What happened last time you were upset with someone? What upset you? Knowing what upset you is helpful. Usually the thing that most upsets us about others is what upsets us most about ourselves. If you’re pointing a finger at someone, you should look in the mirror and point it at yourself as well. Save yourself some trouble by taking a look at yourself first.
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New Book: The View From The Deck: Thoughts on Values, Vision, and Gratitude
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I have published a new book. It's called "The View from the Deck Thoughts on Values, Vision, and Gratitude." If you like morning motivation, you're going to love this book. You can find it on Kindle and in paperback form on Amazon, and the audiobook is coming soon. So check out "The View from the Deck Thoughts on Values, Vision, and Gratitude" on Amazon now. Want you to think about the last time you got upset at someone. Maybe you cut them off on friend of them. Last time you said, "I don't like that person. I don't like that thing that they're doing." I want you to think about what it was about them. What that thing was, that so upset you. This is a very important piece of information because it is possible. It may not be, but it is entirely possible the thing that most upset you about this person that you cannot stand is something that you yourself do. Not by coincidence, but because the thing that most upsets us and other people is the thing that we hate most about ourselves. So whatever it is that upset you about that person so much, you might want to take a look in the mirror and say, "Why was I upset about that?" That's something that maybe I do. Recently I saw someone make a post that was all about mental health and different neuro types and being accepting and all these different things. And I made a joke. It wasn't the right joke. It was a mistake. I apologize. Well because of the way my brain works, my own anxiety and my own neuro type, I get really anxious when there's conflict. And part of the anxiety is I want it to be resolved. I need to be resolved. I need someone to say, "Yes, I accept your apology or no go away. Let's never talk again." I need that closure and it done. And this person had no interest in engaging that conversation. Talked about emotional labor and whatnot. And so we did have closure. We're never talking again. Easy enough. But the thing is, the whole initial post was about accepting people's different mental states and neuro types and whatnot. But she didn't have the introspection to realize that the exact thing that she was encouraging people to do, she wasn't doing. Now, to be clear, I'm responsible for myself. Shouldn't have made the joke, I'm responsible for accident situation, and it did. But the fact of the matter is, there's irony as I watch this from the outside and say, "Wait a minute. What were you encouraging everyone else to do?" The same thing you didn't do. We all do it. I know I do it. I'm sure there's something you can point back in me and say, "Hey Michael, you're talking about yourselves right there. I bet that's the case." But I'm sharing this with you for your own insights. If you're pointing one finger at someone, you're pointing three fingers back. Use this little bit of insight to save yourself some trouble. I have published a new book called The View from the Deck, Thoughts on Values, Vision, and Gratitude. If you like morning motivation, you're going to love this book. A lot of the same concepts. The basic principle of the book is that I was coaching clients and they were telling me about their dream life and I was recognizing elements of their dream life in my everyday life and it made me realize there's things in my life that people are dreaming of and there's things in my life that the me of a few years ago would absolutely have given his right arm for and chances are you've got the same. So I took these concepts about values and what makes us do what we do. Vision, where we want to be in gratitude, appreciating the awesome things we have and put them together into one awesome book called The View for the Deck, Values, Vision, and Gratitude. You can find it on amazon.com. Just search for Michael Whitehouse, The View from the Deck, and get your copy today.
