Rabbi Joey Soffer Shiurim
Shaare Teshuva-2
So good morning everybody. Today, September 5th, we are on page Vav in Share to Shuvah. We're in the Share to Nishon. We're up to letter "Hey". Okay, so on the right hand side, on the bottom. Got it? Yala. No, boy, Yala, come sit. Come, come. Page Vav. Page Vav, Yala. Vah shenit. Secondly, what's the case? (speaks in foreign language) Person who repeats the sin over and over. He makes the sin more than once. Much harder to make the tushubah. Why? (speaks in foreign language) Becomes like as if it was Mutar, but he did. Because he got so used to doing it, you don't even think about it anymore. And when you know you do something wrong, it's much easier to make the tushubah. You know you do something wrong, you feel bad, then think about it. When you don't think you did anything wrong, so why you make the tushubah? So if you repeat the sin over and over and over, it became like it's already, I don't think about it anymore. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) What do you mean? Yeah, you did, you spoke, you did the sins. Now you can. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) It became as if your permission, (speaks in foreign language) You shouldn't eat in your meaning. What? Of course you have the ability to do it. It became like it's regular, it became normal for you. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) You did the sin, you did it again, did it again. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) This is a very scary thought. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Guy who did the sin, let's say, right? And one of my second key machine says you did the sin and you repeated the sin and he got to the point where he became like you don't think about it anymore, they keep doing it. When you thought you're about to do the sin and for something happened on this and you weren't able to do the sin, (speaks in foreign language) you get negative credits as if you did the sin anyway because it became utah for you already. If the first time you wanna think that you would do the sin even the second time, right? Well it's not yet (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Your evil thoughts, God does not consider as actions. But when you made it something, and by the way, you're positive thoughts, the ones that you're going to want to do something good and you do get credit for those as if you did it. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) When I do them it's file later on, it's like I did it two times. One time that I thought about it and (speaks in foreign language) but Abirah doesn't do that unless, which is right, right? That you were (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) If you got to the point where Abirah is like (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) I'm going to bring evil upon these people. (speaks in foreign language) The fruits of their thoughts. (speaks in foreign language) This is what it's talking about. So about when you did the Abirah more than one time you already got used to it. And now you thought to do the Abirah, you didn't do it, you're gonna get credit if you did do it. (speaks in foreign language) Okay, (speaks in foreign language) So listen, (speaks in foreign language) Listen to what I just told you. Pay attention, (speaks in foreign language) This is very important statement. Look at the calf on the bottom. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Once I just told you previously that you did this (speaks in foreign language) and it becomes like its (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) is going to include now something even further. (speaks in foreign language) So you delay making (speaks in foreign language) You look at it like it's no big deal anyway 'cause really it became like it's (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Scary thought coming up, okay? And what he says, it's as if you are your renegade against the entire Torah. Let's see how he explained it, (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) There are many righteous people, (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Of course, everybody sings, there's no such thing. Even the righteous people sing, everybody sings. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Very famous (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) There's no such thing as human that works on this earth that doesn't have songs. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Once in a while, they get beat out, right? (speaks in foreign language) If he was lost, he lost the battle 'til he'd say that one day, okay? It happens, he lost, he's not gonna fall again. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) They go and they fight, and they're going to make the shiva right away. Like we saw yesterday, right? (speaks in foreign language) Don't be mad at that, right? The next day, forget it, we already made the shiva right after that. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Anyone who knows, he has a sin, and he's not careful from that, and he's not trying to prevent it from happening. (speaks in foreign language) Even if it's a small sin, something's wrong. (speaks in foreign language) Not one of the crazy ones. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Even though all the other (speaks in foreign language) You're not careful with it. But this one, you're not careful from this sin. (speaks in foreign language) Okay, we consider him like a muma, for one particular one, which the sin that he's not paying attention to. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) We count him with the posh im, right? Because his sin is too great to carry, (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Imagine you have a slave, guys, a servant, mister. (speaks in foreign language) Slave, mister of relationship. The mister says, please do me a favor, give me a cup of coffee. The slave tells the mister, you know what? I'll, I'm your slave. I'll do whatever you want, whatever, anything you want, but you know what? I can't stand the smell of coffee. Please don't ever ask me to get you a cup of coffee. (speaks in foreign language) I'll do whatever you want, I'm just, I'm just like, I'll do whatever you want. But coffee, please, I can't do that. Is this guy slave anymore? (speaks in foreign language) Is he slave? No, not a slave. The minute he has input into the conversation, it's not a slave. It's over. So you tell us, you'll listen. 612, I'm good with you. I'm good, 612, 612. This one, I like to eat, I like to eat, what do you want me to do? I like it, it's delicious. I like it. 612, I'm in, I'm in. (speaks in foreign language) No, you didn't write it to her. Up to you, pick a choice what you want. You'll miss you, man. You decided you don't want to have her. You don't want to be her, you know, every time. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) I'll do whatever you want, except for one thing. (speaks in foreign language) I broke the yoke of his master. (speaks in foreign language) That's it, now I'll do whatever you want, because he doesn't have a master anymore. (speaks in foreign language) This is what it's talking about, cursing anybody who does not want to uphold the Torah. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) The guy who's a reward is the one that's not willing to accept the whole 613, right? He says, one, I'm out, one, you're out, no. If you're out of one, you're out of 613, that's it. (speaks in foreign language) The proof in the pasuke is we're not, right? You're keen to do, uphold to do. (speaks in foreign language) Didn't say, right? That you're not gonna do them. It says, (speaks in foreign language) Fine, and therefore, even one. So if you have a sin that became commonplace for you now, you got used to it. So you wrote that one out of the book. You took your black Sharpie, and you opened this separate Torah, and you crossed that that sin, doesn't exist anymore. So that's it. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Now I'm not talking about a guy who sings and knows it's wrong. (speaks in foreign language) It's muta for me, it's muta. For you, it's muta, okay? A problem. For Guido, you're the same as Guido now. You and him? (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) You should know also that if you did the same thing 10 times already, (speaks in foreign language) You're careful on all the other mitzvah. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Does that mean? It means that you look at them as individual actions now, you see it in a minute. Look at (speaks in foreign language) on the bottom, (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) What the (speaks in foreign language) means over here, (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Even though it's careful from all the mitzvah. (speaks in foreign language) Even though it's one sin, it's the same sin 10 times. So is that one transgression? 10 transgression. So you know, we can account it as separate ones every single time. (speaks in foreign language) Okay, we'll see now why. (speaks in foreign language) But it's not, it's very scary. It's just like this. (speaks in foreign language) You guys, since the same sin 10 times, (speaks in foreign language) You're careful from all the other mitzvah. (speaks in foreign language) We look at that like separate sins. What is that? (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) The person who takes a vow to become a Nazir. Nazir? One of the things is now has to do, drink one. Not have anything to do with grapes. So he's a Nazir. He's growing his hair like he's supposed to. And you see here the guy, the Nazir, walking by the bar. And they tell him, (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) And he drinks. And they tell him, (speaks in foreign language) Again, they tell him, (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) I'll call Ahata Ahata at the end of finally when he stops. Every time he got warned, he's getting Makout for every single morning. Don't drink, he drank Makout. Don't drink, he took another sip. Makout again. Don't drink, (speaks in foreign language) Again. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) It's the same for every person who's eating anything that's assumed, right? Now, what does that mean? You see, individual sins every time I transgress, because I even know it's the same sin over and over. It's not one sin that I transgress. So how many times did you do it? 30, 30 sins, 50, 50, 10. How many times did you do the same sin? Over and over. You can't say no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. It's the same sin, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. It's not the same sin. Tora says not to do it. That's your warning. You did it? Penalty. You did it again? Penalty again. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) We see that, unfortunately, the generation is talking about (speaks in foreign language) What do we say about our generation? (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) People that are not careful with the things that even they know, not do that things they don't know yet, or they're not sure about. That clearly sins, they understand it's not allowed. They know that. (speaks in foreign language) They just ignore it their whole life. (speaks in foreign language) It became, because we came to talk for them. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Imagine if it was only one sin that they got accustomed to, only one. (speaks in foreign language) It's still going to affect their Nishama. It's going to affect their soul. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Even though they're very careful with other things. (speaks in foreign language) Some of them very strict in the careful with. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) It's supposed to be things that people are careful with. (speaks in foreign language) Again, (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) In many lotuses. And he gives examples of things that people do to make shibwa for no reason. He curses his friend. He mentions shim sha'man al-vatala. There he goes, right? (speaks in foreign language) He mentions shim sha'man in a place that's impure or his hands are not clean. Or he doesn't give sha'man al-vatala to the army when he asks him. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) I don't know what that word means. (speaks in foreign language) Is that word? (speaks in foreign language) He puts himself to be, he makes himself ashub that he makes people afraid of him. Fine. (speaks in foreign language) He's watching porn on the internet. (speaks in foreign language) That one is disaster. (speaks in foreign language) How much time do we waste when we could have been learning some Torah? And I don't mean when you're working. No, you're busy. That's not, that's not the Torah. When you're doing nothing. He's hanging around. How much do you do Torah? Scary numbers. Scary. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) I mentioned just a few, right? Because, you know, people get to pay attention, especially in this time of year. That's why we're learning this. We're gonna wake up our eyes a little bit. Just look around at what we're doing. Check in the introspection a little bit. Get prepared for your own kippur, (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) That's what he says. You wanna be a real bouncer, Chiva? (speaks in foreign language) Open a book, ledger, ledger, make a ledger. You know what I did today? This was, I did this in. This fits that, I rushed. I wasn't having a, I didn't pray properly. I rushed my (speaks in foreign language) I wasn't so honest with this guy in work today. I yelled at my wife. Whatever you wanna write, make your list. Make your list. And watch how fast those grows, and grows, all right? And you wanna, you wanna make tushuvah? Before you go to sleep every night, read the list. Head to the list every day, and read the list. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) There are many pathways, there are many steps, there are many ways to get the tushuvah. (speaks in foreign language) The greater your tushuvah, the greater level of tushuvah, the closer you can get the tushuvah, (speaks in foreign language) For every tushuvah, there's tushuvah. What does that mean? (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) There's a way to make tushuvah for specific tushuvah. (speaks in foreign language) It's not blanket tushuvah, there's specific sins that need specific type of tushuvah. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) That's the common characteristic for all tushuvah. All tushuvah has common characteristics, and then some sins have special things that need to be done, depending on the type of sin that it was. So the common characteristic, (speaks in foreign language) We doing admission of the sin, (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) I'm never doing this again. So I have to have first admission. (speaks in foreign language) Then I have to feel bad about it, regret it, all right? And then I have to say I'm never doing it again. Those are the three basic requirements for every type of sin. And then we'll see as we go along, different types of sin, they're like tushuvah. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) That's the just, Hashem forgives you. But you still have, you know, your clothes are still dirty. They didn't go to the cleaners yet, all right? See, you got dirty, you came to the party dirty. You went to the host, it looks like you're your shirt's dirty, what is your dirty for? You know, I'm sorry, I spilled the coffee on me on my way. Okay, I forgive you. Okay, I forgive you. Oh, he's not angry anymore, great. Shirts don't look, guys, they're clean. So you made tushuvah, I said I'm sorry tushm, no problem. I forgive you, they came to my house with my little dirty clothes, I forgive you. Okay, but you're close to dirty. So now you need specific tushuvah. So to get the kapara, the forgiveness, three steps, all right? Three steps are vidui harataa asivata hai, all the three steps you need. Vidui admission harataa regret asivata hai, I'm not doing it anymore. Hashem says no problem, you can come to my house dirty clothes. At the end of the day, you don't want to show up and show my image 120 with the dirty clothes. You got to make tushuvah here. So you got to go and send your shirt to the cleaners. So now we're going to figure out how to do that, okay. So he says, lean in there. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) All right, you can get kaparaa, you can forgive this, but you (speaks in foreign language) has that blemish still there. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) There is a way also to purify, (speaks in foreign language) to get that coffee (speaks in foreign language) and he's going to tell us how to do it. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Now this (speaks in foreign language) says like this, praise worthy is the person that Hashem looks at him and doesn't see an avon and he has nothing in his (speaks in foreign language) has nothing wrong. Now stop. We said before that there's no such thing as a person that works on this earth that doesn't sin. So how can it be that there's a person that Hashem looks at him and says, oh perfect, hundreds of fewer. There must be some kind of process to purify yourself as to be, because if you sin, you can't have clean (speaks in foreign language) but this person says great, there's people that have clean (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) You know, when you look at the size of the garment, when you put your laundry, you learn to load it to laundry. How much detergent does it take to clean the whole load? (speaks in foreign language) Not too much. Not so much, all right? (speaks in foreign language) Sometimes it comes out and that's (speaks in foreign language) Okay, no problem. Little lost still, right there? Right there, right there, one more time. One more time. Oh, perfect. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Please, (speaks in foreign language) Please, (speaks in foreign language) Please, come change, right? (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Praise worthy is the man that fears God. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) It's much easier (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) It's much easier to make (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Much easier. Once it gets stuck in your ways and you get used to things, it's very hard to change. Very hard. So, younger you are the better. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) You're still struggling to fight with your (speaks in foreign language) 'Cause remember, as you're building up, we said yesterday, right, that the weights that I use to build up my muscles to fight my (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) You're not your mind builds up my ability to fight up my (speaks in foreign language) I didn't build up my (speaks in foreign language) by fighting, I didn't build up my (speaks in foreign language) with my (speaks in foreign language) I didn't do it and I was sinning. So, I'm building my (speaks in foreign language) He's getting stronger and I'm getting weaker. Now, I'm old man already and he's a Josh and I can't fight him anymore, right? Yeah. (speaks in foreign language) What do you mean? - I was a guy's young, he has a (speaks in foreign language) much stronger for different (speaks in foreign language) whereas all he can make them (speaks in foreign language) That's true, but it's not the (speaks in foreign language) It's not the reason why. They have the ability, we still have the strength to fight you inside out, fight yourself. Now you don't have, you don't have to (speaks in foreign language) No, why they go, why they go away? Because you get used to it, you got used to it already. You got used to the sin, you know? Okay. Old man can't, I can share plenty of old man there and they're doing fine, don't worry. (speaks in foreign language) I'll worry about that. Okay. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Of course, every type of (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Tell you nothing, you have a chance to make this (speaks in foreign language) While as long as you're still breathing in this world, you can make this (speaks in foreign language) To the last minute, (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) You can make this (speaks in foreign language) Okay, so all that was interrupt by the way, okay? Now, we're gonna start to have a way to make (speaks in foreign language) We said before there were three stages, right? The first stage is, we said (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) So here we go. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) First principle of (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) Regret. (speaks in foreign language) You need to understand, (speaks in foreign language) You know that leaving God is bad for you. Moving yourself away from connection from God is bad for you. (speaks in foreign language) Not only is it bad for you, you're gonna get punished to this too. (speaks in foreign language) Not only that, you gotta pay for this too. It isn't free. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) You should be right away, you'd be fearful. It's tremble from the sword that's coming for the sins. (speaks in foreign language) You need to feel bad for what you did. (speaks in foreign language) What did I do, what did I do? (speaks in foreign language) How did I let myself do this? How did I not fear, right? That Hashem was standing right next to me when I made this sin. (speaks in foreign language) And I didn't pay any attention to all the rebuke from this sin and all the bad things that were gonna happen from this sin. (speaks in foreign language) I have many headaches. (speaks in foreign language) I had no mercy on my body. (speaks in foreign language) I didn't think about the fact that I'm going to pay an eternity for this one minute of pleasure that I wanted. I didn't think of that. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) You know who I gave that pleasure to? (speaks in foreign language) I'm like a person that steals and I rub and I eat and I'm satisfied. (speaks in foreign language) (speaks in foreign language) What's gonna happen when the judge catches me? He's gonna punch me in the face. (speaks in foreign language) I know that. I don't care. I want it. I want to eat it now. I want to enjoy it. (speaks in foreign language) This guy who's going to take this lechen, (speaks in foreign language) But it's sweet. Tastes good. You know it's stolen. It doesn't matter. (speaks in foreign language) What after that? (speaks in foreign language) You're gonna fill your mouth with, you know, boulders. (speaks in foreign language) Okay, (speaks in foreign language) Okay, we'll stop. (speaks in foreign language) Amen, amen. Have a great day.