The BIGG Successs Show
The Most Important Person to Love
4 ways to show yourself some love. Find a written summary of today's show at BIGGSUCCESS.COM.
Welcome to The Big Success Show. Today, we'll talk about the most important person to love. The Big Success Show with George and Mary Lynn. You probably remember the old song and I'll spare your ears. I'm not going to sing it. Don't worry, Mary Lynn. The song is, "If loving you is wrong, I don't want to be right." Did I do that well? Yeah, you did fine. We'll see here at Big Success we have our own version of this song. We've twisted the words just a little bit. Our version is, "If loving me is wrong, I don't want to be right." I love how you closed your eyes. Sometimes I wish we were video. Well, that's probably a good thing we're not. Well, the reason we wanted to talk about this today is that it's funny how we will treat other people better than we treat ourselves. And especially when it comes to self-talk. I mean, you would never say to somebody else, "Oh my God, you suck." That's true. Wait, I heard you say that to me. Okay, that's a joke. I know, it is. But I mean, and this is a great topic for me because I can be very, very self-critical. But yeah, I would never say to my best friend or even a colleague or even you, some of the things that I'll say to myself. For whatever reason, we just think it's okay to speak to ourselves in a different way. We don't filter it at all. We don't figure out the best way to present it even to ourselves. And it's so incredibly important, especially to ourselves. Right. And I think it has to do with self-expectation. For some reason, we think that we can be perfect, that we aren't human. Yes. And I'll do that to myself. I don't know why I do it. But I'll expect myself to be absolutely perfect on absolutely everything. And I'm setting myself up for failure. Absolutely. And I think it's just so important that we understand a very basic principle, really. And this actually comes from the Bible. No, we're not going to get all religious on you or try to convert or anything like that. But Jesus said, "Love your neighbor as yourself." And what we hear from that is, "Love your neighbor." We forget about the "as yourself." That's right. And it's interesting, I think, Mary Lynn, that inherent in that little quote is, or should I say big quote? That is a big quote. And inherent in that big quote is this, "If you don't love yourself, you can't love your neighbor." Right. And yet somehow we think you can. Somehow we think that it's okay, you know, that we don't have to care about ourselves, but we can care about others. And that just leads to a feeling of emptiness. I also think that's the human nature side of us as well. We do care about other people. We do reach out to other people. And often put ourselves second. Absolutely. And it's important to give to others, right? We get a lot of fulfillment out of giving to other, serving others and that kind of thing. But I think what we learn from this quote is, "If you don't start with yourself, if you don't give to yourself, you're going to run out of gas. You're going to run out of fuel." You'll have this empty well as you can't give anymore. Coming up, "Hey, another song comes to mind. Love, love me too." We'll talk about some ways to show yourself some love. Today we're talking about the most important person to love. And what we've learned is the most important person to love is ourselves. We've got four ways here and there's many more, but we're going to talk about four ways to show the love to yourself. And the first one is just simply cut yourself some slack, man. Like I was saying earlier, we are human. Don't expect to be perfect on every little thing. Yeah, and I always think I can get way more done than as humanly possible. I think I can take one more phone call and still make that appointment on time or whatever. And then I get upset with myself when I can't do it. I got to learn to live on human time. Another way to show yourself some love, edit that self-talk. And this is a great topic for me. I have learned and I am constantly always monitoring myself talk. Because it's so easy to be very negative. And if you're negative to yourself, what good does that do? How does that help you achieve your goal or how does that help you make any changes? And the thing is, as you're getting ready to tell yourself something, because I mean this is a big one, editing our self-talk, when you're getting ready to tell yourself something, think about what you're getting ready to tell yourself. Think about what that thought is and man, if it's negative, just stop dead in your tracks. You got to do it. Because if you don't do it, the result is going to be discouragement. It's a habit. You just get yourself in a habit. And what I do is whenever I hear myself, "Star being negative, we're saying something mean to myself." I'll say, "No, wait a minute. How is that going to help me?" And that really does help me stop and change direction and look for a good positive solution. And another thing, the third way to show yourself some love is to pamper yourself occasionally. We pamper other people. We celebrate other people's victories. We congratulate them when they do something well or when it's their birthday. We'll pamper yourself. It's my birthday. I don't celebrate birthdays anymore. Well, you should. It's your birthday for crying out loud. Pamper yourself too. Treat yourself just like you would, your best friend. And our final way today to show yourself some love is to get in touch with yourself. Prime example, it's a simple thing I do every day. I go for a walk and it serves two purposes for me. I get some exercise, but it also gets me outside of myself, away from myself. I enjoy watching the squirrels play in the tree. And there's a nice lake at a park where I walk. And I like to watch the little fishies. It's just nice to get away and it's good for me. It makes me feel good. And so if you don't do those little things every day that help you feel good, get you in touch with yourself and what you love, then you get depressed. Well, Mary Lynn, I think you're actually, you've just given me another song title. What's that? When I think about me, I touch myself. Oh, cheers. Well, how do you show yourself some love? Share it with us today on our site at Big Success. That's BigWith2G's Success.com. That's also where we have a written summary of today's show. Next time, we'll talk about why training your employees by show and tell just doesn't work. Until then, here's to your Big Success. The Big Success Show at B-I-G-G Success.com. [MUSIC PLAYING] [BLANK_AUDIO]