The Season of Self Love
Recognizing Red Flags to Prevent Future Betrayals
🎙️ Episode Title: Healing Beyond Betrayal: Recognizing Red Flags to Prevent Future Betrayals
Welcome back to The Season of Self Love! I’m your host, Nyomi Banks, and in today’s powerful episode, we dive deep into our 'Healing Beyond Betrayal' series with a focus on Recognizing Red Flags to Prevent Future Betrayals. Have you ever ignored warning signs in a relationship, friendship, or even at work, only to face heartbreak later on? This episode is all about empowering you to spot the subtle (and not-so-subtle) behaviors that signal potential betrayal.
🌟 What to Expect in This Episode:
- A grounding guided meditation to center yourself
- Understanding the impact of betrayal on trust and self-esteem
- Identifying red flags in relationships and how to trust your instincts
- Practical tips for protecting your emotional well-being by setting healthy boundaries
- Encouragement to reflect on personal experiences and begin your journey to healing
Join us as we turn painful lessons into empowering knowledge, learning how to protect our hearts and foster deeper self-love. Remember—you are worthy of love and respect!
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- Duration:
- 23m
- Broadcast on:
- 09 Sep 2024
- Audio Format:
- mp3
This iHeart Radio Station is brought to you by Vitamin Water. We wear our work, day by day, stitch by stitch. At Dickies, we believe work is what we're made of. So, whether you're gearing up for a new project, or looking to add some tried and true work wear to your collection, remember that Dickies has been standing the test of time for a reason. The work wear isn't just about looking good. It's about performing under pressure and lasting through the toughest jobs. Head over to Dickies.com and use the promo code WorkWear20 at checkout to save 20% on your purchase. It's the perfect time to experience the quality and reliability that has made Dickies a trusted name for over a century. Welcome to the Season of Stuff Love Podcast. I am your host, Naomi Banks, and I am thrilled to have you join me on this transformative journey. You see, every day we dive into a powerful conversation about sub-discovery, healing, and empowerment. This podcast is brought to you by Axe, Naomi, an Elevate Me sub-discovery, where we believe that loving yourself is the first step to living a fulfilling life. You can expect insightful discussions, practical tips, and inspiring stories, plus we occasionally welcome special guests who will share their unique perspectives on self-love and personal life. So get comfy, grab your favorite beverage, and let's embark on this journey together. Because it's time to embrace the beautiful person that you love. So let's elevate our lives one episode of time. Now let's get started. Hello, my beautiful souls, and welcome back to the Season of Stuff Love Podcast. I am your host, Naomi Banks, and today we're diving deep into our heartfelt series, Healing Beyond Betrayal. This month we're focused on a topic that many of us find challenging, yet crucial. Today it's all about recognizing rag flags to prevent future betrayal. See whether you're faced with deception and relationship, friendship, or even professional environments. Today discussion is aimed at empowering you to spot warning signs, early and particularly emotional well-being. So before we get deep into this conversation, let's take a quick break. And when we return, we're going to talk about what's recognizing these rag flags. All right? It's your dirty goddess, Naomi Banks. You're on the Season of Stuff Love Podcast, and we'll be right back. Are you ready to transform your pain into power? Join us this September for the 30-day Healing Beyond Betrayal Challenge. From her to hope, starting September 1st, embark on a journey of healing and self-discovery. Each day, you'll receive empowering lessons, practical exercises, and supportive community connections designed to help you overcome the hurt of betrayal and reclaim your joy. Don't let Betrayal define your story. It's time to rise, heal, and rebuild a brighter future. Sign up today at the Season of Stuff Love Podcast.com. [MUSIC] Hey, my beautiful souls. This is your dirty goddess, Naomi Banks, and I am excited to share something special with you. Introducing my latest able world book, "Hilling Beyond the Betrayal", a journey of growth, empowerment, and renewal. In these 55 pages, I offer you insight, heartfelt stories, and practical worksheets, designed to guide you on your journey. So if you experience betrayal or you are seeking personal growth, this resource is made just for you. You see, it's time to reclaim your power and embrace renewal. So you can get your copy by visiting the Season of StuffLove Podcast.com. And as a thank you for being part of our community, use the code "HieldZeroNow" and check out to enjoy a 15% discount. So listen, burn on this journey together because you deserve to heal, growth, and thrive. Hey, it's your dirty goddess, Naomi Banks, and make sure you two need every Thursday night to act on your region via podcast. When we talk about everything, love, sex, relationship, culture, differences, and so much more, we're bridging the gap between them all, and we even talk about the spiritual uplifting. You need to stop by. Me and Darkcom might might as well as the BTG team. We have some amazing guests that come through. You're never enough. Just make sure you tune in Thursday night, 6 p.m. Pacific Standard Time. Go to xliammy.com and tell them Naomi sent you. Hey, hey, welcome back to the Season of StuffLove Podcast. I am your host, Naomi Banks. And we are continuing the conversation of our serious this month of healing beyond betrayal. And today we're talking about recognizing red flags to prevent future betrayals. But before we tackle today's heavy topic, let's center our sins with the crowded meditation. So wherever you are, I invite you to find a comfortable position, right? All right, so close your eyes. ♪♪ Now I want you to take a deep breath in through your nose. ♪♪ Filling your lungs with fresh air. ♪♪ I want you to hold it for a moment. Now exhale slowly through your mouth. ♪♪ Releasing any teaching that you have been. ♪♪ Now I want you to imagine a womb in protective light. ♪♪ Developing you, shielding you from the past hurts. ♪♪ Now with each inhale, I want you to draw in calm and peace. ♪♪ Now with each exhale, I want you to let go of any doubt and pain. ♪♪ And I want you to silently repeat after me. ♪♪ I am worthy of love and respect. ♪♪ Now I want you to hold on to this feeling of safety and self-love. All right? ♪♪ So when you are ready, I want you to gently open your eyes. Filling the refreshed and prepared to engage with today's topic. ♪♪ All right, thank you for joining me in that moment in that time. And if you're new here to the Season of Self-Love podcast, this is something that we do every day, Monday through Friday here on the Season of Self-Love podcast, where we help center ourselves before we get into the topic at hand. So now let's explore the vital signs that can help us to steer us clear of future headaches, right? All right, so you know all this month, we are talking about healing beyond betrayal. And so what I first want to talk about is understanding betrayal, and I know we spoke about it before, and I want to continue to let you know and explain to you again what betrayal is. betrayal is that word that often brings a shield to our spine, right? You see, it can manifest in so many different ways, from a partner's infidelity to a friend's dishonesty or even betrayal within our families. Now each act of betrayal chips away at our trust and can deeply affect our self-esteem. So now the whole thing is, what are red flags? What are red flags? How do we know that something is happening, right? Red flags are warning signs, subtle or overt behaviors. There's something in a relationship that isn't right. Y'all know what that is. You know, this can range from a persistent dishonesty to emotional manipulation or even more overt acts like disrespecting your boundaries. You see, ignoring these sounds often stems from a deep-seated hope that things will change or from fear of confronting the truth. And I can raise my hand and say that I ignored a lot of the red flags. A lot of the red flags. You know that saying that? You have to believe it once somebody shows you who they are, trust them, believe it. Yeah. No matter who they are, now I pay more attention now than I did before. So what I want to do is I want to give you some tips on how to recognize these red flags. So to better protect ourselves is very crucial to trust our instincts and recognize pattern of behavior that constantly feel wrong. You see, open communication about your feelings and boundaries is key. And remember, journaling can be powerful to document and reflect on these red flags, helping you to process and acknowledge your intuition. So now what I'm going to do is I'm going to give you a list. I'm going to give you a list of what these red flags are. And I'm going to give you an example. So I'm reading this. You're reading this to you right now, right? I want you to be like, check off. That's it. Yep, that's it. Yep, that's it. All right. All right, so the first one is inconsistent behavior. So if you notice your partner, they're frequently late coming in from work or often avoids giving Pacific details about their day. That's a red flag. I love those, especially in my first marriage. I can laugh at it now, but yes. Another one is the lack of transparency. That's when they start to become secretive about their phone or changing their passwords or refusing to share it even when you act nicely. Another one is emotional withdrawal. That's when your partner used to be enthusiastic about spending weekends together but now prefers to spend time alone or with friends instead. Another red flag is defensiveness. See, when you ask about their new late night outings, they snap back like, "Why do you want to know? Why do you always ask me some questions?" Whether they're addressing the concerns or the question that you just asked. When you're gut-filling, you're gut-filling. That's when you have an uneasy feeling whenever they go out. And even there's no concrete evidence of anything suspicious. A change of routine. When your partner suddenly, you know, stars taking long business trips with little notice and provides vague reasons for those changes of privacy. Yeah. They begin locking their phone in a way that they never did before and quickly change the subject if you bring it up. This missile of concerns, when you express worry about their behavior and they brush it off by saying, "You're being paranoid or making you feel insecure or voicing your feelings." I think last week, myself and Dr. Will, we talked about this gaslighting thing. That's a part of gaslighting. Emotional instability. They go from being affectionate one moment to very distant and irritable the next, leaving you confused about what might have triggered the change. And the next one is change in infection. This iHeart Radio Station is brought to you by Vitamin Water. We wear our work, day by day, stitch by stitch. At Dickies, we believe work is what we're made of. So, whether you're gearing up for a new project or looking to add some tried and true work wear to your collection, remember that Dickies has been standing the test of time for a reason. Their work wear isn't just about looking good. It's about performing under pressure and lasting through the toughest jobs. Head over to Dickies.com and use the promo code Workware20 at checkout to save 20% on your purchase. It's the perfect time to experience the quality and reliability that has made Dickies a trusted name for over a century. They used to be very loving and engaged, but now they seem indifferent to your physical affection and avoid intimacy altogether. In the next one, involvement with new friends. They slowly start hanging out with new group of friends but refuse to introduce you to them. I don't share much information about them. Yeah. That's one. Giving you some of the rare flags and some of the examples. You know, you have to make sure that to recognize these flags early and trust your instincts. Look for the patterns and maintain open communication about the boundaries. Alright, so right now I want you to just take a moment to listen to a letter that a listener wrote in to mean. And her name is Jessica. And she writes, "Dear Naomi, I've been an avid listener of your podcast for months and it's been a beacon of light during some of my darkest times. And today I felt compelled to share my story, which I hope might resonate with someone else out there. I recently ended a relationship that in hindsight was riddled with red flags. I simply didn't see and I chose to ignore. I started out wonderfully, but so I thought he was charming, attentive, and swept me off my feet. But slowly things started to change. He became distant. His sweet messages became sporadic. And I called him in several lives about where he was or who he was with. But despite these signs, I explained away each incident. I made excuses. I told myself he was just busy with work or stress. I didn't want to confront him or the issue because I was afraid of what I might find. When friends and family expressed concern, I defended him, convinced them that they misunderstood his intentions. And the final straw came when I discovered that he had been seeing someone else. It was a painful moment of truth, but it also forced me to face the reality that I had been avoiding. I realized that I had allowed my fear of being alone to cloud my judgment and override my intuition. So reflecting on this, I see how important it is to trust my instincts and not ignore the warning signs. You know, your episode on "Healing Beyond Be trail" came at a perfect time for me. And I'm learning to rebuild my confidence and ensure that this doesn't happen again. Thank you for empowering words and for fostering a community that helps each of us grow from such experience. Thank you so much, Jessica. All right, thank you, Jessica, for sharing your heart with us. It's very courageous to step towards healing. And your story is so powerful and it's a reminder of why we must heed the red flags and relationships. So listeners, you see how that affected Jessica, how long it went. All right, now I'd like to turn this discussion over to you, our listeners. And here are a few questions based on Jessica's experience. I encourage you to reflect on these and share your thoughts either on social media or by sending us an email. And your insights are so invaluable to our community. Number one, what red flags have you experienced in your past relationships that you initially overlooked? The next question, how did you come to recognize these warning signs and what changed for you once you did? My next question, what advice will you give to someone who feels that they are currently ignoring potential red flags? And my last question, how do you balance trust with the awareness in your relationship to prevent overlooking red flags? So let's open up this conversation and support each other in learning and growing. You're sharing your experience not only helps you but can also guide others in similar situations. Well, you know we have the Season of Stuff Love podcast, Facebook group, as well as you know you can always send us an email at Season of Stuff Love at gmail.com. So this week we have some more amazing guests that are coming on that have amazing stories. I'm telling you one is going to truly rock you off of your block. It really is. Yeah, but I truly have been enjoying this whole series and I know you heard the commercial earlier that we do have a e-book. It's called Healing Beyond the Betrayal, a journey of growth, empowerment and renewal. And it's amazing 55 pages sharing different strategies, my story, worksheets and all of that good thing. And right now we are doing a very special just for listening to this podcast right now is just to put in healed H E A L D 0 9. When you do a check out just go to the Season of Stuff Love podcast, hit that link and it is in you right there. As well as I know that we are a little bit for probably 10 or 12 days, not exactly know. But whatever day it is that we of the challenge that we have right now in the 30 days of Healing Beyond the Betrayal challenge, you can always start at day one. You can always start at day one. It's a free challenge. You can go to the Season of Stuff Love podcast.com as well right there and you can join in that. You can join in there and join the Facebook page right there. Right there. All right. So again, I want you to reflect on these questions and I want you and just let's continue to support each other in our journeys of Stuff Love and Healing. And I want you to remember that you are not alone in recognizing red flags. It's a step towards healthier and more fulfilling relationship. All right. So as we wrap this show up, all you remember that recognizing red flag is just not about spotting them in others. It's also about acknowledging and addressing the areas within ourselves that may ignore the signs. You see, this process is about fostering Stuff Love and ensuring that we set but helping boundaries that honor our worth. So I encourage you to take some time after this podcast to reflect on your personal experience. Again, have you ever overlooked red flags? How did it impact your life? Sharing your story can be incredible healing and can help others feel less alone in their journey. Well, again, thank you so much for joining me today. Here on this is the Stuff Love podcast. And don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review our podcast and share it with anyone who you might find in health. Again, until the next time as we continue to explore a more empowering topic designed to enrich your journey. So until then, keep loving yourself, keep growing, and remember, you have the power to change your life for the better. Have a good one. ♪ Thank you for joining us on this journey of discovering and empowerment here at the Season of Stuff Love podcast. Remember, embracing Stuff Love is a continuous journey, and we're so glad to have you with us. So if you enjoy today's episode, please leave us a review. And don't forget to join our community on Facebook at Season of Stuff Love. Connect with a like-minded individual who are also on their journey. Now, if you have any questions or topics that you would like for us to explore, we'd love to hear from you. Email us at Season of Stuff Love at gmail.com and let your voice be heard. So until next time, take a moment for yourself. Today, and remember, you are worthy of love, joy, and all the beautiful things that life has to offer. ♪ ♪ We wear our work, day by day, stitch by stitch. At Dickies, we believe work is what we're made of. So whether you're gearing up for a new project or looking to add some tried and true work wear to your collection, remember that Dickies has been standing the test of time for a reason. Their work wear isn't just about looking good. It's about performing under pressure and lasting through the toughest jobs. Head over to Dickies.com and use the promo code WorkWear20 at checkout to save 20% on your purchase. It's the perfect time to experience the quality and reliability that has made Dickies a trusted name for over a century.