[MUSIC PLAYING] Hello, and welcome to "Soul Lead Living," a podcast dedicated to helping you live your soul's true path so you can create the dream life you know you are meant to live. I'm Nicki Novo, your spiritual mentor, a fiery Latina, mom of three, and an advocate for living soul lead. You're here because you're meant to be here, so let's do this. Hello, everybody. Welcome to another episode of "Soul Lead Living." I'm here with two of my favorite people, and it's just been so long, so I'm excited to introduce them to you. We are here with Violet and Christine. We're going to talk about everything having to do with spirit babies and just raising children as souls, so it's going to be a beautiful conversation for anybody who maybe is a parent or even an auntie or maybe expecting children as well. We're just hoping to have those conversations with you guys and just spend time together. So welcome to the show, Violet Santana and Christine McGlinchy. I'm so happy to have you. I've known these women for a long time since the beginning of my awakening, so it's just a pleasure to be here with you guys, so welcome to the show. Thank you. I'll give you a little bit of background, if you guys don't mind. On each of you, Christine, do you mind sharing a little bit of your background and maybe also how we know each other? Or, yes. So Nicki and I met in Miami when she was living in Miami. I was a former corporate publicist and she was a journalist, so I was there when Nicki hosted her first meditation circle and started really opening up to this work, and it's just been a beautiful, long journey. She's been special friends and a mentor for a very long time. It's crazy to say over a decade, and so-- I remember one of my first readings with you and being like, should I tell her that she is not going to do PR anymore? Or do I hold out on this information? Should I tell her that her life is about to change? Or do I hold out? No. So what do you do now? So now I hold space for women who are trying to conceive, who are new moms, seasoned moms. Really, all the stages of motherhood. And what I found over the years is motherhood is really about purpose, what we're here to do, and deepening into our purpose. We have a lot of rebirth, purpose work for women and families who are creating this new earth paradigm that we're stepping into. Yeah, I always feel like a lot of the work that we're doing these days is only for the children. I feel like the kids are just kind of speaking through us, and because their world is going to be so different than ours, all the children that are being born now in the last 10 years or the last 10, 11, 12 years. I always just feel like that's what we're doing. We're here for them. I have goosebumps as I say that. Christine is a mom of two right now, a two and a half year old and five, but also expecting her third as we speak. Who knows? Maybe the baby will be out by the time the podcast comes out. Probably. I don't think he's going in until November or so. Oh, another boy. I didn't ask you. That's exciting. I love being a boy mom. And then we have Violet on the show. And both Christine and Violet, we've been friends, but also studied together. They were in the original soul teacher programs, which is now soul reading method and just really proud of the work that they're doing, but they've always been doing incredible work. So Violet originally from New York, but zooming in from Michigan, right? Oh, were you born in New York? Yeah. I was born in the Dominican Republic. OK, OK. Yeah, but I'm a New Yorker in my heart, though. And definitely, I got my big intuitive hit during COVID with Nikki through the original soul teacher. And I forget what it was called back then. But I could not ever forget meeting my spirit guide for the first time. It was not one of those recordings. So it's great. But back in New York, I'm a clinical nutritionist by profession. I have a master's in nutrition from Columbia University. I own two wellness centers in New York City. One of them is still around my wellness solutions. I'm no longer tied to that business. I've taken a big break from just what I, the worker in me and all the things that I was doing in New York, which was just the hustle and bustle. So here in New York, I've been just caring for my family, spending more time with my daughter, something that I just didn't have time to in New York. I was working 70 hours sometimes, not taking my daughter to gymnastics or her dance classes. And so I've been doing a lot of that over the past year. And I've been doing a lot of work. Spirit baby wise, speaking to my daughters, her higher self and mothering and parenting in that way. I definitely think that the kids are speaking to us and they're requiring a lot of us to move in a different direction so that we can help the earth make the shift that it needs to. If we get quiet and I really listen, they're telling us things all the time. We might think it's silly, but they're literally telling us all the time what they need just to help move things forward. And Violet, I love that. Thank you for sharing because I have goosebumps because sometimes that is like part of the work. I know that like as women, oh my gosh, we've been so blessed that now we could work and make money and we can work as much as men and all that kind of stuff. And I think from our era, it was like that girl boss era and that is not fun either. I was like, no thank you, no thank you. We were raised to kind of hustle and get the degrees and all that kind of stuff, but I think it's also still okay that when we have kids that it is like a very natural thing to want to be with them and work around their schedules. And I remember before I had kids not understanding that, I was like, no, I don't want to do that. And then of course now it's all about figuring out my schedule so that I can be there for all the things. So I'm happy to hear that you're taking that time in between and I'm sure she loves it. It definitely was a forced break because girl boss, owning the businesses, doing all the things, running these like multi-million dollar companies and it was killing me. It was killing me when deep in my heart, all I wanted was to just hang out with my husband and then take my daughter to school in the morning without feeling rushed to get to the next thing. And I did, I got very sick before I moved to Michigan but it was in finally deciding I need to do this for myself that then I was able to do it with the rest of the family. So you listen or you're going to get the lesson the hard way? - Exactly. And tell me what, you said a funny thing off camera you were saying that I was asking how Demi was doing with school and like, you know, were you able to find like a good school for her that you were happy with and then you said a funny thing. You were like, what did you say when I asked you that question? - I chose your school or she chose your school, you know, even from when you and I first met Nicki and this was before or maybe when Demi was around one year old, it was very important for me to be less like conscious parent. The definition of that has evolved so much but what it means for me today is I obviously teach her about energy and their spirits and that we have ancestors and listen to your third eye and what does your heart tell you? But I also ask her, hey, what do you think about this school? And I remember the day we took her to this interview, she says, this is my school, it gives you, you know, kids talk to you, they give you all the vibes and my husband was just taking the back. Even potty training her, I asked her high herself, I said, guys, you know, I don't really want to struggle with this, so when is she going to be ready? And they said three months, right around the time she starts you turning one. And when I tell you we potty trained in three days, I still cannot believe it. We can talk to the kid directly but we can talk to their higher selves when they just don't have the words to, you know, they don't have the words yet but they chat with us all the time. - They tell us what they need. - My all-time favorite story about that, well, first, the school thing is so accurate, like especially, you know, every kid is different and we get so stressed, at least I got so stressed about the school situation and what was the right school and all this stuff. And I learned ultimately, like, to just put the kids, like, to let them see the schools, to kind of sit there and let them tell me, and I'll never forget, Oliver, my oldest son, I walk him into this Catholic school that I went to growing up. And my daughter, Ali, at the time, was at that school. So I just thought, man, it would be easy if they could both go there because it was a right school for Ali 'cause they had, like, a special program that was, like, perfect for her. And I was like, well, this would be great if Oliver could go here. So I walk Oliver in, he has to take, like, a little test to, you know, just for the application process and I'm sitting there in the lobby. And within, like, two minutes, he gets out of the room where he was, like, taking the test and I'm like, oh my God, you're done. He goes, yeah, I'm done. I'm like, okay, so I get up. And the teacher goes, he just walked out. He was, like, no, bitch. Like, it's just, like, not for me. And he, like, straight up, just, like, walked out of the school, like, and he told me he was dead. He's, like, yeah, no, like, I'm not, and he was, I mean, God, he was in kindergarten, I think. And he was, like, no, this is, like, not for me. And knowing Oliver today, he's a Gemini, super smart. He needs to not be indoctrinated. Like, that's very, like, I could tell that, like, that's very specific for him where, like, the other kids, my youngest, talks a lot about God. And he's just, I could just tell that Oliver was, like, please do not indoctrinate me. Like, he was, you know, we're me. Like, I was happy going to Catholic school. It didn't affect anything. It was really not, like, a horrible thing for me. But yeah, that was, like, so funny. And then my other funny story, which you guys have probably heard, is that I was looking for Nanny for Ethan, my youngest, 'cause it was, like, I had done, like, a year of staying with him. And then I was, like, okay, I have to go back to work. I need help. I had the two older kids. Benny was working, like, crazy. Like, I need some help that can stay home with this guy. But I was nervous, like, any mom, making that decision for, like, a caretaker. So I had these three women come in for interviews. Like, there was this one day that I was, like, okay, we had picked, like, three women. They were coming in for the interviews. And Ethan was, like, barely a year old. And I looked at him and I was, like, you're a pretty old soul. Like, you're kind of an old man. And, like, I feel like you must have a soulmate. Like, there has to be somebody that, like, is for you. So just, like, give me a sign. I'm going to introduce you to these three women. Give me some sort of sign. And that was, like, our agreement as I'm getting him dressed. We meet the first two women. They're very lovely, like, no big deal. He didn't show, like, any, you know, anything special towards them. And the third woman walks in. And you guys, I am not lying. I will show you this picture. Ethan and her were wearing the exact same outfit. They were both, yes, I have the picture. You guys can see this on my sub-stack. I wrote about this and I actually posted the picture. They're both wearing black pants. A gray shirt, which was, like, a hand-me-down. Ethan, like, actually had to spit up or something. And I had to change them very quickly to another shirt. So they were wearing these... They were both wearing the gray shirt. And then a heart-shaped flag, American flag. It was, like, an American flag. Take the craziest thing for us? Yes. And then I was, like, of course, this woman was hired. She was a beautiful... She's still friend. We are still friends because she's, like, such a special person. And she needed him at the time, too. Like, she had just left Venezuela because of the political asylum. And I was, like, oh, this person, like, needs Ethan as well. And they did, like, so much work together. So it's just, like, a reminder. I mean, I thought I was gonna get, like, a high-five or, like, a hug or something. Like, those were the sides I was looking for. I was, like, I don't know how you, like, managed to dress yourself the same. Like, I don't even know. But it is a reminder. I think that's something that we really have to remember is that our children, especially the kids that are being born now, are so old. And they're so much older than us. And we just can't work off of the, like, I'm supposed to make every single decision. Ethan was one of them that he really taught me because I thought he was gonna be a girl. And, you know, it was, like, my first experience that, like, this guy is gonna be who he wants to be. And I just, like, learned that our work is really about being a guide and, like, helping them live into their purpose and into their path, which may be very different than, like, the path that we want for them, but really, like, listening to them and these kids, like, both Ethan and Oliver have taught me that in, like, such a big way. So, Christine, tell me a little bit about, like, in your practice, what are you seeing with spirit babies right now? Like, so, and if you can explain what a spirit baby is, in case anybody doesn't know. - For sure. The way that I interpret spirit baby work and the way that it's been, you know, really connecting for me is spirit babies are truly our future ancestors. Even the new souls who are incarnating to work who haven't had previous reincarnations, you know, before we got on the recording, we were talking about how, you know, this generation of child, the ones that are coming in, are here to change things so much. They have such a different set of values, set of priorities than we have. And, you know, one of the main things that I see, whether, like, a woman is going through, you know, really heavy or challenging fertility issues or even, like, new moms is control. Like, exactly what we're talking about right now. Like, feeling like we have to control the process, especially with so many women going through IVF and miscarriages, and it's hard not to, because we are coming out of, like, such a patriarchal, masculine society. Like, Violet was saying, like, most of us have been trapped in our masculinity. We haven't been able to soften. We haven't felt safe or supported or taken care of. So, over the last, like, I would say, like, two years, that's been a huge theme that I've been seeing. Like, women who are trying to get out of the toxic masculinity into their feminine so that they can actually conceive and, you know, really transition and navigate motherhood without feeling like something that they have to do. Like, the responsibility or the burden or the weight. And I'm seeing a lot of, like, couples in my practice, too. And a lot of men, even. You can counsel seeking advice because a lot of men are healing, too, in their masculinity. A lot of men are actually not feeling safe. Their bodies are known to provide for their families right now. So, we're seeing, like, this gender role kind of, like, balance out between women trying to find their way back to their femininity, but also men finding their way back to healthy, masculine balance. And I think that's kind of what's been out of balance for, like, a lot of generations, for a lot of us. Like, especially women of color, we feel, you know, otters of migrants. We feel like we're in survival mode. You know, our nervous systems are, you know, I'm sure a violet can attest to a lot of that, too. And her wellness practice, like, our nervous systems are so heavily regulated in this, like, or flight survival mode. So then when we go to conceive, we're like, okay, well, what do I need to do? I need to do this. I need to do this. I need to do this. I need to produce. We're just overexerting ourselves. And then our partners are feeling it because then they are in their healthy masculine. So, you know, it's been a delicate balance of, like, figuring out what are our roles and what are the archetypes now for mom and dad. You know, I think that's what we're really trying to balance out for these goals who have incarnated in the last five years, but also the ones coming through. - Yeah, 'cause I just think that children that are coming, like, don't want those old stories. So, like, they're starting by telling their parents, even before they come, what needs to change, what needs to shift because they don't want to come into that situation. And every, Christine, I just wanted to cry, like with everything you said, it was so, so beautiful. And I really, yeah, I'm just very grateful for everything that you said. We might, you know, as you guys, as you ladies know, like, I went through something like that with my husband is older than I am. So I guess he is a Gen X, he's Gen X. So those guys, even more, like, it's funny 'cause my brother is 10 years younger than my husband. And I just see, like, how different even, like, what's available for them or what was available for them. And I think my brothers have been, like, so helpful to my husband because, like, to have, like, younger men around that they have a little bit more flexibility as to, like, what's possible for them. But Benny was raised to be, like, a racehorse. Like, my mom would always say, like, a racehorse, just, like, you're supposed to produce, like, and that's it. And then women would seek out men solely to see, like, how much they could produce, you know? And I was definitely part of that. I met Benny and I was like, you have a house? Amazing. I'm moving in. You know how I was like, you got a house? You got a business? This sounds good. You can pay for me? Amazing. Because I was a fashion and beauty editor, severely underpaid, like, as, like, women are in those roles. So this sounded like a good thing. He had a daughter already. I was like, I can take care of the daughter. I can do that. And we went into these, actually, like, extremely traditional roles. It was killing us. Because what's funny about me is, like, I'm a really great provider and producer, but I do it with a ton of ease. Like, it is not a stressful thing for me at all. I mean, regular stress, like, of a business. But I knew when I was building my business, I was like, I'm building it around the kids. So I was just lucky that I, like, built something around the children. And Benny would always tell me he would always be like, Nikki, that's like, you're in La La Land. That's not how money is made. Like, you don't make money on the phone. I was like, yeah, you do. Yes, you do. So anyways, my business was obviously the thing that allowed Benny to take all this time off. He is now starting to work again. But the reversal of his role is like, just one of the things I'm most proud of. My boys are like, I'm constantly complimented on my boys, like, of, like, how good kids and beautiful and kind and, like, smart and all these things. And while, of course, I take credit for some of it, but, like, it's honestly, it's their father being around and being, like, the man that he is that's like, allow, that is, like, such a good example for these boys. And I guess the boys needed that from their father. And the transition started when Ethan, my youngest, was born. Like, Ethan just blew shit up. Like, he came in and he was like, he just, like, blew up everything that we had going on. And it was funny, he was the child that Benny hates when I say this, but he did not want a third child. Like, he didn't want me to get pregnant again. And we put off Ethan for a long time. And I'm like, I guess that's probably why, 'cause he knew, like, how much of his life was gonna change. So yeah, it's so interesting how these babies, like, ask of us. So, like, people that are getting, trying to get pregnant, Christine, like, do you, what are some, like, messages you see the spirit babies giving, sometimes? Well, definitely this one that we just talked about. - Yeah, for sure. Most of the time, like, obviously everyone is so unique, so different. We all come from a different perspective and we all have different soul missions, but it's usually a healing or a learning, like a higher calling into your purpose for, like, three different reasons. Like, your lineage and your ancestral, like, your ancestors, moving them forward, holding on to, like, any heavy admitting beliefs or thought patterns around your ancestry because we are moving into a different direction, elective. So it's very important that we do ancestral healing work with femininity, be claiming your femininity, be claiming that gender role, you know, partnership, balancing things, finding harmony within partnership, and then the societal conditioning. Exactly what we're talking about, right? I remember when my spirit baby was super close to me, Nikki, and we had a reading, and you're like, why are you so, like, critical about motherhood? Like, why do you feel like, because I personally never thought that I would be able to have kids, 'cause I was like, I'm just too busy. Like, I was a corporate publicist. I was traveling. I never thought that I could settle down and have children because I just didn't see how it would hand out. Like, where do I fit motherhood into this career? Like, everything was about, my identity was my career. And that was, like, the societal part of it. But it also went into ancestral stuff 'cause my, as a daughter of immigrants, you get a job, you get a 401K, you get health insurance, you get stability, like, you don't walk the boat, you keep your head down and you work, right? And so that's kind of what I ran with. And I remember you telling me, you really need to unpack, like, your view about motherhood. Like, why it felt so burdensome. It felt so heavy. So in my work, that's what I see, no, with a lot of women and a lot of men, like unpacking, deeply seated societal beliefs around why we can't be parents. 'Cause, like, we were talking about, you know, Violet and Nikki, these babies want us to be so present. It's so uncomfortable for us because we're, again, you think, like, well, how am I gonna make money? How am I gonna walk away from my corporate job? Like, I walked away from my corporate job after I had my daughter. I was like, I'm sorry, like, this calling, this is so much deeper than me being tiring with a pension, you know, at a company at the, at the end of the day, they don't give a shit about me. Like, right, like, but motherhood was such a deeper calling for me, I walked away from my corporate job and I started a business not even knowing what I was doing. I was like, whatever, I'll figure it out. And it works. And, you know, it doesn't work like that for everyone, of course, I'm not telling you to walk away from your job, you know, create a plan, but these children want us to be so present. Like, they really, really need a level of emotional and spiritual guidance. I don't think we've ever seen that level of, like, I don't wanna call it neediness or co-dependence, but, like, they really do want that presence from us. Like, Violet was saying with her daughter, because they have just this acute sense of awareness and knowing, like, they're basically, and that's why it can feel very challenging too when we're conceiving these children, because they literally have such a set of criteria. Like, they're looking for certain things and it can feel very unfair, you know? I have a lot of clients who are like, but I'm gonna be perfect and this child just wants me to be perfect. And I'm like, it's not about being perfect, but, you know, it's about just, like, energetically aligning. You know, you're aligning your vibration, essentially, to become an energetic match for this child, who you're contracted to. It's gonna take a little bit of, you know, tweaking and a little bit of patience. But it's hard on us as humans, because when we're having miscarriages, we're going through three, four rounds of IVF and nothing's happening. Like, it's hard not to lose hope, those situations. - I wanna go back to that conversation in a second, but I wanted to ask you, Violet, your experience with maybe, like, the messages your daughter has been giving, but also, if you're open to it, like, conceiving an ex or miscarriages or kind of what you've learned from there, like, what it has meant to you. - My goodness, so the past couple of years, so my husband and I, since Demi's been born, we've had form miscarriages. And that the first two times were just devastating because I said, well, I'm speaking to the spirit baby. I know we're so contracted, like, what is going on? - I know it's not my body because I can do body scans. I can see inside my body. My body is ready to conceive, but I'm not aligned. I was not aligned at the time because I was still in worker mode. You know, I left my, you know, girl boss life in New York, but my body, my life is so conditioned to be in worker mode that when I landed in Michigan, I'm like, oh, I have all this free time. It has been neat help. Let me dive to the deep end of this real, you know, this real estate that we have to manage. And I went back to having no time. I went back to like, I need a nanny because I can't take Demi to her classes and say, wait, wait. Then I started getting sick because all of my lessons come in through my body. Literally my anxiety was through the roof. I couldn't get out of bed. I'm like, what is happening? And we came here because we're not supposed to be doing this worker life thing. We're supposed to be more balanced. And so I slowly started backtracking, spending more time with Demi. And even still, back in November, I had a miscarriage, just now again, I had a miscarriage. And I realized after the fourth time, and then I went and I spoke with my, she's like my psychiatrist. Buruha healer, she's incredible. And she's like, you know, you've also been open this whole time to just being sort of like, for souls that just wanna be here, for a short amount of time and just leave. You've contracted this with them. I said, I am outraged. I cannot believe it. - Oh! - How it felt like? - It was just like, what? And here I am thinking it's a million other things, but also this spirit baby, this boy that we've all seen, he's doubtful that I want him to come in. And I've had to really sit this year, like, damn, do I really want another kid? Even though we've been trying and we've been doing all the things, I have to be really honest with myself. And I'm going through that process now, not because it's been so heartbreaking and all the things, it's like, do I really want, you know, another child and I'm sitting with that now, because it is heartbreaking. It's heartbreaking. It takes an emotional toll on your body. You think like, you know, I might be punished. You think all of the worst things. But today I'm at the point where, well, he's there, but we're just not aligned. And one thing that I know for sure is they have criteria. When they get here, they have criteria, and unless you're meeting them, they're not coming. They are not coming. You can will them to the moon and back. They're not coming. And, you know, and I have to, you know, we have to have my husband and I, we have to kind of figure out, it's like, do we want to go this route to, or what route do we want to go in and feeling comfortable with that and not feeling on in devastation about it. - Thank you so much for sharing that, Violet. That is like, I think going to be life changing for so many people, like, deeply appreciate you because I'm sure it hasn't been easy. So as a nutritionist, and I'd like to hear your thoughts to Christine, like, what do you guys think? Obviously, like, infertility is on the rise, and there's all these, like, toxic things and chemicals and all that kind of stuff. But do you think it's like more of a spiritual issue? And then, like, the things causing it is secondary? Or what do you guys, what do you guys think about that? Like, how do we balance both the spiritual and the physical when we think about the infertility? - During that time, I did so many, I did so many labs for women to see what their fertility status, and I did body scans, and I stressed. - Sorry, Violet, body scans, guys, is something that we learned. - Oh, yes. - And in SoulTeacher, that Violet was amazing at, 'cause she had, like, the background in it, where basically you can energetically scan the person's body to see, like, what's going on, so sorry, continue. - Yeah, yes, sorry about that. Stress is a number one trigger, just from cultural conditioning, and living in this rugged day to day that we're just, you know, we're accustomed to, I think that is a number one driver, but I think spiritually, more than anything, is the biggest setback in what I've seen, because even when, like, I've seen very healthy pregnancies and bodies that when you energetically scan them, like, oh, there's a little bit of inflammation, you know, there's a little bit of thyroid issue. Successful pregnancy is healthy babies, so I think more the bigger block is the energetic and spiritual block. Like, are you meshing one-on-one? Are you energetically aligned with the spirit baby that's trying to come in, for whatever reason it might be? - Yeah, and I think, like, even if we look at stress, it's just, it's a symptom of misalignment. Like, to me, it's like, I am misaligned in some way, because, you know, the way that, like, I work might be very stressful to somebody else, but it's very in alignment with me, let's say, and let's say the way somebody else works would be, you know, so it's not that that is, like, right or wrong, it's more about, like, what is your truth, what is your purpose, and are you in alignment with that? And I would imagine that as on a collective level, well, first of all, like, these spirit babies are asking for a lot more, because, like, the stakes are higher, you know, in many ways, they're like, all right, we can't fuck around anymore, we've been sending these souls to Earth, and parents have been just, like, fucking them up, so, like, like, wait. - It doesn't mean you need to have higher criteria. - I had this one girlfriend growing up that would always say, like, when she would hear about, like, a child being raised by, like, an awful parent or whatever, like, you know, a sad situation, she'd always be like, I don't understand, like, we should have, like, licenses to get married, like, she always, I mean, to have children, like, she was like, you know, not everybody should have a child, like, she would get really frustrating with this, and I'm like, well, now, apparently, the kids are taking this into their own hands somehow, but the souls. - And I would say, like, as a collective, I guess, like, there's just such a shift to a true, higher alignment that now we're having, like, a collective problem, because, like, it's frustrating, like, like, you were saying, Christine, like, it's unfair, I think, I think that's such a great word. It feels unfair, it is unfair, almost, in a way, because the expectation as a collective is higher, it's, like, the energetic expectation of us is so much higher than it was before. So, Christine, I was just wondering your thoughts, and also, if you can speak to anything you've discovered with miscarriages, I've read a lot of miscarriages, abortions, people that, you know, infertility, all that, but it led to your experience. - We're humans. We live in a physical body, so our physical, I always say, like, mind, body, spirit. Like, I always tell my clients, what are you doing for each of those? Mentally, to prepare emotionally, what are you doing in your physical body? Are you getting your labs done? Are you getting your nutrients or supplements? Are you doing all the things that you feel lines and that support, you know, the conception process? Like, how are you preparing to enter motherhood? Energetic side of it is so huge. Like, I do so much energetic healings with my clients, womb healings, ancestral connection sessions for ancestral healing. You know, we do part opening. The biggest thing I'm seeing energetically is, sometimes mentally, we're like, yeah, I wanna be a mom, I wanna be a parent, let's do it, right? But then we're in our masculine and we're like, okay, what do I need to do to produce a child? Boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. Then my heart and my womb isn't open. I'm not ready because I'm scared. I have limiting beliefs. I have fears around motherhood. I don't feel safe with my partner. And when I refer to safety, it's I don't feel like my partner can provide for me, take care of me, take care of my child. A lot of women are doing it alone. You know, I'm afraid, like, which egg donor should I choose? Should I get a sperm donor? There's just so many variables. That happens to it. So I tell my clients, you know, you really wanna feel energetically open. You wanna create space for this baby to come through. That's what we're doing. It's a process of expanding your energy, clearing everything that's not serving you. And it's a process, you know, it's a process and it's not gonna be perfect. But again, we just wanna get into higher alignment with ourselves, our true selves. You know, some good questions to ask yourself, is there something that I wanna change, but I haven't been changing? But I wanna pursue a new career. Do I need to pursue a new partner? You know, like, what do I need to create space in? What area of my life is asking to change? And that's how we find, you know, I get to create space because this is what my spirit baby is asking or requesting of me. And we start working through that and we get support, you know, and we talk about it because that's how we move forward. The cases of, and gosh, so many clients are, you know, everyone is different, of course. Often with miscarriage too, and I always tell the spirit babies I'm communicating with, I'm like, can we find like another sign, like something else to do than like miscarriage because then it's the baby saying like, you are capable, especially with women who have been told that they can't carry a baby or that something is off biologically or physically. Sometimes it's that baby wanting to come through and say, look, this is possible, stay determined, but something is off. Conditions aren't right right now. Like the timing is it right? Like Violet said, some of us too are carriers or souls. Some souls just want to be reincarnated to see what it feels like or to have an earth side experience. Most of the time it's our babies telling us like, I'm here, this is possible. You can do this. It's just, you know, listening to ourselves and our bodies and saying, okay, what didn't feel supportive right now? Like when the miscarriage happened, how did I feel emotionally and mentally? Did I feel prepared? Did I feel like there was something else that I needed to do? It's usually an indicator of, how can I continue to create space for this child? Friends, it is my favorite time of the year and no, that is not fall, but instead the season of soul reading method. If you're not familiar with my intuition training program, soul reading method, let me quickly share why I think you should join me. If you've ever wanted to doubt yourself less, understand yourself at a soul level, learn how to use your intuition to do fun things like connect with your higher self or read energy, you must join me in soul reading method. This is also a great program for any healers out there or business owners who want to bring more intuition into their work. I love this program so much because of the confidence it builds in the students and the level of peace I see people have after just like really getting to know themselves at a soul level and the community is the best. You just can't beat the soul reading method community. Classes start October 1st and we will go on for six weeks. There are videos, meditations, six live instructions with me. So I'll be in class with you and a bunch of practice circles with two of our graduates from the program, Beck and Sean. If you're feeling called to join, please use the link in the show notes to register today. I cannot wait to see you in soul reading method. I love spirit baby stuff. Like when you take out the emotions from it because it is a hard thing and it's like just very emotional but they're like the funniest like spirit babies just come with like the funniest shit ever. Like they're like their stories and kind of what they come with and they're fascinating. Like I've seen hard situations where, you know I'm pregnant for 20 weeks and like lose a child or something and I have heard this child be like the body wasn't working out for me, you know? Like I didn't like the way that all the like I need a certain vehicle to be able to like live into my purpose. I promise I'm gonna come into the next car. Like the next time you, you know, you get pregnant it's still me. So there's those situations that are difficult sometimes but also like fascinating. I've seen that happen many times and have gotten like really great validation that it was the same soul. I've seen a lot of exactly that. I think also even like people that maybe have abortions that just like feel really bad about that. Like I've also seen souls be like, you know, like I was supposed to come in to have that experience with you to like wake you up or even just because I was like meant to come in and meant to go out that it's like such a spiritual experience and I think that that's one of the things that we have to remember that there is probably nothing in this world that is more spiritual than conceiving, you know? And it's like if we try to go through this process without our spiritual connection it's just going to be like very difficult. I remember getting pregnant with Oliver, actually birthing Oliver. I did a lot of hypnoburthing, which is what Christine does as well with some of her clients. And I was just like really like preparing myself and I remember just telling him and being like, okay, this is like the first thing you and I are, one of the first things you and I are going to do together. And also just kind of remembering that it is a team effort even when you are conceiving, like this is something we are doing together. I remember birthing him and be like, this is something we're going to do together. And it was a beautiful birth. I got to pull him out and all these kinds of things. And it was just like a team, it's a team effort in many ways as well. And that I didn't really bring that with me so much for some reason with the third because I was very attached that Ethan would be a girl. Like I just like swore that he was going to be a girl. And obviously my intuitive ego too was like shot. I was like, how could I be so accurate in so many ways and like get this wrong? So I was, you know, just a little hurt. But it was one of my first like understandings that, yeah, like this was about his life and about his path and about what he was going to do. And that this was like a partnership that we were in partnership doing this together. So I thought that was funny. I want to ask you guys about people that are maybe single, nowhere near a partner, but also want a partner knowing that there's also like a spirit baby coming in. I was wondering, Violet, if you have any thoughts about like single women. A lot of single women got these readings because they're in advance thinking, well, I'm reaching that age. I would like to conceive like, do I have any spirit babies? What's the path? They're there with you, even if the partner is not there yet. And so there's information to be shared even when the partner hasn't yet arrived. And in one particular case, it's so funny. I'm thinking this one woman, she, you know, connected with her spirit baby. And she's very much like the spirit babies. Like, you know, you and my dad are not going to be together. And that's all, that's cool. That's not what I want. You know, you and I are meant to have this like you and me life and we are going to have everything that we need. So start working on the, you know, the traditional, you'd have to have the mom and the dad living in the same household because that's not what I'm coming here for. I want you, I need the dad for this, you know, and it's all going to work out. And so she's in the process of really accepting that this is, you know, at least one opportunity and this baby spirit babies energy is very strong. So even when you don't have the partner yet, they still have information to share with you. They know what they want. And you guys have been contracted together. So get the information, have a chat with them. Yeah, I agree. I was given Oliver's name, probably like, gosh, 10 years before I met Benny or something, I was at a party and his like name came through right away. And there was this person that I was dating before Benny and I was like obsessed. I was like, this is going to be my husband. Like I was like very like obsessed with it. And it was so funny, like towards the end of our breakup, I actually are my final, final breakup with this person because it was one of those like back and forth for like over a year, it was a day that I met Benny. So it was very scary, like very trippy how that happened. And the last thing this guy said to me, you know, in that exchange, he was like, I don't know why I get this feeling that like you're meant to have this like other life and even kids and all that. And it's not with me. Like it was like basically like Oliver was up in there. He's like, listen bastard, like you ain't my daddy. Like you ain't my daddy, close the door. (laughs) So controlling, I was like, no. Like this guy is supposed to be like the daddy, like this is like, I'm... 'Cause I had already felt like I was like, you know, I knew I was gonna have kids and I was feeling that. And I knew that was happening. And it was just this person was in my life. And we had already, you know, created like a connection and we had been together for a while. And it was just like the way I'm so grateful to him because at that time, he was so much more intuitive than I was. Like he was very aware that like, he was like kicking himself out. He didn't want to, but he was like, I gotta go. And it was just so funny. Like it was also the same night that I met Benny. And I still felt the same spirit, baby. But it was like, he was like looking for the right father, you know, he was like that. Like, so they're with you. And that's, I think it can get confusing because the spirit, baby, I could feel it. It's with me, must be this guy or, you know, or this person that I'm like hanging out with. And that is something we had to be like light with because like in my case, it was like, even just the guy with the guy said, like what my ex boyfriend said, like the way he said it, he's like, I just, he's like, I don't know why. I don't know why I feel this way. Like I don't want to do this. But like he's like, it's like, it's not me, is like kind of what he would say. And then yeah, the rest is history because like he closed the door for me and I allowed myself to date Benny. Like 'cause I had met Benny that same day. And I just kind of like was finally open to it. And man, those kids came in, I mean, Benny came with a kid. So it was like, they came in hot like with Benny and I. So sometimes it's the right partner. Like Christine, like you were saying too, you know? And also like you said, like being light with like who the partner, you know, who the partner is. Christine, any thoughts for like, if I'm maybe not even in partnership yet? - Exactly what Violet said, like, no, our spirit babies can really help us with our purpose. You know, because they want to set us up to be our aligned, most authentic selves. Like that's first and foremost. Like your baby's not trying to be an asshole. Like your baby's not trying to tell you, look, you're not worthy or you're not perfect. That's how we interpret it, you know? And so it could be really hard, but your baby really wants the best for you, the best for them, right? They want to set you up to the highest standard that your soul came experience and to live. So a lot of the times the messages from the baby are, you know, they want you to be living your best life. And if we're so focused on them and an outcome and a result, we're not doing all the things that make us happy, the conception process becomes like, okay, we have 20 minutes, I'm ovulating. You know, it becomes one of those like turnkey and which is, you know, sometimes it happens, but especially for single women who know, okay, one day I do want to become a mother, what kind of partner am I cultivating or calling in? The baby will basically tell us, look, sometimes maybe you need to work on the, it's, again, the limiting beliefs or the criteria. Maybe your criteria for partnership is changing, evolving, growing. Maybe you need to be more open. Maybe you need to be putting yourself out more. Like they're gonna show us the things that we need to heal within ourselves to call in and attract that partner for us. You know, relationships can be tricky because there's free will. You have the free will of your partner, you have your free will and you have the baby's free will. So also it's about, again, creating space and being open like Violet said, to receive, like not allowing our egos to kind of dictate the narrative as much because, you know, usually we end up with a partner that we never expected. My husband and I knew each other since high school, but we've dated other people and then like, it was a decade later after college where we reunited and we're like, oh wow, we could actually date and this could work, but the versions of ourselves that we were then would have never worked. We would have never been in alignment to be together or even to have children together, to actually fulfill our soul contract. If we would have rushed it, if we would have forced it, would have never happened. No, there's a divine timing involved in it as well. I always tell, I always tell my clients, even when visioning, you know, vision planning, not only for your future family, but for the partner, but not even being like, well, you can be specific. Like I need my partner to do this, this and this, but it's more so about how you wanna feel, like how you wanna feel, how do you want your partner to support you, how do you wanna show up in a relationship and calling in those tributes rather than, you know, focusing so much on like superficial stuff we need in this human existence, but it's more about like how you want to feel, how you want your partner to make you feel, how you want to show up and feel in a relationship. And by doing that, like you can start energetically attracting at vibration, right? And your spirit baby will guide you and show you like-- - That are the best match makers ever. If you let them be. - You know, if you really let them. So guys, connecting with the spirit baby, like we're talking about that, but it's quite simple. I know it sounds like complicated. Obviously we all studied together and we kind of all studied in the same way through soul teacher and all that, but it's really just sitting and the same way that maybe you've ever felt like your grandmother who has passed, like be around you, same vibe. It's really not so complicated, you know soul because like you guys are soul mates. So this is like a familiar feeling to you for sure. And I mean, it's obviously nice to like go and have a reading with either of these ladies or with myself, however you want to do it, but the best connection is gonna come through you. And it really is like a connection of, let me hear like what they want to say rather than what I want them to say. Like I feel with everything that we're saying, like the big like message, if there's like one message that I'm getting, it's like truly to let go, you know? It's like such a message of like letting go that control and letting go like where and really like, you know, like Christine was just saying, like, you know, often we marry the people. We don't even think we're gonna marry. We end up in these situations like we don't think we're, you know, we leave jobs that we didn't think we were gonna leave all that kind of stuff. So it's like we have to be open like where life is supposed to take us in order to like live this kind of life with this soulmate because is spiritual path and it is like our highest path, it is like the purpose path. And it is a path that was created by our souls, by God. And it is a much higher path than we could actually like physically right now with our human brain decide. So there is, you know, this energy of being open to surprises like is always like one of the things I say, like we need to be open to surprises. And sometimes when you're in such a controlling place, you're not open to surprises. Like you need to be like, you know, violet, I'm sure moving to Michigan was probably like a surprise. Like that was it on the bingo card, you know, like the same thing with me. Like I really didn't, you know, where I moved and my husband being sick, like I didn't like, I didn't plan for that at all, you know. So we have to be open to that because that is like where these spare babies come from. They come, even if you're super planning it and calculating your ovulation and all that kind of stuff. But it's an energy of, yeah, of letting go, of surprise, of being taken what to the route that is best for me. Not best for me, but like the route that like God is calling me to what is in my highest and greatest good. Like violet was just sharing. She's like, you know, she probably for a long, like she studied super hard. She was, you know, a nutritionist. She had these businesses like, I mean, I'm sure there was no way that when she was doing that business that she ever wanted to like leave it go, but let it go. But obviously her path was like asking her to let that go. And that's like a huge sacrifice when you like have an idea for, you know, what is like your path. So we have to be willing to let go. Even the things that we love the most, you know, like, okay, like I love making money. I love this job. Like sometimes, not in all cases, but I always play with that anything that I'm very attached to in my life. I always play with that because I know that like, if there's anything that I'm super attached to in that way, I will not like live into my truth. And actually even like the story of Benny and I, when he started to, you know, get sober and our lives really started to change for the best. The thing I told him before all this happened, because I could tell Benny was really attached to being the provider and like, that's where his worth was. And he was, you know, scared of not being loved by me. And I remember getting to the place and I just said, Benny, I don't think you understand. Like, I love you in a cardboard box. And what I meant by that was like, I will love you and marry you if like, and be with you, I'm sorry, if we are living on the streets in a cardboard box. Like everything that I have here, it's amazing. My kids are in their private school uniforms. I have this super nice house, I had the nice car. That's amazing, but none of this matters. And like, that is when all the change happened because I have all that back. Like it's not like, it's not like, oh, now I have to be poor, whatever that may be. But it was more just that anything that I'm attached to is definitely getting in the way. So that's like, 'cause this is a, this is the path of your purpose, which very rarely is something that you will fully be able to predict and fully be able to control. It's an energetic shift that you get into that is very surrender and always just looking at your life and being like, okay, could I lose this house today? Could I lose this 30 acres today? Like you have to play with that constantly because that is like where, like if there is any of that, then that is where like, that's how these blessings like can't come in. Okay. I'll get off my little soap box. So to wrap it up, Violet, anything like you want to share anything coming through from the children for you or anything of like your own experience, you know, that you want to share before we get going. I've been thinking about my, I don't know why, but somebody needs to hear this. My parents and my, before I was born, my mom and dad had, my mom and dad had a stillborn that traumatized my mom so much that even when I was giving birth to Demi, my mom was literally off in a corner just fear that the same thing was gonna happen because I was a couple of days passed through the due date. I'd already at that time been connecting with Demi and it's like, no, everything's gonna be fine. Like, okay, mom, just go stand over there. But I finally connected. I don't remember if it was my dad that asked me or how it came up, but I connected with that baby. And the purpose as hard and traumatizing as that was because my, even my mom and dad, we describe it now, it's like that baby was so wanted and so loved, but it was meant to bring them closer and had that baby stayed, my sister and I who ran these huge businesses together and we helped so many people change their lives, we wouldn't have gotten to do the thing that we needed to do. I remember when I told my mom and my dad, my dad, my dad was sobbing, so it was really freeing for them. So I think that even, even going back, like we were talking about spirit babies, not about what if can happen in the future, but there is also information from the past that a lot of times has to be even cleared up. And we talk about spirit babies as like the human incarnation, but our womb is also what gives birth to future businesses and really it's gonna move this earth forward. And so I think just as a last parting message, we have information for the future, but there's information from the past to that they can give us. - That's very beautiful and very accurate in a lot of the themes that we're talking about, that this is like an ancestral journey as well. And looking at that, whether it's like your own miscarriages or your own, but also at your parents and their stories and sometimes we're born and to be a twin and it's just us. And that is, you know, like you carry those kind of stories so to be able to look at that. Thank you, Violet. Okay, Christine. - Well, in line with the messages that we're coming through like I feel like a really important one is, sitting in my clients too, like we're so busy, especially if you're on a fertility or conception journey and you're like, okay, well, I need to like ovulate it. You know, it's like a schedule. Just take five, 10 minutes of every day to sit and connect with your body, to try to connect with your body, to try to listen to your spirit baby, to go within and to really find that alignment because even when like the medical professionals are telling you, you need to do this. And then my acupuncture is that my herbalist is telling me I need to do this. You know, there's so many external voices. Even when you're getting a reading, right? A lot of my clients, I tell them just mirroring what you already know intuitively. Shouldn't be any sense of like co-dependence on a healer, a reader, a co-professional because at the end of the day, contract between you and your baby is so special that you can understand it. Like we can interpret it for you. We can give you like the general line of it. And like, you know, but at the end of the day, it really is up to you. It's up to you to listen to your body and to listen to the baby. And to do that, you know, really taking time out of your day to check in. How is my body feeling? You know, how am I feeling, journaling, meditation? I think sometimes we take those practices for granted because we feel like, well, these injections are the supplements, like that's what's gonna get me pregnant. But like connecting back to the spiritual side of it and really being in tune and alignment with maybe this doesn't feel good. Like maybe this route or this method doesn't feel supportive. And if we just give ourselves five to 10 minutes to slow down, then we'll know like, okay, what's the right step for us? 'Cause often it's a balance of the professional, the expert and our intuition. Like I have my information, but what feels supportive and aligns for me and my baby, what feels true to me? Because everyone is gonna be different. So taking in your own sense of intuition and really feel supportive and aligned for you during the process. - And sometimes that itself is the message. That's the initiation of becoming a mom is like being able, because when that baby's born, you know how many people are gonna tell you, like you need to do this, you need to do that. Like I remember being a newborn mom and walking to like the supermarket and like just the Cuban little, the Cuban old lady that knew me from going to the supermarket telling me all the different things I should be doing with my baby. And of course, I love these women and I respect them and they were elders and all these things, but being able to know what messages are for me and which ones are not for me. You know, so that like, that's the initiation of the mother is the intuition. And on that note, we invite you to soul reading method. Guys, this will come out as we're registering people in case you wanna join. And that's really the place where all of us active, you know, really got in tune with our own intuition, activated that we don't do spirit babies in specific, but we are just activating intuition the whole time. And you know, once you activate it and once you have a connection to it, you can do all the things. The way you connect to a spirit guide or a past loved one is the same way you connect to a spirit baby or the Akashic records, which is something Christine uses a lot as well. And there is no greater connection than the one you have yourself. So we encourage you to, yeah, to definitely just go down your own intuition journey itself. So we really hope that this was helpful and supportive guys. I mean, we could always have these conversations 'cause there's so much here. And we as mothers are like reaching out to you guys, also future mothers or current mothers or future parents was we are all raising these kids together. It is like one of my greatest honors is to be here with all of you guys as we raise this next generation together. It's like truly an honor to be raising these really beautiful children. So thank you to Violet and Christine for being here. If you guys are interested in connecting with them, just go to the show notes. We have all sorts of links for them. If you're interested in joining Soul Reading Method, we also have a link for that as well. So I love you guys so much. I love you both Violet and Christine. I am so grateful that we got to have these conversations and we will see you guys soon. Thank you. - Thank you. (upbeat music) - That's it for today's episode. Thank you so much for listening. I love you guys so much. If you have a sec, I would so appreciate it if you would leave me a review wherever you listen to podcasts. Those reviews are so helpful. And if you're ready to start living your soul-led life, pick up my latest book, Soul-led Living, available on Amazon. Until next time, love you much. (upbeat music) (gentle music) [BLANK_AUDIO]
