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Daily Dads #111: Friendships will Influence Them - Show Them How to Build a Community

Daily Dads #111:

Today, Dom, Blaze, and Jay discuss their morning routines, the importance of gratitude, and the dynamics of friendship. They delve into the challenges of parenting, particularly in fostering critical thinking and independence in their children. The conversation also touches on community engagement through activities like art walks and step challenges, highlighting the significance of support and connection in personal growth.


Takeaways from today:

  • Gratitude can enhance motivation and routine.
  • Friendship provides valuable support and inspiration.
  • Parenting involves navigating various challenges and dynamics.
  • Encouraging critical thinking in children is essential.
  • Community activities foster connection and engagement.
  • Personal growth is a continuous journey influenced by relationships.
  • Art can be a meaningful way to connect with the community.
  • Maintaining balance in family dynamics is crucial.
  • Open discussions about opinions can promote independent thinking.
  • Embracing new experiences can lead to personal growth.


Keywords: morning routines, gratitude, friendship, parenting, community, step challenge, personal growth, critical thinking, family dynamics, art, Ryan Holiday, Vaynerchuck, GaryVee, VeeFriends, VeeDads, DailyDads, Daily Dads


Other Resources:

Daily Dad by Ryan Holiday: https://dailydad.com/

Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday: https://dailystoic.com/

VeeFriends: https://veefriends.com/


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Broadcast on:
04 Oct 2024
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I don't have that blaze. Good morning. Good morning, everybody. It is total domination. The boys are otherwise indisposed. Let's say that. And so it's my turn to take the reins of the show. So here I am. I just finished my morning walk and I am just barely got home in time. I see you savage calves. Let me get it. I'm going to drop the link in the chat if I can copy message. Let's go. Good morning. Good morning. Good morning, nays. See if that works. It's the Riverside link. So if you have it already, I think it should still work. Morning. Morning, Robbie. How you doing? I'm sweaty. I'm hot, but I'm here. All good, wet, good in the western Australia. My kids asked me about you, Nate, the other day, they're like, Dad, how's your friend? Is he still in Australia? The guy who sent us a cookies, and I'm like, I'm like, yeah, he lives there. Of course. Like, oh, man. But anyways, start some gratitude, right? I'm actually really grateful for this step challenge, dude. It's going well. I appreciate the level of competition, the level of togetherness, whatever you want to call it, getting myself out there. It really helped me get back in the routine of waking up early, like ready to go and having something to do as opposed to, I don't know, the last couple of last month or so, I've been kind of like a little out of it, a little like maybe a little more relaxed in my wake up, maybe skipping that first alarm, you know, being in Saturdays and Sundays, missing this show, you know, some Saturdays and some Sundays. So you have a, I popped up at 4am, just finished a three and a half mile walk. I was texting the guys to see, because I know Ryan's camping, and Blaze had texted last night saying he wouldn't be available. So I got a little concern that we hadn't heard from Ryan. Hope the Bears didn't get him. Good morning, Jason. How are you doing? Good morning, Tom. Yeah, and so I was texting the guys on my walk and I was like, are you going to be able to start this up? And I had to like, not necessarily divert a different path home, but I just had to start speed walking home to get here and get the laptop set up and make sure I needed it if I had to. Yeah, Jason's hair is always epic. That's, that's one of the things I love about seeing you on the screen and miss you, miss you when you're gone as the, every time I see you, I get that little chuckle of like what these hair are going to be. So the first thing I do in the morning, I don't have time, I don't have time to manicure this mob. Yeah, yeah, of course. I'm trying to stay, sit outside more like you are, because I enjoy, I enjoy that. Yeah. Sit in my basement. I probably have like maybe two or months of that. Outside before it gets real cold. Yeah. Yeah, it finally took a dive in, in temperature here. I think or I mean, still not going to be colder than everybody else, but like mid to low 60s, I think in the morning, like a nice brisk morning. So I've been in a hoodie all morning, which is nice. Yeah. But that's too challenging. This, this step competition is a big fail for me so far. Oh really? Yeah. I mean, Ryan is very good about texting and I'm on like the team text thread. Uh huh. And I just, I don't have my phone on me to track my steps. Like I honestly, I. Dogs are going nuts. It's, it's, it's hard for me to keep it top of mind during the day. So I'm really going to try, try again on Monday. Yeah, I feel like I'd be around maybe between 10 and 12,000 during any day. I feel like I might be, but during the week days or the weekends, the weekdays, like at school, because don't sit, I don't sit down a whole lot. I'm usually walking. I feel like it'd be a really good asset to Team Gray. If I, yeah, get my act together. You need a, you need a watch or something if you can't have your phone on you all the time. Yeah. But yeah, that's definitely a, it's definitely an issue. I know for sure. I know my wife's that way. Like she never wears her watch or never charges it. So like when we were doing our step competition, just her and I, she was like, it's never charged. I don't know where it is. And I'm like, not my problem dude. I'm just kicking your ass. I'm like, turn your phone on your phone tracks your steps too. And she's like, I don't have pockets. I'm like, am I problem again? I went back. Team Brofitt says that Team Green has a ringer. Yeah, we do. He's referring to Robbie. No, Robbie. We call him Gramps because he is a grand father. Okay. Yeah. Our, our age, our, I think he's our age, Matt, and in, in here. Yeah, dude. That's a lot of touch I am. I don't even know the names of some of these awesome walkers. Yeah, he, I guess he made a goal a while ago to walk their circumference of the world in like a certain amount of time. And he boiled it down to like 20,000 or something steps every day. And he already completed it, but I think it, it kind of stuck with him. So I think his average is like 19 to 25 a day or something crazy like that. So he's definitely the ringer on our team. But anyways, gratitude, bud. Um, yeah, I actually, part of the reason why I wanted to jump on, I was planning on just listening, but my best friend just sent me a really good message. He's usually up later. And I, I woke up this morning and I read it. And I feel like it really applied to what we were doing. And I'm trying to get him to join up with us on, on these mornings, as I feel like he'd really enjoy it. He's also a father. He's really good with words. He is a, he is a silver-tongued devil. But what he, he wrote to me was, I hope that your world is full and those places that it feels like it's boiling over. Hit the ground of all the foundations that you have made. Nothing feels better than to see the progress of the boiling pot and realize what appeared to be. Case of liquid finds its way to solidify the foundation. And that was a great message to what to wake up to. And I'm really thankful for that. And I've been thinking about that since I woke up at six. Kind of how, I think, I think we, we all have like different pots, right? You know, you have your family pot, you got your, your, your self pot. And the different times they might all be boiling over, but there also might be times where those pots get neglected. Kind of like filling your mug or something. But I'm grateful for that analogy to wake up to. It was really good thought to have. Yeah. Like, like, for example, I feel like my family pot is boiling over. I feel like at the moment my school pot is boiling over. I feel like my, my nuclear family pot with my mom and dad, I feel like that's kind of tepid because I don't get in touch with them very often. But I, that was, that was a good, good thought to wake up to and consider, you know, where am I putting my energy? Yeah. Does he send that? Does he send you messages like that often? Like, is he a friend that you guys, you keep in touch like that and kind of drops those bombs on you when you need them? He is, he is all about bomb dropping. We have really good, wide ranging, deep discussions like when we're really on top of it. He was my, my best friend from arts, from art school. So a lot of our, like, we will, we can spend a thread for like three hours and like, you know, it might be like an experimental conversation on something that we're working on or want to work on. But I really value that, that friendship that I've kept over 20, almost 25 years now. Yeah, it's a beautiful thing. It is a beautiful thing. All right, I'll see you. What was yours? Mine was, I was, I was speaking on it as you were coming up. So it's, it's for the step challenge right now. I'm right. I'm enjoying it. Like Robbie just said right there. Grateful for you all. Grateful to share the opportunity of, or the opportunity to share my love of walking with the community. So yeah, again, like, he's always been, he's always been one out there kind of talking about it. And it's Ryan and I have spoken about it. When he and I have talked on calls about just moving a little bit more because my goals are not as much strength as they are stamina. You know, the three kid life, the running of business life, all that stuff. Like my, my goal is not to be like the type of strong I want to be as mentally strong, but like more so I want the energy to be able to like run a whole day at work, and then come home and be able to, you know, do whatever my kids need them to do and not crash. And it's hard. So that's, that's what I'm trying to build up to. Yeah, I can relate to you. Did you read? I think I haven't really read. I read this morning. Yeah, I didn't take notes. I'm enjoying writing in the book. Yeah, that's kind of like a way, like a different way of journaling. Yeah. Ryan Ryan all the day himself, he practices and preaches that a lot, like actually underlining and taking notes and he'll, he said like plenty of times like he's like, he's like, if I see someone, if I see one of my books from someone and it has a bunch of writing on it, he's like, I'm, I'm a happy guy because he's like, that's what I do. He's like, you should see like, you know, my copy of Marcus Aurelius that's 20 years old is like, just like in destroyed. He's like, and I hope that my books, you know, change, you know, turn that way too, because they strike someone like you to like actually like take notes in them. I've never been a fan of it. And then I switched to the Kindle. So I definitely don't do it. But yeah, I'm glad you do. It's really cool. I really like the aesthetic of an aged well-worn book. Yeah. So yes, I did read it and I would say that it's timely for sure. In this particular time of the year and America with elections and all that stuff and all these contentious online discussions that I observe between my friends. And I enjoy the, let my puppy over here. You can, you can jump, you can switch over if you'd like. Yeah. So the reading today, not just to read, but to read critically, to read attentively, not to be satisfied with just getting the gist of it, Marcus Aurelius. So I kind of have an idea of what this is, like it's like same with Gary V, like I've listened to a lot of Ryan's content. And I know that he, you know, one of his, a couple of his sayings around books are like, you know, like books are a way to have conversations with the dead. You know, our fallen mentors, ancestors, you know, heroes, whatever you want to call it. And they're not meant to just be like, read the book. And it's their page, their words are gold and can't be challenged or, you know, can't spark a conversation or a debate. You know, I'm sure every person who writes a book on a subject, they know that they are not the master of the subject, that they're not writing the one and only book on that subject. And, you know, the, the, the goal of, of most of those authors is probably to get the reader to spark an interest in whatever they have wrote on, and then double click and do further diligence, have conversations with friends like we're doing online right now, journal about it so that they can reflect on their on their self, like Jason was saying he does. And, you know, maybe you open another book or reach out to the author if they're still around, reach out to the authors, you know, people, community, et cetera. I like it. I dig it. Yeah, that this page also kind of inspired me to jump on as well, and text you for the link. And I'll go right to the heart of like this week, like, you know, we watched the election, the debate as a family. And I was really curious as to what my girls think. So, I don't really ever force my girls to sit down and watch something, except it's like back to the future, it's like, you got to watch this movie, my face, my child about this movie. But me and my wife watched it, I told my girls to sit down and watch it, and I didn't say anything in order my wife, because I was really interested to hear the thoughts of my girls. And you could probably imagine, like, you know, what comments like kids would make, you know, about what they see, about what was being said. And, you know, I'll be really honest, like, I'm not, I'm not a Donald Trump fan, I'm not going to make this political. But some of the observations that my, my daughters were making on what was said, I was like, okay, they're thinking about it, and they're making decisions, and I'm glad they're the observations that they're making. But, but I'm, I was very careful to not say what was on my mind, because I wanted them to be able to form their own opinion. And even when they were questioning things, I, you know, whether or not I disagree, I think it's important to ask them why they think the way they think, you know, like, when they say, oh, I like, I like her, I'm like, okay, well, why do you like her? What did you, what did you like about what she said? Why do you think, why do you think some people don't like that? And that's a good challenge as a parent, too, just like when you're, when your kids have thoughts that you may immediately feel like you have to jump in incorrect, is to let that flow and let them figure that out. And I think that's a good exercise as a parent. Yeah. Yeah, it's, um, hold your tongue, hold your opinion, ask more questions, like maybe, like leading questions, if you're like wanting them to go in a certain direction as far as like, tell me more about why you think that, um, get them to like, get them to think it through, get them to, you know, get curious, get them to double tap, you know, oh, oh, you think that person, you know, handled herself well, like, go, go on, let's go online and find out more, you know, like, yeah, I think that's a lot of what we're, we're learning about this month in the book is, is teaching them to read, teaching them to think critically, teaching them to, you know, dive deeper, um, you know, be, be independent, like, independently curious. Like, I'm kind of like struggling with that right now with my kids, is trying on my middle and my younger is like, trying to get them to want to learn. And so I think I had said in the beginning of this month, when I found out what this month was around I'm like, this is a, like a hard month for me of like, because that's one of my failures is, uh, having them want to be learners, like the, they don't want to go to school, you know, like, they're those kids. Um, my high schooler is different. And she, she loves it. She's, I think she's having such a good time socially that like, like to use your analogy, like that pot is, is so full and like, oh, you know, like overly full that like her vibe is so high that she's, she's also crushing in classes. Like she told us the other day, like she's got straight days right now. Um, and, and that's great to hear for sure. So, and at the same time, it's hard to, I'm, I'm juggling balancing, like my focus and concentration on the younger ones, and then giving the teenager, like, enough time, but not too much time because like she's solid, right? Like, but I don't ever want her to feel like, oh, dad's just focusing on the little kids because they're not solid. So I'm gonna become not solid to get more of his attention. Because I know that that's like has the potential to be a thing. Um, the middle score is she's, she had like three S as of the other day in her classes. And it's only like a month and a half in. So I don't know how you are with, with grades and all that stuff. But for me, it seems a little strange to like, I don't like the instant, instant viewing of grades and assignments. I'm not a fan of it. Um, but that might be another one. Are you talking from, from the parent perspective or from the perspective of a students, of a student seeing their grades in progress? Yeah, I think, I think kind of both. I mean, from the parent perspective, I, I think of it as like, so the two like books that I'm in, in the process of going back and forth, are they, they all are teaching more of like autonomy towards kids, especially at middle school and so that they can learn to be, you know, fully independent in high school, because then, you know, they go off into the world and they do their own thing. And so it's like gradually teaching it. And, you know, a lot of the middle school teachers, you know, in the, in the, you know, in the parent teacher stuff, they're like, you know, here's the link for their grades, make sure you're keeping up with them and like, or here, Labor Day weekend, they sent an email like, uh, long weekend, check in with your kids. And, and it just, in my household, it's STEM, it brings up more dad than it does good. It's like your, you got S like, okay, so we're not having any fun this weekend. You're in trouble, like that kind of stuff. And I don't know, it's not a fully fleshed out thought because normally I'm not the one who handles that. Um, more of my wife's duty. Yeah, I understand. I understand where you're coming from, for sure. Um, when, like, as soon as, as grades, as soon as I drop grades, like, I mean, my, my view points a bit different. I teach art. I'm very open about grades not being my favorite thing to do. And I'm also not really concerned about their grade. I'm concerned about, you know, can they, can they think creatively and work through challenges? But as far as grades go, it's like, yeah, as soon as I drop grades, you know, I, like, I just did it yesterday for the first time in the quarter. And, uh, that, that tends to light a fire underneath like students' butts. And then, you know, I'll get some parent emails, like, you know, why is my kid failing? And, um, it's on me that I can explain that concisely. And normally it's just like a cable fail if they're not doing anything. Um, that's, that's kind of, that's kind of my attitude. Um, Yeah, my, my wife and I have kind of changed roles. So I'm, I'm taking over a little bit with the middle schooler and I, I signed up for the parent teacher conference. I think it's like next week or something or the following week. So I'm excited to dive deeper and, and try to help figure this out, like between me and the teacher and me and my kid. Yeah, I would say this, there's a good, uh, so my oldest daughter, she's in sixth grade at my school and sixth graders, they have to send out an email to their parents and their teacher about what they're doing, doing in the week. So it's not only focusing on grades, it's like, fortunately my daughter, like you said, it's like you have trouble with, you know, one kid's doing great, maybe the other kids aren't doing so great. Uh, and it's really easy to focus on my oldest because she's close. Um, and then like with my other two daughters, I focus more on the after school things, but, uh, I can see what like she says, she tells us what she's doing in other classes and I think that's a lot more important than the grades cause I got the end of the email. She posts like she, she tells us the grades and maybe other schools do this. I hope they do cause it's cool. So it's like, yeah, you can see their grades, but you can also see what she thinks that she's doing in school and how, yeah, and, and what's interesting to her and then that kind of. Did you say that's weekly? Uh, they send it out weekly. Yeah. Oh, nice. Yeah, that is really cool. So there's, I don't think there's any magic bullet to like, you know, if we go back to the boiling pot. I, I would, I wouldn't say that all three of my pots or, you know, for my kids are all boiling over at the same time. You know, like maybe, you know, maybe when everything lines they are, but there's something to, to tend to, for sure. Yeah. Yep. All right. Well, I mean, those are quick 30 minutes. How does that happen? I don't know. I think I enjoyed that. Should we, should we go to the question that acknowledge some of our friends? Our friends are hanging out. Uh, nath, nath. Uh, he sends his reading to his son, Jesse, and then he quizzes him or talks about it with him. Um, he said he's very interested to see, interested to see if he really found the depth into it as we always try to go deeper into each day, teaching them not only to question everything, but to be curious to help activate their brains into a want and to need to be curious. Then we got another Turner in the chat. Good morning, Dylan. To the moon, cards dropped in just to say GM and then rage quit, I think. Uh, bro fit, Craig, everybody's in here hanging out. Chats, chats, chats doing good. Chats doing good. Been a little relaxed, right? I like all the colors. Yeah. Change your colors, everybody. Mix it up. Craig and Nathan are team green so that I mean, you know, you got to see more green than you see gray. Um, what you got going on today and tomorrow? Guys doing anything fun? We got a soccer game today. We got long months got an art walk, which I enjoy. I think that was my big fail of the year. I wanted to do a booth. Um, whatever, I never got on top of it, but it's really cool to see some of the people I've known over the years and like, they've, they have their own like art booth. And I like, I try to buy one piece of like local art a year. Do you do the other kids enjoy it? Like how are the kids with art? Oh, yeah. Art's a toy. We play, we play with it. We break it, put it back together. This is the second time that Nathan has referenced a Vegemite. Listen, me some Vegemite and Nathan, I'll be honest, I haven't tried it yet. The Tim Tams went down so good and the Vegemite straight scared me, but I will, I'll get it today and I will send you my, my honest take and review. I'm thinking about putting some on a bagel. Um, you know, maybe throwing some on some, some of my, I usually do a bagel with peanut butter in the morning, but I'll throw some, throw some Vegemite in there and see how, see how it goes down. My kids looked at it and they fucking ran. Everything else he sent, like gummy worms, gummy something else on the Tim Tams, like they destroyed it. But, uh, tell me, I was afraid you were going to say I have to raw dog it. All right, dude. I'll, I'll put, you know, I'll try it. I'm good. I used to not be one to try anything, but I'm slowly growing up, as my dad would say, and I, I try everything now. Where did the mountains go? Um, anyways, yeah, we got a show weekend this weekend. So, and the next weekend's homecoming and my daughter just got asked to homecoming. So that was like a cute little thing. Oh, we happened yesterday. Yeah, we're not, we're not there yet. We're not at the romantic stage yet. And else something else. We'll see how it goes. We'll see if I ever meet the kid. I have dreams of like having my brother in lock him over and do the scene from bad boys. Um, but you know, obviously that's not not okay. And I'm all that kind of person anyways, but embrace it. Well, it lasts. Hopefully it pasted live on tomorrow's stream. All right, Craig, let's do that. Yeah, we're, we're a GoPro while you're doing the reductions. Just be here, just like spoon eating Vegemite the whole time. And then puking in the bush right behind me. Your dad was eating Vegemite with the knife. All right, guys, everybody have a great day. Or, uh, the Aussie boys have a great sleep and a great day while we're sleeping. Um, yeah, man, see you. Thanks for coming on and hanging with me. I don't like doing stuff like this alone. So I appreciate you for sure. All right, man, see you later. Shut it down, Blaze. You got a text in [BLANK_AUDIO] [BLANK_AUDIO] [BLANK_AUDIO] [BLANK_AUDIO] [BLANK_AUDIO] [BLANK_AUDIO] [BLANK_AUDIO] You [BLANK_AUDIO]