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2854: World Children's Day: Positive parenting
And moving on, let's look at positive parenting. Well, positive parenting is crucial, especially in challenging environments such as human tear and crisis. In the context of South Sudan caregivers are provided with essential tips to support and protect their children during difficult times. Now these tips emphasize the importance of self-care for caregivers, establishing routine to help children feel safe, engaging in positive interactions to foster a sense of security. In love, and the list goes on and on. But to speak more, we are joined by Akita Margret, who will be telling us more about her work here on the program. Good morning, Akita. Welcome to the show. Thank you, Irene. Good morning. Good morning. Yeah, tell us a little bit about yourself and what organization you work with. Thank you, Akita Margret. I work for the Centre for Research and the book, "Mainting for Place and Health", a new initiative that is looking up into main areas of health, nutrition, wash, and protection at large. At the moment, you're implementing a protection project, which mostly focuses on the parenting tips, which is response to parenting for caregivers in crisis. Right, right. And some of the tips that I mentioned earlier for caregivers, I mean, you say it is important for self-care as a caregiver and all these things and also listening to the children. Why is it important that caregivers also take care of themselves? Okay, thank you so much. That is like a tip one we say is, "Take care of yourself." You know, as a parent who else a caregiver, the more you care about yourself in terms of your physical look, in terms of what you take in or else if it means health-wise. What does it take for a caregiver? When you mind about your health, definitely you're going to extend to the kind of people you're going to be working with, whether it should then, the other family members. Definitely, when you know you're hungry, as other parents, if not the other members of the family, definitely feel like, "Okay, this also is the same thing." Your hunger is not your hunger and also the care of others and the basic irresponsible children. Yeah, the response to that also like connecting up with your loved ones. Right. So, what you mean is when your hunger is a caregiver, you should also involve yourself in the budget. I mean, we've seen parents, especially mothers, who sacrifice themselves. I mean, they would rather see the children eat but themselves. So, you're saying that, "Well, they should also try to think about themselves sometimes." All right. Please continue. Okay. Thank you. So, in response to that, connecting with the loved ones very often, you know, as a parent, children learn from us a lot. And basically, the ones who are so much in connectivity, how often do you care and so that your parents, you really care about your own children, connecting with them often times, make them feel safer, make them feel like they are loved as children. And that is all responsibility and connectivity with that, taking care of yourself. When you take care of yourself, it means that you can easily connect with other relatives, basically, the children have the relationship within the cycle. Yeah. It might be narrow, big for the rest of our audience. Yes. What are some of those tips? Okay. In Arabic, sorry. Not in Cuba, whichever. That is speaking in Cuba. No problem. Okay. Thank you. Arabic, "Jubadee" also means "Gailabukanagarafquays" like in the "Bagangakki" bed. And "Aagikidirun" is small. "Gailabukanagarafquays" is small. "Gailabukanagarafquays" is small. 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In response to that, there is a lot of connectivity within parents like how we have been working in terms of our feedback sessions we have from the various caregivers who have been engaging. There is a lot of a gap within the parents. We have a lot of parents, but parenting is not done by all. So, it has left a lot of gap between parents and children, making them not like aligned effectively in terms of connectivity. So that one has created a lot of challenges between parents and their own children in terms of response and what physical they want to really. Right. So, what do you mean by, when you say parenting is not done by all? The people appoint other people to parent the children on their behalf. Okay. Thank you. Parenting, this is like nurturing up someone to become an independent and the better version of the person becoming another. Right. That's now the processing of parenting. Now a parent definitely everyone can become a parent just by the vice of giving back. So, ideally, there are many who have given back, but they are not in the position, in the process, in the life of their own children, which is making a lot of gap in raising up the child you want to be in your own. So, the child is raised by the environment, raised by the media, raised by any other factor, and your contribution in the life of the child is much more or less that cannot account to point on the picture you want to see within your own child, which has so much given up a gap in the life, in the line of parenting. Right. What are some of those reasons as to why some parents are not actively involved? A number of factors can be figured out, you know, modernization. Okay. So, in terms of modernization, other parents tend to give, "Yeah, we are catching up with the modernity." Interaction between parents is not ideal, like it used to be, where they can easily connect, having positive timing with your children, it has really deteriorated to the higher ranking, so that you alone has caused, like, "We are busy with our own things, catching up with the main shores, looking to ways of how ends can meet, negotiating, if not leaving out to the idea, like, "What can you do?" and closing a touch with parents, which modernity we have of our financial strengths, definitely parents are so much kind of stranded. Everyone is getting up early morning to see what they can put on table. Yeah. And especially those are urban parents. Urban parents. As of the villagers who are sometimes, they can get up early morning and get out to the farms and other ways of seeing up when they're children on the back. Yeah, sure. But now the rate of the age group also matters and how basically you can engage there. Right. And let's think about this project. Which areas have you been interacting with? In terms. In Juba. Okay. Like, people that you have been interacting with. Yeah. Thank you. Looking up into areas that bring a lot of parents together, more at an easier way to interact and get more parents. We have started in Chem 1 and Chem 3, and the IDP compuses. We are extending up the program, running out within those crisis-based settings, especially the various Kia gave us, and recruiting them into groups of easily and disseminating to them these various steps. Okay. Yeah. So we have also extended to the facilities, the facilities. We see that those are some of the places that bring under two parents together. And so we know that taking care of yourself, you know, some of the things we turn and select them into the actual bin. You find the parents can go even new under where the person is like, "Yeah, our forestations come in, but they don't really buy the aim, I'm supposed to be like this to enter the public." So these are the things that we see, like at this, bringing their mind about your own self. So that at least when you're bringing up a child, yeah, we know of crisis, we know our finances status, but appreciating what you are being practical about it, right now. A lot of it has happened, a lot of it has happened, and so thinking about washing your clothes. And I'm looking at this vulnerable woman in the POC because these are your target populations. So what has been the response from those parents? Yeah. The response has been not been really in terms of their own response. Yeah. It was good, you know. Some of these tips that came to realize that they didn't even do the things that I'm supposed to be doing as a parent. So yeah, I know they are pointing out like, "Yeah, as a parent, you know if to be a full parent, you're supposed to provide the best sex to your children." But however you feel because you aren't able to do what you're supposed to do, and not because you want, but because of limitations that you can't really avoid that kind of thing. So that's when their presence are very big challenge in offering up to the best as a parent to make sure that the child meets the need. Right. So what has been your objective to carry out this project? Okay, fine. The main objective of all this project is raising up awareness to eliminate violence against children through their parenting tips. When you look at the various parent, each tip speaks for itself. So making parents understand how do you communicate to a children if you have your own emotional response? How do you are supposed to care for them? How are you supposed to engage your loved routines with your children? How are you supposed to cope up with crises with your own children? So engaging them, we are looking up to ways of eliminating violence against children through their parents. We know that a parent is a child, sometimes they say that the child is like, the real child is seen from a parent. If a parent who is kind of arrogant and other things, the child is from you. Yeah, yeah, the child. When you calm your child, the child definitely learns from you. So we believe that fast changing up the attitude and message of the parents will definitely change the life of the child. We are saying maybe kind of responding to a child in something you are not supposed to necessarily beat. It might not really need training on other things, but there are other better ways of disciplining. Not just responding with slabs, not responding with the kicks, but there is a way to respond that can make the child understand that, okay, what I've done is not right through maybe how you communicate or else in a child, because the child is a child, the text in what to speak, when you calm, definitely the child will be the calm. No, listen. Yeah. All right. If you also respond violently, they also kind of do things in the way you do sometimes. Yeah. Well, Akita, thank you so much for making your time to speak to us. So what is your final advice to care give us? Okay. And basically to care give us, we really look up into taking responsibility as a parent. Doing how much it means to be a parent is very valuable. And you can have the kind of parent, if not the child you want, through what you do. When you look up into a child, giving every time a positive time of your child engaging your time in routines like knowing the extent of what the child is, it is what is built of the parent. So we believe that the child, it's a culture for a parent to know that my child is my child because of what of input. So what is not right in the child, it's your role as a parent to make sure you output it and input what is the culture of the home. So that you be in position of raising up a child that is visible and kind of responsible, not the ones that are becoming much more violent, because in the research source, you find a child of about 12 years, if not under a sense age, has become more violent, even responding to the parent, even others are fighting up their own parents. So it's like an effect of the renting. When you do it in the stage of the right way, knowing how to talk to the child, responding in much amicable way, calming and all the parenting tips at hand, definitely it you know, and you have a picture of how the child will be manifesting in the next stage in non-violentic way. I can't listen, even if they are crises, but how do you say to a person through it? Right. Thank you so much.