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Meaghan Gets The Ick When...
This is the Mojo in the Morning podcast, powered by Michigan Auto Law. Auto accident attorneys, visit autolaw.com. That's autolaw.com. All right. It is a Mojo in the morning show, Megan. What gives you the ek? Okay. So I was out yesterday and I was picking up some food at a place where you like order up at the counter and there was a couple who was also ordering up there and the girl was trying to buy their meal and the guy had this like a weird freak out and I, before I tell you this, I know, all right, I would like to pre-address that I am the one that's always joking about, take men's money, but I don't actually believe that men should have to pay for everything. And so when he's real fit about her trying to buy the meal, I immediately got the ick. I think it's so weird when guys never want a girl to pay for a date and I was really shocked at how quickly I went, oh, that's not attractive. I really don't like that quality because it just felt so in equal and I saw him in such a different light and I could not take it back. Is there anything that somebody does that like immediately makes you go? I got the ick. I don't like that. So with the real quick, the guy wanted to buy the meal and they were fighting over the bell. Yeah, because she had her card out and she was trying to put it into the card scanner. So what was Icky? That like he was kind of throwing a tantrum over it. So he was fighting over getting the thing out. If she wanted to pay, like I like paying sometimes. Yes. It makes me feel like I'm contributing to our fun experiences and then I'm not just relying on you. Yeah. I feel like you're equal now. That's not like we have to split everything 50 50 every time. I'm not saying that and it doesn't need to be calculated down in dollar, but every once in a while, if I pull out my card, don't real fit about it. But when does that come into play in the relationship when you're dating or when you're in a relationship when you're dating at any time, really? Yeah. Okay. I am old fashioned and that I think that the guy should pay for the first date and I know a lot of people disagree with me, but that's, that's what I believe. But I do think that like, like when I offer to pay when Wes and I go out, I know that we're married. It's kind of a different story. It's all coming from the same place. But I, you know, when we weren't sharing everything, I, when I wanted to pay, I genuinely wanted to pay to Megan's point of like, he's so chivalrous and I appreciate that, but like it also makes me feel like I'm contributing and allow me the honor of doing that. Right? It makes me feel good. I guess, I don't like it though, but it's funny because when girls go out on dates and like, we will say, oh, you're only going out so you can get a free meal. And then when I'm saying, well, I don't want a free meal, I want to contribute. It's, well, I don't want you to do that. I want to pay. It feels like it's a lose lose. Do you always pay every single time? So when you and Cheryl go out, you always, always, always, always, always pay. I'd be lying if I said she never paid, but I would say it's rare more than 90% of the time I'll pay. Do you guys share funds? No. Okay. So it does. So it is legit that you guys are. And some of that, I mean, I think it's conditioning, obviously, like how I was raised, how I feel like society has said is the right way to treat a woman. Also, I think girls assume that same mindset of like, I shouldn't have to pay. I think more women are entering into a space where they're, you know, comfortable paying. Do you pay? And then in the parking lot, you say, Hey, you owe me $10. Honestly, the best interactions when it comes time for us to decide who's going to pay if we have to decide is when I look at her and be like, all right, rock, paper, scissors real quick. Like that's when they get fun. You waiters and waitresses, they hate this. They hate the fight. The worst is what happened in Meghan's a moment was when they have that device there that you're paying with because you're stick, you're trying to stick it in and they're like trying to pull it out and stuff and it usually gets bad because it's usually, you know, the one that's in that little card flap thing, the American Express or visa or whatever, anything. That's one thing like they're sitting there fighting and grabbing cards and we've all done that with each other. People are waiting. It's like, people get. Yeah. But if you're standing up there and there's that machine, I hate, by the way, I hate how they bring the machine to the tables now because I really hate that I have to tip in front of you like that, which I will say this to you. I think that you get less of a tip if you're tipping in front of the person. You think that you're getting more, but I think you're getting less. You know what it is, though? When you give me options of like the auto putting them out or whatever and they put in the custom, I love that because first of all, it's a mind trick. You're most likely to choose the middle or the upper one so you don't come off as cheap with the bottom one. Yeah. And then you did the math for me. You like that better? I always think that you get less too because it's, I normally will do it to even the amount. But you've also given me that range where I can do the custom tip and round it up without having to pull out my phone for the calculator. And that's way more embarrassing. I have no problem pulling out calculator. Cindy, what's up? I don't like when women fight to pay. It gives off such a masculine energy and it's so unattractive. And if she offers to pay, that's one thing. I'm sure he appreciates that he sees her willingness to be part of the relationship, but don't fight to pay. Don't argue to pay. Let them in. Hey, we got. Do you think it's? Yeah. I could say to the dude, let the woman pay. Do you think it's D? It's emasculating or demasculating? What is it? What would it be if you're making a man less masculine? Is it demasculating? I don't know. I don't know. Sorry. Yeah. It's emasculating. Men are supposed to take care of their woman and women can treat contribute in different ways. And when a woman fights and puts out that masculine energy, they completely take that away from the man. And we've been so conditioned because we've come across men that aren't masculine, that aren't shivers, that aren't this and we had to let's just put it this way. It's not chivalry or it's just that they're cheap. That's what it is. I don't know if necessarily it's the masculine energy going on here. I think there might be some guys. No, no. For women. Yeah. It's a women's masculine energy that they're putting out and it's not right. Let the guy be the guy. I wouldn't say it's not right. It's not what you prefer. And I think that there are people out there who prefer more traditional roles, but I wouldn't say one's right or one's wrong. It's like, do you want to be a home mother or not? There's not one right or wrong. It's just what you. In gay relationships, how do you decide who's paying on that? Like what is the decision-making process on that? I think it just comes down to a physical fight to the death and then whoever's alive I love gay fights hashtag pride. What's up, Angel? How are you doing, Angel? Happy Friday, everybody. Yeah. Today, some party is tomorrow. Give her a shout out. Oh, it's so fun. What's your name? Kiana. Kiana. Where'd she graduate from? What school? Henry Ford II. Yes. Congratulations. Yeah. Hold on. I'm excited, guys. Oprah's got to do it for you. Congratulations. Yes. I love it. Oh, Megan, I completely agree with you and I agree with the last caller, but I have a little opposite story for you guys. Yeah. I was in a long-term, very toxic, unfortunately, relationship. I paid for everything all the time. This guy barely ever worked and it just got to be so rough. I never wanted to do anything anymore. It was not fun. Yeah. I was in a similar relationship too, which it was interesting to get the perspective of somebody who was kind of obligated to pay all the time if we wanted to do things. And it felt like it gave me a really interesting perspective from my previous relationships where I had dated. I'd come out of a relationship where the guy refused to let me pay for anything, went into a relationship where the guy didn't really have a job for most of the relationship. And it taught me, like, there's got to be a balance or that rest falls onto one person completely. Yes. It's teamwork. It's all about teamwork. You're a partnership, you know, you're a team. It's not just one or the other, but I love you guys. We love you too. Happy Friday. I have a great 4th. And congrats. Thank you. What kind of food do we serve in at the party, I think? I am making pulled pork, fried chicken, may I see you? We'll see you. Come on out. Yeah. Let's go. Thank you for the call. We love you. What's up, Jay? Say, hey, what's going on with nothing much, buddy? What's happening? All the time. All the time. Carvin. All the time. Listen, I know I love that. I know that voice. What's up? Yeah. So I would totally never keep that. Go here and pay. Why not? That's right. Go here. Just teach yourself. Why not? You know what I'm saying? Make it feel like it feels. I wouldn't care paid. That's right. Let her pay, and then let her do the hakdua. Right? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Go here. Use your imagination. All right, buddy. We'll talk to you later. Alright buddy, we'll talk to you later.