win the day every single day and that you're operating at a high standard which is where the powerless system that I've developed that I've used for years and years and years, which you can get for free at episode 16 on the real AF audio feed is such an effective system because it doesn't allow for you to have dips. It doesn't allow for you to go down. And you have to figure out how you're going to stay at the top of the game so that when that conversation happens and that opportunity happens, which you don't know when that's gonna happen. You have no fucking idea. You have no idea, okay? It's no different than you dressing nice 50% of the time and like a slob 50% of the time and then expecting to meet someone that you wanna have a romantic relationship with. It's a crapshoot, okay? What if you meet that, that's your dream girl and you're dressed in your fucking flip-flops and you have to wash your hair and you look like shit, you're not gonna have a fucking chance, okay? She was there. Yeah, that's right and you fucking lost it because you didn't fucking brush your teeth that morning, all right? So we have to look at it like that. You don't know when the opportunity's coming and the opportunity is going to come at a time that you can't predict. So what does that mean? That means you have to be operating at high level all the time to get the opportunities and people who consistently move up as entrepreneurs inside of a company, they are very consistent and operating at a high standard because that's what the ownership and the management team is gonna look for. And a lot of people will say, oh, they pick their favorites. Yeah, they do. You know who their favorites are? The motherfuckers who win all the time. That's why they pick them because those are their favorites because they don't have to fucking remind them or they don't have to coach them. Like they don't have to say, oh man, you could do this and put this belief in them. They already believe in their fucking self starters and they're taking initiative and they're going hard on their own. Those are the people that win. Those are the people that end up in executive roles. Those are the people that get paid big money in organizations. And the guy who goes up and down and up and down and up and down and up and down, they end up getting frustrated and then they go to the next place and they go up and down and up and down and up and down and they don't work out there. And then they go up and down and up and down in the third place. And you know what they end up saying? These people all fucking hate me. Nobody likes me and they make up this shit that isn't even true when in reality, bro, at your performance, it's not consistent. So get hot, stay hot, be ready for the opportunity at all times and when the opportunity comes, you're going to be the first name out of the fucking mouth. And that's how that works. So, you know, you can't coast, you can't come in. You're not hiding. A lot of people think that they hide, right? Oh, they don't notice that I'm taking off a couple months. 'Cause you did really good. That's right. They get one fucking streak of winning and then they hang their hat on that forever. Like, bro, I don't give a shit that you won last year. What'd you do between then and now, right? What did you do yesterday? What are you doing now? What are you going to do tomorrow? And I have to predict what you're going to be able to do tomorrow based upon what you've been doing. And that's how the decisions are made. And, you know, people think all different kinds of things about how decisions are made. They think it's their gender or their race or their this or their that. Any company, any fucking company that wins picks the winners. They don't give a fuck who, what gender they are or if they're gay or if they're fucking, you know, different. They don't care. They don't fucking care. They want to win. Winning is hard. We're putting the best players on the field, the people that can be counted on. And that's how the fuck it works. It's very simple. And you could tell yourself any story you want to tell yourself, but any story other than that is bullshit. It's just the truth. So let me actually there's a consistency. I mean, because it's also, it sounds like a momentum issue, right? Like, so in European, what's harder? Is it harder to create the momentum or is it harder to keep it? Well, I think it's harder to create it. I think people, I think most people don't know that they can create it. I think most people are oblivious to the fact that they can create momentum. I think most people believe that momentum is this magical force that they sometimes have and they sometimes don't have. They think of it like the wind. Sometimes the wind's blowing, sometimes the wind's not blowing. And that's just not reality, bro. What actually creates momentum is forcing yourself through day after day after day in the beginning until you catch steam and then momentum carries you throughout the way. So as long as you're doing these things that you did, when it was hard, when you have the momentum, you're going to keep, keep the momentum going. And everything that you do, all winners understand this. They will do everything to keep momentum because it's so hard to create. Like they will miss dinners, they will miss vacations, they will fucking do whatever the fuck they have to do to keep the momentum going because they understand how hard it is to create if they're aware that they understand that it's created, not caught, right? So, yeah, it's harder to create it, but it's also, and it's much easier to maintain it. And as long as you're continuing to do the things that allowed you to create it whenever you have it, you move that much faster. So, but yeah, most people don't fucking understand that momentum is created. It's not some magical force that just exists, bro. Like, it's a result of your own actions. And once you start to understand that and take responsibility for creating the own momentum in your life, things get a lot easier. And it becomes easy to maintain that high standard. It becomes easier to do those things that, you know, keep you hot whenever the opportunity is going to show up. So, you know, that's that. I love it, man. - I love it, and get onto the boss here, man, just, huh? - I would say the boss is telling the truth, bro. Yeah, like, look, man, you may not feel that way, but they feel that way. And when I say stay high, I don't mean pretty good. I mean, you're fucking dominating, dude, because we want to win, right? And we have to have the best players in the best position. This is no different than NFL. Like, a business is the most competitive environment that you could possibly comprehend. It's more competitive than sports. It's more competitive than anything that exists because there's so many of them and it's low barrier to entry to get in. So you have to be undeniably better than everybody else. And that means you have to be good all the time. And if, as a company, if you do this, right, you go up and you go down, when you go down, somebody else is up and you lose your fucking shit. So that's how that goes. Another thing that can affect this is people's ego. You know, a lot of times when people do good and they hit one of those hot streaks, they start to think it's them. They don't think like, oh man, I did all these things and it got me to go to here. They think like, fuck, look how good I am, right? And so there's this natural up and down that looks like a wave that people have because of their ego. When they start at the bottom, they know they don't know shit. So they go to someone like a manager or a leader, they learn what to do. They do the thing perfectly, right? And then all of a sudden they start to produce results. And after they've been producing results for a while, usually what'll happen is they'll start to believe that they as a human being are just blessed with the Midas touch and they're great and they're amazing. And then they stop doing the things that put them there and they start to do other things because they believe that they're good. And this is the hubris of the ego. And what happens is they start to go back down and when they go back down, they don't know why they're going down. They're like, fuck, dude, I hit a slow streak. They don't realize it's a result of them not continuing to do the things that they did to get there. And so what happens is they go down, they go down, they go down, they get back to the bottom and they finally humble themselves and they say, fuck, I gotta get collected here and start over. So they go back to the basics and guess what happens? They start to go up again. And most people will follow this pattern of up and down and up and down and up and down and up and down over the course of their career thinking that it's just the momentum coming and going and coming and going. When if they truly paid attention, it's actually them believing in themselves a little too much as opposed to them believing that their current position is a result of the work that they did. You see what I'm saying? - Love it, man. - I love it. That's a fucking Monday for you guys, man. - Yeah. - How's the 80? That was three. - All right, guys, let's get out there. Let's kick ass. I see you tomorrow on CTI. (upbeat music) ♪ Ooh, now my jury box froze ♪ ♪ Fuck a bo, fuck a stove ♪ ♪ Count it millions in a cold ♪ ♪ Bad bitch, booty swole ♪ ♪ Gotta own bank roll, kang fold ♪ ♪ Dusted note ♪ ♪ Hit, shot, case, close, close ♪ [BLANK_AUDIO]