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Daily Dads #107: It's THEIR Imagination, Don't Get in the Way

Daily Dads #107:

Today the Dad's discuss various themes surrounding family life, including camping adventures, fire safety, gratitude for family activities, coaching insights, and the importance of creativity in play, particularly through Legos. They share personal anecdotes and insights, emphasizing the value of allowing children to explore their creativity and the joys of family bonding.


Takeaways from today:

  • It's important to practice fire safety while camping.
  • Gratitude can be found in everyday life experiences.
  • Coaching offers valuable lessons in sportsmanship and teamwork.
  • Creativity in play is essential for children's development.
  • Legos can foster imagination and creativity in kids.
  • Family activities strengthen bonds and create lasting memories.
  • It's okay to let kids take apart their toys to build new things.
  • Engaging in outdoor activities can be a great way to connect with family.
  • Finding joy in simple things can enhance family life.
  • Encouraging kids to be creative can lead to unexpected outcomes.


Keywords: camping, family, gratitude, coaching, creativity, Legos, parenting, sportsmanship, activities, play, Ryan Holiday, Vaynerchuck, GaryVee, VeeFriends, VeeDads, DailyDads, Daily Dads


Other Resources:

Daily Dad by Ryan Holiday: https://dailydad.com/

Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday: https://dailystoic.com/

VeeFriends: https://veefriends.com/


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Broadcast on:
04 Oct 2024
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(upbeat music) Oh, what's up, what's up? Late, I'm not late. I just had to go to the bathroom if I wanted it to. (sighs) So sorry, look, I did this. I either killed him or he fell asleep again. He usually falls asleep. - Have you ever seen one of these before? - Is it, is it one of those rice things that you can microwave? - I don't know if you can microwave it, but it's a lavender rice bag, and I wear it at yoga, and I put it over my eyes, and I never feel so at peace with this over my eyes. It's the best. You should get one. - I should, I think it would be, I don't know, you know what? I haven't been good at being still lately. - Well, you're a shaker and a mover. - I am a shaker and mover. Thanks for saying that. - Sometimes I feel guilty for not being able to sit. So anyway, what's happening? - I feel guilty that I haven't bought that, oh shoot. I feel guilty that I haven't bought that phone holder for my car yet, so I'm still sitting here holding this phone. But I'm gonna get it together. I have a long list of things to do, and we're gonna do it. - Okay, good. I'm gonna do this 'cause someone told me it was really loud last time. - Oh, you sound great. (indistinct) - Don, did you-- - Do him. - You didn't, Don, you didn't need a link, right? - Well, no, I finally did the access that you sent me. - Oh, nice. Well, when I hit a change, we upgraded, guys. We upgraded to, we upgraded to B Dad's business plan, maybe? I forget what it was, but anyways, where we're at. Oh, I need to do that 'cause I'm still a guest. - No, you're not, you're an admin. - I know, but I'm in a guest link. - Oh, yeah, no, you have all access, my friend. - I don't know, 'cause I log, so this is what I do. I log into StreamYard from my browser. It gives me a link, I go to the app, I plug it in, I come in on as a guest. Is there a better way to do it? - You know what, I'm gonna say this. My answer should be I don't know, 'cause I don't know, because it's something, if someone else might be, know a lot better than I do, but I would say that I don't know from the guest side what it looks like right now, although I've been a guest before. I don't know, I would say just go through and see if you can get different access. I don't know, we can hop on a call later and see how it goes. - I'll play around with it. - Sounds like a good plan. Top of the morning, how's everybody doing? - Great. - I'm getting a little stressed. We have a lot going on 'cause we can, I feel like I didn't risk eligible my client's location. - Are you talking about camping and stuff? - Yeah, yeah, yeah. - When you're camping, how do you practice fire safety? - My way that hates me, because I'm such the like, no, let the little children that don't know about fire go close to the fire, because if they get burned, then they will learn. And then I think last time, I think one of the kids we were with was a lot smaller than I should have been able to let that happen. And they got burned, so not, not horribly, they just took something that they shouldn't have touched. But I was like, see, they're not gonna touch it again. And we're all safe, their hand hurts right now, but it'll go away, like they feel quick. - I worked on a burn unit for a year. So I'm always like really cautious around fire. And probably the one that scares me the most is when people have the glass fireplaces, because those can easily heat up and then a little kid puts their hand on it and gets like second or third degree burns. - Yeah. - So if anyone has that, practice fire safety. - That's good. Hey, Dom, I know you go camping a lot. What are my top three things I had to have in my checklist, make sure I have. - So my favorite way of going camping is to go camping with people who have everything. - Ah, I love that. - So then I just bring the good times. - All right, couch, one of the three things I could make sure that I have on my list. Goodness. - No, I love gear. We definitely have a lot of stuff. So, I know I'm a new tier one. You come this next time. - Yeah, I'm going to plan it. Bring Grayson. What? Not Brody, he'd ruin it. He's in his monster phase. But, so when you go, do you go to a place where you can, like there's a bathroom there or do you like go dick holes and stuff for that kind of thing? - No, no, no. We, well, it depends on where you've been. I mean, like we've had to do both. But most of the places with the kids right now we were doing, we're doing like more parks, like more like this nicer places. So, 'cause you can definitely go to some campsites that are like not really nice at all. But we're going to Acadia. And Acadia is really, really popular. We're going to get a good time. So there's not gonna be a lot of people there. But if anyone's been to Acadia, let me know how it was. - I love it. It sounds great. I'm gonna go. How far away is it from Rochester, do you know? - Mm, it is basically in Far Harbor and Maine. So if you have an idea of how far that is, I don't have a record. - Oh, you guys, you're going to Maine? - Yeah, that's where Acadia is from, my friend. - Oh, wow. How far our drive is that for you? - I think it's like eight hours. But usually we try and go, we try and go. - Dom, thanks for giving your answers in the chat. We try and go every September for anniversary. We do a different state, if we can definitely can. So it's awesome to be a press. - Yeah, I feel, so I don't want to say empty, but like our big goal for, it's like, if we can go out for dinner, that's a good anniversary. And I love that you guys like, it's not just like an hour. It's like, we're gonna make it like a weekend or a couple of days. - Yeah. I think that is, if it's a restaurant though, I feel like even the restaurant thing, you do a good job of dating your wife, I think. I don't do a good job of that. I think it takes their relationship. I know that Jason does a good job of dating his wife. They went on a date recently. Dom, are you, do you date your wife? Well, can I structure it that way? Is that an okay question? - I wanna know. - We'll see how today, it is Heather's birthday. So happy birthday to Heather. I don't think she listens. But I did find out, guess who does listen? My sister-in-law, my sister-in-law says that she listens. - Live or? - I have no idea. She said she's subscribed. So I don't know what that means. YouTube, X, Spotify, Twitch. But, they went to birthday dinner last night and they were like, well, what's Blaze gonna do with his, with the stream and the show? And I'm like, I'm doing it. I'm getting together with my friends every morning and having a great day. And if anything extra happens, then it happens. - Hmm, yeah. Well, that's, it makes me, it makes me excited, but I also have to say I've been really bad at getting the cats up 'cause I've been trying to get a new computer and I did. So it's coming. So there. Anyway, let's jump into some gratitude. Blaze, do you start your wife's birthday? - Yes, my wife's birthday. I would say my gratitude today is just the school bus. I love that the school bus comes like, almost writes my house and the kids get on it and go away. I love them, but I think it's really cool. I mean, there's one sad part about it is like a three year old doesn't understand why he can't get on the bus. And so right now, I light up my kids a lot and I probably need to talk to Ryan Holiday and a therapist about it. But I told the three year old that he can't get on the bus 'cause he's in a diaper and you have to have underwear to get on the diaper or to get on the bus. So hopefully that's motivation. But then when he does wear underwear, he's to be like, well, you said I could get on the bus. So then I, I just need to figure that out internally. Is there a process right now to figure it out? - We offer it. We try to give him a treat. We try to do bear butt. He's just not into it. And he was, he started sitting on it for a while and then he digress. So I don't know if he sat on, he does it, he'll sit on the potty at school though, but not for us. So I don't know. - Interesting. - I heard one kid just really like the feeling of going in their diaper and like the warmness and it's not something he's ready to let go of, but I don't know, I don't know. - Okay. Well, yeah, I wish the potty training to happen soon. What is, what was that three day method called? Is that, is that something you guys tried? The three day potty training method, there's a name to it, wasn't it? - Yeah, I just think it gets a lot of work 'cause you have to like, you can't go anywhere. Like it was easier with the first two kids because there wasn't so many activities, but now it's like all the, it's like you need a like potty sitter to like sit the potty and like sit them on it every 15 minutes. - Yeah, but isn't it kind of like the fire? Like if they, if they, if they poop on their feet then they're going to be upset about it? - Oh, he hasn't defecated on his feet yet, but it's something to try, it's something to think about. - All right. (laughing) All right. Potty, talk out. Dom, what do you, what do you, what do you have going on? - Gratitude wise, you know, just life in general. You know, we talked a little bit yesterday about my wife was, my younger kids had the day off so my wife was able to take them to Knott's Berry Farm, which I realize now that many people don't know what that is, but it's an amusement park out here. Like a lesser Disneyland, so it's a more affordable for amusement park. 'Cause you took them there for, they were there for two hours and they rode like 20-something rides because the park was completely empty. I remember the last time they went, my teenager went with a friend and she spent two hours in just one line. - Oh, wow. - So it's a huge difference. Like they, they were riding this one rapid ride and they said they just like stayed on it and just looped the ride like four times because the tendons were just like, yeah, no one else's lying, just keep hitting it. So I've been to amusement parks like that when I was a kid and I remember it just being like the best time ever, like just being able to run to the front of the ride, like you're the only one there. So I'm sure they had a, had a blast. Bombed, I didn't take the day off to spend, spend that with them, but I had a, I had a microwave service repair that ended up canceling on me. And then a final inspection that ended up being like 10 seconds long so that I cleared on the whole half of my day for, but, you know, it had to work, so it was what it is. But glad that my wife could take them, gratitude for her and everything we've done to kind of get ourselves in that place that she could do that for them. - Yeah, man, you shared some pictures. Look at they were having a good time. - Yeah. - Yeah, they had a blast. - I will say it again. I think it's amazing that you are setting them up to have all that fun freedom that's so cool. Jay, what's happening over there? - They're constantly warning. - Yeah, I'm doing some school work. Skip my gym to get some lesson planning done. - Okay. - Which I don't feel too good about, but I'll take a piece of mind today over the workout. - Sounds good. - And some days I get both, but not today. - So what do you get for gratitude? - Hey, I'm frequently thankful for, you're a soccer coach or head coach. I like, like I've been coaching for a while, like, and I've been coaching, like, mostly middle-aged kids, middle-school-aged kids, but I really appreciate seeing how somebody else does it in a different way. He's also a lot more organized than me, which is really cool to see. Like, we had our first game on Saturday and the game was an absolute blowout. We won, we stopped keeping score around, like, 15. - Oh, wow. - And not like we just told the kids to keep scoring. This was like, you're in, I mean, everybody's been on the receiving end of that where it's like, it's just so demoralizing. So we're obviously having that in mind. So we're like, we're trying to like, okay, you gotta make three passes before you score. Try a pullback maneuver. Try taking shots from outside the 18. And like, nothing was keeping the goals from going in, and like, it became me and the coach's goal to like, we want the other team to want to play still, you know? So like, we were like taking our players off and it was a difficult situation because it's like, you want it to be an awesome experience everybody. And it was just one of those teams that just really didn't, they did, it was a first game and they just, they didn't have together, they were probably weren't practicing on a real field. So, but we showed up in like the coach had like a spreadsheet of the positions. Nothing that I've ever done before. Like I would just like jot notes down, but it was a really good way to, to kind of see how somebody else does a thing that you've been doing for so long. And I've been really open to just kind of observing how he does things and explains things that's been cool and I'm grateful to. I like to try to still be open-minded even though I've been doing it for a while. - And what age is this? - This is like six and seventh grade. - Oh, that's awesome. But yeah, our team's awesome. So that's great. - I hope it wasn't like you get an ice cream for every goal. - Well, no, it was like we kept like like we, I pulled Kira off the field because like, she played goal of the first half because she actually has some decent skills and like her punts were awesome. And then she got on the field and all she wanted to do was score and she was like, you could see like the, what in her eyes that she wanted to score. And like we let her play and like, she carried the ball from like half field into the goal and like we pulled her off. At this point, it was like, didn't even know what the score was. And it was like, listen, you gotta pass. Okay, like do something besides score. And she was like, she felt like she was in trouble. So it was just the, that was the good, like, talk about sportsmanship and goals aren't always the most important thing. So, love it. - Steph, my gratitude was for Blaze getting me to read earlier this morning. I got here and I was excited when I saw the word Lego 'cause I knew that he probably had some butterflies when he read all about it. - I was, oh, today's a great day. - I was gonna text you to Ryan and maybe Jason, we need to get you in the chat. - But I get nervous about texting people when it's too early 'cause it would have been like, it's probably like six, six a.m. No, what time was it, five or seven? It was like, yeah, it was like seven a.m. here. So it would have been, are you three or four hours behind? - I'm three. - Doesn't matter, Blaze, Mountain Time doesn't exist. If you could be three, I don't know. It's two hours. - So, I was like, 'cause I love thinking about different dimensions. And I'm like, there's probably a dimension somewhere where there's a blaze that Red Today's reading and what is job. And it's just going full-time Lego streaming right now. - Well, I think you should go full-time Lego streaming. That's my wish for you. - You know, I'm gonna write a proposal for Heather. We'll see, okay. - So, I think maybe to tie in this meditation for today, if you're streaming and your kids found it to be so much fun and you were just, you know, they were building Legos. And if no one read for today, the whole thing today was about, you know, some titled September 10th, beautiful is what they say it is. And it goes into an advertisement in the '80s, right? For Legos and how kids were building Legos and what it'd say. So like a kid put like a tree on top of a Lego head. And, you know, they looked at that advertisement as a good advertisement because it was showing the creativity that kids actually have instead of us putting rules around things. And, you know, as Ryan Holiday put in here, like, you know, people could say like, well, trees don't go on people's heads. Or like, you know, I can hear myself saying that. Like, I guess my kids drawing something big. Well, that windows don't go there, right? I like the one here where they said, what they say. There's no air in space. And it's like, we can definitely shut our kids' creativity down if we give them these like these rules that we've lived with for so long. But the best things can kind of come out of the creativity. So like, I could see Blaze and his kids playing and completely just enjoying it. And then Heather's seeing it and being like, you know what Blaze, make this your job. And you'd be like. (laughing) And so that was my, that was my graduate for today, actually. - So if you guys don't know, we're a big Lego family and I love Legos and it resonated so deeply 'cause like taking it beyond the tree, a tree doesn't go on a Lego guy's head. Like Lego sets are expensive now. Like there's these Harry Potter ones that my wife, my daughter likes and they're like 60, 70, 80, 90, $100 a pop. And so like, we'll get like one a month. They're like a big one every three months. And she's pretty good and like you get these, it's almost like a textbook now that comes with these bigger sets. And you have to go page by page and it tells you how to build the particular building, item, ship, person or whatever. And it's really cool. But, so my daughter's pretty good at that. But my son, he likes to build them with me. And then I turn my, like the other day this happened and he pulled it all apart. And the first piece of me was like, oh my gosh, I just spent all this money on this Lego for you and you're destroying it. And then I'm like, no, he's then taking apart and then building other stuff. Like he's building him like Lego rocket cars. He's really into like making satellites and lasers right now. So I'm really trying to feed into that like a space theme and stuff. But it's so cool. If you, and this is exactly what Ryan's talking about is like they wanna build something and be proud of it. But, so don't take that away from them. So it was a real great meditation for me and just strengthening. Hey, it's okay if they take it apart and build something else. The best purchase I probably made this summer is there was an, the people across the street moved away and they had a garage sale and they had this massive tub of Legos and the estate people that were liquidating everything were like, that's 50 bucks. I'm like, I'll give you 20. And she's like, I can't do that. I'm like, okay, how about 30? And she's like, fine. So I got this massive tub of Legos and we just came home and dumped it out. And they all started building hot wheels, garages for their cars that they like. And it was like just like the best day. They still have that top and that $30 investment has like juiced out hundreds of hours of play for them. So go on Facebook, marketplace, go on Craigslist, go to a estate sale and haggle for some Legos. It's my tip. - Yeah, I agree with that. There's a, there's like a thrift shop in town here where it's like a bunch of different vendors and frequently I'll go there and there's just like various packs of Legos. Not the big fake ones, like the real ones. - Yeah. - And it's nice. - That's awesome. - Yeah, yeah, yeah. - My movie of the weekend was actually the Lego movie. - Oh, the Lego movie's so good. The first one or the second one? - The first one, yeah. So I think we watched it two or three times this weekend. And the thing here, or what you guys were saying reminded me of like the part of it where the dad comes down and the son has like made all these different things in his sets. And then he looks around and sees all the signs that say like don't touch, hands off, like keep out. And like he kind of has that realization that like, like you just said like that this stuff is supposed to be like I think they mean for it to be done the way that they have it on the box. And then tear it apart and do something else with it or try to build it again without the instructions and see how it comes out. - Yeah, Lego is a good time for sure. - Is there anything else except Legos that people kind of think about? 'Cause I feel like when we talk about this, my mind's like, oh, it's just Legos. But is there anything else like from the couch from our chat that you guys have gotten like crayons or they just don't have crayons out given paper or what's another one, Plato or a water table. I've seen kids get like really, really excited and they kind of like done stuff with like water tables before. - Anyway, Hot Wheels tracks. - Oh, yeah, that's a good one. - Those are really good. - I feel like you're gonna get a better one. (laughing) - I didn't hear what you said. - We're getting censored on Twitch. (laughing) I'm trying to think of, I think a mouse trap 'cause you can do so, and I think it goes along with like the Hot Wheels thing too, 'cause there's so many intricate pieces in mouse trap that you can make like all these different obstacles. - Who's ever finished the whole game of mouse trap? I don't even know what the purpose of the game is. It was, I remember we got it when we were like young and all we did was like build it, try all the different contraptions and then that was it. - The only thing I remember from that, the only thing I care about was like the little piece. - Well, I think you're supposed to try and trap the other team, person's mouse. And I can't remember if you build it as you go along or you build it. I can't remember, but I know there's that little guy that jumps in the tub and I always thought that was like the coolest thing if you were able to drop the marble in and get him to jump in the tub. - I feel like mouse trap is like risk for kids. It's like, do you ever truly finish a game? - Are there any other board games or games? I want a lot, someone give me a challenge. I want to go buy a new game that I haven't and you'll have to be creative with. - Sorry. - Legos? Legos could be it, just some pronounced. - Sorry. - Oh, the card. - Yeah, agreed. Sorry, it's fun. We got into life again. - Oh, life's a lot of fun. - Yeah, okay, sorry, I'll play sorry. Make it if you're camping then, that'll be good. - You might ruin your family, but I think it's a good lesson. My son always makes up weird rules so he can't get hit. And he thinks every time you land on a slide, you get to slide, but you don't. But it's also, you know what, buddy? You're six years old. If you want to slide, go ahead and slide. - Legos, there's so many things right now with our kids. I think we all err on the side of younger kids. A little dumb has the oldest kids right now. We all err on the side of giving in to these younger kids and making sure that we don't make our lives harder. - Oh, my five-year-old runs the house, dude. Don't be, don't get it twisted. My three-year-old runs the house, so. - Yeah, mine does, too. - I tell myself every weekend, like, I'm gonna do chores, I'm gonna do yard work, I'm gonna wash the car, I'm gonna work for a little bit, I'm gonna work out, I'm gonna hang out with my wife, I'm gonna hang out with the girls. And then, like, I get to, like, Monday and I'm, like, literally just hung out with my five-year-old the whole weekend. - With my youngest, I feel very similar to that because he, he blocks me from doing those things. Do you almost, this is how I feel on the weekends a lot, that I'm almost like a three-year-old's wrangler, and it's just my job to make sure that he doesn't disrupt everyone else's flow nor harms himself. - Yup, exactly. - I think the rules, sometimes I have to play some of my three-year-old, they affect my seven-year-old so much, and so I have to be, I think I've been, like, trying to separate them more often to say, like, 'cause I know that if it's like, well, if you do that, then we can't do this, but then if we can't do that, then in my seven-year-old, I'm doing, she's like, I didn't talk to anything with them. And so I always try to balance that out if I definitely can. It's hard, though. That's the hardest thing. - Hey. - Yeah. - All right. - One, he even said, well, we have, let me last the last, though. - We're supposed to draw teams for steps today, but I just don't have it set up right now. Jason, Dom, are you guys gonna do the step competition thing? - I don't know what it is. Is this like the daily steps, is it the daily steps thing? - Yeah, we're gonna do it for, like, six weeks. - Sure. - We're active on X with it more than anywhere else. - Dom, did you want me to put your name in the hat? - Yeah. - Yep, perfect. - All right. - So we have Blaze, Barlocker, MP, Ryan, Robbie, Formed Chaos. Anybody in the chat, if you want to join the steps challenge, just put steps in the comments right now. And I'll throw your name in there. There's like a point system. I'm gonna make a video about it later today. And it's just something to hold each other accountable and have some fun, especially with fall when it's so gorgeous and cool outside to go and walk. For most of us, at least in the United States. David's in, Dad steps a little bit. And we're gonna start spaces again tomorrow. - It might not be over there. - That's right. - You're gonna lead it. - I think I'm gonna try and do two-three PM. - Tomorrow the Wednesday? - Yeah. I think we're gonna, we're gonna toy around at the new time, two-thirty PM, two-three-thirty PM EST. Just my work schedule and pilot that time for like four weeks and see how that goes. - Let's see what happens. - Please, what is it that you hope to get from the spaces versus say like daily dads in the morning? - 'Cause daily dads, I feel like it's pretty, it's a short amount of time, it's 30 minutes. And it's talk about the daily, talk about gratitude, talk about the daily dad, check in, done. And I think spaces, it's fun 'cause we can have like a topic, but we can have a lot more people jump in and talk about different things. And I like spaces 'cause it's not a video so I can just like lay in my bed and look goofy with my headphones on. So just, 'cause I felt like we had a solid crew on Tuesdays from three to four for like the six months, seven months we were doing it. So try and like get back on that. And I still wanna, there's some conversations I still wanna have like vcon, fall, all that type of stuff. - Yeah, maybe that'll be great. I'm always excited about it. You're a great moderator, so. No thanks. - I feel like we just got some alpha that plays, lays in bed at 2.30 on a Wednesday. - Well, it's not true. I'm still, I work and I won't take lunch that day and that's what I'll do 'cause Wednesday's my work from home day, so. - I'm jealous. - No wait, also are you, do you wanna do spaces through my daily dads or do I do it through v dads? - Probably through my daily dads. Or do you think I should do it through v dads? I don't know, I don't know through any. - I have no expectation. I just wanna make sure where people could look. So if you guys didn't see handle for v dads official change to my daily dads and then we also have our v dads handle. So I think a lot of our stuff has been going through my daily dads, so just kind of keep an eye out on that. But please we'll have spaces there and more information. - Love it. - All right, go buy some Legos. Let your kids play, throw the textbook away. We'll don't, just put it in a nice drawer. That's what I got, anybody else closing words, statements, thoughts, flowers. - Coffee and hearts, coffee and hearts, gratitude. - Coffee and hearts, love it. - All right, good. - All right, have a good day, everybody. - See you boys. - Bye.