The Season of Self Love

Healing Trauma Caused by Betrayal

Welcome back to The Season of Self-Love podcast! I’m your host, Nyomi Banks, and today, we’re diving into one of the most profound and transformative topics: Healing Trauma Caused by Betrayal. In this episode, we’ll explore the deep emotional wounds that betrayal can leave behind and the steps you can take to start healing those scars.We begin with a guided meditation to help center and prepare you for the journey ahead. Together, we'll discuss the complex emotions that betrayal stirs up, how it impacts our relationships and self-perception, and the importance of setting healthy boundaries post-betrayal. I'll also share a personal story of how I navigated betrayal and found my way back to peace and self-love.This episode is part of our ongoing series, Healing Beyond Betrayal, and if you’re participating in our 30-Day Hurt to Hope Challenge, today’s focus is on writing a forgiveness letter—an empowering step towards healing not just others but also yourself.We’ll also delve into Chapter 3 of my new eBook, Healing Beyond Betrayal: A Journey of Growth, Empowerment, and Renewal, where we discuss practical tips and strategies for rebuilding your life after betrayal.Whether you’re grappling with recent betrayal or past wounds, this episode offers a safe space to start your healing journey.🌟 Join us Monday through Friday as we continue to explore self-love, healing, and personal growth.
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Broadcast on:: 05 Sep 2024
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Their workwear isn't just about looking good. It's about performing under pressure and lasting through the toughest jobs. Head over to Dickies.com and use the promo code "Workwear20" at checkout to save 20% on your purchase. It's the perfect time to experience the quality and reliability that has made Dickies a trusted name for over a century. Welcome to the season of self-love, your daily dose of inspiration and encouragement. I'm your host Naomi Banks, and I am thrilled to be here with you today. This podcast is brought to you by Axe Naomi and Elevate Me Self-Discovery. Are you ready to elevate your mindset and embrace the power of self-love or have you come to the right place? Each day we'll dive into topics that will empower and inspire you on your journey towards self-discovery and personal growth. Whether you're looking to cultivate healthy relationships, boost your confidence or find balance in your life, this podcast is here to support your every step of the way. We believe that self-love is the foundation of living and for feel and joy for life. And together we explore practical tips and insightful interviews and transformative stories that will leave you feeling inspired and lonely. So join me Monday through Friday as we embark on this daily adventure of self-love. Tune in to the season of self-love podcast to start your day on a positive note and discover the limitless potential within yourself. Hey, my beautiful souls, and welcome back to the season of self-love podcast. I am your host Naomi Banks, and we are here today to guide you through another TV personal, transforming journey as part of our ongoing series, Hill and Beyond betrayal. You see, this month we are diving into the painful, yet enlightening world of healing trauma caused by betrayal. And today it's just you and me as we explore the deaths of betrayal in the past of healing. So before we start this journey, let's take a quick break and then we'll return, we're going to get into the journey, all right? It's a dirty guy that's never been here on the season of self-love podcast, and we'll be right back. Are you ready to transform your pain into power? Join us this September for the 30-day healing beyond betrayal challenge from her to hope. Starting September 1st, embark on a journey of healing and self-discovery. Each day, you'll receive empowering lessons, practical exercises, and supportive community connections, designed to help you overcome the hurt of betrayal and reclaim your joy. Don't let betrayal define your story, it's time to rise, heal, and rebuild a brighter future. Sign up today at the season of self-love podcast.com. [MUSIC] Hey, it's your girl, you got us, Naomi Banks, and make sure you tune in every Thursday night to Acts Naomi bridging the gap podcast. When we talk about everything's love, sex, relationship, comfort, differences, and so much more, we're bridging the gap between them all, and we even talk about the spiritual uplifting. You need to stop by. Me and Doc are might might as well as the BTG proof. You have some amazing guests that come through. You'll never know. Just make sure you tune in Thursday night, 6 p.m. for 6 p.m. for 6 p.m. for 10 p.m. Go to ActsLam.com and tell them Naomi Banks. [MUSIC] Welcome back to the season of self-love podcast. I am your host, Naomi Banks. In this month, it's all about healing beyond betrayal. And today, today we're talking about healing trauma, healing trauma caused by betrayal. [LAUGHTER] Retrial, right? Again, every day we're going to start by when we're talking about these topics, we're going to talk about understanding betrayal, right? But before we do that, let's go into a nice guided meditation just to center us. Center us before we get into the topic of your hand. Look, I got a little time tied there. All right, so let's take a moment. All right. I want you to find a comfortable position and close your eyes. I want you to take a deep breath in through your nose, deep inhale. I want you to hold it for a moment. And in your head, I want you just to count the form of your breath. And in that moment, I want you just to realize all the pain that you've been feeling. Now I want you to exhale that pain out through your mouth. Yes. Now I want you to take another moment, and I want you to inhale again through your nose. I want you to feel your chest to well arise. And I want you to hold it again for another four seconds. Two, three, four. And again, I want you to exhale all the pain, all the tension, all the resentment. I want you to release that out. Now I want you to do one more deep breath in. And when you deep breath in, I deep breath in. I want you to bring all the positivity and all the light, and all the lessons that have been learned from this betrayal. Now I want you to hold it for four seconds, one, two, three. Now I want you to release through your mouth slowly. And I want you to release all of it, all of that toxicity, all of that effort, all of that betrayal, all of that resentment. Now I want you to roll your shoulders back. Yes, I want you to tilt your head to the right, to the left. Put your arms in front, back them a little bit. Yes, now I want you to gently open your eyes and come back. Ooh, that's a little different, huh? That's a little different. Yeah, I want to take y'all back to the beginning. And at the beginning, we was doing stretches and all that stuff doing a meditation. But if you're new here to the season of Sefla podcast, this is something that we do every day, Monday through Friday. It's the help to center ourselves and relax ourselves before we get into the topic at hand. And today, we're talking about the healing trauma caused by betrayal. Again, this month is all about healing beyond the betrayal. Now, and do we have this series where we have amazing guesters coming in, as well as our resident therapist, Dr. Will? But also, we have a 30-day hurt to hold healing beyond the challenge that every day there is a prompt, every day there is an exercise that helps you to get through your betrayal. And even though we're probably on day five, a day six, one of them, you can still start from day one today if you pick it up today. No matter when you're listening to this, you can start, you can start it over and over again. As much as you feel, that's best for you. As well as my Eva, healing beyond betrayal. Again, it's a journey, a journey of growth, empowerment, and renewal. Yes, it is. All right, let's start talking about this topic right here, understanding betrayal. I know that we speak about understanding betrayal every day, and we're going to continue it until you understand what betrayal is to you. betrayal is a word that is often brings a flood of what emotions, anger, sadness, confusion. It could come from anywhere, a partner, a friend, an Eva and a family member. You see, each act cuts deeply, affecting our ability to trust and love. And honestly, it affects us in different ways depending on where the betrayal comes from. Earlier this week, I shared a personal story, and I'm going to share another one. A few years ago, I experienced a betrayal that shipped my foundation. Where a close friend shared something, I told them in confidence. It was a harsh lesson in trust, but it also opened my eyes to the emotional trauma and betrayal that it can cause. You see, and with this trauma, it isn't just the emotional, it's deep, and it's real, and it can linger, and it can affect on how we interact with others. And how we view relationships. And I remember this Pacific, the way that I felt with from the betrayal. And let me tell you this, I'm still in connection with this person. I'm still very much a dear friend to her, as I know that she is to me. I understood the process of what she was going through. I understand what she was at in that moment. I remember after I felt that certain betrayal from her, I remember speaking about it right then and then. I didn't let it fester into me. Well, not that long. I think I didn't say anything that day that it happened, but I think like the next day, yeah, I think it's the next day or the next day after when her and I was alone. And I spoke to her about it. And she was very open to receiving it, and that's why I knew that what was going on that weekend, that that was a person or a space that she really wasn't comfortable with. I knew what she was going through, because we had just had a conversation earlier that week. So even within that betrayal that happened for me that she did to me, I knew at that moment that it wasn't about me, but I knew that I had to disconnect from myself in that period of time. I think earlier this week, I spoke about another situation or issue that someone had betrayed me and I cut them off and blocked them, brought them, did all of that, because I didn't allow myself, I was more mad at myself than anything. I felt like that was a betrayal to myself that I did, because I saw all the signs from that person, not that that person was a bad person, but that they knew by looking at this person, that they wasn't in a part of a healing process at that time. They were going through turmoil with their self. So instead of me looking at that and understanding that what they were doing in that moment, it wasn't about me, I was just a person standing in a way that either triggered their emotion, reminded them of who they are or who they wanted to be or how they wanted to feel. I don't know, that wasn't my business even though you say, "Well they made it your business because they did that." Owning a rental property sounds like a dream, collect a rent and relax. It is until you realize how much work goes into getting it ready. First, you need to conduct market research to understand local rental trends and determine a competitive rent price, then there's cleaning, staging, repairs and hiring a professional photographer. Next, develop a marketing strategy, list the property on rental sites and schedule countless showings. Sound complicated? We wear our work, day by day, stitch by stitch. Dickies, we believe work is what we're made of. So whether you're gearing up for a new project or looking to add some tried and true workwear to your collection, remember that Dickies has been standing the test of time for a reason. The workwear isn't just about looking good, it's about performing under pressure and lasting through the toughest jobs. Head over to Dickies.com and use the promo code Workwear20 at checkout to save 20% on your purchase. It's the perfect time to experience the quality and reliability that has made Dickies a trusted name for over a century. Again, again, now if you hadn't listened to the show that I earlier this week, it was called Finding Forgiveness, that's up. That is what is on Finding Forgiveness, if that's up. I shared that story, but I knew through the process of everything that someone did to me of a sense of betrayal that I felt from them, I had to learn to forgive. It wasn't easy, and remember what I said earlier just a few minutes ago about depending on what the betrayal is and who is from in the depth of the betrayal. So this friend, this friend right here, it was, let me tell you this, and this is one of the things that I came to understand, especially through my healing process. I've always thought that I was an exception to the rules. What do you mean, Naomi? I always thought that I was an exception to the rule, meaning that when loved ones and friends tell me something about somebody else that they don't like or that they have done something to, I thought because they were sharing that information with me that they were not dare to do that to me. That's what I thought. That was a piece of, I thought I know that they ain't going to do it to me because they telling me what they are already doing. So I know that ain't going to do it to me, but guess what? No, no, laugh about it now because you already know, if you, if you, if someone is talking to you about somebody, know that they are talking about you to someone else. Oh, I believe that is so true right now, but before, no, I thought I was an exception to the rule because remember, I was dare asking. I was dare, everybody can talk to me and tell me what they did. You know, I'm helping everybody, but look at you know, Steve, they talk about you too. And I didn't know that. I really didn't, but I know if that's called, I don't even know. I'm not, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not going to bring this up in another conversation and I'm going to ask him, look, I thought, and I want to see what he said about me. What he diagnosed me with, but for real, like I was, I really thought that I was an exception to the rule. But I'm not, I'm not, but what my exception to the rule can be for me is understanding a different perspective, not for them, but for myself, meaning that how I allow that betrayal to affect me and my peace and how I move forward, does that make sense? Yes, again, what hurt I went through, it was a little, it was more shocking to me because I'm like, girl, now for years you and her and this girl talk about everybody, you can tell her, be that way to other people and come back and say, so why don't you think she wasn't doing that to you? But see, the difference is that when I heard it, I went straight to her. I didn't go to nobody else. So that's how when people know, well, Naomi, she, I didn't go talk about nobody behind your back because what I said to you, know that I said to somebody else. So they ain't gonna ever say what she said, because you were like, oh, yes, she already told me that. I'm not talking about nobody behind their back. If anything, I will use your story as an example. And if they don't know you personally, you got a facetious name. But if they know you personally, yes, it'll be factual. But it would be a learning tool that you've all, I've already spoken to you about. And if it's real deep and you don't want me to share with nobody, I won't. I won't. I will keep secrets. But if you ain't asking me, I'm just, you know, always say something. But most of the time it's just like, well, I don't want nobody, no, then it stays between you and I always. It won't be shared unless I talk and say, you know, like, can I share this with somebody or if it's the only, but if you ask me, no, I don't say nothing. But that was a part of that betrayal. And I just take a break from it and I went straight to it, acknowledge it. I was hurt for a minute, but not more from her. I was hurt from myself because I thought that I was an exception to the rule. And so it allowed me to heal quickly. It allowed me to heal quickly and to the thing is, let me, let me be honest. I had already been going through my healing process. I was deep down deep into my spiritual healing, my mental emotional healing. I was deep in it. But I mean, deep in it, I was meditating doing all of those things so I kind of knew that it wasn't about me, that it was more about her. And so for me, that healing of that trauma, of that betrayal, one, it allowed me to say, okay, there I am not accepted, I am not an exception to that rule. To all this, what it means when it's saying in four agreements, don't take it personal. It's not about you. Because I've already saw how she was moving in what she was doing, but she also did. So even in that change, that exchange that we had after she did what she did, and I spoke to her, I came to her mean and evil with it, I led that conversation in love. Because I knew what type of woman that she was and I knew that she was a phenomenal woman just going through some fucked up shit. And see, a lot of times, a person can be phenomenal and I'm going off the script right now. Sometimes a person could be a phenomenal person. And just in that moment or as thesis, could be going through some fucked up shit that calls them to act a certain way. They could have been a went through some betrayal on the other side of things and not knowing how to deal with it. And so they go to the next person who they think maybe they're healed or whatever. And so I'm just going to spew that on them. I don't know if you heard the show on Monday with Dr. Will when we were talking about understanding the mental aspect of betrayal, where Dr. Will talked about when you go through a betrayal aspect and many times that you kind of do something different than what you as a person would do. Remember, I shared a story about my first husband cheating on me. And instead of me leaving the process, I was going to attack. Anything that's too wrong didn't make a right because I felt well, never achieved. But let me say this, I'm not blaming this man for the choices that I made. But I understood what Dr. Will said is that when you do go through betrayal, you start to do things that are not aligned with yourself, because now you don't even trust yourself. You don't even trust your judgment or what you're doing, because you think how did I ever get into this situation? Y'all understand what I'm saying? So when that, yeah, so y'all know me. I can keep going on and on and over the story, we'll be here for two hours, two hours. But with this, this series, I love it. I do. Like I said, we have so many things going on with this series that's combined with this. And I talked earlier in the top of the show about our 30-day challenge. And I want to speak a little bit about it right now, because today is day five of the challenge. And if you are listening to it in real time, it's a 30-day challenge that we haven't started on September 1st, okay? And if you are listening after September 1st or even years after this, and I'm just going to put it out there, is that you can start this any day, today could be your first day, today can be your first day. Now in real time, I'm talking about, today is day five and a challenge from our hurt to hope 30-day challenge. Day challenge, it involves writing of forgiveness, like, you see, this isn't just about forgiving those who wronged us, but it's also about forgiving those who wronged, it's about forgiving ourselves. I shared this earlier in a previous show about when owning a rental property sounds like a dream, collect a rent, and relax. That is, until you realize how much work goes into getting it ready. First, you need to conduct market research to understand local rental trends and determine a competitive rent price, then there's cleaning, staging, repairs, and hiring a professional photographer. Next, develop a marketing strategy, list the property on rental sites, and schedule calendar three times, or if you want to take the hard work off your rental to do list, our job is complicated because it should be, we handle everything from marketing and showing your property to screening tenants and preparing the lease. Our best in class property management professionals take care of your property as if it were our own, from rent collection to maintenance coordination, all for one flat monthly fee. Go to runnerswarehouse.com for a free rental analysis to find out how much your home can rent for. Or call 303-974-9444 to speak with a rent estate advisor today. Because from now on, the only thing you need on your to-do list is to call runners warehouse. We wear our work, day by day, stitch by stitch. At Dickies, we believe work is what we're made of. So whether you're gearing up for a new project, or looking to add some tried and true workwear to your collection, remember that Dickies has been standing the test of time for a reason. After workwear isn't just about looking good, it's about performing under pressure and lasting through the toughest jobs. Head over to Dickies.com and use the promo code Workwear20 at checkout to save 20% on your purchase. It's the perfect time to experience the quality and reliability that has made Dickies a trusted name for over a century. About 12, 13 years ago, when I was pregnant, I was on bare risk the whole entire time. And through that entire time that I was on bare risk for the whole entire nine months. I had cysts and fibroids and the cysts were the size of a bank spot and steady growing along with my daughter, the fetus that was in. So I had to be on bare risk, couldn't do anything, nothing. And I remember I could do nothing but sit and think nine months. So I created a prayer closet and within that prayer closet, I remember going through my emotions and things in life, you know, asking God to forgive me. But then in the process, like now you need to start writing all the people that you need to forgive and all the people that you need to ask for forgiveness from. And what I did was the people that I needed to get forgiveness from, I called each and every one of them. Not that I did anything wrong to them, I'm going to tell you how what my forgiveness was for them is because once I got into the adult industry, I kind of blocked them out emotionally. I blocked them out emotionally. I didn't allow them to continue to see me who is this woman, this little girl that grew up. Because in that moment, in the beginning of that career, when I got into the adult industry, there was nothing but shame that I had on me, so I couldn't allow them to see nothing past that shame, that shame, that it was like a mirror, not a mirror, but a shade that was in front of me, a wall that you can see through me. But it wasn't me. It wasn't the person who they grew to love. I would have the same attitude. I didn't have any of those, I was like in protective mode at all times, and I knew that and I felt that because even in the conversations that I heard behind my dad, I'm like, that's not even me. But see, I had started to change and what I mean is changes that shade had came on up and down, and this has blocked all of them, majority of them, and so I wasn't being my real self. And it was a lot of them that understood exactly what I meant and talked about, and it was a form that did not understand what I was talking about. But I was able to ask them for their forgiveness to not matter. But then I sat down and I wrote a forgiveness letter to myself. And I still had that forgiveness letter to this day, it's just packed away in storage. And when I do find it, when I go back to my storage and I find it, I don't care what day or year it is, I am going to take that letter and I'm going to post it. Because I remember I used to read that letter for a good year and a half. I used to read that letter every day to myself because I needed to forgive myself, because a lot of things that I put myself through that I've betrayed myself with. So I knew I needed to forgive myself. And when I say write down your feelings and express what's in your heart, man. When I say that it is a very powerful step towards your healing. Because that was a very powerful step towards my healing, especially towards those ones that I felt did me wrong. So I was able to understand a lot of things. So I encourage you to share your experiences with this challenge, whether you're on social media, email, by sharing your incredible healing, it can help others to feel less alone. Again, that is why I did this series. Because I know first hand how I allow my betrayal to stop me in my tracks. Owning a rental property sounds like a dream, collect a rent, and relax. That is until you realize how much work goes into getting it ready. First, you need to conduct market research to understand local rental trends and determine a competitive rent price. Then there's cleaning, staging, repairs, and hiring a professional photographer. Next, develop a marketing strategy, list the property on rental sites, and schedule the showings. Sound complicated? Runners Warehouse is here to take the hard work off your rental to-do list. Our job is complicated because it should be. We handle everything from marketing and showing your property to screening tenants and preparing the lease. Our best in class property management professionals take care of your property as if it were our own, from rent collection to maintenance coordination, all for one flat monthly fee. Go to runnerswarehouse.com for a free rental analysis to find out how much your home can rent for. Or call 303-974-944 to speak with a rent estate advisor today. Because from now on, the only thing you need on your to-do list is to call Runners Warehouse. We wear our work, day by day, stitch by stitch. At Dickies, we believe work is what we're made of. So, whether you're gearing up for a new project, or looking to add some tried and true workware to your collection, remember that Dickies has been standing the test of time for a reason. The workware isn't just about looking good. It's about performing under pressure and lasting through the toughest jobs. Head over to Dickies.com and use the promo code Workware20 at checkout to save 20% on your purchase. It's the perfect time to experience the quality and reliability that has made Dickies a trusted name for over a century. If it wasn't for a few weeks ago when I went back and I listened to Until Through Soul, I was like, "How did you go through this healing process? How did you truly go sit on this platform, on this podcast that says self-love, the season of self-love, when you, when somebody say a person's name, a person's name, you get so upset and irritated you close off. How are you going to be able to tell them that? I ain't going to be able to teach them any of that when you, you can't even get past the betrayal that's been done to you." When I say God the Spirit be working, it be working on me. It be working on me. When I'm old, sweet, meditation, whatever, I'm going to walk down the street, it hit me in my head like see there it is. I never also, the amazing guest that's on this month, what's each one of these guests that I'm bringing on, their stories are amazing. Their stories are amazing and just to see a glimpse of their life and how they came through betrayal and how they're using that betrayal as power to help others. It's amazing. My prayer is just you all, the listeners here, all the things in the stuff that you are able to connect with them in a way that it will help to inspire, encourage you to also heal beyond that, that you can heal from the trauma that was caused by betrayal, that you will use the resources that are given to you whether it is to talk with Dr. Will, make up 15, you know, free consultation with him and talk with him, lessons to book a session with myself or even with Melissa Bem user or whoever else that we bring to you that you're able to connect with them as well as friends of family members who you truly trust and know that they will take your secret or they will take your betrayal to the grave with them and not exploit you with it. Y'all understand what I'm saying? So when I said the first day of this month, I said, "We got you, we got you." I have no qualms about sharing my story, whether I have been betrayed or I have betrayed someone else. I am going to share it because I understand that betrayal that I did then, I would dare not do that betrayal now. And I would say, "Why?" And I am because you just said, "No, no, mm-hmm." Like then I was a very defensive hurt like I lead with, I'm a show-ass, that's how I lead. And their love came back. You understand? And so through my healing process of understanding what all of betrayal means in every single one of the betrayals that happened to me. I changed that to happen to me that happened for me. I changed that from what's happening to me that is happening for me. And I learned how to use that as gifts. We talked about it last season about taking our obstacles and the lessons within there is taking them as tools and gifts and applying them to our life today. My thing is if I didn't go through none of that, or if I wasn't to be betrayed by none of them, then I wouldn't be on this platform and be able to speak to you all about it. Yeah. All right, the next thing I'm going to just touch on this a little bit from my, um, my ebook. As I mentioned before, I have a book called healing beyond betrayal. A journey of empowerment, of growth, empowerment and renewal, and it's 55 pages. And I share my story, I share my betrayal, I share how I got into it, I share it all. But also I have steps and strategies on how I got to my healing process. And remember, we are forever healing. So even with this ebook in the worksheets, this is something that you can do every day. You can finish the book and come back and do it again, just like with the challenge. You might be good for six months and then something, something triggers you know how subconsciously sup come in your hand, it can trigger you guess where you can go back. Now, hold on, I purchased this ebook healing from Naomi a few months ago. Let me go get it down in my, in my file. Oh, I'm a part of the Patreon. I can go over here to the challenge and get it from there and go through the challenge all over again. If I want to see the video, but then she gave me a nice little sheet with all 30 days. So I got you, I'll say we got you, we got you. So let me let me talk about this book in chapter three, I'm talking about chapter three, healing beyond the trail. We talk about practical tips towards healing and it's very crucial to establish boundaries post betrayal. So remember when I said when that friend of mine that we had betrayed, but I had kind of like put my boundaries real, I didn't cut her off, I just gave boundaries, I just gave boundaries and it was like, okay, you got to get yourself together first. So we can continue to communicate in this matter, and she received it, and I loved her to, I loved her to this day, it's because she didn't have no excuses or nothing. She actually took accountability for her actions. And when a person can take accountability for their actions right then and there, and then go do the work and I see the work, that's what I knew. When she was doing that stuff all of that time, I knew she was in a up-up situation. And remember, I was talking about the family members, the loved ones that did something, now I'm able to heal. Now if you want to ask me this a few months ago before I listened to that book again, I was like the door is closed, it's only open to some. The door is open, it's open, it's not open like it was, but it's open. Because now I've now set boundaries. Now I know how to set boundaries with each one of them. Now I know to continue to allow my heart to stay open, don't close it. I have to allow the her to go through, let it bleed on out, wipe it, bleed, let it bleed all out. Allow the fresh air to come in to start to heal me. Again. We sold you so when somebody heard us cutting it off, that's the bottle we're in, we keep it in. I'm telling y'all that book by Michael A. Singer on Tither's Soul. Yes. My sister told me about this book a few years ago. Yeah. Yeah. Fabulous book, amazing book. And when you listen to it, yeah. It would truly help you, I'm telling you, let me tell you what it feels like, it's like that book was the icing on, you know, you put the strawberry on top of, you know, like that, that was the strawberry. So let me tell you something, me opening up the season of Self Love to have guests on for this season. That was a sprint on top of the, we're going to do a Sunday on top of, you know, on top of the Sunday. And in that book, when I got that message to read that book, to listen to it a few days before I went back home in Chicago, that was a cherry on top. That is what I needed to not only get through that weekend to have a different perspective, but also that I can sit here on this platform and be able to real authentic with y'all. 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It's the perfect time to experience the quality and reliability that has made Dickies a trusted name for over a century. That I hadn't even attempted to heal from. Naomi, how did you do that in a few weeks or a few days? Well, no, that there was work that was done way before that, but then that's also about me taking accountability for me, not blaming them for what they did, but understanding me on how I react, on how I allowed it to disturb my peace. See, when we talk about self-love, we talk about self-awareness, we talk about taking accountability of what we allow in our lives. That's what we do when you're going through self-love, when you fall in love with yourself, when you're searching for peace, happiness, abundance of life, when you want to surround yourself with good people, when you want to walk out a door and you want your light to just shine. Oh, she healing. Oh, she good. She got self-love. Oh, yeah. And seeing that what that does is attract other people and other forms like that. See, Dr. Will has said it before, he said, you know, you walk in your healing. Yeah, today you see me in this new hat, because one of my favorite hats, and in some days you see me on social media with my locks, no makeup, raggedy t-shirt, raggedy jeans. Sometimes I got cut off shorts with my cellulite show and working out, but what that's doing is it's showing that I'm not really caring when nobody's thinking me, because I still know that I'm fabulous and I'm a goddess and I understand what God has used in me for. And it feels good. It feels good to be that way, because I spend majority of my, a deaf life in front of a camera looking for validation from others. And I no longer do that. It can be five or 10 people listening to this podcast. And I don't care, meaning because it's supposed to touch who is supposed to touch period. Whatever God allows me to do, allows for me, and abundance and prosperity is going to come to me. I just got to continue to keep doing this. You know what, because I love this. This what makes me feel good. When we were on our break, man, I was like, "I miss it." But I knew I had to be obedient, meaning that I had to send in it because I knew what I was doing in the second season. I knew that there would be different challenges per series, per month. I knew there would be ebooks per month, there would be courses per month. I would be standing on stages and speaking. So I had to do my own work, more work. Because again, this assignment and its purpose is much bigger than me, that he will put me into rooms where I will no longer be the smartest person, where I will no longer be the one with the most experience, that I will be in a place that I have to come, ready. So when somebody is reaching their hand out to uplift me and pull me up, that I'm right there with confidence, holding their hand as they lift me up. Does that make sense? So when I'm talking about this eight book of this Hill and Beyond, I'm sure the chapter three is the foundation boundaries to speak for you. So if I'm continuing these relationships with the person who betrayed me, I could communicate what my limits are clearly, confidently. So now I ain't got to block nobody. So that beautiful young lady, that family member of mine, who I got into who, like whatever, if she was to reach out to me today, tomorrow, or five months from now, years from now, I'm able to, hey, let's talk. Because I've checked myself, not giving them no excuse, but to understand that it wasn't even about me, that it was them. And then I'm about to go big, better, further than this with it. And if you hadn't got beyond that, what can I do to help you? How can I assist you? And that's just being real. When you able to step beyond that, yeah. Now I just want to look further, I just want to look further with that one. Now I know Dr. Will might be listening today, be like, no, we'll talk about it later. But y'all get the gist of what I'm saying, right? I hope y'all do. I hope y'all, I really do hope y'all get the gist of what I'm saying with this. Yeah, I do. I really do. You know, with this chapter, on chapter three, when I said it took me, I was gone for three months, for three months, and that would be the last time that I would take a break like that. And I needed to, like I said, I had to come back and elevate, and I, because this is the season of Stuff Love is much bigger than what I can ever imagine. We started off as a monthly series for Acts, Naomi Bridge, and the Gap. It's supposed to be done every Tuesday for four weeks, turned into a daily, a daily show. I think we were like on episode 136 when I stopped the first season. And one season, rocking by myself for the first half of it. And if you knew to what I'm saying, one day I sat in front of my altar and I asked God and, and my spiritual team around me, I was like, Hey, this is what you said, I need help. And not only did they send me help, they sent me somebody with a degree, a professional therapist, but not only dealing with adults, but he dealing with children as well. Yes, but not only that, but he brought me somebody that not only trusts me on this journey, but also open up about his own stuff. So he can also come from an experience point, but also from the book, book sense of it. You understand, like he got his degree on it. So all I see right now is God just allowing and aligning everybody there around me, my village of people, like I said, amazing guest this month, amazing, allow me to open up. Let me share this with you. I'm going to be very, very open a few months ago, I had gotten an email from this guy named Alex. He's the owner and a creator of pod match. Pod match is a platform where there are podcaster, they are looking for guests. And this is where publicist and, you know, people that's looking to be on certain podcast. And he reached out to me and he said, well, you did 136 episodes, he said, I would love to know how you did all that. That's amazing. He told me to take a test. I took a test, then I took a free class that he offered me, a free class. I took that and I was like, wow, when I started to look out and say, wow, let me, let me sign up for this sign up for this about 10 minutes later. I had like 10 people food. I would love to be and I went to look at all of their profile. I'm like, oh my God, this is amazing. This gave me a gateway to meet people that I would never have met if I just kept this piece of the stuff love clothes. I just stayed in my space and never went anywhere. But I'm telling you how powerful that prayer can be, how powerful manifestation can be. Well, honestly, truly, the only way that that was able to happen is because I was able to go beyond the betrayal in my life. I didn't hold on to those betrayals, how I'm able to tell you the story of them now because I've gotten through them. And so I don't have any disdain in my voice. That's why I can laugh at it and laugh at myself because of my reactions. And I'm like, girl, did you react like a girl like you know, I understand that how my betrayal that I dealt with them myself, I wouldn't do that no more, as well as betray anybody else. So even that story that I shared with you about my first husband betraying me, but guess what I betrayed him to just because it doesn't matter who did what first, I had a choice. I could easily walk away from that and not did any harm to nobody. Because even in that process, I heard him as well. Does that make sense? This is the part of the healing that people don't want to talk about either. But this is for another day. This is for another day because that's what we have come to the end of this episode. Yes, we have. So we're going to wrap this episode up today. And I want to do remember the importance of some love through this healing process. And I want you to participate in day five challenge. I want you to reflect on the insights of chapter three of my ebook. A five challenge of her to hope if you can sign up, go sign up now to season this up. love. podcast.com, you can go there to, you know, there's a link, always a link for that there. And also chapter three of my ebook, I'm healing beyond the trail, a journey of growth, empowerment and renewal. And if you haven't signed up, line up for our Patreon, this is where you, right now you're listening to me, but you can see me. And also I will be putting up a little, little posting things up there and stuff like that. Patreon, we got a lot of good things that, you know, come creative from that, you know, as well. And again, I am excited about this new season. I'm excited about all the new guests throughout the whole entire season. When I say this year, we ending it off with a bang, this fall going to be falling. We're going to be falling in love with ourselves. That we're definitely going to be falling in love with ourselves, this fall season going into the winter season, coming back around in the spring and the summer, y'all going to be in love with y'all, and then y'all going to tell somebody to tell somebody to come over here and go fall in love with yourself, Betty, go fall in love with Naomi and her people's over there, that's what y'all are saying, all right. All right, about beautiful people. So tomorrow we're going to explore more things next. We won't explore new dimensions of healing. So until then, again, share your thoughts and your stories. Give us a review. Let me know how I'm doing. Let me know if you have any more topics or you might possibly want us to do a topic for a whole series of something that you might be going through, that you want us to share. Give me up. Let me know. Then let's keep this conversation going. Again, I thank you for joining me on this journey of self-discovery and healing. And I want you to remember that you are not alone, but you are always worthy of love. Again, thank you all for tuning in to the season of self-love. And be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share this podcast with anyone who you might find that is healthy. As in your feedbacks and your stories, inspire our episodes, and it helped us grow together. So stay tuned for more episodes that are more inspiring and encouraging you to live your best life. So until next time, take care of yourselves and each other. Thank you for joining us on this journey of discovering an empowerment here at the Season of Self-Love Podcast. 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