Mojo In The Morning
Shannon is Scared to go on Vacation
This is the Mojo in the Morning podcast, powered by Michigan Auto Law, auto accident attorneys. Visit autolaw.com. That's autolaw.com. Mojo in the morning, Shannon is worried about going on vacation. Going on vacation next week for the holiday, I'm taking the kids to Colorado for our annual trip that we've taken since Lucy was a baby, really. But it's just the three of us going, so it's myself and Lucy and Smith going as is tradition, okay? And so Wes is staying home and he is threatening, I'm going to use that word, to do all sorts of projects while I'm gone. So we're like currently in the process of moving everybody in. This is a very slow role process. And I am legit worried about this because I am terrified that I'm going to come home and everything about my house, which he and his kids are moving into my house, is going to be rearranged and different or just gone. And I say that because he's been doing, I've been doing a lot of purging. He's been doing a lot of purging for me. But when Wes purges my things, he doesn't usually ask before he donates or puts them in the garbage pile. So there have been things that have gone missing that now I'm like, okay, I know, I think I know what happened to it. So one of the big projects that he wants to tackle, Megan, is my closet. Oh, not without you. I saw KP move to over there. It's startling without me. And he, him in my closet is the scariest thing ever because I've already cleared out half my stuff and made space for him. I just have this really bad feeling that it's not going to be good when I come home. Can I ask you a very personal question? Yeah. What kind of closet doors do you have? Not ones that can lock. We got to figure out a way to put a padlock or sharing a closet. But wait, even, even the, I mean, the closet, I was the big one, but he will go through and see things and just take it, donate, donate, throw away, I'm like, you have to ask me first. I've never known you to be a hoarder. Are you hoarder? I'm not a hoarder, but I do have a lot of stuff. Like I just, I, I, there's a lot of stuff in that house and I, I've been trying to get rid of and donate as much as I can, you know, over the past couple of months, really, as I prepare for these guys to move in over the next couple of weeks, but I still have a lot more stuff. So, so with being away, you're not going to have much say so because it will, well, zero say so. Well, he take the stuff, put it in a pile and then take it to somewhere or have it somebody come and grab it as donation. Probably before I come home. So that. Okay. So you can at least go through it. Yeah. And this where you're trying to purge and you're like, Oh, well, I'll keep that for, you know, maybe I'll wear it or use it whenever it is. And that's just not how he is at all. And the most, the majority of the stuff that Wes is choosing to either donate or throw away, these are clothing items. Well, yes and no. I mean, it's anything, anything in the house technically is, is up for grabs here, but I'm most worried about your clothes, clothing items. Do you appreciate Wes's taste in fashion? Because I know one of the things you mentioned is that Wes is color blonde. Yeah. So he'll look for me and not be able to tell was like, how could you even trust? He's not throwing away things that you actually like it. It's hard to because in anybody who has blended a family will understand this when I say it. I want him to feel like this is our house, which is hard because it's my house. It's the house I lived in with my ex has been. So anytime he does a project, like I love that he's working on the house. Because I'm hoping that it feels more, it helps him feel more like it is his house as well. But I'm still very picky and territorial in particular when it comes to the house that I've lived in for the past 10 years. You're going away next week and you're thinking you're going to come home to a pretty much empty closet or completely different closet. Or he's going to do, he loves DIY, he's going to DIY something in that house. I don't know what's about to happen. Is there anybody that has ever had like a spouse or a roommate or something do this, like got rid of your stuff without asking you, 844 mojo live, 844-665-6548 or text 95500. Now you say that this is all you purging of things or he wanting to purge some of your stuff there because he's bringing his stuff over. Have you been able to go look at his stuff and purge his stuff yet? The equal opportunity to make sure he's not bringing over stuff that's unneeded. Well, you have. Well, so he's really not bringing over, he's got nothing to bring over besides his clothes and his a bedroom set here for his son. But everything he's not bringing over. What about his clothes though? His clothes. That's what I said besides his clothes and literally a bedroom set for his son. Everything else. It's pretty much already gone. She's not allowing it. You're not allowed, oh wait, oh, so it's not that he doesn't have stuff, you're just not allowing this stuff. Well, I already have this stuff and he likes it. So women hate guy stuff, we can't have anything. I love you. I love guys. I love you. You don't have good pain. You don't have good pain. I have never ever walked into like a dude's place and then like, oh, I could live here. But do you know how many guys walk into my place and go, oh, it looks so great in here. How many? So many. So many. They all do. Even my brother who helped me decorate my apartment would go through like my Pinterest boards or whatever with me and be like, yeah, I guess. And then as soon as it was all set up, he was like, I didn't see the vision, but I really like it. Yeah. Hot tape. All right. I feel like girls places lack personality and it looked like all y'all looking at the same mood board. If we being for real, everybody could kind of look like a Pinterest board or like it lacks who you are. All y'all look like the same board. I don't disagree with you, but I'm not trying to create a space that replicates me. I'm trying to create a space that brings calmness that I want to relax and be in. And every deared space is like, I got this poster in third grade and it means a lot to me. So I will put it up in the most important place in my house. No intentionality and a representation of who I am and things I like are a bad. Listen, my brother. I can go in the garage. Those things. Listen. This is a fight I've had with Sheryl. What happens oftentimes is that the things that matter the most to me, the things that make me feel like who I am, you've told me they have to be stored away. Yeah. Okay. That's a problem. Okay. Let me tell you one of the items. Let me tell you one of the items that is this being I say fought over in quotations because not really. He bought I don't even from God knows where a ticker. I think that's what you call it. It's like this electronic thing that shows like the stocks and he has countdown to things and the words go across it in like fluorescence and he's like, I want to put this on the shelf in the kitchen. You've been to my house. No. No, absolutely. No, all that crap is going to be out when I get home and I know it now when that style you know, million dollars, no, but that's not Shannon style though. But now you have to worry about his style. Yes. I get it. I know I get it. I think clothing is more personal though too though. It's Jenna. What's going on? Hi. Oh, first time. Paula. Long time. Hey. She lives on the phone. It's so exciting. Well, I my ex husband threw away my childhood blanket divorce because I wasn't even allowed to be in our apartment when he was taking all of our stuff out and he knew how important it was to me and still threw it away. I'm so sorry. Listen, I'm I still hurt my childhood blanket. I would be absolutely distraught if that happened. It was awful. I was so angry. It absolutely ended in divorce. Andrea, when did you go about and take all your husband's stuff out of your place? Good morning. Back in 2019, he was actually deployed to Iraq and they say not to do all that stuff when they're deployed. They want to come home to like they're normal, but I was so bored. I redid our house, bought all this new furniture. I even went as far as like hanging out with my girlfriends one night, having too many wine classes and I painted our front door like a bright yellow. All these different things and he came home and was like, this is in my house. That had to be like shocking for him. Here he is. You're thinking it's going to be an emotional moment for you guys seeing each other and he's like, what the hell happened to our front door? What's up, Tiffany? Good morning. How are you? We're doing good. What's going on? My boyfriend went away for about three months and got in some trouble and when he came home, his mother had rearranged his whole house, Ray, Berger, all the kinds of stuff he was devastated. Wow. He probably should have stayed out of trouble as part of the punishment. That's amazing. Could you imagine that? This probably is interesting. You were talking about spouses, but think about how many parents their kids go away to college or something. You come home and your room is wrong. What's up, Alicia? Hey, what's going on here, buddy? Good morning. What's going on? What are the odds that Shannon comes home and her house is completely rearranged? Well, okay, I kind of have two takes on this. Okay. One, if your husband, Wes, that's his name, right? It is. Yep. Okay. Like, Kev was saying, do you trust his fashion sense? If you don't, then he shouldn't be going through your clothes. Now, in my situation, I work at a retail store called Bon Mar. Yeah. So, I work in the men's department. So, my husband trusts me with spouses, so I do donate clothes, I throw things away that is old or anything like that. But he trusts me, even though sometimes he'll even be home, and he knows that I'm doing it. So, it just really depends. If your wife doesn't have good fashion sense, we don't trust him. Wes has very good fashion sense, but does he have, does he have good female fashion sense? But do we know if Shannon dresses with, well, do you, what, yeah, I mean, what if he since is hers? Yeah. The way her head immediately started, yeah, of course. Anthony, what's up, another military guy, military guy goes away, and what did your girl do? Well, it was my wife at the time, now my ex-wife, she decided she was going to have a garage sale. A guy, I guess, came and asked if there was any video games or, you know, any systems. She decided, well, she wanted to have some extra money, so she sold my playstation and my games. Yeah, and then you divorced her a couple years later. Now this was in a video game system that you had in the pile. This was one that was plugged up to the television. Yeah. Guy's fighting for our country. This is great. He's like, he's like literally fighting for our country, and she got rid of the guy's only enjoyment that he has in that house. Exactly. Exactly. What's up, Ren, are you there? Yes. Ren had her ex. Have I noticed these are all X's West? You got to make sure you be careful about what you did rid of and don't get rid of, but Ren, what did your husband do? My ex husband went through a phase where he would just walk around the house and throw things away. And one day I noticed something that was my great grandmother's with me thing. No. And I asked him where it went because there was almost a replica type thing sitting next to it that he did not throw away. And I asked him what he did with it and he said, Oh, I threw that in the recycling. So we fought about that for years. And I would look on eBay all the time trying to find something because my mother asks about it quite often. Oh my gosh. That's a lion. Say, Oh, it's upstairs. It's upstairs in my house because she always asked about it. So there's a there's a word of warning. You got to be careful of what you get rid of and don't fully get rid of it until you give them the option, right? Yes. - All right, grandma got recycled for grandma.