Yeshiva of Newark Podcast
Rischa D'Araisa-Season 10-Episode 5-Nurturing The Essence on Yom Kippur-The Chesed of Realistic Tshuvah
(upbeat music) You're listening to the Yeshivov New Work podcast. I'm your host and curator, Rabbi Rump Kivolovitch, and I hope you enjoy this episode. (upbeat music) If it's the sixth day of Tushray Tovshinpehe, this must be Risshah Darisa. I'm here, of course, with Rabbi Yisov, Gabriel Berchafel, and Rafael Schiller, an indifference to Rabbi Zev, Gabriel Berchaf, from the great respect and knowledge of how important this is a day to him, those that are reading of his blog know that this is the odd site of his illustrious grandfather, Rabbi Dave Yudhoshoye Hizatzal, and there is a beautiful haspid written in the elegant Loshanakletish by Rabbi Yisov Gabriel Berchafel that I encourage our listeners to explore. Rabbi Yisov, your grandfather was an incredibly interesting person, now he had the two sons that were extremely connected to Khabad, was he a Khabad-skrimself? - Most of his sons are connected to Khabad, and some of his daughters too, but he himself became a Lubavitch over time. It started at the Maclickas between the family and Khabad, where they started with the Mufis, which Rabbi made in which he saved the life, so to speak of my aunt, who was three years old at the time, fell into the vast of scouting hot water, and the doctors gave up on her life, and the Rabbi said to make a condition, shouted the doctors, my mother actually recorded before Khabad, the Mysa, and it's on YouTube, you can watch my mother tell it over, because my grandparents did not speak English, they tried to shout at the doctors in Toronto, so my mother had to do the shouting. So questions where they started with that, I don't think so, the family doesn't think so, family attributed to his sister having married Rabbi Sutterkuff, and then Rabbi Sutterkuff having had a shbar on him to become closer to the Rabbi. He did not start doubting Nusokharid till 1962, when he was almost 60 years old, when he, and he said to my uncle, and I knew I'd love a show at the time that Nusokharid, I'm Nusokharid, because he became a Khabad, but because he felt the Nusok was more Mediuk. Khabad, like many many citizens have a very stark messera of how their young men are going, with their employees, their teplas. Well, the coolest thing about Khabad is that they don't see Sutterkuff's journey to Sutterkuff. I have no idea where that comes from, because it goes, "Mom is against the Rambam." You know, Mediukh and Sutterkuff are in Rambam, it's Dafkuff's journey to Sutterkuff, and one came to Sutterkuff and said, "I guess we're Sutterkuff and we're in, "we're next time I'm Russia showing a little sign, "we don't need Sutterkuff's journey to Sutterkuff, "and it really is fascinating, anything. "It's the one reason to become Khabad." - Your choice of where you will be for Yom Naroyim, the choice that you make in terms of the Kihilah, especially if it's one that is structured and has very stark men hug him, it really affects you a lot. It becomes part of your memory in such a strong way. People who are used to Dafkuff in the Khabad Nusa, the Khabadovin Malkeinu, the Marcier, it's quite something. It's almost like, you know, people flock home. I remember when I was in Yeshiva in Neroyisro, we had a flood of visitors, people who we never saw only on Yom Naroyim. And I got the sense, even at the 13, that Yom Naroyim Davening, in many ways, for people represents their real Natiya, what they want, what their Yakhastur, Bhinder Shulam is. And it's not the same unless it's what they're used to in that type of surah. - Primarily when I was young, I was either in square or I was in Beishraga for a few Yom Naroyim, but I wish more fibles and sort of Lakewood-esque with a slight sort of a Das injection. And that I was in square where they were dawgum from nine until six on Rosh Hashanah. So the outer dressing of where one is can either help or hinder the essence. And I think in everybody's spiritual odyssey, both factors play a role. There are the subtle psychological props, could be positive, could be negative. And there's the essence of standing before the Rosh Hashanah in conversation with him and in awareness of his presence. Now being human, we often need cultural props. We often need the music. We often need a certain kind of shul. We often need a certain speed. So that delicate balance between the external trappings and finding the Rosham in the process. This is something we all struggle with. And in the square, I grew up with many of the old Hungarian Jews would say to Hillan at midnight from one until three. And then they'd be there. They sleep in the shul. They'd be there for Tillam in the morning at seven o'clock. So surrounded by such fervent sincere piety has an effect on a person. As does everything we find around us. So I think that's the key to strike a balance between the trappings and to find the Rosham in those trappings. - I find in the Ishiva Belt that the temperature was even turned up higher, of course, for Yim Kippur. Did you find in the Roshiva Belt? It was that way that you find that the Hislavos and the Beren and the sense of Ritzinos and trying to be dovech their bunichrome was it much different between Roshishan and Yim Kippur? - I don't think so, except to say that I think Hasidim who are attached to Echter Hasidus have a sense that Yim Kippur has to be done Bissimkah, that my name says true is a Mitzvah. So it hasn't done Bissimkah. The muscles somebody once gave, it's like taking a hot shower all day long and cleansing yourself. And that is a joyous process. So I think, no, not much difference in Roshan and Yim Kippur. - I mentioned to you that I did a journey to Skver for Yim Kippur and I was hoping that it would be like a big musical event, which did not occur, but one thing stayed with me, which was after a conidre, there was a very interesting hephsic. And that hephsic was, everyone in the Bismetters said, "Shall them to everyone else." Everyone went and shook each other's hands or said, "Good young to have to everybody." And that's what stuck out to me is that it was a, it was we are creating a seabore. And even I, who was the stranger, was also included in that and it was important. It was important, it was important to establish that this was a seabore that was biachat. That stayed with me more than any tune that I probably would have forgotten. And they say that the base of Rome said that Irvian Kippur, the sartan, is getting all traumatized because we're moving into this realm where he has no schleit in your kippur. So what's his eight? Says eight is he plunges us into a sense of atzvus and hopelessness over our sins. And since atzvus is not necessarily a sin itself, but that sense of depressed hopelessness permeates us. And that renders the evolution of kippur far less effective. So perhaps that's very important to bear in mind when we end to him, Kippur. (upbeat music) With downloads approaching the million mark, an archival library numbering in the thousands, the "Sheave of New York" podcast has been striving to continuously upgrade our content, professionalize our audio sound, along with altering approaches in light of much appreciated listener feedback. I firmly believe that a niche has been carved out that resonates with many on the wide spectrum of observant Jews. This explains why we continually rank high and independent online lists of top-your-sheave of podcasts. That proud edifice is in real danger of toppling and disappearing. We need the help of our listeners to continue to record, edit, to promote a product that has been a balm and instructed us so many, just $36. As a minimum donation from a thousand of you out there, we'll keep us afloat as a New York. Of straight, intelligent, humorous discussion, lectures, debate, and inquiry, while the destructive waters of ignorance and identity politics, cyber-bullying, crash around us, your generous contributions will seal and galvanize this arc 'til it comes to a satisfying rest in an era of Mallierd's Daya, heralding M'Shiach, M'Hera, Bi'amayno, Amay. (upbeat music) - And I think that Atsfos, which sort of drips out of you, was very much on display in my first Yum Kippernerti's role, I would call it a lacrimose seriousness, if not Atsfos. I was 17 years old, I was in the mirror, and again, to me, the idea of sitting in the Bismarthish with Rachai Mishma Levitt's (speaks in foreign language) Rafnohm was sitting nearby. And in general, the Yikira Yurushalayim, and I was so taken by the idea that I was in Aertia's role for the first time in Yurushalayim, in the mirror Yushiva. And I can't say I was proud of myself, but I was saying, wow, I felt I was in this wave of the most serious Yum Kippernert of my life. And sitting next to me, there was a fellow who was not from the Yushiva that I had seen over the last couple of weeks. He had his head down, and as the Yum was saying the Krivishma, I heard him articulate shim-mung shim-ma-a-a-ang over and over and over again. And I found out that he was a Briskar, and he was trying to be Macbid on Yokas Krivishma daraysa, to say the words and to say them with the real havara from the Tehmanim, 'cause the Briskars discovered that the Tehmanim's were the only ones who had a mister on the iron. Now, I tried to put that out of my mind, but it was difficult because, you know, as we were involved in Arshman Esrai, and I noticed that he kept on taking a handkerchief out of his pocket and expect the rating into the handkerchief constantly (speaking in foreign language) And of course, I had seen a number of discussions about whether you can't swallow your own saliva, and he wanted to be Macmyr, and it was going on and on. The combination of the spitting and the cadre of the aang convinced me, especially as it repeated itself, Shah Khrs the next morning, that I had to be Bayreach. And I found myself in the building right behind the mirror, which housed, as you remember, the Zevil, Zevilers. And I send it up, those marble steps of Zevil. And I heard singing. And not only just singing, it was singing like to me, it was like the Malachim. There was a person standing at the Oumud, and he had a tremendous smile on his face. And then he sat down, and then a number of Sirti Shahhabr came by, and they took over and sang a whole section of the Shah Khrs' piyutim. And I said to myself, I think I found it, as much as I had convinced myself that the Mir's cadouche was my entrance way into the real al-Vaitis al-Sham, for the rabbite al-Shalom. I never went back to that seat, and I didn't Daven, I daven in the Mir Minhah. But from that point on, I lurched. I looked only for Khsiddish and Mignonim. And it wasn't because of the quickness. It was because of what I felt was a real Hakkara of what it means that the rabbite al-Sham can take away our aviiras, the Simcha, of the litzch, maybe even in the German Ashamdu Bagannu. I mean, there is a tune there. There is a melody. And maybe that melody is the fact that Khaparas have a nice come as a result of reaching a madrega of ila, of connection to the rabbite al-Sham, that those aviiras aren't type of smokum anymore. - When you're in Chicago, you're going to have to see this, you may have actually several years. When you're in Chicago, you're going to see this, you're in the United States. And Khaparas was a beautiful dovending. Right after Khapar, after Nihilo, the mariv was the quickest mariv I have ever experienced in my life. And immediately after mariv, the tables were full of cold-tove meets brine of breaking the fast. And that really turned me off. Yeah, well, come on. We just came from this al-Shamkara, who are we fooling here? What was real? What's not real? - The story about Shamsam's horses. - The story, of course, about Shamsam's affair is I think it was one was called M'Shrindi, and the other was called Naruzah, right? That was the two horses. And about Shamsam would take trips, every M'Shrab is to special places where he had to show up. But of course, when the horses of the M'Shrindi would go, they would go with Krita Sadairah. And as they sped up, the first horses to M'Shrindi turned to Naruzah and said, "Look, look how we're going. "It must be that we're not horses anymore, are we?" No, no, no, I guess we're not. What are we? I guess we're like people. And of course, the quicker they went, and the closer they got to the weird about Shamsamt, they wanted to lead them. M'Shrindi looked at Naruzah and said, "Hmm, are we people? "Look how quick we're going. "We must be Malochim." Yes. And as they went even further, and even closer to the Valshemtives, M'Tara, they looked and he says, "No, I don't think we're Malochim. "We're Saurafim. "We've reached the Dargeshaykavoyu." And there they were with the Valshemtives, stirring them on towards a place that everything was N'Sala. Of course, when the Valshemtives reached the spot that he had gone to in order to do his important avlida, beyond hitch the horses from the wagon. And they went straight to the trough and they stuck their heads in and they ate their oats, like horses. And that, of course, is what reveals with me, is that we can't be fooled by the aliyah that we have by Hashemulikim at the end of Nila if the way we rush through and just eat like faired. Rameer, is that what your experience was? That the matter of after Nila is a hurried affair? Generally speaking, I'd say, yes, yes, to some degree, to some degree. I don't know if inconsistency delegitimitizes all of our divine yearnings. We're all full of contradictions and moments of human weakness. - I'm not doubting the sincerity. I'm doubting what the long-term impact is, not the sincerity. As you saw, I don't want to doubt anybody's sincerity. - Well, you know what, it's interesting. There is, again, the Rishainim who explained the very strange aloha that's codified the Moshnais Numa by Kneva Sierik on Yim Kippar afternoon. And in the Zmakhleikus Rashi in the Ramban, 'cause the Moore says, "Nay Agmas Neffish." So Rashi says, "It's an order to be my Agamir Neffish." In other words, that you can't eat it, then here you are preparing it and ripping these vegetable leaves. So that's Kohirim Agmas Neffish, because here's the food in front of you can't eat it. You need another Agmas Neffish as if the Inuya Neffish has to be layered. Ramban learns, "Nay," the truth is, is that it's gonna be Agmas Neffish if you can't eat right away. And therefore, even on Yim Kippar, where you're supposedly holding towards the end of Yim Kippar and this very high Madrega, you have to worry about the Agmas Neffish of the people not being able to eat right away. So maybe that's maybe an answer to you, is that, yeah, we definitely were Myric to Urbaino-Tom, 'til we blew the shiver, but now that it's over, let's be honest, people need to eat. It's a recognition of human frailty, which is part of the ups and downs of being a person. - Of course, the part of the ups and downs. I remember that there was, they said in Shavind, they said, "Oh, name of a rabbi who was not there anymore when I got there." But he said that, he used to say that, "And you know, Kippar afternoon, the Bakhrin is she was thinking about, when I go home tonight, I have to remember to pack my towels to take it home." - Right, so that's true. - Yeah, that's how all of us, human beings function, and all of us in Kippar are thinking at some point or another, have to remember tonight to do X, Y, Z. Human beings, human beings. The question is, what exactly, and that by Fra Malia makes this critique of Chassinus, actually, his famous Mymer stage rocket, right? What is real, what's not real? About Musser, he knows I might be faking myself. And this is an issue for him. The Chossing, okay, was faking themselves. I don't know where you found it, which category you found it when you went to this field. - Look, you know that I'm romantic. I felt I was almost born in the wrong place, been in the wrong place, and this was to me a way of discovering a direct link to what the Beauchenthe was trying to change for a qualiastro. It's a long time ago, but it changed my life considerably. - Rev. Ace, I know that the oil looks to you for direction, and the Hyrule, and guidance. And I know that you gave a Shabbat Shubha d'Rasha with the Yassawi that you think might be important for our listeners to hear. - Well, I'll go ahead and be brief. I did not know him. - I didn't know him on his question, until I have a shout-out when I might come meet him from Kushner, called me. - Reg. Shubha Khan said, "How can you say how can you say how can you say that?" Shubha is such a meet-as-a-ress, and if, in Kedush and Daaf Man, we have the idea of tell-al-ar we join us, which works in the other direction. So we see that it's not true, it's not because it's a meet-as-a-ress, and it's a tremendous matter about Kedush Barghu. If tell-al we show this works just as well, in order to erase squares. So you see, it works as meet-as-a-dinn, not just a meet-as-a-ress, so it's not such a meet-as-a-ress, that's what Bhakharan's called. - And Bhakharan says that he asks a little bit of it's time, the question. Bhakharan's time, gave me an answer. There's a two-wheeler, two-wheeler. Bhakharan has an answer. It's between the relationship to the sewage ashram, and relationship to, and the actual Mysima person does. I also gave an answer based on the Mabino, distinguishes between the two types, described Anish, extrinsic and intrinsic. But the answer, which I then came up with, mama, on Shabbos, it gave me a flash and I hold it's MS. The other answer gave could be MS, too. But the one I came up with on Shabbos, the truth itself is that it's Meduia in the Narshi, when he talks about totally Shrinus. On Kedushin, that Mabino, on the base, he says, "Bittaya, Shkarit al-Kolha tevashua, so he has remorse in all the good things he did, and didn't hit me if he was first in time, so it was Rarshi, but then all of a sudden hit me. It's Poshit, totally Shrinus and the Chubo, which is Shoko, because totally Shrinus are aware and persons may Shkarit and everything he did. And that talk works in both directions. (speaking in foreign language) Because to make a life-changing decision, a real bowel tumor. So, you actually was a Hleitir Poshir that he should be able to change his life. That's a double Poshit that it works. And so, the same as totally Shrinus, a real bowel of Mitzvah. We then changed the bowel of Vera. That's a double Poshit that works. The most likely game is that Benedict Arnold, right? Benedict Arnold was the hero of West Point, right? He saved West Point. Nobody remembers him for that. So, the point is that, of course, that's never Poshit. That although you're in a thousand years, you are what you are at the moment because of who you do become. I think you've got to even come at a moment like a husband or a dial. This is a little Mitzvah Benedict Arnold. So, the idea is that that can change. But what Rarshi's telling you is this is the thing. That's if you change your entire life. You say, I'm a different person. I'm changing everything. I'm not about Shubo, I changed, but still that's right. I'm about to be sharing, so it's one of the things I change in particular, but it's right. What's the kind of Shubo? The kind of Shubo with me is the kind that we come to, because you brought up everything and said, "You know what, God, I can't really change myself that much. "I want to change one thing, right? "I can change one little thing, except that Shubo for me." And again, the most of my other day, when I said that a person is a 12-maker at school and he gets kicked out of school and he comes to the Menial and says to the Menial, you know, I talk about experience. Because the Menial says, "You know, I tell you what, "I can't change everything. "I'll stop writing on the walls." So what's the Menial going to say to him? "What are you crazy? "I'm going to take you back on the school, "just because you're going to stop writing on the walls." If they change everything, I'm not going to change it to take on that basis, the finish of Shubo is that we come to Coach Mark when there's somebody doing a hula-shoo, the ramen-lush, and the other one. So Shubo kind of ran into the dresser. We kind of coach Mark and say, "Listen, God, "we can't change very much, "but I'm going to change something small. "Like we do in a hula-shoo, "I'm going to change something. "I'm not going to get it five minutes early for diaphoning. "I won't get it as angry. "I'll trade my wife a little bit better." Okay, now I want it to see what has to do with Shubo. That's the finish with Shubo. Since Shubo is Coach Mark, we say Coach Mark who he didn't even go, "I can only do Shubo on a perfect." I should resort to that. And that is what Shubo's trying to say. That's a sense of our shame. The sense of our shame. Yeah, of course, if you change your whole life, that's amazing, that's great. And that's the plan over the other, which works to tell me Shubo's and works at the opposite of our Shubo. And that's more in conclusion. What's the sense of Coach Mark who that you come in a proc and say, "I want to change this one thing." I said, "I want to make a coach. "I want to make a coach." Two thoughts. One whimsical, one more serious. My whimsical question is, "Rabbi, Beth, after you said you're new from experience, "were you the menile or were you the wall scribbler?" "Rabbi, I got Rio Ginsburg said to my mother. "All I've ever shown was said to my mother. "Oh yeah, I've shown them." He said, "When I look into yours, "I've got Rio's deep blue eyes. "I see trouble." (laughing) So you were not the menile of that kind of thing. No. (laughing) But I say this loud. Listen, in the overwhelming kindness of a loving God, you know, the Shubo and the Prat is, does that think of all the gazakh? Does that think of all the gazakhs, so sure, sure. So I'll be a little bit less kind. You know, I'm happy that you're giving a band of possibility for probably many of our listeners and maybe even for myself, that, "Come on, are you really going to be Mahapir?" Lagammer your life. But you were able in small steps to make some changes. And the verb in the show will treat that as if you are a Baltzhuva, not just a person who changed one thing, but a Baltzhuva. - I say it's Baltzhuva. He said, "A tree will give him, "will it be Mahapir for you "and give you, see him for a single time?" And very very small sense, but it's also an exercise. If a person is just Mahapir itself to learn Cifrei Musir, he's very Mahapir to the same for a time. - And he will get Capora for those of Ere's that he's done? - I don't know about those gazakhs and everything, but yeah, he can next up and next time of time. - You seem to be giving hope to people who want to be realistic and say, "Maybe I can change one thing." Maybe we could say it would be abusive. That rots into even michana, that is really an outgrowth of what the Neffes really wants. In other words, yes, your recianus and your gulf and your ashokim and your cynicism and other things about you, make it seem, "I can change one thing." But really, that's the imprisoned Neshoma that really wants to be davic, cool and childish and everything. But that's the thing that is bursting out. Really, what you have, the hyasuris, Taka is the hyasuris of the complete Neffes. As I said to Ravmayer before, you know, Tanu is not just saying to him, like the Imruchayim said, is to give the Neshoma its chance to fly, to, it needs a response. It's begging for something. So Anakinami, that one Nakuda that you were able to say and to really be firm on, that's the Raya that something happened inside. That's the Raya that the Neshoma was actually moved. And that what we're going for is an avalanche, a conflagration of the slavas and the fire of a Vedas Hashem that's to come. - We decided that his slavas, which we decided to do Chuvah, the Neshoma should be Anne Montgomery, and which we decided to Gmarasimatreva. - Oh, my God. - Amen, Gmarasimatreva, amen. - Also, this is the Raya and all the programs of the Ishiva of Newark. All the many, many, many podcasts when they're rich variety and their gamet of topics, which they cover, should be Zayta to Gmarasimatreva, the Sipfron Shell Podcast in Mirim, with a lot of support from the community. - Oh, man. 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