Dom and Jeremy
Discipline 9-23-24
- You're listening to a Dom and Jeremy podcast, "Your Boys in the Morning" on Mix 100. - I've got a story to tell. My wife teaches piano lessons and I came home. I try to stay out of the house while she's doing her lessons because I can only take so much of Twinkle Twinkle and the big one is the song "Honeybee." I can only take so much of that. So I usually depart with my laptop and go work somewhere. I got back about 10 minutes early the other day and she was wrapping up but I was on a phone call anyway. So I stood in the garage and all I heard after the faint sounds of the piano from the other side of the house coming wafting through and through the wall, I heard the unmistakable sound of a small child who looks like they turned out to be maybe three or four, small child screaming, shrieking at the top of his lungs, shrieking and I could hear the boom, boom, boom, boom, a feet running while this kid is shrieking in the house and it lasted for at least 30 seconds. And finally I finished my call and I walked inside and there's my stepdaughter with her eyes kind of wide and I just, I'm laughing. I'm like, what the hell was that? And then she told me what it was Jeremy. She said that kid and I saw some kid go running by. She goes, that kid who's apparently the younger sibling of the kid who was getting the piano lesson was chasing after and terrorizing Niles the weirdo, our cat. And she said, Niles was so freaked out. She picked him up and she could feel his little heart just racing and he's got some three year old who's chasing after him shrieking, trying to kill him and I was like, whoa, whoa, you can run around my house, you can yell, you can do all that. But you start trying to harm Niles the weirdo. - No, thank you. No, thank you. Where's the parent during this time? - That's the question I ask all the time. - Where's mom and dad? - And I don't even know if mom and dad were there. I think it was their nanny that brought them to their-- - Where's nanny at? - The piano lesson, they don't do it. - She had no thank you, nanny. No, thank you. No, thank you. - I think so. - I think so. They were leaving, by the time I got in from my phone call I'm just hearing the story and they're running out the door and I had this conversation with Gretchen. I said, how do you handle other people's kids misbehaving and it launched into this whole discussion about where's the line? And I wanted to ask you, Jeremy, and I wanna ask listeners how far can you go when someone else's child is acting up like that? - It's different with your guys' situation. Because this is like a job and they're paying you to have the kids at the house. And I feel it's maybe somehow slightly different than just like the neighbor kids running through. So you've gotta be a little more tactful. But we've got like 13 kids in our block. So the house is constantly a revolving door at our place. And most of the time it's a bunch of little girls playing with my daughter and I will tell you, we have no problem to just say and be quiet, stop running. Honestly, the biggest thing that Nick Knack gets onto the girls about is they all come over and use the restroom and you hear 'em flush and immediately open the door and come out. And she is very much a whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, turn back around and get in there. - Get back in there and wash your hands before you come back out here. And I guess we don't really have a problem with it. But with that being said, there is this, there's been a conversation on the street amongst the parents and mostly amongst the moms that if a kid is misbehaving at their house then it's our kid. We give full permission to like yell at 'em, tell 'em to knock it off, discipline 'em, whatever you need to do, send 'em home. So we've kind of come up with that agreement in the neighborhood. If something's going down that's not good at the house, you have our permission, you know? It takes a village, it's taken a village. So yell at it. - See the thing I, what I imagine is if this kid is like three or four year old is running after my cat trying to kill 'em, I'm gonna grab the kid. I'm not saying I'm gonna hurt the child but I am going to physically interrupt them from chasing after the cat. And then this whole thing does the parent then come and say, you laid a hand on my child. - Yeah, I don't know if you can grab 'em like you, you probably could jump in front of 'em. - Can't you just jump in front of 'em? I mean you're big enough. - Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. You jump in front of 'em or trip 'em. Like Kim wrote in, she goes, what you do is you glare. - Oh yeah, that would have done a lot of good. - No thank you. - I'll just stand there and glare at the four years. - Honestly, what you need at your house for these piano kids is just a bottle filled with water that you can spray 'em. Like if a cat is doing something wrong, you just spray 'em right in the face of the bottle. That'll get their attention. - I'll tell you what, I want it's like a cattle prod thing, you know, but I guess I'm not allowed to do that. - Start with the water. Yeah, start with the water. So we're gonna open this up, we're going to ask you. I mean, how do you handle other people's kids who misbehave? In Jeremy's neighborhood, they've got the agreement. Well, it's probably not all parents, but some who've said, look, if my kid's acting up, you can, but then it's the vague, you can, you said they said you can discipline them, but that's vague. - I mean you're not gonna spank 'em, you're not gonna take my kids and-- - Right. - Beat them in any way. - That was the one you do too. - But you can discipline by yelling, hey, knock it off or hey, go home. I mean, you can verbally-- - Is that disciplining? - You can verbally discipline. - Oh God, an adult raising their voice to a kid, that's terrifying. - Yeah, absolutely. - Absolutely. - 303, 691, 1 mix, 691, 1649, I swear to God, if this kid had hurt, niles, I may not have been responsible for my action, 'cause now you're dealing with my child, right? Hey, we got people listening. Okay, people who are like judging me right now, it's your sweet little puppy that you love so much, and some random child that you don't know come and breaks your puppy's leg. Are you going to quote glare at them? I don't buy that for a second. - Probably not. - They have a cat though. - I don't buy it for a second. - The cat can escape though, right? The cat was fine. - Listen, if niles had turned around and scratched that kid, you know, then I would have actually been cheering him on. - Liz, good morning, welcome to the show. - Good morning, boys. - Good morning. - So what do you say about all of this? - So I'm normally one of those silent judging moms that just, you know, looks at the kids misbehaving and just silently judges and glares. - Awesome, yeah. - However, I have a line. If it involves my children, my pets, I give the parents a chance and if they do not correct the behavior, I will do it for them. - How? - Good for you. - How do you correct the behavior? - But what do you do? - Well, so there was a situation that I was in actually at a McDonald's years ago with my eldest son when he was young and he was in the play place and this kid who was slightly larger than him grabbed him and was holding him in a bear hug that he would not let go of him in. And my kids started screaming and crying. He was terrified 'cause he kept asking the kid to let him go and the kid would let him go. - So super mom to the rescue. - So you gave back into the play area and you tackled this kid, right? - So did you give that kid a bear hug? - I felt like it, but I looked at the mom and the mom was just sitting there smiling at him like, oh, you threw nice hands, you know, just a parent getting one on one. - Thank you, nice hands. - And so I calmly walked over there and I said, you need to let go of him. And he said, but I need his loving touches or something weird. - Oh my God, this is getting creepy. - And I said, listen, he's asked you to let go of him. So you either need to let go of him or I will come in there and have you let go of him. - So did he let go? - So we gotta wrap this up, Liz. We gotta take other calls. So all right, you see, you were super mom, good for you. - But the mom got mad. - Yeah, you know what I-- Liz, thank you for the call, thank you very much. We all have thoughts about those parents. - Don't we? - They're just oblivious. - I think we do. Blair, what do you got? What do you do? - Hey, I work in retail. So I see a lot of naughty children and I do holiday help at St. Nick's and our children that run around that store and play hide and go seek in the trees and knock ornaments down. - Blair, I've taken-- - We take our kids there every year to pick out their ornament for Christmas and every year we have the talk while we're in there. We point out to those kids and say, don't be like them because they touch everything in that store. - I have no problem telling them. - Yeah. - Tucked over a Christmas tree one year playing hide and go seek, so I tell them, go find your parents. - Yeah, I have no-- - Blair, thank you for the call. - There's a lot of breakables in that store. - Thank you very much. - Oh, here's Miles. Miles, what do you do in this situation? - Well, you know, when it comes to just being rambunctious, it's one thing, but hurting an animal, yeah, you can't stand for that. That's not okay. - How would you handle it then? - Yeah, but what do you do? - Honestly, it's horrible to say a little spank, man. That's what my dad used to do to me in public. - You can't say something neighbor kids are over. You can't spank the neighbor kids. - I know, you can't and, but that's what I would do if I was in that situation, just 'cause that's a horrible thing to say. That's how grew up though. - Well, a lot of us are. - Oh, I grew up. - Yeah, a lot of us are. But you'd like to-- - Miles, thank you for the call. - You can't say anything. - I see that's the situation we're put in, right? A little paddle on the rear end, right? It seems like the answer to a lot of people, and yet, here come the lawsuits, right? - Yeah, you can't get away with hitting somebody else's kid. I mean, I would be pissed about that too, I think. Honestly. - There's a rain on the phone. Rain, what are you gonna do? - I always been a person to just yell at any random kids if they're being naughty. I feel always been the one to be invited to parties. They're like, "Oh, it's an invite, right?" Because she'll be quick to yell at the kids. - You sound so sweet though, I find that hard to believe. You're very sweet. - Let me hear your yelling voice right now. Yell at Dom and Jeremy, what would you sound like? Come on. - I need you to knock it off. - Ooh, you got me. - It's not bad, you had a little bit of an edge there. That was pretty good, rain, thank you. - I love how she started the call that she says I'd like to yell at random kids. (laughing) - She's just driving down the road. - And knock it off. - You gotta worry about the ones like Rain who are, they sound mild-mannered and then, you know, oh, you pull their string and watch your eyes kind of pop out of the socket a little bit. Here comes Abby. Good morning, Abby, welcome to the show. - Good morning, guys, I'm sorry about your kitty. I would definitely have it as a teaching lesson, like pick up the cat and tell the kid that's not okay. And this is how we are tying to animals and maybe make it a, you know, but yeah, no, I've done that. I've yelled at kids from across the pond if they're throwing rocks at ducks, they scream at them. I'm like, "Go, hold, where are you the parents?" - Put the rocks down. - Yes, it's not okay, so I'm sorry about your cat, but yeah, you gotta say something to that kid 'cause the nanny's not doing anything. - Why did you do that? - The nanny was worthless, but I've got this mental image of you standing on one side of a pond yelling at kids on the other side. It's funny to me. - You gotta do it. - You gotta do it. - You gotta do it. - Oh, so glad you called. Abby, go have a terrific day. Thanks for being on the show, okay? - You guys, bye. - Bye. - Bye. - Why didn't you pick up the cat and like make it a learning lesson? - Okay, now, first of all, I wasn't in the house. Remember, I heard it from out in the garage. - Find the cat and bring it over to you this time. - No, but what I'm saying is by the time I got inside, later, they were all leaving and I'm asking Zoe what the hell was that? And she's describing it. Plus, you know what, trying to catch the cat in that situation. This kid had him cornered, I guess, for one moment and Niall's squeaked past. I don't know. - Well. - Listen, I know there's the whole thing about old school and old fashion and all of that, but this is going to be a teaching moment. - It's a teaching moment. - I'm sorry, I know I'm-- - Next time he's there, bring the cat over and say, "This is how we treat the cat." - Make him stand in. - I don't know if I'm in the minority on this chair or if I'm just part of the silent majority. 'Cause I swear I think the silent majority of people would want to grab that kid and give him a little paddle on his rear end. - Not hurt him. - Do that next time. - A little paddle. - Just out of nowhere, just do that. - I'm saying that I think most people might be inclined to do that when their pet or their child is in danger. - Sure. - Rather than this, this is not how we act. It makes me want to vomit, actually. - I think you should have a talk with your cat and tell your cat to toughen up a little bit. - I think my cat is six pounds. - He's six pounds. - But you toughen up, little cat. - You know, I think if cornered, he would probably do some dead pounds. - But then do the parents sue us? Your cat's clawed my child, who was now the victim. - Right. - You know, I think the bottom line of all this is, Richon needs to stop teaching piano lessons there. - Wrap it up. - He done with it. - He solved everything. - All solved. (dramatic music) [BLANK_AUDIO]