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Resolving conflict
[ Music ] >> Praise the Lord. Praise the Lord. Just help me with this sad little shock here. I'm not connected to the message, but it comes to my heart. We used to sing it a long time ago. [ Singing ] Praise the Lord. [ Singing ] [ Singing ] [ Singing ] [ Singing ] [ Singing ] [ Singing ] >> Amen. Blessed be the name of the Lord. Thank you, Praise the Lord. God bless you. Amen. So we go into the message this morning. Let us have the word of prayer. [ Singing ] The last thing, God, we thank you for another opportunity to come to your house. Thank you for our fellowship, Lord. Thank you because you are able to keep them that trust in you. Thank you for your favor and loving kindness upon us, Lord. As we go into your ward this morning, let it bless the hearts of your people. Let them receive it to your glory. And Father, enlighten us, Lord, with it, to fulfill your plans in our life. This we ask in Jesus' mighty name. Amen. For those watching online or maybe watching there, I pass to Emmanuel here from Phoenix, Arizona. I pass to Emmanuel over at GMI Church. Blessed be the name of the Lord. We are here to discuss on a very important topic. Please don't let the suits distract you this morning. I won't tell you the story of this suit, but it has a story so concentrate on the message. Leave the suit alone. Blessed be the name of the Lord. Amen. Amen. Amen. Amen. I brought a mask. Oh, bless you. You are laughing. Glory be to God. Amen. It's a teaching message that will be a series, maybe one or two more series of it as the Lord permits, because the important part of this message will not be for today. The most important part of it, we come later on, but I want you to pay attention, and the Lord will bless your heart. It's a topic that affects every one of us. It's a topic that we deal with a lot. Unfortunately, we do not teach more of it and it creates problems when we don't know what to do in the face of conflicts and resolution God's way. This is the topic of the message and resolution God's way. Amen. I don't know how many people here who can tell me they have not been in conflict. Some of these conflicts can show that you don't see it, but it is there in the family, in the business, in the place of work, in the area among friends, among brethren. So today we'll be a general topic, and since I'm going to bring certain categories of conflict. And then by as God gives out grace, next time we may deal with the spiritual and practical ways to avoid and resolve conflicts. Many friendships have been torn apart because of conflict. A bunch of marriage has been torn apart because of conflict. Marriages have been destroyed because of conflicts. And if you look back at times, some of these could be resolved if only you know how to approach it God's way. A wise man notices things about themselves, about myself and also notices things about others. You don't notice it to make accusations. To ride on them or to hate them, what you notice is to take care and to able to understand what is behind these actions. Most conflict cannot resolve because we don't look at what is behind it. We don't see the outward, the practical emotion that is being evolved. But if you're able to look at what is behind, I'm not talking of say time behind, I'm talking of what is behind that outburst of emotion. Are you able to understand it and deal with it? Then conflict may be resolved. So that's the second, that's the part we're going to go later on in the discussion of torn conflicts. So marriage is phrased by hanging by the trade because of conflict. Even in the household of God. So let us pay attention, as I say. Let not distract you, just let's listen. Blessed be the name of the Lord. Amen? Conflicts is what's certain. He ages, initiates. I say initiates, not fulfill. You, a human kind, are the ones that actually bring conflicts to be. But second and his agents are the ones that initiate conflict. And if you are wise, when the conflict is being initiated in your mind, in your souls, whatever the rain that the enemy is coming, bringing it across, if you can put a stop to it, then it will not evolve to fulfillment. So he initiates, you feel it. You can blame him, or you can blame yourself, or you are a person. Resolution is what the Holy Spirit does through and you, to resolve the issue. It could be in such a way that it is limited in nature, or it can be a complete resolution. Blessed be the name of the Lord. Amen? Alleluia? So when conflict is evolving, you have the mandate from the Holy Spirit to stop it, but you have to stop it, go away. One was to pray, no, I had a revelation a few days ago, about certain things, and it troubled me on this area. And you've got that last minute, I'll bring it out. If not, I will just pray on my own. Satan is doing his best to emerge the world into major conflict, and individual lives also. Blessed be the name of the Lord. We have conflict exist, peace is limited or non-existent. Don't pretend to yourself in your family, once they are conflict, you can try to cover it up or bury it or whatever, but once there is conflict, there is no two-two-piece. It may be limited in nature, or it may be non-existent altogether. As we follow, we ask our question later on, should we be very conflict or resolve it? Should we certainly cap it? Should we confront it or be carried out from it? Should we look at it and say, this conflict needs to be dealt with? We look at God's way later on. Blessed be the name of the Lord. Amen. What the Holy Spirit does through me and you is to bring resolution in conflict. So we have to allow the Holy Spirit to bring that solution. I want to tell all this money that conflict did not just tax yesterday. It has been in the system since the end of the world. In fact, it was in existence even in the heavens. In Isaiah chapter 14, verse 12, it is had to speak of Lucifer the morning, son of the morning. God has to throw him out of the heavens because of conflict. It is a conflict in India full of anointing and power and great position in the realm of the Almighty God. And because of his beauty and pride and what has made him to be, he started to think that he can stop plants and be like the Almighty. And God booted him out of heaven. One committee said, God, why do you have to kick him down to earth? If you can't deal with it over there, how do you think we can manage over here? I say, well, that may be listening, but God did what he has to do. So Satan was booted out of heaven and down here because of conflict. He is still continuing with that mindset to set up conflict among Britain, among people, among marriages, among friends, among nations. In another area in a revelation chapter 12 by 7, dissemination drag on. And there was war in heaven, Michael, and his angels fought against the drag on that ancient serpent. And he drag on and his angels fought back. Conflict in the heavenlies. It's not just in on earth. You have to leave the background so that when we go deeper into this, you'll find out that conflict is an ancient food to mankind. It's established for a purpose. And in each level, if you don't diffuse it and resolve it, it will be there. Less I be the name of the Lord. There was this drama that I saw many years ago about in months ago. Romeo and Juliet. The part of the thing that conflict does is to leave bitter roots. When I talk of bitter roots, I'm talking of roots that is so deep into the ground that is how to approach it. And when those roots are not computed and destroyed, at times it becomes a generational conflict. Our great grandfather, entire time conflict, is passed down to the fathers. He passed down to the fathers, passed down to the children. And the children passed it to the new generation. The roots is so bitter and deep, at times that even some generations don't even know how it started. But they still continue in that conflict. Romeo and Juliet was a product that was destroyed by bitter roots that was set in conflict way before they were born. The end of it is tragedy. And we pray that God will not allow it to get our portion in Jesus' name. Amen. There are different types of conflicts. We look at the global conflicts. We look at the conflict in the Church, and then the area we are going to really look at, not in detail this time, but later on when God permits, is the interpersonal conflict. The level of between you and I, friend and friend, bread and bread and wife and husband, business partners, teams, who get into that when God gives grace. But look at global conflict advantages and destruction in our schools. World War I, I looked it up, 9.7 million people, military died, and 10 million civilians. And you say why? Why does that happen? It's because they are the happiest of souls for him that are not prepared to meet the amaker. 70, 80, 90% of this, 19.7 million that died in World War I, are people that probably have not given their life to Christ. Young men and young women pulled from their home, assigned to go to war, giving them magic, they're gone or whatever they have to kill and be killed. That is conflict. World War II, 35 million, the population of California or more, times two. You say that if I have to 60 million perished, both military and civilians in conflicts. Second, and this angel of course are rejoicing and harvesting souls that are not prepared to meet God. Some Christian family children are drafted, unbelievers are drafted. People are probably what are drafted to go and fight in this war. Why are we 100? That's true. And the war's part of it, the tragedy part of it is that this souls are lost forever to God. Ukraine and Russia, 230,000 or more, go in. We are still in our war. Go check the people that have been destroyed, younger generations that are not prepared to meet God. I looked at the war in my own country when I was born, the Biafran War, hundreds of thousands of soldiers, two to four million of the Biafran children, for which I would have in one of those died of starvation in our war. I was born in that time. If you look at it, there is this particular disease that developed because of lack of assault. There was an embargo. They don't allow anything to come true. It's called partial cordial stomach protrudes and they die. Many of us like me so far from that were for God's grace. I wouldn't have been doing what I did for God or for myself. That is what war conflict does on the level of the global levels. Setan uses to reap harvest of souls that are not prepared to meet their maker. When this letter was taken, let us be praying against it. Let us be asking God to intervene because the package is souls. When I was talking about the global level, a few days ago I was reading, and America predicts that there is a super war coming in 2025 between the United States and China. How many of us read it in the news or say it? Yes, thank you. They are already ramping up. They are already calling the cause for war to be and that is the case that we are facing. Can somebody come and take this one from me? Please come and take it. Thank you. They are already calling for war. China started sending their words by runes already, going around us, taking pictures. We haven't even started. It was in the news. Maybe you saw it or not. The runes was everywhere. They just shot one damn few days ago again. They are predicting like that is already happening in their mind. Second is already giving why you should fight the war. It is what you go ahead. But the danger of this is that we are no more talking of World War I or World War II where they have. You have to pull up a gun that should maybe 4th and 20th. When I'm talking of nuclear, I'm a means. America have about 5,000 or so of each. China have hundreds of each, Russia, thousands of each. Few of these can take out a whole portion of United States. And there is no defense against it. This is what we are trying to avoid. Let's say be the name of the Lord. Amen. Amen. Now we have conflict within the Church. The conflict within the Church, if we go into a different conflict, we have seen from the time of the 1st Church, the apostle, the ask down will be days in talking about it, conflicts. But let's just look at the Church that was just a new minted Church. The ask of apostle, the beginning of this movement. There was a conflict that would have put the stock to this Word of God, if not handled in wisdom immediately by the apostles. Recently filled with the Holy Spirit and baptism of fire, you will think that everything we go will know. The enemy came with conflict, circumcision, ideology. The Mosaic law, they started fighting among themselves. Everybody should be circumcised. You have to be a Jew to be a Christian, and so on and so forth and so, until God by His grace resolved it through the wisdom of God on the apple. They have to go to a special meeting, if you read the history, to be able to resolve it. The whole intention of the enemy is to hinder the progress of the Word of God. If you read that chapter at the end, I say, "But the Word of God prospered at the end of it." If not our conflict was resolved, then we wouldn't have half what we have today. Right on top of it, I was mumbling in the Church again by the Christians, women, the widows who felt that we are degraded from the food sharing the social aspect of the Church, that many sides flew to the widows and to the Hebrews. They came out and said, "Hey, what is going on here? You guys are taking care of the Hebrews better than the Christians." I went up out of the same food and so on and so forth. I was mumbling. And God says, "The apostles prayed, consorted with the Holy Spirit, and said, 'No, what? You go and set up seven men of the Holy Spirit and whiz them, so that they can tackle the issue, why we give ourself over to pray and study in the Word of God. We are not going to come to share bread, but you find a way. These seven people, among those seven, is Stephen, and then there is the Christian. We are not neglected. They measure that at least one or two or three people in that seven are among the Christians. And that is how God quelled our conflict that will have divided the beginning of the ministry of Christ when he handed it to the apostles, to the children of God. And he says that after he is the Word of God, plus God. Let's say the name of the Lord. Amen? Interpassional conflict is conflict between person and person. Individuals, members, friends, family. When I talk of family, I'm talking of our times between father and children, between children and mother, and so on and so forth, between man and wife. This interpassion is so important that we should avoid it and as much as possible resolve it if it comes off. Because what does he do when there is conflict in the family? The two that are supposed to be together are now what divided. And what happens when you are divided? You have prayers, intercession, and no more words, effective. And if you go outside God's way to resolve it, what most of the time he resolve it is resolving. That means destruction. You go to Katie, a friend, and tell them when they don't have the wisdom of God. Or Google came connection to give you the solution to problem that you have no idea how to handle. Everybody is not a professional counselor. When their own life is complete mess. People when they came connection is advancing people on marriage. Say, wonderful. Tell me what you are going to get out of that. Yeah? So there are people feeding to this category and I want those to watch into this category of people. And all this causing solution today. We are going to bring us something that I want you to relate with. When we bring a solution they can tag into it and God help you. I learn every one of us learn from our mistakes, from our failures. They are since I did and see in the past that you today when I remember it I shake. Say, how did I even open my mouth and still do such thing? It hurt people. But that is also a human being. For tango we are progressive. We are learning. Let's say be the name of the Lord. Amen? Amen? In the personal conflict we look at 133 plus one. It tells the fellowship and brotherhood. It's a call between friends and between family. In marriages with children. Between workplace friends and people you walk with and even among brethren. But behold how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to do it together in unity. Let's say be the name of the Lord. Amen? That is God's intention in the house for brethren to do it together in unity. And you, me, everyone of us are part of the instruments that God can use for us to be in unity. Some of us later are instrumental division. Some of us are later instrumental discord so in seat of discord. Some of us when people bring program to us we go and tell everyone about the symbol God. Some of us we don't know that the reason you are here is to be God's hand in helping one another and lifting each other up. But we learn. And I pray we learn fast in the 19th name of Jesus. Among these category are those who are oppressed in nature. They live the breed conflict. You don't find these among Christians it's mostly in the world. They live and breed conflicts. They are agents. Everywhere they are they have to be conflict. My God I've made two people like that. One of them let us tell me where is your church. I want to come to your church and say no. Go find another church. I'm not kidding you. I want to visit. I say don't. There's a church closer to where you live. Find church there. Say why would I do that? Give it up. They are so conflict wherever they are. They come among friends conflict will be there. They come in your family conflict will be there. They come to the place of your walk they will be conflict. Proverb 1628 I believe call them what they are. They are children of conflict 1628. I'm worried about it. They will be going to find out you are problem but not for them to help or to move you out or feed but to dig you into deeper who. Brethren, don't associate with such. From when they saw strife. And they whisper as separate chief friends. Not just ordinary friends. Friends are for life. Once they come they whisper wanting to the left. They say I'm not allowed to the right. Before you know it. John has said something different. And Rebecca has heard something different. Before you know it. That is division. And when that division is it becomes where God can know what because there is no peace. See that there is a limited peace or peace is non-existent. Those are one of the types that I have noticed. They are those that shoot from the hip. And from these among Christians. Among believers. And I find among believers who thought they knew it all. Or they have reached to the point where they feel they are now so close to God. That God can speak through them. And because of this they do monitor their words. The Bible call them out in James chapter 1 verse 19. They feel that they are oracle for God. Where are the Bible said below? Where are my below bread? And let every man speak to you be swift to hear and slow to speak and slow to write. They are not slow to speak. And they hurt many people. Because they don't wait. Think over what they are testing. They don't wait. Think over what they are saying. They don't wait. Think over what is coming out. They are now become so confident in their ability and their closeness to God in reading the Bible. Having read it from 8 to 0 hundred times that they don't listen. They misjudge others completely. And many a time they could pull somebody down in their feet. I don't care how much spiritual you think you are. Check your ward before you say it. Look at what you are about to say. I make bad mistakes. Some others speaking to you and speaking to myself. Don't shoot from the hip. Shoot first and look later on. When you are sending that test on WhatsApp or whatever, read it again twice. Especially when you are answering something that is sensitive. Because once you hit the button it is what's sent. You say the ward that comes out of our mouth can only turn back again once you speak it. It goes out. You don't recover it. So Christ is brethren. My church, spiritual field, men of God, women and men of God, whatever you are, prophet or pastor or pastor, means your ward. I'll read you a ward. Check it before you say it. I was standing behind another man of God already. And he says something completely crude to the another person who he called him. Come, come, come, bro. I say something to him. I say, my God, go have missionless. We have people like that. And you can never be above the Almighty. Your wisdom is great. Your knowledge is wonderful. But check your ward. Because you are not that perfect in your way that whatever comes your mouth is an oracle of the Almighty. No, none of us are at the end of our level. We are trying. We are doing our best. We are fighting every day to get to that level. And God, we give us grace in Jesus' mighty name. Amen. There are those who are multiple offenders. Of course you come and say, oh, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I did that, though, sister. My friend, oh, and the next day they do the same thing again. You say the time. Those times you, the day you just get off work or you are coming to work in the morning. And you know them in the offices. Usually when they are coming one way, you go the other side. So it's not to meet them. Because if we say something, they will just do something that will solve your day. You just finish a money fellowship dress up. Put on your nice jacket for the winter suit and so whatever. Come on to work and open the elevator. There she is, Jane, that knows everybody's business. Hey, man, everybody. How are you doing today? I haven't seen you for two weeks. Oh, baby, wait. It looks like you put on some weights. The past two weeks I saw you last. You just seen something like that out today. Sorry, I did. Or make a comment that will just hit the mark. That you don't want and you have a bad day because of them. You're so in conflict. You are so. You are spirit. And when it does something like that, you walk right by you, smiling and waving. Have no bad intention at all. It's in their character. There are ways to deal with such. You're going to bring it out. There are dogs that are going through pain. And because of the pain they are going through, I made this a lot of people and I noticed a lot in my line of work. When in this pain they are in hard place in life, they are distributing misery and conflict with all their action. You can never do anything to breathe them. But if you are conscious and walking in the love of God, you can look and see that, hey, my patient, she had five surgeries in a year. If you talk to them at times beyond what you are doing, what you are seeing, and you take the nature of God and approach them, you'll find out that due to this sudden-walled situation, trial that come and face them and they don't know how to handle it, that's why they are acting the way they are. They are in a lot of pain. Financial hardship, bankruptcy, up to death, maybe it's a medical bill, whatever they are going through, situation in their life that they don't know how to handle, and this thing has created one problem so much, situation in their life that they are full of bitterness. They complain and blame everybody, including you if you come within your target. But if you look closely, you see that it is because of your situation. And if you can talk to them out of it through love and compassion, you have one soul for Christ. Let's say be the name of the Lord. I'm not going to go into many of these today, there are so many of them. The last one I'm going to talk about here is self-inflicted conflict. You fighting you. You creating conflict in your own life. At times because of home forgiveness, at times, many times I noticed my maturity. I got a call two, three days ago. So I was preparing this message. By the way, I want to say to the priest and not to the SWAT team, you guys know, at times you go and give out this trust, and you don't know what it does. People are trying to call us with some of these trust. In the past two weeks, how many calls are there? One lady that is demonic, influenced, attacked, bought in, I think she's at the point of societal distancing. She picked up the phone and called. The stars will touch this schedule among us. I may be holding it for a few months, faster, yeah, take over, pay that take over, you know, this number and stuff. And people calling. And they're calling with information, with care, with things that they are going to. And once I receive such call, I know you guys have labeled in the fields to go give out the trust, and make that to people. I put every call coming to me. No, if it's during the work time, I'm not going to take any call until I spend time to deal with that issue. Blessed be the name of the Lord. Amen. Amen. Many times people give their soul. So you might know, I have won the present Christ. May just give the track and walk away. But they call it around for one reason or the other when they have need. And we're able to close what you have started. Blessed be the name of the Lord. And so, she called you, there they go. This conflict has been going on in her life. To tell me what I was writing, I'm about to preach. I'm preaching to you guys. Say, I want to talk to somebody in this ministry. I say, yeah. Are you pastor? Yes. I am at the point. I don't know what to do. Say, well, God will know what to do by His grace. I'm not going to go into detail. I'm looking at the time. The point is that for each year she has been in conflict with two other women. And does not know how to resolve it. And this thing has become so the burden and torment on her. She doesn't know how to resolve it. And it's been in her. She's blaming herself and taking all these bills of evil, idea, and bitterness. And now that self-consuming, self-destruction is about to sit in. As the last resource she picked up before her call. And in that 30 minutes of discussion, I believe God resolved her situation. Blessed be the name of the Lord, because she didn't know how to walk out of this situation. It will take somebody, maybe God's grace, to point out the right direction. This was two days ago. So I was preparing this message. She didn't initiate this message. Well, just when I was writing it, I should call in my office. So many of us live in a situation where we create conflict within ourselves. And that conflict is burning us from inside out. And it burns everybody around you. And it burns people who want to come close to you and love you. And it's just as a way, good things in your life, because you have not resolved internal conflict that is in you. It could be from passing or past mistake. It could be from error of the Easter years that Christ in this message has already forgiven. But you are not able to forgive or let go. These are some of the areas of the conflict I want to bring out. Should we avoid resolution of conflict? Should we look at conflict and sweep it on the rug or keep quiet? How do we look at this Scripture? Let's look at Matthew 5.23-24. Matthew 5.23-24, please go ahead. Therefore, if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and thou rememberest that thy brother hath oaths conflict against thee. Or you have conflict against your brother. So live thy gift before the altar, and go thy way. Don't take away the gift. Live it. But go thy way. First be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift. God, it is said to sweet conflict on thy rock. There is no conflict that will resolve itself. There is no conflict that will die away with time. There is no conflict that it may be buried to the point that doesn't have the effect of feeling. What may be for you, but not for the other person. Therefore, it behooves us as Christians to resolve it. Now in the last area, we are going to go there in a few minutes, where you can't do anything again. The last point she gets to, you have done your part. Especially in case of repeat offenders. You may have to use it in wisdom to avoid it, because there is no solution. Unless God delivers our person. So it says, yeah, live your gift in the altar, and go set to the conflict, and then come back and give it. James 3 18. James 3 18. And the fruit of righteousness is shown in peace of them that make peace. Let's say be the name of the Lord. Now we are talking, I forgot the topic, the scripture topic for this message was Matthew 5 verse 9. Matthew 5 verse 9. Let's read that. Matthew 5 verse 9. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called the children of God. Then let's go back to James 3 18. Blessed are the peacemakers. People that resolve conflicts are known as peacemakers, not only in Christendom but in the world. United's nation peacemakers. But early 19th century they formed the United Nation. Because country we just wake up and go to war and kill another person and just do. They say, no, let's come together. United says, from a band of brothers, come together to fight the civil so that if anybody raised their head against anybody without justification, all of us are in it. Ukraine wouldn't be in this war today if they were already admitted into the United Nations. Russia we think twice. Am I able to take up United States of America when I be able to fight against them combined with Europe, France, Germany? Am I going to take them with all these countries together? No. Unfortunately, Ukraine hasn't gotten into the United Nations. This empty happens in the spiritual realm where you bind together against conflicts in prayer and in faith. There is a thing conflict you cannot resolve just by yourself. You need teamwork. You need people that think the same like you. And if I will give us instances of that, we're not going to go into it. Let's say be the name of God. Amen? So conflict should not be swept under the carpet. It should be brought off. The purpose should be to diffuse, resolve and restore. To diffuse, resolve of it and then restore the situation as much as possible to the original relationship. Original pattern of thought, original love, emotion, concern, you have for one another. That is what we are going to work with. The approach of most situations, Matthew chapter 18, the approach for most situations on resolving conflict. I didn't say all, but for most. Matthew chapter 18 verse 15, this is not appeasing or giving in all the time. It's not appeasing. It's not forgiving. Well, here is what the word of God says. Moreover, if I brought, I read with me everybody here. Moreover, if I brought, I shall trespass against thee. Are you learning? Go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone. Take only brought Emmanuel. Come to only brought Emmanuel. Once he studied that many years ago, I wrote it. She's sitting in the church. I say something that was out of work. She didn't understand it. She picked up food and called me. I said, "Brother, I have something I want to discuss." He said, "Great." I said, "She didn't come judging, accusing. She stated what I said. I made it clear within five, three minutes of discussion. We create the whole situation. Let's say good in the name of the Lord." She didn't come high and mighty. She didn't come telling me, "No, no, no, no." "No." She just said, "Here is what you say. Here is what I thought you said." No. I said, "That's not what the interpretation of what I said is. Here is my point of view of saying it." So at times we stand here, in 30 minutes, for five minutes we may say something, and they come across wrong to you. "Don't go home sleeping over." Even if I say, "It is because of me." He said, "If you are getting to that level, call me." And he said, "Here is what I'm thinking, and hopefully I can be able to clear myself. Don't go carrying bitterness." The result of a conflict goes away. Blessed be the name of the Lord. That's why I sit in the church today. She may remember. I'm not going to call names. Moreover, the brother should trust us against thee. Go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone. Don't start shouting it out to everybody. Don't start campaigning over. Don't start telling everybody to be between two of you. Right? Maybe it's your husband. Maybe it's your child. Maybe it's your co-worker. Maybe it's a mother of your team. Maybe it's somebody you just made. He said, "Do what? Go to that first and first, especially if you are within the bond of Christ, bond of fellowship." If he shall hear thee, you have gained a brother. Blessed be the name of the Lord. 16. 16. 18, 16, please. But if he will not hear you, then thank you one or two more person. Not that the person you trust, but the person they can also trust. If they are friend with brother, okay, take, brought okay, and take one person for your side. Or you can just call, okay, friend, so that she has if he made a balance. And lay your case. Before going, think about it. Lay your case before them. Don't just be prepared in it. If it's your wife, if it's your brother, if it's your children, whatever. Think about it. Lay your case. As if you are a lawyer presenting your case to the judge. So that in the amount of two or three witnesses, every word may be word, established. 17. 17. And here's a great book here. If it doesn't list it, you won't want one or one. If it didn't list it, my wife, I've told you about this. I call somebody else to intervene, you're not listening. What do you do now? So take it on to the judge. Take it on to the judge. Now make it open. My husband is doing this. My wife is doing that. And I've tried, I call her attention, she wouldn't listen. I call attention of her friends, and she wouldn't listen to her friends. If you didn't want to resolve it, now it is an open case. Come and join between me and my wife. Come and join between me and my husband. Come and join between me and his brother. Come and join between me and this person. You are not wrong. Let's say be the name of the Lord. You have reached out. Or don't go first and foremost, take in this case to everybody. Try between you. Pray before going, talk to God. Take it seriously. A conflict can create bitter roots. And bitter roots can destroy its soul. Go to last one. We have 18 to watch. That's a part that says if there will not hear you, you can report you to the world. Consider, go back to 16 and 17, please. Okay, but if you will not hear me, take the appointment one more, and then mark two or three witnesses everywhere, then go to 17. And if you and the greater hear them, then let it be unto the church. But if you and the greater hear the church, let him be unto thee as what is hidden, and a publican. I look at what is a publican. They are one of the most hated people in the whole world, in the ancient Jews. They are task collectors. They are not those collecting tasks. They are collecting them half of the Roman Empire, who are domineering, who are there ruling, forcing this Jew nation against everything they believe in. So people in their own Jewish nation are picked to be task collectors on behalf of the citizens, on behalf of the Augustus. So they are hated like nothing. And by those they are these points, you can now go to court. You can find the worst lawyer you can get, or the best lawyer you can find out, and sue the person. And take you to court, you are not out of your frame, because you have done what you do. You say if the greater hear the church, let him be unto you. Let that person name be unto you as a hidden man, and a publican, a hated task collector. You have within your rights to find justice at this point, going into the world. But in the beginning he said, there is no reason for issue that happens among brethren, among family, man and wife. For you to go to the world, for comes he said, you have a case, why will you go? Don't you know that even you, the church, will judge angels, will judge the world. And if we are in position to judge the world, and what is it? He said, take the least man among you even, he is able to judge, because he has a spirit of God and such person, to be able to make things work. And lastly, the goal should be Colossians 3 13, the goal should be Colossians 3 13, Colossians 3 13. You cannot achieve or resolve conflict without this. It doesn't matter how much you prayed or how much argument or wisdom you have or whatever. At the point, two people have to come to realization that this has to happen for conflict to be resolved. For bearing what? One another, that means letting go and forgiving one another. For bearing what? One another and what forgiving one another. If anyone has a quarrel against any even as Christ, forgive you, so also you do. That is the goal. And that is what we should look into. Now, brethren, we can stand on our feet as we close this part of it. We didn't deal with the practical or the spiritual aspect of resolving conflicts. Some of us have conflict. We don't call brethren. We don't call the pastors. We don't call anybody. We steam and stay in it until it boils over. And before annuity has become an emergency situation, if you come what I know it should be, if all you have worked on it. That is not right way. Try Godly way to resolve it first. And if it is done, don't go to people that you definitely go to a neutral person. Or go to the friend of that, your husband or friend of that, your wife that we side with them. And lay your case like a lawyer before them. And see what they would call them. And after that, tell them, give them permission. If necessary, to speak to my wife. Give them permission. If necessary, to speak to my husband. Give them permission. If to speak, pastor. After I talk to this pastor is not listening. I want you to intervene. Give them permission. If necessary, to talk to that worker, that place of work where you are. See, I can put people with it again. I need resolution to this. You have my permission said that I asked you to talk to them if they will not confess to face. And after that, if you send the church, you can bring it within the church. And if you have done and the church elders come together and decide this and give condition and make. And you are still a burial. It's a later person to come to you like a hidden. Or like a Republican. Headed among the Jews. You are within your right to take the justice anywhere that is within your right. But let us hope that it will be one or one where these issues are resolved. And that is where we are praying. And the only way we can be resolved is if we learn to forbid one another. And if we learn to forgive one another. Blessed be the name of the Lord. Amen. For bearing the inputting of which, forgiving meaning to let go. That is the only way. Peace makers have to take initiative. You have to take initiative. The concentration is not a iteration or revenge. Because vengeance is mine says the Lord. Blessed be the name of the Lord. Amen. Don't go revengeful, revenge in yourself. Leave it, put it in the hand of the Lord. And Bible, make it close. Fear is be close. If anybody will offend you, like those repeat offenders, that is annoys me. Believe me, annoys me. But if I could say they come to you seven times and sin to against you seven times. And still come back and say, "Man, I'm sorry for what I just said." Okay, Jenny, it's okay. I forgive you. Three or five minutes after that she does another one. Oh man, I did it again. Oh my God, I still forgive you. And before the day, so by it is like seven whole times you feel like choking or whatever, choking him. The Bible says, "What? Forgive." Blessed be the name of the Lord. That goes with your wife. That goes with your husband. That goes with if it's me or anybody in this place. If they are humble enough to say, "I am sorry," do I even make efforts? Doesn't have to come on a sorry. Grab that with your hand immediately. Let us pray. Father, we thank you at this hour. We thank you for this world. Blessed be the name of the Lord. If there are any of your children here, Lord, who have put against one another, and they are not sure how to resolve it. Ladies, what penetrate into their soul spirit and body Lord? Let them learn from the Holy Spirit what they need to do to resolve it in the mighty name of Jesus. You say that in fruit of righteousness is so in peace of them that make peace. Let our portion of peacemakers in the mighty name of Jesus. Let our portion of the apostles of peace in the mighty name of Jesus. Let their name not take us away from your word. There is conflict, there will always be conflict, but the resolution is from the Lord Almighty. Forgive us the grace to be able to resolve conflict causeway in Jesus' mighty name we pray. Amen. Blessed be the name of the Lord. Hallelujah. To God be the Word. (Music)