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How to Protect Your Energy From Toxic People
Is anybody maybe have some negative people in your life just want some quick advice on how to manage that alright so let's let's start with this of how do you deal with toxic people especially during the holidays. What we talk about you to be very careful we spend time with cuz he's been time with is who you become we start to. I had a mentor tell me that some people are batteries included some people are batteries not included and they siphon off all your energy dealing with the negative people are specifically toxic especially during the holidays it could definitely be a challenge. Holidays and this goes on this regardless of his holidays you know is a time and i think every day you should be a time for joy togetherness celebration but toxic personalities can bring stress especially when dealing with different or difficult personality such as put it there so here's some strategies. For me i think it's important set boundaries. When part of being limitless is sending limits and it sounds like a paradox when we have certain constraints we have more freedom so i feel like setting boundaries is so critical and think about even if you don't have toxic people how you could teach this to somebody else you can really engrain this. I think it's important that you decide in advance who you are and are willing to tolerate or accept if certain toxic people they've certain topics or behaviors. You know which ones are off limits you know be clear about these boundaries for yourself and if necessary with that individual also as well remember it's okay to say no or the limit your exposure to negative influences and this for me that's. Not just people that's from whatever i'm consuming at the stand guard to the doors of your mind i think also besides that another quick tip is just to manage expectations. It's important to manage expectations when dealing with with difficult people you can control their behavior but you can control your reaction to it if that makes sense so you can prepare yourself mentally for the possibility of. These challenging interactions and decide ahead of time how you can handle them i think it's really important. My third quick tip would be you know how do you stay calm and collected when you're confronted with negativity of any kind of people or any kind of activity somebody make some men you know some comments on your social media or something. That's why it's so important to have some kind of mindfulness practice you know the breathing i know there are questions on my breathing strategies to come in kind of my nervous system regulated because you're in when you're in fight or flight you definitely don't learn or perform your best. When you're in fight or flight you're kind of health hostage and your survival survival brain and it keeps you from taxes and the other parts of your brain your creativity or problem solving. You're your mental agility your emotional regulation so. It's so interesting that a brief moment of stepping away how could help you regain your composure right and reacting with anger frustration sometimes it has a place and yet sometimes most more times than not it can escalate a situation. Last couple tips i'll give you if i'm thinking about this is focusing for this is easy for the elephants if you take in the brain quiz focusing on empathy. Sometimes understanding that a person's toxic behavior it may stem from their own struggles or their own in securities and when we're sensitive to that it can help. You better approach the situation with empathy it doesn't excuse their behavior at all someone saying but it can help you not take it as as personal right we've all heard this quote. The doctor people people right i think it's also important to your battles and if that's the metaphor doesn't have to be a conflict but not every comment or action deserves your attention. And certainly doesn't deserve your energy so ask yourself is this worth my time is this worth my emotional investment and if not it's best to let it go and focus on the positive aspects of what's going on remember you have this particular activating system and you're mostly deleting everything to reality reality becomes what you focus on most. And sometimes for inputting too much negativity a negative mind it's really hard to create a peaceful life and i think that. Peace of mind is is high currency my last quick tip on this is getting support. If you're feeling overwhelmed is it possible you could have an ally in this and turn to a supportive friend or family member have someone to talk you know provide you with just that emotional mental support to help you navigate. Through interactions last to self care is not selfish so especially during the holidays there's a lot of stress in general so what activities can you enjoy and relax and to recharge because i find that when we're exhausted that we're more quick to react i don't know if you feel the same way or if we hate kind of like not eating so good. We can eat do other behaviors and indulge in other things that's not so good so you know we always have a choice and sometimes the choices joy sometimes the choices peace and sometimes the. Choices having an exit strategy would be my last tip things get overwhelming it's okay to remove yourself from the situation so having a plan in place on how you could play the excuse yourself can be very very very empowering. So remember why can't control how other people behave you can control how you respond and when you focus on your own responses maintain your mental and emotional health and well being you can navigate through any situation holidays included with a little more grace more smoothly even in the presence of challenging people.