Archive.fm

VeeDads

Daily Dads #105: Creative Play - Learning Through Toys and Fun

Daily Dads #105:

Today the Dads discuss various aspects of parenting, focusing on personal growth, family values, and the importance of gratitude. He shares insights on evaluating what children perceive as valuable in their lives, the significance of gratitude in daily routines, and the role of creative play in learning. The discussion emphasizes the need for parents to reflect on their values and how they are communicated to their children, as well as the importance of engaging in playful activities together.


Takeaways from today:

  • Making everything count is essential for personal growth.
  • Evaluating your child's calendar can reveal family values.
  • Gratitude helps maintain a positive mindset.
  • Creative play fosters learning and exploration.
  • Toys can serve as vessels for educational ideas.
  • Overachievement in children can lead to negative outcomes.
  • Daily routines should include moments of reflection and gratitude.
  • Engaging in play with children strengthens bonds.
  • Parents should be mindful of what they value and communicate it to their kids.
  • Finding balance in parenting is crucial for family well-being.


Keywords: parenting, family values, gratitude, personal growth, daily routines, creative play, education, overachievement, parenting strategies, self-improvement, Ryan Holiday, Vaynerchuck, GaryVee, VeeFriends, VeeDads, DailyDads, Daily Dads


Other Resources:

Daily Dad by Ryan Holiday: https://dailydad.com/

Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday: https://dailystoic.com/

VeeFriends: https://veefriends.com/


__________________________________

Join VeeDads, Blaze Hirsch, Dom Rouzaud, and Ryan Turner, every morning at 8:30 est on Twitch. We cover a daily meditation from Ryan Holiday’s, “The Daily Dad”. Our community joins live in the chat and shares their insights as well. Feel free to join us. Catch replays of the live discussion on the VeeDads podcast through Spotify or Apple Podcasts. 


Visit http://veedadsofficial.com for merch and other insights around all things Dad life. 


For business questions and collaboration please email:

Ryan Turner

ryanturner@foodisfuelnyc.com




Broadcast on:
03 Oct 2024
Audio Format:
other
we're making it happen today, Sunday, Sunday, September 8th, Sunday, September 8th. We are going day by day here. It's pretty good. I've been doing some little segments in the morning during my workout, during my walk, and it's been pretty amazing so far. I do things first for me, and then after that, I think it ends up really working. So anyway, join in at some point. If you definitely feel like if you're up early, it's there. Health Dad's always talking about it, making sure that it's working for you guys. I am back. Robbie, I am back. I'm back home. This is it though. This is the bread and butter. Daily Dad's. That's what kicks it all off, and it's helping us out. So we might get a little blaze. We might get a little bit of Jason. We might get a little bit of everything in here. And if you guys want to hop up, hop up. Jason just got to give you another link. Use it. Use it. Use it. All right. Well, we're here. All right. Good morning, good morning, good morning. Hey, here we go. Sorry. I'm turning the volume off my Twitch tab so I could hear in my StreamYard tab. So many tabs, so many things. I'm feeling a little overwhelmed right now with this switch over to StreamYard, but loving it. So I've been really happy, actually. But it is a changing devices and all those kind of things, but it's working. And, you know, at the end of the day, I just want to make sure that whatever I'm doing is giving my life value and a husband. So it's pretty good. I'm happy. Good. Yeah. I like that. That's a good goal. Cut out the Jeff. Make everything count. It does. It does. You know, I think making everything count is going to be important. You know, I shared a really great podcast this morning. I saw your podcast. Well, actually, I saw like the middle five minutes. Oh, I didn't watch the whole thing. Sorry. No, it's okay. It wasn't that podcast. It was another podcast, which was, I'm just going to share it because they always forget her name. And I was going to share it as my value add and the other voice that I would like people to kind of check in on. But I didn't want to add her because it wasn't really aligned with everything I wanted, but it was a great podcast I had worked out to this morning. And it was really good. And her name, she is a doctor. It's all about parenting. Really good. Where you at? Where'd you go? There it is. Dr. Elisa Pressman, right? Dr. Elisa Pressman, the podcast is called Raising Good Humans. And it was really good about, because you're talking about cutting out the chaff. I heard you when you said that. And I think what I liked most about it is this view good? Is that view better or worse? That's better. She was talking about with someone else, another person. This is way too close. Isn't it close? This is way too early for me to be zoomed in that morning. And I feel like this is so far away. Too early for me. There we go. No, but you're really for portrait mode. But the thing that was great, they were saying, it was all about overachievement. And I liked it because it was kind of talking about how kids get measured by their parents and how overachievement can be overwhelming and then can become kind of negative. But again, coming what you said before about cutting out the chaff, what I liked about it was that it taught or it talked about how to evaluate your kind of what you value or what your kid sees that you value in your family and in your world, which that was pretty cool. And so what she had talked about was there was four things to evaluate and to maybe see what your kids see you placing most value in. And there were four things that she mentioned. And she mentioned here that it's take a look at your child's calendar and see where you put most of the time for them to do things. So if it's sports, well, obviously they're going to probably think that you value sports most. If it's school and tutoring, if it's, you know, family time or camping, like look at your kid's calendar and see what's going on. And I would just say like, if someone is looking to kind of take out the extra there, which is kind of like, I think a necessary thing for us as individuals, but valuing certain things. And I was like, no, the morning thing, I was valuing. So it's not something I would cut out, but I would cut out like hanging out with people like really late right now. It's just where, which is kind of what I value. But the other thing around valuing and what your kids see, wearing what you spend money on for them, I thought was pretty an interesting thing just to evaluate it. Because like, have you, have you actually seen like how much money you spend, like on horses or how much money you spend on soccer or how much money you spend on? Wherever you're going to spend it. But then the third thing was, what do you ask your child about? Like, when you pick them up from school, what's the first thing that you ask? The first thing that you ask them is likely what they see you valuing the most, which I thought was an interesting thing. And then the fourth thing, what you argue with them about doesn't have to be bad. I always see conflict. I see arguing. I see all those kind of things as a great thing just because I think it can kind of get people thinking about what they value just on their first level and everything else. But if you are arguing me, like I argue table manners and nutrition with my kids all the time, and by arguing it mean like it's what we kind of bring up the most and maybe like butt heads on. But they're like, oh dad likes bad values, nutrition. So I think all those things were really good. But with those like, what do you argue with your kids and most of that do you think? I would definitely, I would say iPad time. Yeah. And sometimes it's not arguing. It's debating and compromising, which is really annoying. Because I think all that you just talked about is really, that's a great point. Like the calendar points are great. And the thing that seems to be the most contention if iPads like, you know, when they get home from school, they get like an hour. If me and Kristen are tired, they get like maybe two hours or we take a nap. Like we went on a date last night, like I think it's maybe our fourth date this year in 2024. And yeah, like here is old enough to watch and we're like, yeah, have some iPad time. Go ahead. And then Sundays. So these like today, Sundays are no tech Sunday, which has been working really well for the past few months. That kind of gives me and Kristen a little bit of peace of mind that we're being responsible parents with that. But I'd say the calendar, I'd say right now is on sports. And me and you grew up playing a lot of sports, which I found out I'm not really a big fan of. Like, I like sports is important. But we, that's like, that's that was like 90% of our childhood, right? Yeah. And Kira played one season of competitive soccer where it was driving all over the front range out here. And after like the second week, I'm like, you know what, I always thought we do this, but I do not like it. So with this season and middle, like the middle school schedule, that's different. That is a different beast. She's playing soccer and then she's playing volleyball for school. And I want her to do that. But I'm also very, being very mindful of saying telling her that this is only for like a month and a half of a super busy schedule. And then in chill a bit. Like, it's got to be there's got to be an end to it. Like, like, it's all good stuff. It's going to be hard. There's going to be day, I told her there's going to be days where you don't feel like doing it. And that's normal. And those are the days where you kind of have to push through and follow the commitment through. So I would say the sports, maybe your secondary, the commitment is primary. Yeah, because I was going to ask you, what is it you value the most? I think it's the commitment. Yeah, I think it does. And I think it's important to make sure it's like we know, I think we go towards sports really quickly, but the commitment to a robotics class or commitment to showing up to, you know, the community garden over here or, you know, showing up for your friends, I think is still a great way to do it. But it's a great point. I think we can definitely talk about it another day, even further. But let's do some gratitude. What are you great before right now? Because we're going to, we're going to, we're going to let the couch talk in a sec. Yeah, I'm actually, I'm, I appreciate Craig reminding us to do that. Craig's really good at it. So it was me and me. Yeah, I'm so one thing I'm grateful for is I had like a very busy pet portrait month, which was a good reminder. I was going through my emails and I saw that Dom sent me his picture of his pet, because I have this contest. And about I had, I had a handful of clients, which, which was not friends or family. And I asked where they found me and they kind of like all over the internet. So that's been fun. I'm grateful for that, that work kind of manifesting itself. That's awesome. And yeah, you know, you put in a lot of work there. So it was totally, I think, worth the effort and the time we got please in the chat right now. Please, we're going through gratitude. All right. What's up, guys? Tag team. I'm good in coffee. Pleasure. You are lake house in it. We are at the lake house, man. I'll get that back a little bit. Nice. That's beautiful. How are you? Good, good, good. It is, it's a good Sunday. And I feel like I'm still transitioning into like out of summer into regular schedule. I was going to say, I feel like I'm there. I'm not, I'm not there yet. I'm still working through it. It feels a little challenging still. And how many, how many days this week did your kids go back to school? Two, two days. Same here. It's, it's like, it's such a tease, but it's like Labor Day and all that stuff. But, um, well, I'm excited for this week. Nice. I like that. I'm, I'm also, I'm like, you know what, I'm not, I'm not not excited. It's a busy week because I like, I threw all of my clients into like one day and then we're going camping. We're going up to Acadia. But I'm like, I'm feeling a little stressed. I think it is. I think the transition's hard because I'm not transitioning. I'm like doing something new and different. So, we'll see what's happening. But, uh, I know that gratitude for me. I wrote down this morning before I went out. Um, I was really grateful that, uh, yesterday I was doing, um, some solo parenting. My wife was, um, uh, with, uh, friends for one of their birthdays and that was awesome. But I was really grateful that my oldest daughter has some friends in the building that she was able just to go, you know, open the door and hang out with, uh, because I know for myself, I'm not the, I'm not the most, uh, social person in person. And so, I like that she has that, uh, that outlet and she can just do that and run around. It's kind of like a little neighborhood inside a building. It's pretty cool. So, that's good. And then for the couch over here, I just, I started to put this up before. We got Craig over here. Greg, uh, Greg, Greg is grateful, uh, for the overwhelming support everyone has given to myself and the family this week. So much going on. So, we had, we had messages. All those things were great. So thanks for sharing that. Uh, we had Nathan over here, um, here are the gratitude, but he shared our gratitude down below or his gratitude down, down, down below purpose, knowing, serving the household purpose and getting things down around the house as we can, my darling wife, knowing, knowing, are we, are we, are we, are we gnoming, are we gnoming right now? Had to use logic in our discussion when I want to go for a ride and use her logic to remind me when it's not a good idea. Man, that's a lot in your head right now. Yeah. That's, uh, I also agree. Craig, it does sound like Nate is somewhat in the dog house right now. So, um, and maybe you can give us a little bit of, uh, and just show it up. Good morning. Uh, you give us a little bit of their for Nate. Um, and then Rob, it was a review from a family time to speak and to hold their grandsons eating pancakes while we are on here. Nice. What goes in your pancake? Do you guys put anything in your pancake? I think blazer could summon his pancake. Oh, chocolate chips. Chocolate chips. My daughter, when you put it in your pancake, I think I always burn the chocolate. You just gotta be quick. Yeah. You're right. Maybe I just gotta be better. I'll try it. We'll see. Um, and Jason, all right. Uh, did you guys, uh, do the reading for today? Did you guys see what the meditation was? It's, it's a, it's a fun one. And I was so glad that blaze just popped in because this is like blazes, like this is blazes stuff right now. If you have not seen what blaze did reason with his kids, you got to go check it out. I didn't, I, I didn't read yet today. I got it. I got you. Cause you have to be here for it. Okay. I was very happy. I was very happy. Buildups. And I just like ruined it. This is like one of two mornings that I just have it. Cause I, I sit snooze on my alarm. There never is an expectation. There's never anything. There's no judgment, anything like that. When we show up, cause we're just showing up for each other. And that's all that has to happen. I can't tell what the best angle is right now. Maybe we'll do it over here for a second. Um, so blaze, this is, this is what I love today. And I was hoping that you were going to come in. So September 8th, are you bringing this home? This is good for like the friends community too. But this really talks about, uh, Orville and Wilbur Wright, uh, why is it still still here in Ohio? What it gets down to, please. And why I want this and so important for you is because these two guys, they weren't engineers, but they really just were able to make sure that what they did is that they built what they built again. I'm just want to make sure was it? Isn't the Wright brothers with it? What did they build Jason? The plane. They built the first plane ever. Is this the Wright brothers? Is that who it is? So, but it basically is talking about the Wright brothers in creation, um, of, uh, you know, this amazing, um, uh, part of our history. But it all started when their father brought home a toy and their father. I love that. He, he, he was someone who truly believed that like, he didn't value education as much as he valued the idea of kids learning from playing with toys. And so their father would always bring toys home and it came from the father bringing home a toy helicopter. And that's where their interest came from. And so, uh, Ryan holiday says here, we spend a lot of time in introducing our kids to the world of ideas, but let's also carve out some time to bring home cool toys. I mean, this is like all be friends, people right now. We're always playing toys, right? Um, so our kids get played. You're not, uh, but toys with the educational value, toys that teach them about cultures, toys that get them interested in flight or science or math or history or technology, toys that are in and of themselves, vessels for ideas. And he ends it with who knows what might come from their exploration of fun. Please, are your kids going to play human crane game? And are they going to go change the world now? You know, you never know, my, my back, I think, is broken from whole, like, hovering those kids over the, um, pack and play. And I need to find the guy that if you guys haven't, I put a little video on access. There's a human crane that you can do. I saw it on Instagram yesterday and I was watching my three kids and my niece and my nephew. And I'm like, what a great idea. So we spent 30 minutes going through the house and finding all the stuffies, putting together the pack and play and putting them in there and then dipping each kid in the pack and play and bringing out a, uh, stuffy. And they kind of did it at V con. I think, I don't know if they did it last year, but I know the year before where they like dipped you in and you could pull out stuffies, but it's pretty cool. And it was a lot of fun. And are they better because of it? I don't know. Did you hunt doing it, Brason? What was the best part? Stuffies. Yeah. Um, but so thank you for bringing that up. I didn't share the whole video because my niece and nephew are in it. And I don't want to talk to my sister and mom about, Hey, I'm going to put this video online. Um, but anyways, I did want to say with toys and, you know, we're talking about reading this month, like, I always find it interesting you take the toy, you give it to the child and they might use it a completely different way than it's like supposed to be used for it. Like I think it's a little mermaid when Ariel has the fork and she thinks it's a hairbrush. So she's like brushing her hair with the fork. You know what I'm talking about? Yeah, right. Yeah. The hoppledinger, apple dinger. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. You're right. Yeah. Um, but also with reading, most of these toys comes with instructions. So I like to give it to them. See what they do with it. And then say, Oh, no, you're supposed to do it this way. Um, or this isn't how it is intended to do, but you can do it before you want it. So yeah, I hear that. I think that that is what was that because it's a, you know, kind of attaching it to you. Just a question I think is going to be good. What was the last toy that you guys brought home for your kids? The most recent toy that I brought home that I wanted to play with were the at the ace hardware up the road. They sell those mini styrofoam planes. And they're really crappy, but I think once every three months I buy a new set of three, mostly because I want to play with them. I think it's the important thing though. I feel like you wanting to play with it probably lets the kids know that it's the cool thing to play with that wants to because it goes back to that other reading whenever it was that we are the toy, you know, and they don't really care what what you do with them. But at the same time, like the toy itself, I'm sure it's going to teach them something. Yeah, I like that idea. Please, what was the last toy that you ended up bringing home? Um, just getting it from Amazon account? Yeah, totally. What'd you get in the mail yesterday, buddy? What stuff did you get? Okay. You got bullet bill in the mail, which is like, does anybody know who bullet bill is? No, I don't. What is Mario brothers? Yeah, Mario brothers. Yeah, because Brayson really likes Mario and he like a Mario stuffy collection, which is really cool. And so he wanted bullet bill. And he's just like little bullet with arms and he like flies around. So he was like flying it around our house yesterday. And he's like, Oh, I love that idea. I, uh, I'm trying to think the last toy that I ended up bringing home. And I, I'm trying to think outside of like, be friends world. But I feel like the last things that I was really bringing home were the, were the minis. And then, uh, before that, before that was like beach toys, I ended up getting some beach toys. I found some, I brought them home. We were playing with them. That was definitely, uh, I think the last thing, maybe, you know what, I gotta be a little more creative. I have to go out, maybe bring a toy home, play with the girls a little bit, something a little bit different fun. Maybe I'll get something different for like, for game time. Okay. I gotta go. I need to be more fun. We need to be more fun. My favorite toy that our dad brought home, uh, we were, I think we were a little bit older. Remember when we went through like a model rocket phase? Oh, yeah, that was fun. I was at the park yesterday and I saw, I saw some people setting those off. Yeah. And I was like, we got to do model rockets. Um, because those are fun and that was 100% a toy that dad wanted to play with first. Well, I remember dad also went through a phase of wanting to get those, uh, little race cars. And then we went to some tracks and then you would race them. Yeah. I don't know, uh, slot car tracks. Yeah. Yeah. That was definitely, that was like a fun, I, the, I think the rockets I felt a part of when I think that, I think the, the cars I did not feel a part of. I was like, that's that, I think that was completely for dad, but it, but it did show his part because like dad, I know it was like a really fun, gregarious type of guy. And he also likes his alone time, but I feel like it was fun to see him, you know, kind of play as a kid. Again, I thought that was a really cool thing. Please did your, did your parents have like toys or things around or interests like that? Um, my dad sold cars for the first like 10 years of my life. And so like three or four days a week, he'd get home at like nine p.m. But sometimes he'd stop at the dollar store and like grab a stuff. And I remember one day in particular, he got us, um, kids have them these days too, but they're like, they're like books with stickers. And you like build pictures with them. Like you take the sticker and you put it like in the number cubed. And it's just like, and it makes a picture. You guys ever see those? Oh, yeah. Like a mosaic sticker picture. They're all like triangles. Yeah, yeah, angular stickers. Yep. Um, from the dollar store, though, they're all squares, but they were, I thought there was just still cool that you could like take these stickers and like build all out the pictures. And so I think that's one of the things that jumped into my mind. We're going to paint car hazel. He's like, car looks so awesome. So since we're coming seven here with five minutes left, to wrap this back to the story about toys, hazel, what is, what kind of car do you see on the road the most? What? Tesla. Tesla's. Now, I don't know where this is going for the rest of her life, but she can recognize a Tesla from 500 yards away. Uh, I drive a GMC and my wife drives a Chevy and she knows all the cars, all the symbols. Yeah, we'll see where that goes. That's where that's the stick from the nath brought it up. That was a good reminder. The the end of the story with the stick, like that that provides more education than sitting in a room with a book, which I mean, I'll have my book, but at the end of the of the text, it said like a stick. He wrote it down here. Where did it go? Sticking in the same if not more education value that is that of a teacher. Oh, of a teacher? Uh, no, I I'm not going to be compared to a stick nath. But, uh, I do I do get that value for sure, like a thing that they can play with playtime. Playtime is much more valuable to a kid than anything that an adult thinks is good for them. Um, but, uh, uh, where was I going with that? Yeah, give them give your kids a stick. Give them a toy. Give them something that they can build some interest in. I like that idea. I'm good at person. This is a place. This is just this is giving a little bit more love to hobby. Yeah, I think I have to go get a Lego set. We got these. I know they're like about what are they? What's that person? Oh, sorry. He is asking me what a stick was that we because I just think about stickers and when he transitions, just sticks. And so just like the ones you always try to poke your brother with. Thanks. Okay. Well, toys guys toys. I know we're almost at time here. Um, but I like I like to say it's what are you saying about happy dad? Oh, I want to I want to get some Lego so we can we can play. I feel like I I'm I'm having this feeling of needing to bring a toy home and show my kids how to play. What's up, Judy? So that I'm kind of playing with them in a certain way. I feel like it's definitely going to set some time. Nice. So, um, but hobby dad, I want to make it a thing. I want to play with. Let's get it on the calendar. I want I want you to teach me about Lego. I can do Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday night, maybe Tuesday night. Let me go. All right. Yeah, let me know because Heather's out of town. So and I'm not teaching that right now. Okay, cool. All right, guys. Any glass dogs right now? Hey, I was going towards your kids in your day and watch the doors. Junny likes the doors. Get a get a toy today, everybody. Get a new toy and playing with it. I'm not doing it. Sorry. Whatever your name is. It's going to happen. All right. Right now. All right. Well, guys, cool. Two kids. We love you all and we will see you tomorrow morning. All right, guys. Happy Sunday. Bye, everybody. Bye.