Y'all take the shot with us, if y'all at home. All right. All right, to another good episode. Ooh. And I just want to say these. Real quick. Me and Lex are real friends in real life. - I think they know that. - No, I don't think them howls know that. - Oh. - Because I be fed up, I feel like I'm very much like, I'm in an era of my life where I don't respond to she got social media. - But for me, you are. - Okay. They don't cancel your ass. They say they need to take that out to the dictionary. - Oh, I didn't know. - But I just feel like I'm in an era of my life where I don't respond to stuff on social media. But I be seeing it. And we both be seeing it all the time. We're not gonna quit doing poor minds anytime soon. Like, oh, yeah, okay, I'm glad you were just saying. - Yeah, this is our sheet. We are best friends. We love doing this show together. We have covered so much ground, so much traction made, so many accomplishments over the years together. And we still have so much that we want to do. Lex really has always wanted to host reunion shows. And she really wants to get in her bag with reality TV because that's something she's passionate about. I'm really passionate about beauty. So we're starting two separate YouTube channels, but we still gonna do poor minds together. Y'all wear this fuck. And that's all I wanted to say. - And I also think if y'all ever have any questions, y'all know we real and we are open book. Like y'all can just ask us instead of going on podcasts and then-- - Y'all are wear this book. And Ty is still our bartender as well. - Period. - Stop being weird. - Oh, yeah, the poor crew is in the building and shots of the people who are always positive that support us and that see us and that. - Yeah. - They know what the fuck going on. But yeah, y'all stop being weird on these podcasts and talk about y'all. - Not even on podcasts, just social media in general. I feel like people be dying for a moment where me and you getting into it, are we not cool with each other? 'Cause I feel like we don't put enough of our personal life on social media. So people sometimes are always digging for something, for like some type of drama or for a breakup or whatever the case may be like, we straight, we good. - And I think it's just like, like I said, y'all are so used to people faking a friendship to kind of try to give that dynamic. But the thing is like, that's why I said, we started kind of like an era, like we real friends and people be trying to start this with they real friends and literally six months a year in. I don't know why God has blessed us like this, but we are very much still friends and we still good and we are literally just scratching the surface. - 'Cause we genuine, that's why, like that's why God be blessed in this. But at the end of the day, like we be having our issues, we definitely don't always get a lot of 100% of the time, but like we really are friends and like sisters at this point, so it ain't no tea, it ain't no tea. It's no tea there. - And if there ever is tea there, y'all really gonna-- - Y'all gonna be the last, the last, last, no. 'Cause like I said, we don't record a whole episode, it's not even talking to each other. - And they ain't even know. - And y'all ain't no ho at niggas. - What do you call that? - Baby man, right now. - Professional. - And growth. - Growth. - Well, I-- - 'Cause we used to be yelling at each other on camera. - No, it was bad. - Our digital footprint is crazy. - It's wild, didn't it still look? - Still look. Y'all gonna look at me, come on with some. (upbeat music) (upbeat music) - What's up, y'all? It's your girl, Lex P. - And it's your girl, Jory and Nicole. - And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Minds. - Where's your, when I speak, sober thoughts? - We ain't got no guests today. We ain't got no guests today. - Look, I'm ready. I pulled up ready. - You can't pull up ready. - Drinkin' hand. - Drinkin' hand, ready to get. Tell me when to get. - Tell me when to get. - Tell me when to go. - Why did he say it like that? - 'Cause just Christ had dreads so strict. I ain't got no other plan on growing soon. How do you spell G? - G. - Yeah, G.E. - Mm-hmm. - L.A. (laughing) - I feel like you got an A-T-N-E. - No, he don't say G. - Yo. - Yo. - No, he don't say it. - You don't say it. - I don't A-T-N-E. - It's G.E. - Okay. - So I think we spelled it right. G-E-O-O-O. - M. (laughing) - That's a crazy way to say it, girl. Like, I hate people who do them always. - What? - Like, just say the word. - Well, you know what? I don't have people you feel about me. It's spitted out. - This is spitted out. I hate, you know what? Okay, so you know how they be doing the accent challenges? Like, on TikTok and, like, on different apps and stuff? I hate when people, like, do an accent challenge. They be, like, doing the most. 'Cause there's an accent challenge right now where you're supposed to say, um... Five, boil, five oils, five boils. Oh, God. I can't say it. Five bowls of boiling oil. That's what it is. Five boils of boiling oil. Five bowls. - I said that. - Oh. (laughing) - You gonna say five bowls? - I said that. - Of boiling oil. Five bowls of boiling oil. - Okay, yeah. So, this girl got on there. - Why is it hard? - Exactly, but everybody talking about they Southern accent, so this girl gonna get on there. She was like, "Five bowls of boiling oil." - Earl. - I said, people in the South do say Earl. - But I feel like that's older people that do that and talk like that. - Like, I just feel like people be adding on that extra look. - I think that, I do think that's an older person thing 'cause I think I talked about things on the show how my mom would say, "Quarsh me." - Yeah. - Where's the art? - Perched it. - Sweetheart. - I think that's older 'cause I hate-- - Perched me. - They say, "Choose thee." - Wins. - They do say, "Choose thee." - Choose thee. - Choose thee. - Choose thee. Where does CH come from? - You know what Lauren does, my friend? - Oh my God. - What do Lauren be doing? - Lauren say, "Wrestle wrong." (laughing) - Was she for real? - Yeah, she like, "You want to go to the restle wrong?" - You're lying. - She do not be serious. (laughing) - I'm doing that 'cause Lauren be playing, like, Lauren is funny and I know she be playing around. - She's not kidding. - She's like, "Where do you want to go to eat?" There's like a bunch of different "Wrestle wrong?" Around here. I said no, "Wrestle wrong." - What in the hell is the restle wrong? - I don't know. That's how she says it. She say, "Wrestle wrong." - I don't like that. - I don't eat her. - I don't like that, Lauren. That's the wrong word. - I told her-- - Let me show you guys. - I told her to stop, but I don't know. I feel like my aunt, shout out to my Auntie Lane, I love her now. - What'd she say? - Wal-marks, Wal-marks. - I was talking about these on the show before her. My momma said Martha Luther King. - Martha? - No, that's disrespectful. - Her heart is in the right place. - She's not trying to be this ridiculous. But she be saying Martha and then the crazy part is when you tell her that she said it wrong, she be like, "I said Martha Luther King." Yeah, his name is Martha. - I said no. - I said Martha. That's the problem, actually. - Yeah. - Yeah, we took my mom out to eat. - Oh. (laughs) - My mom is back at home. She made it safe to sound back to Houston, Texas, praise the Lord. But she was here for like a while. - She was here for a while. - So, yeah, she made it back home safely. But before she left, it was my dad's birthday. And so, I wanted to take her out to eat while she was out here 'cause I knew she would be like, "You know, in a somber mood today." And I feel like I was in a somber mood that day too. And so I was like, "Okay, let's go out to eat." And then y'all know me and Lick's her neighbors now. So I was like, "Lick, she wanna come?" - Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. - So we took mama to her favorite place in Atlanta. - Favorite restaurant. - Lil' Ellie. - She loved Lil' Ellie. - But she got expensive say, she heard. Y'all see where I get it from. - She got expensive say. So we took her to Lil' Ellie and she got her favorite pork chop. - Yes. - And you just, me and Drey are in a deep conversation. Her mom just, you know, add her little ad libs and she laughing at us and stuff. All of a sudden I hear that fork hitting that plate. She's scraped, baby, she scraped that. - It was gone, y'all. The food was gone. Me and Lick's had to even touch off food. - Oh, it was so funny. And then she had like, 'cause it didn't come with like some kind of beans or some black eyed peas. - It came out with black eyed peas. So she had like a little bit left on one pork chopmona. Like three little black eyed peas. That she said, "Can I get a box?" (laughing) - And I was like, and I was like, "Girl, you play too much." What you gonna do with that little piece of pork chop? She was like, "You all up in my beans." But you know what? I always say that. It doesn't matter how little bit of a food it is. I'm gonna take it to go because sometimes it matters. It do matter 'cause that little midnight snack. You know how you get hungry? Like by the time you get home, wash your face, take a shower. You didn't lay down and watch TV. You finna doze off. You might want a little snack. You don't want nothing heavy. - Yeah, I mean, I do be wanting something heavy. Like I never really crave a snack. I crave meals. - Oh, see, I crave a little. - I need a meal. - I need a little something. - I need a meal. - I need a little pussy. But this is where we differ at. What may be a meal for you as a snack for me? 'Cause I'd be like, "Oh, I want a little burger." (laughter) I'd be like, "Let me just get a little burger." - I want a little piece of catfish inside of my tree. - That's a little bit. That's my snacks. I'd be like, "Let me get a little, a little steak." - Oh, speaking of burgers. (gasps) - Oh my God. - We found the best burger in Atlanta. - Oh my God, do you remember the name of it? - Supreme burger. - Oh my God, shout out to Supreme Burger. Okay, so obviously we did in this fest. We talked about it on the show already, haven't we? Did we? I can't remember. - I don't think so. 'Cause we have a recording scene. - Us. - Yeah, we have it. Okay, so we had a vest fest a few weeks ago, and it was amazing. Shout out to Rashad and Troy from Earn Your Leisure. It was absolutely amazing. - Yes. - So our panel was really good. - Our panel is a Mandy too. - Not gonna lie, our panel was low key fire. - We ate that. - We really did. - We really ate that. - I feel like one thing that I never would have guessed that we're kind of pivoting into, 'cause obviously y'all know, if you've been a listener from the beginning, we obviously have gone through a major rebrand in the past year, as y'all know. And I think we did a successful rebrand, 'cause a lot of times people rebrand, like remember when-- - It don't work out. - And remember, 'cause remember Snoop told us to call us some Snoop lion? And we was like, okay, Snoop Dogg. So sometimes people try to do a rebrand and it don't work. - It don't work, it don't work. - So, shout out to our rebrand because it worked, and I think it's gone very well. So this pivot that we've made into this panel space, I love it, 'cause when we do a panel, we just be eating down. - 'Cause who the fuck would have thought to have us on a panel? (laughing) - Bitch, be for real. I've never seen myself as a panelist. - But our panels be so good, 'cause they do be good though. - We be talkin' that real, bro. - We be talkin' that real shit, bro. - I feel like you sounded like plies, I don't know why. - 'Cause we so, I just feel like-- - Didn't he have this album really been real? - Yeah. - The realest. - The realest. - The realest. - The first things first from a roast? - Okay, that's an-- - Who is it? - That's an apply. (laughing) - But, okay, anyways, but the panel was amazing. So we went-- - We need to get plies on the show, though. I don't know why they was just on my spirit. - Yeah, we definitely do. But anyways, back to the panel. I feel like our panels do so well, because I feel like one thing we are is authentic. And I think we never try to front and put up anything. Like, all we know how to be is ourselves. So I do think our panels just hit a little different. Like, you know what I'm sayin'? - We don't tell y'all every time. - That we started from the bottom. - Yeah, but I think our, but it's a lot of people that we love to tell that story. - I love it. - We love it. - And I'm gonna bring up the fact I still got it. - I'm balanced. - That we're gonna be in a museum one day. - I know 'cause I have it, just in case. I truly feel like one day you are gonna win an Emmy. You're gonna win an Oscar. And I am gonna put that wig on eBay. - No, you need to be in the audience holding up in the air. - Oh, I'ma get go, Poppy, spray paint it on me. - Okay. - Ooh, hey. - I think we got distracted. - We do. - Okay, so anyway, so we're at investing. - I'ma wear it. See, now that's what I'm talking about. I'ma wear it. I'ma wear it. - Now, that's what I like. I like when you gettin' that bag. - Yeah, I'ma gettin' that bag. - Yeah. - I'ma get an outfit and a shirt and it's gonna say, like, lick speed. - Maybe we should be each other. - 2000. - What? - Let's be 2017. - 2017, yeah. That was the, that was the bag. That was the peak. That was when it was peak, babe. - That's what it was. - Bitch, let me tell y'all something. I've seen a video, a picture of me today. Somebody went back in my media and liked it. It was when I was in Dubai. Baby, that wig was taller than the Eiffel Tower Bitch. I said, I didn't know. I know I did not go to Dubai with that wig on top of my head like that. - No, but the crazy thing is, I remember when you went to Dubai and I thought the wig was cute. - I was the red one right the red one. - I thought it was, but that-- - I got really good memories. - It was the red ball. - It was the red ball. - I mean, obviously style and hairstyle have changed a lot. It was a good quality. - That wig. - But yeah, it was sitting on top of my head, babes. - Sitting on top of the world. - And I literally was. - You were. - 'Cause the picture-- - I was on top of the hotel. - It was. I was on top of the hotel. You could see the Dubai skyline behind me. - And my wig was on top of the skyline. And I was in the middle of the skyline. - You know what though? I liked y'all Dubai wig. The wigs that were sitting on top of the world was when we was trying Lee and Barbie. - Ooh, and why would you repost? - I did post that yesterday. We were cute. This is my thing though. I feel like sometimes you'll be like trying to downplay this, but like-- - Bend them girls. - Bend them girls. (laughing) And we really ate that 'cause we did our own installs. We was really in the bathroom with the bold hold. - Yes. - Plucking them wigs, plucking them-- - I had a half-up half down. I got fancy with it, baby. - You had, you did, and you had even hit the two buns. - I love a good space. - That's what I'm saying. Like, we really ate with them wigs and then I had the blonde wig. - You did. And we kept calling ourselves Chun Lee and Barbie. - Because it was around the time that Nikki had came out with some songs. - True barbs. - Real barbs. - We were so lame. - Jesus Christ. - No, we was not. - We was 27. - Oh, I'll say that. - In 29. - Our digital footprint is just interesting. I'll say that. - Why? What so? - I mean, I mean, I don't know what my drink is. - It's not erased. Our digital footprint is there, but our digital footprint is just interesting. - You almost took it with your drinks. - No, I'm not. - You said my digital-- - Shut up. - Fitch. (laughing) - I'm 35 now. I got that Auntie in me for real, now. - You street. (laughing) - Okay. - But no, I will say our digital footprint is interesting 'cause honestly, I don't know what made me search poor minds on Instagram. I always search it on Twitter, but I never search it on Instagram. And when I tell you, I was horrified. - Horrified is a strong word. - It was so many pictures of me in thongs. When my ass out-- - We used to love at the home. - I used to put on thongs and be showing my whole-- - I love the nasty thong. - I love the nasty thong. - It was some of you in thongs too. - Oh, I know it was. - I'm sure. - I was horrified. I really used to post my bare naked ass on the internet and it's there forever. - Me too, I loved it. - And look, and then it was on the 85th-- - That's why I don't know about you take a series. - Ever. - I remember we came out with them t-shirts. (laughing) (laughing) - We thought we ate that. - But we did. It was a rapper-- - Not gonna lie, they sold us out there. - They sold out there. - They did sell off ads. And we had some pictures on my iPhone on the balcony at my apartment. - I ate that down. - We ate it down. - It was horrifying to me because it was my Halloween picture. - We thought we were so cute. - And then 85 South, that was when we just signed the 85 South. So then it was like Lex P from Four Minds. And then the next one was like, I drained the coal from Four Minds, and we were like-- (laughing) - I'm laughing because I know the polls. We used to be like-- (laughing) (laughing) - The horror. - Oh yes, we used to love a good thong. - Oh my God, that's so embarrassing. - I mean, I still love a thong. - But no, I don't post. - Yes, I would never, I would never like, okay, it's different like in a bathing suit on the beach. And it's like a cute little dainty pose. But even still, I'm not gonna post me in like a G string bikini. I don't even, I don't think I will post a back shot of that these days. Like I will make it look like classy to some of you. - I mean, 'cause that picture I took in Turks, I'm like laying on the ground. - But you didn't have on a thong, that's why. - I mean, it was a slight, it was a slight. - That was cheeky. - That was cheeky. - That was cheeky. - Even the little cheeky. - Okay, okay. - But it wasn't like a G string. - Yeah. - We used to be wearing like a piece of floss. - Oh my God, that is actually horrible to think about. - Our ditch, I want you to still wear them shirts. - Yeah, they do. They definitely. - Let me wear her hair to the grocery store. And she say every time she wear it to the grocery store, she get look of disgust. - Just two Jezebels. How did it all hang out? - I mean. - That's a real friend. She still be wearing it. I mean, I wear my during the call shirt sometimes. I wear it to bed. - I don't wear my size. - Yeah, I don't wear my leeks t-shirt. You was wily. You did that little Kim pose. - No, you did the little Kim pose. I was standing up and I was holding my thumb. - That was me. - That was you that pussy was wide open to the world. - No, that was you. - No, that was you. - I literally, no lie. Yesterday, when I was looking for them pictures, the post, for my, the friend post, when you talking about our pictures with our bad week, I came across the picture. - Oh yeah. - You did do the little Kim pose. - I'm talking about on the shirts that we got now. - On the shirts, you're busting it open. And the picture, I was busting it open. You was like standing up, but I'm talking about the actual shirts. You're definitely leg spread eagle, bitch. - Oh, remember when I bust this week for my birthday two years ago? No, that was last year. And I ruined my birthday dress. - I don't know what be going on over there. I don't know what be happening. - That's why I said though, and I want to say this publicly right now, so that everybody can record this and save the day. - Okay. - This is why I'm about to stop taking shots. - Okay. - 'Cause every time that I take shots, especially multiple shots. - Yeah, yeah. - Something crazy happened every time. I was so sore the next day, I said, I want to fuck what I had to bust was split at 32. - I don't know. - And you housed lit me. - I was impressed. (laughs) I said, hey, you did your big one. I liked it. I enjoyed it. The time was had. - Bitch, my legs was hurting so bad the big day. And then my dress, y'all. My dress was so cute. They dressed like $500 loose. Does she split all the way up to the ass crack when I did this lead? - Oh my God. We was wilding on your birthday last year. - Yes. - You remember those videos? I was like crawling on the couch. - Yeah. - I do remember that. - Oh my God. - We was wilding on my birthday these year. - We always wild. - A story for another smile. - Yes. - But, like I was saying, what's up y'all? It's your girl Lexpy. - Andy's your girl, Jeray and Nicole. - And we are here to tell y'all about RocketMoney.com. This is the app that helps you monitor your spending, cancel unwanted subscriptions, and just monitors all of your bills for you. - RocketMoney is a personal finance app that helps find and cancel your unwanted subscriptions. Monitors are spending and helps lower your bills so you can grow your savings. Yes, I love RocketMoney because I always forget to cancel my subscriptions after that little seven day, 30 day trial period. And that's how they get me. That's how they catch me every time. 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It was nice. - That meat was tender. When I talk about a little burger for a snack, that's the kind of burger I want. - That's the little snack. - That's the little snack I want. A little jerk. - It was good. Shout out to Supreme Burger. I hope that they end up getting a little, well, I hope they see this and they send us some burgers. And I also hope that this gets them even more beef. - Yeah, if you're in Atlanta, please go search Supreme Burger. I know they have a truck. - They do. - But I do think they have a brick and mortar store as well, where you actually like go in. - It was a jerk burger. - Yes. - And they also had a lamb burger. I really wanted to try it, but I wasn't able to try it, but they was all about it. - Yeah, it's not to Supreme Burger. - When you tell people where you live, do you say, how do you pronounce, how do you pronounce Atlanta? - Atlanta. - Atlanta? - Atlanta. - Yeah. - Atlanta. - Atlanta, it's an end in there. - Yeah, Atlanta. - Atlanta. - Who says Atlanta? - Well, you know, I think Nini says Atlanta. - She don't say that on this show. - Oh, okay. - She didn't say that for me. - But there's a definitely an end. - You say Atlanta? - Yeah, it's Atlanta. Yeah. I don't think anybody says ATL no more. - Nah, people still be saying ATL. - They say ATL? - Mm-hmm. - I think people that's not like familiar with this TV. - They say ATL? Or do they say ATown? Peace up, ATown down? - I don't think no one says ATown. - Peace up, ATown down? - I don't think anyone says ATown. Now, we're from Houston and they say eight, people still say ATown. - No, yeah, definitely say ATown. - People say ATown. - No. - Nobody ever said ATown. - Can I ask y'all a question? Did y'all see that clip of Usher that went viral and they was talking about it was a clown? - They said it was AI. - He said, "Yeah, one tell." - Did you know what I'm talking about? - I seen the clue. - 'Cause why did he do it like that? He said, "Yeah, one tell." - That's the problem with y'all though. That's the problem with black people. Y'all don't like trains. - What? I would just confuse-- - I would feel like letting me undo him. - Okay, I think maybe he was like a soft launch of the tour. - I feel like he's a soft launch of a new era. - Yeah, bro, okay. But I'm ready. - What if he come out, what if he come out with a rock album? - I would listen to it 'cause I think he can do it. He's just that talented. - I used to love-- - Louis, well imagine. - Oh, okay, okay. Remember that song? - I thought you were talking about it. - It was a good song. I'm pinning him to this girl. - Pinning got to this girl was smart. - Like, imagine Usher doing like a pinning after this album. - He had a voice to do it though. - I'll talk to you about-- - How do you think it's gonna sound? - Yeah. One, two, turn, turn, turn. (laughing) - Do you ever imagine? I feel like this is like-- - This is probably why people think we do drugs. - Bink. - Bink, wait a minute. (laughing) - I've done the drugs too. Not gonna die. (laughing) - Oh boy. - So, like, this is why people think we do drugs when you said about some random stuff. But like, do you ever imagine what a song would sound like if another person did the song? - Can I say something? - Like, this is why I'm so mad at AI because I feel like I'm always mad at new inventions. 'Cause I'm like, bitch, I've been thought about these. I should've tried to like figure it out and come out and like get a patent and figure it out and come out with like a brand or something. Because what the fuck? AI is what I've been doing my whole life. Like, I always be imagining songs done by another artist. - Can I tell you how crazy that is that you said that? - Yes. - This morning I was doing my makeup and I scroll TikTok while I get ready 'cause I'll be listening to different stories, listen. I found this TikTok page that makes like different characters sing. I was listening to Peter Griffin rap "Glorilla" at 7 p.m. Friday. I was so mesmerized. It was so good. - I need that. - They had a version with Ariana Grande rapping the "Glorilla" song. - 7 p.m. it sounded good. - I know. - That had SpongeBob. That had a SpongeBob version. Eight down. - Yeah, I seen this clip of this dude the other day. It was just like this like young white boy. And he was in the studio and he was dropping the track. And it's like an original track. But he was like making like a little baby track. - Okay. - So he did like little baby boys. And they was like this the hardest little, this song harder than little baby song. And it wasn't, I ain't gonna say all it. - Right, right, right, right, right. - But it was definitely hard. And it sounded just like a little baby. - I look, aye y'all has a little balance with me. I like it. I like it. It gets a little scary at times. - It's too much. - I don't like when they do the stuff where it makes it seem like somebody's saying something, like a celebrity or somebody saying something that they're not saying. - I don't like when they do porn. - Yeah, that's a little weird. - Like putting somebody here on another person body. - That's a little too much. - Making them sound like them, that's a little bit much. - All right, hold on. - Before we go on, 'cause. - Ty. - First of all, y'all been asking. - They have the streets. - God, they have, Ty. - The streets and the friends. - I said, what the? F, I don't know if I, can we curse yet? Are we back? - Oh, we have to show past five minutes. - I mean, I just got, I mean, she's here. - I'm here, y'all. - She is here. - Here in the flesh. - So y'all give it up for Ty, she back the building. (clapping) - Ty, why don't we drink it too? - The one and only. - They miss the eye. - Two days? - Oh my God. - Wow. - Now, people are literally adding us, like, in a store, and they're like, where is Ty? - Somebody posted a whole story the other day. - That story, yes. - On Instagram. - It's the Instagram story. And they was like, hollip. Where is Ty at Dre and McCall in at Lake Speed? - And that's why I didn't replay it by saying. I'm like, I don't wanna start no rolling up people being weird. - Don't be getting weird. I'm here, y'all. We ain't gonna wear it. - Hey. - I'm here doing my favorite thing, making a drink for my girls. - Yes. - So, y'all know that the seasons are changing. Summer is ending, transitioning into fall. I think last night was like the last sunset that's gonna, like, happen after eight o'clock. - Oh. - Those, like, sadness. So, this one is called the final sunset. - Oh. - Just reminiscent of summer, all those good vibes we have. We have either tequila or vodka, some grapefruit juice, lime juice, some lavender syrup, and then we topped it off with some sparkling watermelon. And then we garnished it with, like, a little dehydrated flour, just to kind of be reminiscent of the summer. So, this is the final sunset. - Y'all, there's y'all. - This is very good. - You like it? Is this edible? - I wouldn't eat that. - Oh. - I might say, you know I love your little flower. - It's a very good part, is, I was about to say, be sure to look at it, 'cause it don't look edible. - I eat anything. - I mean, I'm sure you could, but it tastes like a flower. - No, no, we're not gonna do that. - Oh, we're not gonna do that. You call, you calm down, pipe down over there, okay? You're getting a little get in the way. - You the one, you the one that acts. You the one that acts that you say see. I would like to see you say. - See, that's how I know you was a bad kid. I'm making the mommy face, and you still talking. - Oh, I was terrible. - You look bad. - Excuse me. - That and that's- - Ease. (laughing) - I'm still. (laughing) - Badder than a two year old. That's how y'all captions used to be. - Okay. - Used to be posing with that ass out. - Badder than a two year old. - And what you used to be saying? - Nothing. Nothing. - I'm fine, and I'm funny. You host, couldn't you? (laughing) - Shut the hell up. - Shut up. Okay. - Y'all don't lick slutty hues. - Oh, that's still my pose now. - She's slutty hues. - I love that hip, I just do a classy hip now. You know, I do my hip, this is my new pose where I do my hands like this. - You have to, you gotta show off that fringe too. - Mm hmm, little nails, little nails. - Oh my God, yeah. - Let's get into- - The first topic. - The first topic of what we wanted to talk about a little bit. - Of course. - I'm weak. - Wait, do you want to do this one, Dre, or you want to just go to this one? - The first one. - This one? - Well, I don't, yeah. - I mean, we are ready. - What time is it? - 25. - Yeah, that's mine. - Do this one? - Yeah. - Okay. Okay, so we wanted to have this conversation because I let you introduce it 'cause you was having a conversation with her. - Okay, y'all. So, I was having a conversation the other day and I was talking to our social media manager, shout out to Shay. And she was just basically saying and she feels like poor minds are like OG in the podcast again. And she really said we the grandmothers. And I said bitch, first and foremost don't ever call me a fucking grandmother. We so young, too fine, too teeth to be grandmothers. - The grandmothers look different now. If you talk about a grandma like Bernice, I'll be that. Jocelyn, ain't Jo, oh, no, Tom. - Jocelyn is not a grandmother. - Tommy is a grandmother. - She is a grandmother. - That's what I'm saying, I don't want it. - I mean, you're right, but I'm just like, I don't know, grandmother don't sit right with my speakers. It rubbed me the wrong way. So, she was just like, yeah, y'all like the grandmothers of podcasts and y'all like the OGs. And I was like, I don't know. I don't really feel like we're OGs. Like, to me, I feel like to be an OG, you have to be in like an industry for like 10 plus years. We've been doing this day that long yet, but she was just like the traction that we've covered, the, you know, the things that we have made our mark on, all of the accolades that we have. She feels like we're like the grandmothers, the OGs, she's the pioneers. - Pioneers. - If you will. - If you will, she said we have birthed a nation. - All these bitches is our sign. - And I ain't talking about Phoenix. - Okay, but let's talk about this first. What is the criteria of an OG though? Like, what makes you consider to be like an OG? - I think to be an OG, you have to be respected in your industry. I think you have to have had your leg in the game. This is my opinion. - Okay. - I feel like some people feel like it don't have to be 10 years, but in order for me to feel like somebody is an OG of anything, you have to be respected in your lane for like 10 plus years. - Okay, so with that being said, I'm gonna bring up a different industry to just ask you a question. Would you consider, like, arrogant Tay? Is he an OG in the hair game? - He's the OG. - But that's what I'm saying, but he hasn't been doing it for years. - Yes, he hasn't been doing it for over 10 years? - Yes. - Okay. - He was popping, Tay was popping already before I even moved to Atlanta. - Okay, okay. - And I moved to Atlanta in 2016. - Okay. - It's 2024. - Okay, okay. - So to be fair, I feel like he was already like popping and doing hair and shit like in like 2013, 2014. Like that's the OG for real, like V-O-G. Like I feel like all the other girls, all the other guys that do hair kind of like. - And you like this top? - Tay was the blueprint. - He was the blueprint. - Okay, that's fair. That's a fair assessment. - Yeah, I mean, that's my again, my opinion, but that is how I feel about it. I feel like, yeah, you have to have your leg in the game for like 10 plus years. Obviously you inspire others to emulate you or you know, once you get in the same field and try to do what you do because you've become so successful at it. So I feel like in that respect, maybe, but I don't know. I just feel like we haven't been doing it that long. Like, I always say this like, hormones is not even fully six years old yet. Like it will be six years what? This October or November? So it's like six years is kind of like, to me, that's still kind of like new. - I'm on a little bit of both sides 'cause we're not new. - Okay. - But I wouldn't consider us, I think people consider us OG's because I think we inspired a lot of people, you know? I think one of the main comments that we get all the time is when people tag they friends that be like, oh, we can do this or a girl, let's start it. So I think in that sense, if that's what you consider an OG is somebody who inspires people, I would take that. But I wouldn't say that we're new. I think in our minds, the reason that we don't consider ourself OG's is because we've done a lot. - 'Cause we ain't old. - No. Because we have so much more that we want to do. - So I think like this speech has inspired me so much. Usher gave this speech and I can't remember if it was at the BET Awards or he said it somewhere else. But he was like, what's crazy is I'm just getting started. Usher been doing this since he was 13. So when he said it, I'm like, oh my God, this man has been in the industry for more than his life, like more than 50% of his life. And he's talking about he just now getting started. So I think for us, the reason we don't consider ourselves OG's is because we're like, okay, we just getting started. There's so much more that we're working on and that we have in store that they don't even know about. So for me, when I think of an OG, I think of somebody that's kind of like chilling and they out the way and they, they're enjoying the food, they was gonna do what they made, they marked. - They're enjoying the fruit of their labor. - You know what I'm saying? Like Snoop is an OG, Snoop lying. - But Snoop Dogg, not an OG though, 'cause he still be doing shit. He just was hosting the Olympics. - But exactly, he's enjoying the fruits of his labor. He's not out here trying to drop an album and go on tour and get number one on the billboard. - Okay, that's true. - If Snoop drop a song, he's 'cause he can't. - Yeah. - Slim thug, that's an OG. Like it's because he's out here enjoying the fruits of his labor. - My boy always on vacation. - Slim is always on vacation. 'Cause that's what, I feel like as an OG, like that's what you do. I mean like even with Bumbi, Bumbi has a successful tril burger, like a successful restaurant now. He's enjoying the fruits of his labor and doing things that he wants to do. So I feel like, I don't think that we're necessarily OGs, but I do feel like we're like a staple in the game. Like people don't remember poor minds, no matter what. Like we was something that we was like, okay, we a little forced to be reckoned with. Like if you're in the podcast industry as a black woman, like you gotta collab with the girls. - You gotta collab with the girls. - Like in 21, 23, we gonna be vintage TV. - Yeah. - Yeah. - Like I remember how you used to fall asleep 'til like I love Lucy, stuff in the middle. - They're not gonna be falling asleep to poor minds. I can assure you. - Yeah, they might. If I could fall asleep to the parkers, that's my comfort show. - Language. - What? - Language. - What do you mean? - They had proper language on the parkers. We be cutting up on these shows. - But I still think, now you know how you be falling asleep when you watch something, they say something. You be like, what the fuck? (laughing) - You get up about your sleep 'cause they can say something interesting. - Yeah. - I think you might be there. But I do think like 50 years from now, poor minds will be a comfort show that people just turn on and they just leave. - They go to sleep. - And they leave their office. - Yeah. - I love to go to sleep to the office. - Yes, I go to sleep to the parkers. Lately, I've been doing my wife and kids. - Oh, I just found a new show and I've been going to sleep to it. The good place? - The good place. I've never heard of that. - Really? I have to sleep with you. - Is it the one? - I like it. - Oh no, I'm pregnant. - Well, Christian, Tommy's Christian, baby. - The lady who, she was in like a show baking today. But anyways, I was just gonna agree with you. I do feel like we're very like overly ambitious. And we never really take the time out to like appreciate or realize how far we've come. Because we always trying to figure out what's gonna be our next move. I think that's something that you and I both have to work on, which needs to be a goal for us in the next year is to just really appreciate the moment and appreciate how far we've come. Because my best friend, Lynn, tell me that all the time. And I know me and you was having a conversation earlier and you were telling me like, "You're a best friend, kill or tell you that too." Like, we just are always on to the next thing. And it's just like when some big shit happened, we never really be like, "Oh my God, I can't believe we about to do this." It be the people around us. It's like, "Oh my God." - We be like, "Okay, whatever we..." - Yeah. - That shit going. - Like, I told my mom about our essence article that they just put out about her in best fits and they featured us in it. And my mom was like, so hyped about it. And like, when I told you, we was both kind of like, "Yeah, oh, that's cute." - But wait, wait, if anybody from Essence was watching, it wasn't about that. - No, it wasn't. - Because I love Essence. - Me too. - And it was an honor to be featured in it. But like I said, for us, it's like, when we do Essence Festival next year, I want to be on like, the main main. - Well, that's why I'm about to say, "Yes, yes, we love y'all, but we need to cuddle." - You know what I'm saying? We need, y'all need to do a black podcast, women of black podcast cover and face of the girl. - And I nominate us. - That's what I'm saying. - I nominate Horrible DeSigene. - Horrible DeSigene. - Pop too. - Madam Joyce. - Madam Joyce from the UK. - Yeah, from the UK that, I think, Kiki Palmer, obviously, you know what I'm saying? - Yeah. - I think it's a lot of women. It's hard for-- - Crystal that we had on the show. - Yeah, Crystal has a good podcast. It's hard for black women in this space when we're seeing these people get 100, 200 million dollar deals and all this stuff. And we are just as good and just as funny. But you know, I think, I said this on the panel. I said black media has to highlight us, though. Mainstream black media. And I think Essence does a good job and highlighting BET does a good job by highlighting. But if we, if black media put the black podcasters on a main stream, like how they do, you know, like how the other people be doing with them, it would be so easy for us to get these million dollar deals, these multi-million dollar deals. You know what I'm saying? - But that's okay, 'cause somebody gotta be the first. - Yeah, it's coming. - And you know who it's gonna be. - I know it is. And I always say this, 'cause y'all don't realize, it's crazy, but in 2024, doors are still being broken down for black people. - I agree. - And that's crazy as hell. It'd still be like, oh, the first black one, or the first black. You know what I'm saying? It's crazy that we- - Beyonce was the first black woman to, I think, make over 800 million or 500 million or something like that with the Renaissance tour. It was like a crazy woman. She was like the first black woman to do that. And like when you think about all of the women before her, you would have thought- - You would have thought that- - That someone else would have did that already. But no. - In 2024, we're still hearing first black something behind some kind of accolade. So I feel like it's definitely possible, but I think like I said, it's our responsibility and these big media outlets' responsibility to just support, you know, like I think a lot of times these blogs too, like y'all only post the negative stuff and because it gets you clicks, but we really have control to change the narrative. Like black people, we are the tastemakers, bro. Everybody is doing what we're doing, we're doing and they're following us. - No, personally, they're making more money. - Yeah, they're doing what we're doing. They're taking what we're doing, they flipping it and they put that thing down flipping it in reverse it. And they were versing the fuck out that bitch. - They were versing the fuck out of it. - Man, what? - I was talking to somebody the other day about white mediocrity. - What did you say? - Why are you looking? - 'Cause I'm dirty. - I'm not gonna say I'm at the crazy. - Oh, talk about, no. Before you get into that, talk about save the last dance. - That's what I was talking about. So it stemmed from a post on Twitter. And the post on Twitter was basically about Nikki, which is Bianca Lawson. - Yes. - And she was in the movie, if y'all side, at this point I hope all of y'all have seen, have seen the last dance. - I love that dance, yes. - But yes, so it was about Bianca Lawson as Nikki in the movie and they was just like, Nikki wasn't a bully, she wasn't mean, she was just having to fight against white and y'all. (laughing) - Oh my God. - And I was just like, first of all, my thing, this is my problem with Twitter and social media sometimes in general. Sometimes shit really just is what it is. - Yeah, yeah. - Like it's in your face, these are the facts and it is what it is. Nikki was a bully and Nikki was mean. She was mad because she cheated on their man and he moved on and he happened to move on to a white woman. - With a white woman? - He happened to move on with a white woman. She was pissed off about it. If she was a low-key bully in that girl. - 'Cause not only was it a white woman, it was a white woman with rhythm. (laughing) - No, she gained rhythm. - Oh yeah. - 'Cause she at first, she was just doing my life. (laughing) - Dog, we thought that Juliet-- - We thought that Juliet rendition was fine. She said she ate that up. - Girl. - She ate that up. I don't care what nobody say. In 2024, I'm about to go home and watch the movie tonight. So anyways, like I was saying, I just feel like she was being a bully. She was mad. She was hating 'cause that nigga had moved on and he didn't want to be hurting him or he happened to be with a white girl. So you was like bullying her. Sometimes shit just be what it is. People be bullies. Everything on Instagram don't have to be a fucking thing piece. However, the way that me and another person started talking about white mediocrity though, is because although in that particular situation, I don't think that's true. I think she would just be a hater and be a weird. But I do feel like black people have to fight against that all the time. - Yeah. - Like we do. - Yeah. - A lot of the time, I hate to say other people of other races get to be mediocre in their respective spaces and industries. And then we have to be like 10 times as great and then we don't even get 10 times the pay or we don't get equal pay. - And I'll say this as well. And sometimes it'd be the white people that are actually, they're fucking phenomenal at their job. - Well, yeah, let's be real. It's people of all races who are phenomenal in what they do. But we talk about the ones who not. - Right, but what phenomenal. - Well, that's what I'm saying. But sometimes it'll be like this. You have a person like of another race who is phenomenal at their job. They're getting paid their worth. And then a black person comes along who is just as good and won't even get a third to that. So it doesn't even matter if they're mediocre or not. They can be mediocre, they can be great. They can be whatever, but they're getting paid their worth no matter what. No matter what, they're gonna get paid. They gonna get paid period. So I think it's just like on the spectrum of things, I feel like it's really up to us because I think we have shown time and time again that the black dollar matters. You know what I'm saying? It's like we can show them that black people can show up. We can sell out venues, we can sell out arenas. You know what I'm saying? Like, we can do all that stuff. So I think it's important to media to highlight that as well. You know what I'm saying? I feel like these blogs, they wanna post black women fighting each other, throwing drinks on each other. Oh, I'm fighting with this baby daddy and this baby mama, but they don't wanna show all the podcasts out here, jokes on you, high maintenance, four minds, horrible decisions with two black women sit on the couch, turning up having a good time. They don't wanna highlight that though. And that be the issue because it's like, what are we like putting on a pedestal? You know what I'm saying? I'm not saying that we out here doing the gods work. - Speak for yourself. - Okay. But I don't think we have the highlight. You know, we need to highlight some positive things as well. That means to be a good balance. But it starts with us. You know, we have to highlight our own goodness and our own goods 'cause, you know what I'm saying? What they was mad at Mike or Ruben, fuckers, he sat up there on-- - He said black people love us here each other down. We don't support each other. But I mean, he wasn't lying. - They got mad, they said, "Shut up, whitey." They was mad at him. - They did, they did. And I was watching a clip, shout out to mama 'cause we are on the show along with something else. - Yeah, yeah. - Mama had either clip and she basically, well, she did an episode and then I seen the clip on social media and she was basically standing in the clip that like, she understood why black people were mad because at the end of the day, no matter if you're saying some true shit or you're saying some real shit as a white person, you should not comment on nothing that black people do. We have been oppressed for hundreds of years. We live in this country that we do not exist in, which is a fact if you really think about it. - Yeah. - We live here, bro, this shit stinks. (laughing) Tell us how you really feel. - I'm just saying, you think about it, bro, like we are paying like rent, the average rent is like $1,500 in Atlanta. And that's if you wanna live just somewhere decent. - Then. - If you wanna have a lock on your door, you gotta pay fucking extra $500 a month if you wanna lock on your door. - Oh. - Don't even think about getting a fucking dog bitch. You want some happiness? You wanna fucking dog? - You wanna pull me? - Oh, that's $600. A fridge and a washer and dryer. - And don't even get me started on insurance. We're the only country that has to pay for healthcare. And then they got the audacity. So then you can pay for healthcare. - But then you gotta pay for vision and do it no separately. - Bitch. Don't get ready. - Bitch my eyes. - My leg, bro, but not the tooth, bitch. We can't fix the tooth. I'll fix your leg. Your eye is hanging out. You're on your own. - Good luck, bitch. Do you have vision? - Yeah. - I guess not. - You can't help ya. - Yeah. I mean, it sucks a little bit. - I mean, they should be in the comments like, go back to your country. - I would love to. (laughing) - But I was my born here because I, you know, unfortunately got shipped here with my instance. - Oh, man. Yeah. - So it's hard. Time's is hard right now. - Yeah, it is. - Time's are really hard right now. - And I think we'll be thinking they ain't that. Talk about go back to your country, bitch. Maybe living it up in Nigeria. - Having a ball. - What are y'all talking about? - Having a ball. - What the fuck are y'all talking about? - Well, let me not say like, 'cause they, I think every country of course has their social issues. - Yeah. - You know, everybody has their social issues, but you know, like you said, we asked to be here. - And I'm saying they be living it up in Africa, period, not just in Nigeria, in multiple countries. So like, gladly, let me get a dual citizenship. Y'all ain't gon' never see me again. - I'm out there mongrels. - But yeah, I don't know. Like, so yeah, she was just saying like, you know, although I understand, I understood where his heart was there, but she was like, no, y'all should never feel comfortable speaking on black issues. - It was like, yeah, because it was like, when I was younger, my sister used to beat my ass, beat the fuck out of me. - What they gotta do with white people? - Because as soon as somebody else looked at me wrong and said something to me, she was like, nah, bitch, don't talk and look at my sister like that. So it's the same thing. I can beat your ass, but you can't. You see what I'm saying? - I get where you going. - You ain't letting me goddamn fit. - I'm sorry. I apologize. - You know what I'm saying? - You had a good point. - But that's what I'm saying. She, it was just, it's the same thing. Like, if I tell you something, and I'm like, drag, you're being a bitch, shut the fuck up. But if somebody else be like, drag, you're a bitch, shut the fuck up. Who are you talking to though, bitch? - Yeah. - You know what I'm saying? It's like that. - You gotta, it's keeping in the family. We have to cook out talking. See, Michael Ruben, then through two, three cookouts, and everybody in there with they all white on, he ain't got a little too comfortable. And that's not his fault though. - He never invited us to the cup. - He never, he said, I'm cleaning the house. - He never invited us. He gonna see this episode. - You bitch, it's never coming to the party. - I'ma show up anyway, am I all white? - Let me at the door. - You hear me knocking? - Let me. - Okay. Let's move on. Let's move on. We really only got one more copy. - Who am we? - What's up, y'all? It's your girl, Lex P. Andy, your girl, Jeray, and Nicole. We are here to tell y'all about our brand new ebook and e-course bundle pour into your pod. Yes, y'all. We have been working on this for a while, and we're so excited to put it out and give it to y'all. Because we know so many people have been asking us for such a long time about how to start a successful podcast, and we have literally put all of the information that we have and everything that we've utilized into this one ebook. - Yes, and this is not your typical ebook, 'cause I know what a lot of y'all are thinking. Ah, ah, ah, ah, but I'm telling y'all, we give y'all direct access to how we built our brand. It's not no fluffiness and all that what I've read in e-books before. This is an ebook that gets straight to the point and gives you all the direction you need to start your podcast today. - Absolutely, a new contrast that we are putting 100%, good information, no filter into this book. And it's gonna help you build your brand and it shows you exactly how we built pour minds and made it into a six-year company. So make sure y'all head to pour minds.com to purchase your e-book or the e-course, and we also have it available in a bundle for you so you can get both. pour minds.com pour into your pod. - So I wanted to talk about this, I had a conversation with Draya, and y'all know we are very, we're spiritual people, we're religious people. And you know, we like to stream church, we love to read the Bible, but it's a strong but. Do y'all feel like in 2024, pastors are doing too much to try to be relatable? And let me give you example. If I walk into church, you should not be saying, it's seven p.m. Friday, it's nine to five degrees. I ain't got the devil, but God got me. What are you doing? Everybody in church going like this? - The funny thing is I literally seen a video, I don't Instagram the other day. - You know somebody doing that? - And this girl was rapping over that song and she was doing a God gospel version. It was, I was like, what happened to the Bible in India? - I was fit, no. - I felt it a little bit. - We need to go back to church. We need to go back to stonk, or my Bible does say stonk. - But if we being honest though, if we being real though, let's go. - No, that was an original, that was an original song. - It was an original composition. - Yes. - However though, I feel like Kirk Franklin was the pioneer of making like church relatable. 'Cause stonk was like a bridge between like gospel and hip-hop R&B, like when he started coming, when he got popular in the '90s and stuff, he really made like bridge the gap between gospel and like hip-hop music. - He did. - 'Cause I think that's-- - And it made it more relatable and especially because we, maybe because we grew up in the '90s. - Yeah. - Because we grew up in the '90s, we didn't really realize it for real. But like that was, 'cause that was some of the first gospel music that we had heard. So if Kirk Franklin got popular around the time, I would say I was like four or five feet. Now, I agree with that though. I think there's nothing wrong with making a genre of music that sounds like hip-hop, but it's Christian music. I have no problem with that. But I don't think you need to remix a song where we're talking about twerking, just make another song. I don't like when they're taking this music, what they said on Ray, the movie would say, "That's sacrilegious, girl, you can't do that." You know what I'm saying? I just think a little line just needs to be drawn. I think the pastor sometimes do a little bit much too, because I feel like, I don't know if I've talked about this on the episode before or not, but I just feel like, okay. So we know that we all got haters. Like everybody, well I ain't gonna say everybody, my bad. - Okay. - Maybe not everybody got haters. - All right. - But I think for the most part, but I think for the most part, you know, everybody kinda know what it's like to be hated on about something once or twice in their life. So I get it, but then it's like, sometimes when a pastor be preaching, it's like, are you really trying to give us a word or are you trying to throw shots at your haters? - Not the pastor got ops. - Yeah. - Why does my pastor have ops? - I mean, everybody got ops, though. - No. - For real, it's literally in the Bible. Know what's informed against me? What do you think they were talking about? - Ops. - The ops. The ops won't prosecute me. - Yeah. - No opposition. - Okay. - Form against me will prosecute. - Okay, that's the truth. That's the truth now. - I'm serious. So, I just feel like though, for me personally, sometimes the message be feeling personal with the pastors. - Like you guys, right? - It's like, are you trying to tell your haters you thought I was gonna sell, but now I'm here. Thought it's from the bottom, not we here. - Yeah, they be like, he see me with my Lou Vuitton's own praise God. - Mm-hmm. - Nigga. Nobody is trying to hear about your Lou Vuitton loafers and talking about praise God. Then you pass on the ball around. - Be sure, Louis. - Yeah, be sure, Louis Vuitton. Why are you doing all this? - You know, I think it needs to be a ballet. - It's a ballet. - I think, for sure, you do need to be relatable because I think that the last two generations have veered, very far left from the Lord. - Yes. - It's with me on this. Millennials and Gen Z, we have strayed from the back. We strayed from the life we have. So, I think that you do need to be relatable to real people back in, but it still needs to be a balance of relatableness and also being authentic and talking about real Christian principles, talking about real Bible. - Teaching the Bible, they're not teaching the Bible. - Real Bible, they're not teaching the Bible. - But I kept that. He was talking about those scriptures. - God, speaking through you, you almost hit the little tongue. - I don't know. (speaking in foreign language) - I'm a lama like you. - But, I say all that to say though, I think we need to go back to actually teaching the word, like teaching the word in the Bible. I feel like every time you go to church, they're trying to like give you a message, it's like, don't stop, don't quit. And while we do need those messages, we need to go back, y'all to me. We need to go back to learn the 10 Commandments. - Do you know that? - Do I? - Say, see, thou shall not lie. - Oh, I'm out of it. - That's one. - I'm out of it. - That's why I say it. - That's why I'm not lie. - I feel like you got five in you. I'm cooked, thou shall not lie. Thou shall not cheat. - Yes. - Thou shall not commit a dope dream. - She didn't commit a dope dream. - Oh, that's the same way. - You know what I meant though. - But you got five little titles. - That's two, three. - Thou shall not kill. - Yes. - You got any after kill. - Thou shall not steal. - In the end. - Thou shall not praise no other God before me. Oh my God, that's the same one I was thinking of. You did it. - Thou? - Oh, come on, let's keep on. - Thou shall not be a whole ass nigga. That's what a pastor would do in these 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20. I called y'all to see that's what they do to ring in. See, you see what I'm saying though? - That is how they would switch it up. - You feel me? - You got a good point though. I do think sometimes the pastor's be doing a bit much. Like I haven't went to actual physical church in a few years, but I do watch church online a lot. And I kind of try to switch it up and watch like a few different pastors, you know? But like some of the ones that I be watching, it just be a bit much for me. - Yeah. - 'Cause I be feeling like the topic at hand be very much giving like you directed me specifically. - To somebody. - To a target audience or to a target person. - Mm-hmm. - Hey, let's be hating. - We know. - We know. But it's like, God damn, like we know you made it. - Yeah. - We see you. - Whoo! - And I just feel like like you said, the message has shifted from scripture. - I'm teaching the words. - And teaching the words to like, telling people, oh, you need to show up and be present and not worried about your hate. Not worried about the opposition. - What a God, what scripture is this? - And all those things are true. - Are true. - But that's more so I wanna hear from like a motivational speaker. - And I also feel like to be real, if you're living your life the right way and you following the word and you learning the scripture, those other things are gonna come sick in nature anyway. Like if you really get into your Bible or you really get into the word, you automatically not gonna be worried about hate. You automatically not going to be pressed or feel the effects of like drama and stuff that's going on in your life because you focused on your word. And if you following the word of God, like you're not gonna be worried about that stuff anyway. So it's like, we don't really need to place so much emphasis on those things and more so the word. - The word, what was that song? ♪ Shake, shake, shake ♪ ♪ Shake the devil off ♪ ♪ In the name of Jesus ♪ ♪ Shake the devil off ♪ See, Jesus already told her. - He said they'd be like, ♪ Shake the devil off ♪ ♪ Shake the devil off ♪ ♪ Shake the devil off ♪ ♪ Shake the devil off ♪ - We don't need childness in church. But let us know what y'all think. We don't want to get too, too deep into it. - We know, 'cause I don't know. We are in theater. I'm like, that was, I feel like we need to do it though. - But I think we need to do it. - It was a serious topic. But I think, like I said, I always, I don't have a problem with the mega churches, but I find myself like-- - I can't talk about something. - Hey, man. I do, like I said, I do think we need to get back to, you know, more so teaching the word. I do find when I'm like streaming smaller churches that do the streaming stuff, like they tend to be more, you know, focused on the word. - Yeah, I don't even want to go to none of the mega churches in Atlanta, 'cause I just, can I be real, real quick? - Uh-oh. - I want more things, guys. - Okay, come on, let it out. Let it out. - Let my spirit. - Hey, man, let me take a sip of my juice. So I just feel like the mega churches, it just kind of give like who's who's of Atlanta? - Yeah. - Yeah. - Everybody trying to pollute in AG wagons, they rang, broke as they beat the truth, with a freshly speak phone. - You're gonna be like, touch front row. - They gonna Instagram. - Touch what's-- - They sit in front row, everybody posting the same message. It's like, I really do feel like the smaller churches have more impact. - Yeah. - So I grew up in a small church too. - Yeah. - But I'm also, I grew up Catholic. So I was like, church for instance, a little bit. - Very different. - Any of these for like non-denominational and Baptist. - Yeah. - Like, church was like 50 minutes, maybe hour max on Easter Sunday, and we getting straight to it. - Yeah. - Straight to the word. - You don't wanna look after school when I was in kindergarten. - Yeah. You remember that? - I do. - I'm really gonna have-- - I'm still gonna have Catholic-- - Being in a straight to it. We don't play no game. (sings) You ain't even said no words. - They didn't either. - I can't wait for them to attack you. In the comments. - No. - 'Cause I like-- - I enjoy Catholic. - The funny thing is, and I-- - No, I will say this. Y'all funerals be the long. - No, they don't. - They have Catholic funerals. They say, what's they called it? Y'all say what the B thing y'all say? - The Rosary. Y'all say that for about three hours, yes. - Okay, no, no, no, no, no. If you don't know something, be alone, because they don't do the Rosary at all of the funerals. - Oh, the one I went to, it was long. - Yeah, maybe it was like during Easter season. - Ooh, shoot. I don't know where she's in a way in a few months. - But leading up to Easter, being Catholic, you do the Rosary every Sunday. And it does take a while. - Oh, Lord. - And then you have to go to Confetian and all of that stuff. But-- - No ushers. - Amen. - Okay. - I got you back. - I don't fucking forgot what I was about to say. (laughing) I was gonna say at my church though, we used to sing Kirk Franklin. - At your Catholic church. - Yeah. - I thought y'all Catholics weren't allowed to dance. I know it's Baptist. - Oh, they've got to get, they've got to get on you. - Oh, I corrected it. - 'Cause why would you say that? That's so ignorant. - That's not ignorant because I got it messed up. Baptist. - But now sometimes ignorance is what you don't know. I don't mean it to offend you, but that's ignorant to say that. Yes, Catholics can dance. - No, it's Baptist that they're not supposed to dance in the church or something like that. - I know a bunch of Baptist folks. It depends on the church. Okay. - See, I went to a Methodist church. - I know a bunch of Baptist-- - I went to a Methodist church. - Okay. (laughing) - This is time. This is when we move on. (laughing) This is when we move on. - Please delete the whole part. Keep the stripper part. (laughing) - So let us know to y'all, how do y'all feel about church in 2024 and how do y'all, you know, even if you're not religious, it's okay. You can pass this segment up. If you are, let us know how y'all feel about and how you, you know, praise the Lord. Amen. - Amen. (upbeat music) - What's up, y'all? This is your girl, Lex P. - And it's your girl, Jordy and Nicole. - And we have a very exciting announcement today. We have a brand new show dropping. - Yes, we have a brand new show dropping y'all on Patreon. It's gonna air on September 2nd and it's called Poor Chronicles. We gonna be doing so much stuff on there. We gonna be doing challenges. - If you can't go to Bell or Notte, where the hell could you go? - If you can't go to Bell or Notte, what the hell? (laughing) - We gonna be doing talk to me, shit, chat with me. She's gonna be feeling a little tea. (screaming) - Oh my God. No, you didn't. Oh my God. Everything y'all been wanting to see, we gonna be doing it right here on Patreon. - Yes, y'all ask us for so much. Well, we've been to give it to y'all every single Monday and it's gonna be a time. Y'all know, Poor Minds has grown into its own little entity. Well, we gonna have a lot of fun still over here at Poor Chronicles. So make sure y'all tune in. September 2nd is going down. - Thanks. (upbeat music) - So now it's time to get into the bell. - The bell. - The bell. - The bell. - The bell. - The bell. - The bell. - The bell. - Okay, so today I wanted to talk about something that really piqued my interest. I don't know why this crossed my mind. But I was just thinking about like male versus female, man versus woman, whatever you wanna call it. And I was thinking about why is virginity so valued in women, but not in me. Like if you meet a woman who is a virgin, now a lot of men will say, oh, I don't want no virgin. I want somebody who is well seasoned and stuff, but a lot of men, they wouldn't mind dealing with a virgin or they, it's like a trophy to say, oh, I took a girl's virginity. Like she waited till she was 27 to have sex and I was the first person she chose. But it's like, it's society. It's like, if you're even 21 as a man and you're a virgin, they're like, you lame. What's wrong with you? - You've heard of a virtuous woman. You've never heard of a virtuous man. - Hello? But why do you think that is? - I just think it's a double standing. It's the perfect example of a double standing. - A double. - A double. - A double. (laughing) - God, this is what I be missing, Todd. 'Cause we ain't no fuckers in this dream. - I'm weak. Oh, Lord, I'm merciful. - It's a perfect example of a double standing. - Yeah. - 'Cause men are not held to the same standard. They're women are held to them. - Right, right. - Although I feel like it's equally as important because can niggas not catch STD? - Right, right, right. And I think, too, it's important to have a good relationship with sex and really understand what sex is. - Ooh, what? - You know, they make us feel like as women. You know, I've always felt like when I was younger, you could let me know if you felt this way. But they would always say, "If a girl have sex with a whole bunch of niggas, "you'll pussy you loose." Why used to be scared to like-- - She said, "I don't want no loosey." - I didn't want no loosey loosey. (laughing) - 'Cause I got older, I realized we talk about it. - That's what they said. - Or it's your granny fold, you just lose. - Yeah, yeah. - But like, I wonder like, do niggas have like an effect like that? Like if you like, foot too many bitches, go deep stream. - No, I don't think they, 'cause you know how they told us that, but it wasn't true. There's not even a thing that they tell. - But I'm saying I wondered if men, oh, you're saying, do you never tell them shit? - Like they told girls, like, that's not true, but-- - Right, that's what I'm saying. We know it's not true as women. But they told us that. There's nothing that they tell little boys, like, oh, if you do too much of this with a woman, this is the repercussions of that. You know what I'm saying? So I just think even how, like I said, our relationship with sex is different. You know, like growing up, they tell little girls, you know, sex, instead of explaining how sex really is, you know, between two adults who love each other, to, you know, have children and this and that, they just tell us, oh, sex is bad, they don't have it, you can get pregnant. And men are gonna look at you like a bad person. Like, that's what they tell us about sex when we're little, you know, like, no, don't do this, don't let nobody touch you, which is rightfully so. But then when they tell a little boy, they be like, oh yeah, you like that? You see how she thinks, she fine, huh? Look at her, yeah, that's what, when you turn this and let me let that uncle know, I'm gonna put you on some shit, you know what I'm saying? - But do we not almost, okay, so I struggle with that. Even though we don't have kids yet, I always struggle with, like, trying to figure out how I'm going to, like, introduce sex to my kids and, like, talk to them about it. Because to me, is it bad that they made us feel like it was a bad thing? I actually think that was probably a good thing, 'cause that made a lot of us, like, be scared to have sex. Versus now, everybody ready to fuck. Everybody ready to get their pussy up, their little ding-a-ling up. It ain't even full grown. I think, like, I just feel like we had a certain sense of fear in the day, when it came to sex and getting pregnant and all of it. - Yeah. - I think these days the fear is gone. - The fear is gone. - The fear is gone. So it's like, what's worse? Like, scaring your child into, like, not wanting to have sex or, like, making them feel like it's comfortable, it's a part of life, it's okay. And then, now, all of these, like, 'cause I don't know, I feel like it's been, like, a high increase of, like, young pregnancies. 'Cause I remember I had read an article, maybe, like... At this point, I wanna say, six, seven years ago. In an article that was just saying, like, basically millennials, we were not producing kids at a high rate in comparison to a lot of the other generations. - Yeah, for sure. - But I feel like with Gen Z, they don't bought that shit back. They be, they be pregnant this for, 20, 21, 22, ready to have a baby. - I'm not being funny. - And we was not like that, 2022 bitch, I'm not right. - Well, you know why, though? I'm not being funny. They did a study when MTV team mom dropped, team pregnancy went down tremendously. - And that was our era. - And that was our era. - That we were teens. - I'm telling you, they did a whole study about this, like, new pregnancy drop when team mom came out. But also, when I think about, when I don't wanna be, like, a fairer, ooh, me! - No shape. - You see fairer now? - I see me. - But did you see Little Bentley? I used to love Bentley. And Macy, such a cute family. - They were. - But anyways, when I think about how my mom taught sex to me and about sex, when she talked about sex to me, it was always very like, what questions do you have? She was very much like, you know, sex, that's how you have kids. You don't wanna, now, she did scare me out of having kids. Honestly, I think that's why I'm still 35 with no children. 'Cause I'm still like, ooh, is that what I wanna do? Because she was like, having kids as hard. She let me know about STD. She was very open with me about STD's. That's why we were talking about this yesterday. I think it's so crazy that y'all just be so willy-nilly having sex with people with no condoms. I mean, I think we all had a little hofas or whatever. But baby, I was pulling out them rubbers on your ass. We is not, I was definitely that no glove. Remember no glove, no glove? No glove. No glove, no glove. Hey. I don't know, me and my mom, we never really had like a sex talk, necessarily. But my mom was a nurse. Like, she was an RN. And so, she had like all of like, the medical encyclopedias at our house. Oh, lord. But she would just pull them house out, open them up to page 306, and it would be somebody with chlamydia on a genital. Do y'all bring me the bluffles? Herpes on a genital is like the discharge, all of that stuff. I said, baby, say list. You ain't gotta say nothing. And then when I turned 15 or 14, number one, I had bad period cramps. Not really bad, but like to the point that it was like, they'd be hurting a little bit. So, my doctor had basically gave me the option of getting on arm peels or getting on birth control. I'm almost like, put on a birth control. She's about to go to high school. She knew. She knew, wait. She's saying the way you, you know how you be walking. How do I ask you to walk in that way, since she was, I can't. I do not fuck, why would you lie like that? I don't even need to be like me. You're a fucking liar, but the fuck. (laughing) What's up, y'all? The fuck is right in the cup. You're a liar. The funny thing is though, one day I was walking and my nigga was like, why do you walk like me? You do walk like that, that booty be twisted. And then, you know, please, shout out to Clay. I had a positive video on me walking the other day. And Clay was like, I love your walk, so fierce. It's that stank walk. You don't stank, though. Not like, you know what I mean. That's that stank walk, like that booty just be jiggling in the wind. I'd be like, oh my God. What's all that movin' back there? What's all that movin'? (laughing) But anyways, back to the topic of hand, I think the way that we need to teach sex to kids and people in general is, we need to teach the value of virginity and waiting in everybody. Boys and little girls, it's not cool to, just like when the teachers get caught having sex with the student. When it's a guy's student with a little girl, it's, oh my God, how dare you? But when it's a woman with a little boy that's like, awesome to be there, bro. No, it needs to be the same energy. And I think that little boy should feel the value of their virginity just as much as... Just as much as... Just as much as... - For like one tooth eye. - Just as much as little girl. - Well, I have a question for you. Although you are not a mother yet, you have a nephew that's about to be a pre-teen, so... - Oh, my God. - Does that scare you like thinking about that? - You know what scares me more? Because I'm not gonna lie. I have my oldest nephew is a little different though. He's such a good kid. - Yeah. - And I think you don't have a lot of kids like that. He's very... Now he does have his ways, don't get it twisted, but... - Yeah. - I think I'm more so fearful of the world tainting him. And that's, it gets me emotional, like I don't even wanna cry. It makes... - No, it's gonna make me emotional too though, because he's just so innocent. And I just think about, I just think about me growing up and how like, when I got in the real world, how much it changed me. And because I think everybody starts off, when you are born into this world, you're innocent. - You're a good person. - You're so innocent, but then you learn the ways of people. You learn the ways of, as a man, you learn the ways of women. As a woman, you learn the ways of man, you have to deal with all these different emotions and these different feelings. You have people gaslighting you, you have people, you know, you just have to deal with the world. So that's more what I'm fearful of, of him navigating this world. Because me at 35, I'm still struggling navigating this world. That's why we started this goddamn show. - Yeah, we both still struggle in navigating the world. I don't... I feel like I always say this, like people, for whatever reason, feel like, you're going to reach a certain pinnacle of success or a certain pinnacle of, like, awareness or spirituality or whatever. And then it's going to be like, ah-ha, I've made it. - Yes. - I don't feel like... - Oh. - Yeah. I don't feel like you ever make it. I feel like life is a constant evolution. You're always above me. And so, I can understand your fear when it comes to that, because it's just kind of like, don't you feel like that's inevitable though, like life changes you. Unfortunately, and it sucks, that's the thing that sucks about like, at one point, we were children. - Yes. - And now we're adults, and we're watching like our little sisters, little brothers, nephews, cousins grow up. And like, it's nothing you could do to change it and it makes you a little emotional because you know that innocence is going to be gone as soon as you realize, like, people ain't right. And all people ain't good people. And unfortunately, we can't do anything to stop somebody from doing some fucked up shit. - Yeah. - It's our nephews, our little sisters and little brothers, little cousins. You know, it just sucks, because I think that that does change you, but it's nothing we could do about it. It's just like a... - You can't protect them from the world, but I think that's good people are going to remain good people. - Oh yeah. - And bad people. - Reminds. - But that shit changed it. Why I'm not scared for my nephew is because he has a good heart. Like I see some kids, I'll be like, you bad as fuck. - You are already tiny. - I saw y'all, I saw a clip of two 14-year-old boys on the bus. This little 14-year-old boy walked on the bus, pulled out a gun. - I seen that. - And was trying to pull the trigger. - She tried to kill that boy three times with a gun jam. - Yup. - The gun jammed. - Yup. - Hey, I got 15-year-old boy. - You wanna talk about it? - That little boy is tainted. Lock him up and throw away the key. - No, they did though. He got like 16 years or 20 years. - No. - I feel like he needed life for sure, yeah, but like he got 16 years. - That's a brain damage up there. - But that's what you talk about, favor. - Hello. - That's what you call God's faith. - Literally. It was three times. - Three times he was trying to pull. And I mean, the bus driver ran off the bus. She was scared. Everybody was mad at the bus driver. I was like, she was scared for her life. But anyways, to get back to the point. - And it was a shooting today. I just was on social media. - It was? Where? - An hour away from Atlanta. - Mm. - At a high school. And that's another thing I fear too, like I fear, I just, the world is scary. And when I think how wild I was when I was a teenager, I'm just like, oh, I hope my nephew is not like that. But I just, all you can do is just pray that he makes the right decision and that God, you know, protects him. But I will say, as far as him dealing with the world, he's a good person and he has a good heart. Like I know him. So I think that's what makes me feel okay because I know I have a good heart and I know I've attracted the right people around me. And I feel like that's why I'm so blessed and I'm able. I'm still trying to figure out life, but life is good. You know, like I can lay my head down and I can be like, you know what? I'm doing something right. And that's all I want for him is just to be, you know, just to be okay and not dealing with them demons that people be fighting with mentally. So I think knowing him and knowing his heart, I think he'll be okay. I think so too. He's a sweet kid. He is a sweet kid. So now it's to, oh, so anyways, let us know what y'all think. We got way off topic, been off topic. When this whole conversation, this whole episode been off topic. Are you? Hey, y'all. It's Joanna calls the E.L. of Muse Beauty. 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But now it's time to get into the Bao Bao Bao Bao Bao Bao Bao Bao Bao Bao Bao Bao Bao Before we do that, let's just tell what you're about to. You want to say it right now? I need to say I'm gonna take it after I read the first question. I need to, I need my words to be coherent. Okay, so my Bao Bao for the week, this, y'all know I usually do indie artists, but I did not do it indie artists this week. I did this artist because she has been everywhere and I was just like so shook because I'm like where, she came out of nowhere for me. Somebody said this is her fifth or sixth studio album, I had no idea. I'm not in the tea, I'm not in the no, but Sabrina Carpenter released the album. Baby when I tell you, I don't know who she got on her team, writing and producing for her. Baby, keep this team and don't switch up, keep this team forever. She got a song on her album called Bad Kim and it's about having like bedroom chemistry with a man. And when I tell you, we got that like, like you can look, Loki do a little two step to it. She got a little, she could, she'd be vibing. She got a little voice, a little tone on her, she is a vibe. So that's my Bao for the week, Sabrina Carpenter, Bad Kim, y'all this is actually a really solid pop album. This is what I will say, now remember how we was talking about white mediocrity, mediocrity? Oh, white. I'm nervous. I'm nervous. Y'all got that shit down, Pat, the pop, they brought back pop stars. We haven't had no pop stars since like Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera and Mandy Moore and Jessica Simpson. They got Tate Tate, Tate McCray, that little girl, Sabrina Carpenter doing her thing. Billie Eilish. Y'all favorite, who, who, you know what, who, I just want you to think about it real quick. I am thinking, who is my favorite, oh, JoJo Siwa, a star, star, star. Exactly. JoJo Siwa been a star though, so she was like 12. Yeah. But I'll say this, y'all, y'all, the white people, they got that on lot right now. The white girls are doing their thing with the pop music, I came live, y'all doing y'all big one. Sabrina Carpenter, you got an album on your hands and it is Grammy, it's a Grammy worthy album. And I hope she released it in time where she can submit it to the Grammys because come February, I want to see my girl with a Grammy and a hand. What you got? Okay, so, I really like that song problem by Cash, you know, that's most deaf daughter. Layla. Yes. No, I did not know that. That's crazy. That's his daughter. So, yeah, that's probably for the week, Cash, Cobain, and Layla, problem. I think that song is so cute, it's so catchy, it's been going crazy on social, on TikTok, Instagram. Everybody has been using it as a little background song. It's a good song. Yeah. I didn't know that was most deaf daughter though. What was the other song that she had that went viral on social media? Yeah. Do you want... Oh, that was her song too. I like that. Yeah. That's her song too. Yeah. Okay, period. Shout out to Layla. Yeah. Shout out to Cash, Cobain. I like when the, when people are, you know, offspring of stars and they kind of start creating their own lane in their own way. People be mad at Nippo babies. I don't. I ain't mad at it. I hope my kid is one. Same. But be honest. Because look at what Brony's doing. Why work hard when you ain't... Brony is literally on the Lakers right now because who is dead is not a lovey. I don't care what it's gonna do. I love it too. I'm like, why work hard when you don't have to? If you can live off of the fruits of my labor... Let's do it. I'm being right. Let's do it. I'm being right. I wish I could have lived off of the fruits of my parents' labor. I'm telling you. But they fucked up. Damn it. I'm kidding. I love y'all. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, LXP. And it's your girl, Dr. Ann Nicole. 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If you want to email us, email us at askpoorminds@gmail.com. Make sure if you're a patron, remember you put that in the subject line and yeah. P-O-U-R-M-I-D-S @gmail.com or ASK, P-O-U-R-M-I-D-S-S-G-M-O-D-C-M-O-D-C-M-L.com. Because I feel like we'd be having to like really emphasize that because people be saying poor like P-O-O-R, and it's like who? Anyways, question number one. Hey, Lex and Dreya. I love me some y'all and I watch out every chance I get. I try my best to not miss an episode. I'm a 33 year old woman with no kids and I'm loving my 30s. It's really like my 20s with more money. Unfortunately, I'm in a conflicting situation right now when it comes to my relationship. Me and my nigga been together one and off for going on eight years. I've come to a conclusion that I no longer want to be with him. He's done some things that I really just can't get over and I've tried, but I just can't. Not only that, but I'm not trying to be nobody's forever girlfriend. Eight years is a lot of times to be playing house with no ring. We live together and I just want to completely rebrand my life. New city, new career, new home and new man because me and my sneaky link are falling in love. Yes, I'm cheating, but that nigga cheated first. I don't know when and how to tell my current boyfriend I'm leaving him. Do I wait to solidify a new place? Then tell him, do I tell him when I'm walking out the door with my shit? I want to be considerate because we go 50/50 on all the bills and I don't want to just leave him hanging, but I also don't want to put my own wants and needs on the back burner. Outside of him being my boyfriend, he's also like a best friend too. How and when do I tell him because I got to get the fuck out of here. So I'll say this, that's actually that's crazy. That's eight years. That's a lot and I get it. He cheated on you. You tried to forgive him and you tried to make it work. You did your due diligence as a partner. You tried to get over it and you couldn't. Now you got you a whole little situation. You fall in love and you ready to move on. Don't. So I think for one, I want to tell you don't feel bad for that like cheating. Maybe it's not right and you could have done that part a little different, but don't feel bad for wanting to move on and let go of the situation. But I will say this, the fact that y'all are splitting bills and things like that. I think solidify your new place, give him like a 30 day notice and let him know, hey, just to let you know this is what's going on, but give him a 30 day notice and be on your way. I feel like one thing about it, if the roles were reversed and he was ready to leave, we always say this is me going to do what they want to do. And he would have, you know, I don't know if he would have left out the blue. I don't know him obviously, but he's going to be leaving and I don't care if the rose was seen to me, what? Okay, or Royce, what it, what? The roles could be reversed. They could be rose Royce, seen to mean rose, bitch, I don't care. I got to get the fuck off. Okay. You're right. Okay. I get it down. Yes. I agree, 1,000 percent, but yes, I do think you should do what you're going to do and do what's best for you. You're only 33 years old. You have no kids. You have life ahead of you. I love a good rebrand. Me too. I ain't mad at it. I feel like when you got to go, you got to go. You know when your time is the worst thing that people do is like God trying to tell you when you need to get rid of somebody or a situation or a thing in your life and you trying to hold on to it because at the end of the day, he's going to make you get rid of it regardless. So you can either get rid of it willingly or you can get it snatched from you or something bad can happen. Let me tell you how God beat my ass because I wouldn't get this man out of my life and he beat my ass down to the ground really bad. Bad. How was that? Yeah. Look, I'm still showing up smiling every week, but I was rock bottom, but I say all that to say, you seem like you're in pretty good spirits. You know what you want to do and just leave right now. Give them a little 30 day notice. You can at least give them that, but like I said, you tried to make it work. Some people can get over cheating and some people can't and you're a person who can't get over it and that's okay because you're going to find a man who's not going to cheat on you who realizes your worth and understands your loyalty and you know, it may be the new dude you with. It may be somebody else. You have time. Like I said, you're 33. No kids. Girl, you literally have the world on your side and that's what it took me to realize like I have everything going for me. I can believe and find something better and I did just that. You do. Don't worry about them roles. Don't worry about them roles, whether they send them in a Royce. Period. Got you right there. Or back. There's something else. Okay. Question number two, this is from a Patreon member. Hi, ladies. I love the show and I've been watching it for a few years now. I'm a 23 year old female who is stuck in between two guys that don't know about each other. Guide number one, I met around October 2023 and we hit it off immediately. Great communication. A real lover who looks out for me and it is a great time. I can talk to him all day. Guide number two, I met around June of 2023 and instantly I was physically attracted to him and we hit it off well. We also grew up together when we were kids so our family loves each other. The problem that I'm having is that both of them want to settle down with me and make it official for me to be their girlfriend. Guide number one has great conversation but the sex isn't good. He smokes a lot as well as his hygiene needs to improve. Not that he is dirty but just things like dirty fingernails, outside clothes in the bed. Like one time I saw him blow his nose in a pair of gym shorts because he didn't want to get up for a tissue. I haven't had sex with him in months. Guide number two, we have great sex. The attraction is there. The hygiene is amazing but that attitude is terrible. We argue all the time to where we will stop talking for a few days sometimes. We eventually make up but it's draining. I don't know what to do or what issue is easier to fix. Do I pick good sex and bad communication or do I pick good communication but bag sex? LOL help. I love them both. Last of all, say no, he not dirty but his nails dirty and he blowing his nose in a dream. Gym shorts. That's even worse. I'll bitch old. No I'm saying gym shorts because that's worse than jeans. Is it? No gym shorts? That's better because they solve. No gym shorts are worse because you've been sweating and you've got that duck butter in now. You know what duck butter is? That's nasty. He dirty and I'm glad you're not fucking him no more because he probably going to give you something. Because if you don't wash his nails, if you don't wash him underneath them balls, he definitely not washing underneath them balls and that means he don't drink water. I don't know. I don't like that. I think you should get rid of both them niggas. I think you should get rid of both them niggas because I don't want to nigga with a bad attitude but I also don't want to nigga with motor oil underneath these nails. Nigga been changing, look like he been changing oil all day. He ain't got a job. A nigga with dirty nails always gon' rub me the wrong way because you see that and you don't want to clean it. You don't want to go get a manicure. Manicures are so nice on me and I don't understand why me and I'll be wanting to get manicures. I love that. You don't even got to get polished. Some dudes like to do the clear coat. You don't have to do the clear coat. You could just get a nice little buff. Get that feet out. You get a nice little buff but go get your nails done. I say man, why do you have dirty ass fingernails? A man who don't go to the nail shop is not a man for me. Me neither. I don't like that. I need my man to have his feet done in his hands, bud. It don't got to be done, but I mean like a manicure, a pedicure. No, that's what I'm saying. You don't understand what you're saying. I get it. You don't want no black fingernails. You don't want black polish. You're not saying done, done. No, yeah. I don't need you with a French tip now. Yeah. You're doing that these days too. But you need a man who is well kept, who takes pride in his appearance. I feel like if a man don't take pride in his appearance, if he don't take pride in how to fuck, he be looking, walking around every day, why he give a fuck about anything else. And also, I feel, and also, I feel like you're 23. You should not have an ultimatum to feel like you have to settle. This man not doing this, and this man not doing this, go get you another one. You're 23 years old. I'm telling you, when you turn 25, you're probably going to look back at them two niggas and be like, what was I even thinking? So don't settle. Go have fun. Go be outside because I don't know if you want to be in a relationship or not, but don't settle until you have a man that has, I feel like these. If you have a list of 10 things, the person that you should pick should mark off nine. I agreed. I agree. Nine things. I feel like you said a word because you really giving a little bit too much grace because the nails is enough for me to stop talking for them. Oh, yeah. You're not even getting my number. And you damn sure I didn't get any scoochie, you know, I'm like, hmm. Now, what's that correct? What's all that moving back, dude? Oh, my God, yes. The horror. Which face? This was from first? Alex. Exactly. Ooh. That is dreya. Is this for my first tour? This is the second tour. No, we used it on both tours, I think though. No, this was last year. But what I'm saying is, all that we did is, this is 2022, this is 2022. Yes. Because I remember this was before my boob surgery. Oh. This is before my, my boob surgery. It's even taken over for the not, I ain't got a lot of, this was cute, like, $9.00 and the $2,000. It was even Hot Boys. Oh, my God. This is so embarrassing. It was even Hot Boys, $19.99. This is actually awful as hell. Is it? It is. I like it. I like the money for all of you to be. I think, like, it just shows our growth. Maybe I ain't grown anymore. This pose, and this pose is crazy because, look, I got on the Giuseppe's, you got on the time for hurt and scantily clacked clothing. Because why? At least you had a little cover up. I was letting it all hang out. Look at that bottom teddy. Ooh. That's a whole chicken cutlet right there. They, they is not dry. That's a chicken cutlet. They moisturized. Oh, my God, bro. Yeah. They look like, this looks like, uh, only whores and verte, advertisement. But you know what, it's crazy to start soft, look. They did. Shout out to the poor crew. Y'all supported it. We look cute though, but that's how I'm saying evolution growth. The next photo shoot, the next poster y'all see, we will be sitting at a table with tea cups. Yes. In my long dress. In my long, pretty dress. In my long, pretty dress. In my long, pretty dress. In my long, pretty dress. In my long, pretty dress. In my long, pretty dress. In my long, pretty dress. In my long, pretty dress. In my long, pretty dress. In my long, pretty dress. I will never, oh, my God. Well, you know what? I'm not ashamed. I'm just like, what were you doing? We was having fun. Yeah, we was having fun. It was fun. I love, like, I love that about us stuff because I feel like we gonna be 70, like, looking at all versions of ourselves. But at least we have all the versions of ourselves. I feel like people be so afraid to, like, do stuff and then they get old and they be, like, damn, I wish I would've did this. I wish I would've did that. We not. I can honestly say we gonna be 70 and it ain't gonna be shit. We wish we would've did. You know what Rich said? Rich tweeted this the other day, he said, "When Lexi and Dre used to walk out to FMF by Glowrilla on that first store, you just had to be there." 'Cause it was like, when that beat dropped and everybody was just like, it was like, oh, my fuck. It was like, duh, it was like, duh, duh, duh, duh, duh, duh, duh, duh, duh, duh. It was like, we would walk out and it was like, oh my fucking God. It was like, it was a time, like, I will never, both tours. And we still walking out to Glowrilla, 'cause we walked out to HUD and Vexfest and then people was looking at her like, hey. And I was still, it said, Pete, Brad, it's 95 degrees. Y'all don't give a fuck. We don't really talk about us. We gonna be awesome. 'Cause what y'all gonna do, tell them to get off the stage. 'Cause I hate, like, why people gotta be so damn boozy, y'all. They wasn't. But I think they started feeling this at the time. No, they didn't start feeling this later, but it was like, they was definitely looking at it as crazy. Right. Came out. All right, all right, all right, what you gotta promote, Drawrilla? Of course, MuseBeautyCollection.com, make sure you get your lip glosses, your liquid lip liner, stick, liquid lip, stick, and lip liners, I'm a little tipsy. But yes, MuseBeautyCollection.com, of course, make sure y'all subscribe to my LTK. I'm always posting everything on there from, like, my outfits, to my skincare, to my makeup routine, hair products, literally everything you could think of. I'm posting on my LTK, um, what else, let me think. Your TikTok. My TikTok. Follow me on TikTok. Follow me on Instagram. Follow me on. For mine. Period. So you are a Discord. My ideas. And y'all know, look, I see, I've been active on TikTok now. Oh, YouTube. My bad. Oh, y'all. Follow my YouTube. At Dre and Nicole with 3 E's. I'm dropping, get ready with me, chit-chats, all of the above, all type of beauty content. So y'all follow me over there. Oh, and make sure y'all vote for her for the Sephora. I know this is gonna be over there. Oh, my, never mind. I'm just dropping. It's okay. It's okay. So y'all, I'm in the TikTok now. Hey, what's the hood of queen? Y'all make sure y'all follow me on TikTok. I've been doing good on my TikTok. Yeah. Y'all know my YouTube, hopefully by the time this, I don't know when this gon' drop. But hopefully the housewives and stuff will then drop. Y'all know I'm getting in my reality TV bag. I'm finna be talking about all the tea, all the mess. Y'all been asking me to do this for a long time. So by the time this drop, hopefully everything will be set up and ready to go. So y'all make sure y'all follow me on YouTube, youtube.com/lovelexp. We gon' be talking about everything on there. I'll follow us on Patreon. We have a new show called Port Chronicle. It drops every Monday. Mm-hmm. So I'll make sure y'all follow us on there. And then we also are now dropping all of the new episodes weekly, early on Patreon for the bottle popping tier. Every Wednesday it's gon' be on Patreon and then of course, if not, you know, you can still watch here on Friday. Period. All right. What's the y'all next week? Bye y'all. Y'all make sure y'all share the content, like, subscribe, follow, all that good stuff. And let me say this before we close out, y'all, there is one Twitter account that is connected to poor minds. It's P-O-U-R underscore M-I-N-D-S y'all are tagging the wrong poor minds page. If you see @poor minds with no underscore, that is a fake page. Do not follow that page. Okay? They blocked me, Andrea, and the poor minds page on both. So we only have one Instagram, one Twitter, one TikTok, and it's P-O-U-R underscore M-I-N-D-S. All right. And we got hella fake Facebook page. Oh, the Facebook page is the one. Our face. The crazy thing is our Facebook page actually have the least amount of followers. So if you're on Facebook, the one that's ours got the least amount of followers, the one that's not us got, like, $250,000 followers. But y'all make if you actually look at the content because the caption is, like, whoever it is, don't speak English because their captions are like, bumba clots. Should men, should men pay bill? Should men pay bill? Yes, no. Okay. Check. Answer below. Blop, blop. Boya. Boya. Boya. Boya. Like, that's literally what the caption is. I'm like, you want that DDG bumba clot? Bumba clot. 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